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grafixdon:
I'll not advice you to divorce him. Children needs parental care. Both of you need to raise the children together. Stop checking his phone if you don't want to die young, what you don't know will hardly kill you.

Focus on yourself and children and let him live his life the way he wants. He'll come around, there's absolutely nothing you can do to change him, you can only pray for him.

Pls watch 'war room' and thank me later. I wish you well

I wish you can meditate on this.

Tales by moonlight

InDistress:
My dad is a very conservative man and will be broken if I leave. My younger sister left her husband for same infidelity and my parents haven't heard the last of it from neighbours and gossips. I don't wantbtonput them through emotional stress. My husband's elder brother separated from his wife over 30yrs ago over infidelity and all tgeir children amounted to nothing, I feel scared for my kids.

Seems the family is under a curse of infidelity and marital failure

InDistress:
This man has the most backward and crass mindset I've ever seen. I just completed my OND when we got married and he never let me further because he felt I will begin to challenge him if I'm too educated.
Whenever he is travelling to the village, he goes with a deluge of tagalongs. People that live same lifestyle and mindset. When we started the project at home, I told him to not let anyone know until you can't hide it. Mainly because there is a politician in my town who he handles contracts for and the politician is owing him a lot of money. I told him that of the man finds out he is starting a Project, the man may feel that he has money. Do youbknow that this man still went and called the politicians younger brother to come and check out his project. He wants everyone to think he is in money, but I knownhe is just there.
I saw a text where he told a doctor "I need to see you, it's urgent". I'm just very sad.

it is only the living that can train children ! You need to take serious steps before he infest you with Hiv ! Are his parents aware of al these ?

InDistress:
My dad is a very conservative man and will be broken if I leave. My younger sister left her husband for same infidelity and my parents haven't heard the last of it from neighbours and gossips. I don't wantbtonput them through emotional stress. My husband's elder brother separated from his wife over 30yrs ago over infidelity and all tgeir children amounted to nothing, I feel scared for my kids.

So other people are more important than you? Got it.

Ask yourself if this same man will tolerate a quarter of this bullshit you. Wonder why women keep accepting BS

Thank God you are doing well financially so please divorce him ASAP!!!

grafixdon:
I'll not advice you to divorce him. Children needs parental care. Both of you need to raise the children together. Stop checking his phone if you don't want to die young, what you don't know will hardly kill you.

Focus on yourself and children and let him live his life the way he wants. He'll come around, there's absolutely nothing you can do to change him, you can only pray for him.

Pls watch 'war room' and thank me later. I wish you well

.parental care from a chronic womaniser. If I hear.

Pls stop telling ladies to watch War Room

What should the man now watch

fireback:
base on your write up, I will blame you for everything that's happening to you. you saw all the signs from the beginning but ignore them because he's an abroad base guy. you busy showing him off to your friends rather than watching his character.

It's either you didn't read the OP's post completely or you didn't understand it.

Kindly read again and change your opinion. It's just unfair to her after she has spent all energy and time explaining this much.

OceanOfJoy:
You better leave this brostitute before he adds HIV to that incurable herpes he has given you, smdh

Wetin this one dey talk? Anty herpes is curable the father of all STI and the most deadliest is "Hepertitis B" it is worst than HIV.

Tales by moonlight. Believe this hogwash, you'll believe anything.

InDistress:
He always try to justify his actions which makes me sick in the stomach. He always say that anybody who will be king, will be king no matter what. That there are many philandering, yet successful men all over the world But I told him that everybody's Chi is not the same, that grace differs

@Emboldened Your husband is my hero

Clyod:
.parental care from a chronic womaniser. If I hear.

Pls stop telling ladies to watch War Room

What should the man now watch

Ma'am devil you know is far better than the angel you don't know. So you prefer she divorce the father of her children and start sleeping with random men who probably has the same way of life like her husband?

Father figure is very important, as far as he doesn't bring those holes into his matrimonial home, I think she can still cope with him. Is not always rosy outside the marriage the way you guys paint it to be, no angel outside o. She'd be surprised alot of women are praying for such a man to be their husband, they don't care how he chose to live his life, they're ready to marry him with all his garbages. We should be guided, no be everything be divorce.

Indeed, you are married to an irresponsible man!

InDistress:
Please I want reasonable opinion from responsible people.

