Olunmercy56:


Thanks, I'll not rush

CsRockefeller:


Cc eni4real

The irony of life is you might not rush and still end up with a terrible partner.

Olunmercy56:


Thanks, I'll not rush

InDistress:


My dad is a very conservative man and will be broken if I leave. My younger sister left her husband for same infidelity and my parents haven't heard the last of it from neighbours and gossips. I don't wantbtonput them through emotional stress. My husband's elder brother separated from his wife over 30yrs ago over infidelity and all tgeir children amounted to nothing, I feel scared for my kids.

CsRockefeller:


Cc eni4real

The irony of life is you might not rush and still end up with a terrible partner.

InDistress:
Please I want reasonable opinion from responsible people.

I got married 12years ago and have 3 kids. His elder brother is a family friend and my dad knows their family quite well, especially his older siblings.
He does not live in the country but visits 4 times a year, during those visits, he spends about a month or two. Before someone says I Married him for money, I didn't. As at the time we got married he had NOTHING, in fact he was sharing a 2bedroom flat with his elder sister in a remote part of Lagos and drives a rickety Audi, but he was this type of person that wants to be seen as a multi millionaire, he is so desperate to put out a certain public image. Yes he is doing quite well now, but he isnt rich.
During the haydays of the marriage, as at then, camera phones were not rampant, so I picked up his Sony camera when he came back from abroad just to view pictures, then I saw him in a 3some, in fact it was an òrgy because I could hear other people's voices in the video. I confronted him about it and he begged. Later i also found out that he was sleeping with his secretary in Nigeria. It was on Valentine's day that year, I begged this man to stay home so we can celebrate valentine at home, but he refused asking me if valentine is the food we will eat, but I had a hunch and decided to go to his office only to see him sharing a bottle of red wine with his secretary and some other people. He later didn't come home that day as he said he went to the island to see a business partner and was stuck in traffic so he decided to sleep at his business partners. But i later saw his chat and it happemed that he lodged in a hotel with the secretary to placate her for me coming to the office.
Recently I called him when he travelled to the village, but he didn't know we didn't hang up the call and I heard him propositioning a hooker. I confronted him and he got defensive. So I decided to hack his whatsapp. It was then I found out tgat this man is the most irresponsible man alive. I saw a chat with a Tanzanian girl he met on flight and he booked a two-way ticket for this girl to come and meet him in Dubai. What broke my heart the most was that he told me he had an urgent deal and had to travel to his country of residence. Last Thursday, he told me he was going to for a friends childnaming ceremony, I asked to go with him and he declined only for me to see his chat where he was booking a hooker to go with him. I also saw his chat where he was telling one to come and meet him at an upscale hotel in my area where the least room is 35k. The girl asked if they accept short rest there, he said that he will pay full and the girl can stay back to rest afterwards. But whenever you ask this man for money fornhomekeeping ,he will say there's no money tgat business is bad.
Recently we started a building project in the village and I committed almost 4m of my own money (My mom warned me not to try it). We already have a 3b3droom apartment in same compound but we are building a bigger one now. Instead of him to be sleeping there, he opted to stay in a hotel for over two weeks. We agreed he should be as discrete as possible when he goes for the project, but this man packed 2 other tagalongs and paid for their rooms too where they were taking pròstitutes.
Everytime, he will say there is no money. When travelling, he will drop 15k for me and 4kids while he pays his hookers as much as 50k, in fact there is one he is paying her houserent. I contacted one and she said she asked him for assistance for her sick child, and he said he will only help if they have sex and he paid her 30k , all these while the children's fees have not been paid.
He keeps very irresponsible and backward thinking friends who empower his behaviour. I saw a chat where he and his friend were passing around a particular hooker. The funny thing is that before he has 5 lines of chatbwith these girls, they start bringing all their family problems and he will ask for account number.
Currently, I have herpes and the gynecologist said it's untreatable, I confronted my husband and he denied any wrong doing. Ever since I Married this man, heaven knows that no man has ever come close to my body. I always saw packs of antibiotics in his car but I never knew he was always popping them after having unprotected sex withbtge hookers. Every part of the country he visits, he has a load of callgirls at his beckand call.
I feels so used and heartbroken because I have dedicated my entire being to make this marriage work. Sometimes I go on days of fasting for this man whenever he has a downturn in his business, but I never knew he was the one invalidating the prayers with his waywardness. He goes about telling his whòres that he isnt married. One of them I contacted told me that he is a serial womanizer and never uses protection.
Before anyone ask me what I bring tontge table, I own a flourishing business. I can afford to travel to Dubai to bring my wares. Yes he started the business for me, but that's just it and that was 10yrs ago. I'm tired of this man, whenever I see him I start feeling murderous. But I do not want another person raising my kids. I feel terribly sad.

Olunmercy56:


God forbid

Olunmercy56:


God forbid

Keemsleek005:



Abi, damn only one man they lash women like these, bought 2 way ticket bla bla, abegi yes some men are irresponsible but dont distroy or give the already dented marriage institution more bad names.

Keemsleek005:



Abi, damn only one man they lash women like these, bought 2 way ticket bla bla, abegi yes some men are irresponsible but dont distroy or give the already dented marriage institution more bad names.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. And you believed this story?.

CHoccolaTE:


The story is possible, I have seen a couple of men real life that while not as promiscuous as Ops hubby, they have absolutely no interest in making their marriages work.
Won't provide
Won't do housework
Just want to be useless because they married a hardworking woman. It's not far fetched.

CHoccolaTE:


Honestly
Imagine the nonsense women are putting up with.
Op
If you don't leave him you just have to prepare to keep treating STDs and then settle for a life of bitterness and resentment then in his old age he will retire from his prostitutes and expect you to welcome him back with open arms like a good wife.

Marriage can be so scary.......

CHoccolaTE:


The story is possible, I have seen a couple of men real life that while not as promiscuous as Ops hubby, they have absolutely no interest in making their marriages work.
Won't provide
Won't do housework
Just want to be useless because they married a hardworking woman. It's not far fetched.

grafixdon:
I'll not advice you to divorce him. Children needs parental care. Both of you need to raise the children together. Stop checking his phone if you don't want to die young, what you don't know will hardly kill you.

Focus on yourself and children and let him live his life the way he wants. He'll come around, there's absolutely nothing you can do to change him, you can only pray for him.

Pls watch 'war room' and thank me later. I wish you well

SweetCunt97:
What is the man even teaching the kids? He's not around most time sef.

InDistress:


My dad is a very conservative man and will be broken if I leave. My younger sister left her husband for same infidelity and my parents haven't heard the last of it from neighbours and gossips. I don't wantbtonput them through emotional stress. My husband's elder brother separated from his wife over 30yrs ago over infidelity and all tgeir children amounted to nothing, I feel scared for my kids.

jesmond3945:
to be frank with you, you are not married at all. You know why, your union was constructed on the premise of family interests and not that you guys love and understand each other. Then your husband sees you as the mother of his kids and nothing more. No man who loves his wife will think of another woman let alone sleeping around. If you were in America, you would have been a dead woman long time ago. I noticed that your prayer points was about his business and not that the man would start loving you which is more important than money. Infact your man needs deliverance, he is possessed by satan.

pek:
InDistress

One thing is very obvious, you don't want advise. You only came here to pour out your heart. I say this cause of your last paragraph. Feel free to come back here when you have HIV/AIDS or one of the numerous mistresses begin to see you as an intruder. But one thing I will tell you with 100% certainty is that your husband has a child outside which he may or may not be aware.