I got married 12years ago and have 3 kids. His elder brother is a family friend and my dad knows their family quite well, especially his older siblings.
He does not live in the country but visits 4 times a year, during those visits, he spends about a month or two. Before someone says I Married him for money, I didn't. As at the time we got married he had NOTHING, in fact he was sharing a 2bedroom flat with his elder sister in a remote part of Lagos and drives a rickety Audi, but he was this type of person that wants to be seen as a multi millionaire, he is so desperate to put out a certain public image. Yes he is doing quite well now, but he isnt rich.
During the haydays of the marriage, as at then, camera phones were not rampant, so I picked up his Sony camera when he came back from abroad just to view pictures, then I saw him in a 3some, in fact it was an òrgy because I could hear other people's voices in the video. I confronted him about it and he begged. Later i also found out that he was sleeping with his secretary in Nigeria. It was on Valentine's day that year, I begged this man to stay home so we can celebrate valentine at home, but he refused asking me if valentine is the food we will eat, but I had a hunch and decided to go to his office only to see him sharing a bottle of red wine with his secretary and some other people. He later didn't come home that day as he said he went to the island to see a business partner and was stuck in traffic so he decided to sleep at his business partners. But i later saw his chat and it happemed that he lodged in a hotel with the secretary to placate her for me coming to the office.
Recently I called him when he travelled to the village, but he didn't know we didn't hang up the call and I heard him propositioning a hooker. I confronted him and he got defensive. So I decided to hack his whatsapp. It was then I found out tgat this man is the most irresponsible man alive. I saw a chat with a Tanzanian girl he met on flight and he booked a two-way ticket for this girl to come and meet him in Dubai. What broke my heart the most was that he told me he had an urgent deal and had to travel to his country of residence. Last Thursday, he told me he was going to for a friends childnaming ceremony, I asked to go with him and he declined only for me to see his chat where he was booking a hooker to go with him. I also saw his chat where he was telling one to come and meet him at an upscale hotel in my area where the least room is 35k. The girl asked if they accept short rest there, he said that he will pay full and the girl can stay back to rest afterwards. But whenever you ask this man for money fornhomekeeping ,he will say there's no money tgat business is bad.
Recently we started a building project in the village and I committed almost 4m of my own money (My mom warned me not to try it). We already have a 3b3droom apartment in same compound but we are building a bigger one now. Instead of him to be sleeping there, he opted to stay in a hotel for over two weeks. We agreed he should be as discrete as possible when he goes for the project, but this man packed 2 other tagalongs and paid for their rooms too where they were taking pròstitutes.
Everytime, he will say there is no money. When travelling, he will drop 15k for me and 4kids while he pays his hookers as much as 50k, in fact there is one he is paying her houserent. I contacted one and she said she asked him for assistance for her sick child, and he said he will only help if they have sex and he paid her 30k , all these while the children's fees have not been paid.
He keeps very irresponsible and backward thinking friends who empower his behaviour. I saw a chat where he and his friend were passing around a particular hooker. The funny thing is that before he has 5 lines of chatbwith these girls, they start bringing all their family problems and he will ask for account number.
Currently, I have herpes and the gynecologist said it's untreatable, I confronted my husband and he denied any wrong doing. Ever since I Married this man, heaven knows that no man has ever come close to my body. I always saw packs of antibiotics in his car but I never knew he was always popping them after having unprotected sex withbtge hookers. Every part of the country he visits, he has a load of callgirls at his beckand call.
I feels so used and heartbroken because I have dedicated my entire being to make this marriage work. Sometimes I go on days of fasting for this man whenever he has a downturn in his business, but I never knew he was the one invalidating the prayers with his waywardness. He goes about telling his whòres that he isnt married. One of them I contacted told me that he is a serial womanizer and never uses protection.
Before anyone ask me what I bring tontge table, I own a flourishing business. I can afford to travel to Dubai to bring my wares. Yes he started the business for me, but that's just it and that was 10yrs ago. I'm tired of this man, whenever I see him I start feeling murderous. But I do not want another person raising my kids. I feel terribly sad.

Pls I will beg you to relax before you do or take a decision you will not be happy with

For now stop contributing to the building project and face your children pls

Fight him from now till the end of the year, he will not change until something terrible that will teach him a lesson happens to him

Just face your children and family if you can't pack out

Any sex from him, you must use protective, if he refuses to put on a condom, no sex, start from that

Let it be known to you now thst he is clueless about you and your children so forget about him and stop reading his messages or chats it hurts anytime you find out about his escapedes

If you over look him amd his clueless attitude, you will be happier than the fun he is having outside

If he becomes violent, walk out alive

Start saving because of tomorrow

You only live once (YOLO)

InDistress:
Please I want reasonable opinion from responsible people.

I got married 12years ago and have 3 kids. His elder brother is a family friend and my dad knows their family quite well, especially his older siblings.
He does not live in the country but visits 4 times a year, during those visits, he spends about a month or two. Before someone says I Married him for money, I didn't. As at the time we got married he had NOTHING, in fact he was sharing a 2bedroom flat with his elder sister in a remote part of Lagos and drives a rickety Audi, but he was this type of person that wants to be seen as a multi millionaire, he is so desperate to put out a certain public image. Yes he is doing quite well now, but he isnt rich.
During the haydays of the marriage, as at then, camera phones were not rampant, so I picked up his Sony camera when he came back from abroad just to view pictures, then I saw him in a 3some, in fact it was an òrgy because I could hear other people's voices in the video. I confronted him about it and he begged. Later i also found out that he was sleeping with his secretary in Nigeria. It was on Valentine's day that year, I begged this man to stay home so we can celebrate valentine at home, but he refused asking me if valentine is the food we will eat, but I had a hunch and decided to go to his office only to see him sharing a bottle of red wine with his secretary and some other people. He later didn't come home that day as he said he went to the island to see a business partner and was stuck in traffic so he decided to sleep at his business partners. But i later saw his chat and it happemed that he lodged in a hotel with the secretary to placate her for me coming to the office.
Recently I called him when he travelled to the village, but he didn't know we didn't hang up the call and I heard him propositioning a hooker. I confronted him and he got defensive. So I decided to hack his whatsapp. It was then I found out tgat this man is the most irresponsible man alive. I saw a chat with a Tanzanian girl he met on flight and he booked a two-way ticket for this girl to come and meet him in Dubai. What broke my heart the most was that he told me he had an urgent deal and had to travel to his country of residence. Last Thursday, he told me he was going to for a friends childnaming ceremony, I asked to go with him and he declined only for me to see his chat where he was booking a hooker to go with him. I also saw his chat where he was telling one to come and meet him at an upscale hotel in my area where the least room is 35k. The girl asked if they accept short rest there, he said that he will pay full and the girl can stay back to rest afterwards. But whenever you ask this man for money fornhomekeeping ,he will say there's no money tgat business is bad.
Recently we started a building project in the village and I committed almost 4m of my own money (My mom warned me not to try it). We already have a 3b3droom apartment in same compound but we are building a bigger one now. Instead of him to be sleeping there, he opted to stay in a hotel for over two weeks. We agreed he should be as discrete as possible when he goes for the project, but this man packed 2 other tagalongs and paid for their rooms too where they were taking pròstitutes.
Everytime, he will say there is no money. When travelling, he will drop 15k for me and 4kids while he pays his hookers as much as 50k, in fact there is one he is paying her houserent. I contacted one and she said she asked him for assistance for her sick child, and he said he will only help if they have sex and he paid her 30k , all these while the children's fees have not been paid.
He keeps very irresponsible and backward thinking friends who empower his behaviour. I saw a chat where he and his friend were passing around a particular hooker. The funny thing is that before he has 5 lines of chatbwith these girls, they start bringing all their family problems and he will ask for account number.
Currently, I have herpes and the gynecologist said it's untreatable, I confronted my husband and he denied any wrong doing. Ever since I Married this man, heaven knows that no man has ever come close to my body. I always saw packs of antibiotics in his car but I never knew he was always popping them after having unprotected sex withbtge hookers. Every part of the country he visits, he has a load of callgirls at his beckand call.
I feels so used and heartbroken because I have dedicated my entire being to make this marriage work. Sometimes I go on days of fasting for this man whenever he has a downturn in his business, but I never knew he was the one invalidating the prayers with his waywardness. He goes about telling his whòres that he isnt married. One of them I contacted told me that he is a serial womanizer and never uses protection.
Before anyone ask me what I bring tontge table, I own a flourishing business. I can afford to travel to Dubai to bring my wares. Yes he started the business for me, but that's just it and that was 10yrs ago. I'm tired of this man, whenever I see him I start feeling murderous. But I do not want another person raising my kids. I feel terribly sad.

Pls I will beg you to relax before you do or take a decision you will not be happy with

For now stop contributing to the building project and face your children pls

Fight him from now till the end of the year, he will not change until something terrible that will teach him a lesson happens to him

Just face your children and family if you can't pack out

Any sex from him, you must use protective, if he refuses to put on a condom, no sex, start from that

Let it be known to you now thst he is clueless about you and your children so forget about him and stop reading his messages or chats it hurts anytime you find out about his escapedes

If you over look him amd his clueless attitude, you will be happier than the fun he is having outside

If he becomes violent, walk out alive

Start saving because of tomorrow

You only live once (YOLO)

TONYE001:
It's either you didn't read the OP's post completely or you didn't understand it.

Kindly read again and change your opinion. It's just unfair to her after she has spent all energy and time explaining this much.

So who told you that hypertitise B is now sexual transmitted, hmmm

InDistress:
Please I want reasonable opinion from responsible people.

I got married 12years ago and have 3 kids. His elder brother is a family friend and my dad knows their family quite well, especially his older siblings.
He does not live in the country but visits 4 times a year, during those visits, he spends about a month or two. Before someone says I Married him for money, I didn't. As at the time we got married he had NOTHING, in fact he was sharing a 2bedroom flat with his elder sister in a remote part of Lagos and drives a rickety Audi, but he was this type of person that wants to be seen as a multi millionaire, he is so desperate to put out a certain public image. Yes he is doing quite well now, but he isnt rich.
During the haydays of the marriage, as at then, camera phones were not rampant, so I picked up his Sony camera when he came back from abroad just to view pictures, then I saw him in a 3some, in fact it was an òrgy because I could hear other people's voices in the video. I confronted him about it and he begged. Later i also found out that he was sleeping with his secretary in Nigeria. It was on Valentine's day that year, I begged this man to stay home so we can celebrate valentine at home, but he refused asking me if valentine is the food we will eat, but I had a hunch and decided to go to his office only to see him sharing a bottle of red wine with his secretary and some other people. He later didn't come home that day as he said he went to the island to see a business partner and was stuck in traffic so he decided to sleep at his business partners. But i later saw his chat and it happemed that he lodged in a hotel with the secretary to placate her for me coming to the office.
Recently I called him when he travelled to the village, but he didn't know we didn't hang up the call and I heard him propositioning a hooker. I confronted him and he got defensive. So I decided to hack his whatsapp. It was then I found out tgat this man is the most irresponsible man alive. I saw a chat with a Tanzanian girl he met on flight and he booked a two-way ticket for this girl to come and meet him in Dubai. What broke my heart the most was that he told me he had an urgent deal and had to travel to his country of residence. Last Thursday, he told me he was going to for a friends childnaming ceremony, I asked to go with him and he declined only for me to see his chat where he was booking a hooker to go with him. I also saw his chat where he was telling one to come and meet him at an upscale hotel in my area where the least room is 35k. The girl asked if they accept short rest there, he said that he will pay full and the girl can stay back to rest afterwards. But whenever you ask this man for money fornhomekeeping ,he will say there's no money tgat business is bad.
Recently we started a building project in the village and I committed almost 4m of my own money (My mom warned me not to try it). We already have a 3b3droom apartment in same compound but we are building a bigger one now. Instead of him to be sleeping there, he opted to stay in a hotel for over two weeks. We agreed he should be as discrete as possible when he goes for the project, but this man packed 2 other tagalongs and paid for their rooms too where they were taking pròstitutes.
Everytime, he will say there is no money. When travelling, he will drop 15k for me and 4kids while he pays his hookers as much as 50k, in fact there is one he is paying her houserent. I contacted one and she said she asked him for assistance for her sick child, and he said he will only help if they have sex and he paid her 30k , all these while the children's fees have not been paid.
He keeps very irresponsible and backward thinking friends who empower his behaviour. I saw a chat where he and his friend were passing around a particular hooker. The funny thing is that before he has 5 lines of chatbwith these girls, they start bringing all their family problems and he will ask for account number.
Currently, I have herpes and the gynecologist said it's untreatable, I confronted my husband and he denied any wrong doing. Ever since I Married this man, heaven knows that no man has ever come close to my body. I always saw packs of antibiotics in his car but I never knew he was always popping them after having unprotected sex withbtge hookers. Every part of the country he visits, he has a load of callgirls at his beckand call.
I feels so used and heartbroken because I have dedicated my entire being to make this marriage work. Sometimes I go on days of fasting for this man whenever he has a downturn in his business, but I never knew he was the one invalidating the prayers with his waywardness. He goes about telling his whòres that he isnt married. One of them I contacted told me that he is a serial womanizer and never uses protection.
Before anyone ask me what I bring tontge table, I own a flourishing business. I can afford to travel to Dubai to bring my wares. Yes he started the business for me, but that's just it and that was 10yrs ago. I'm tired of this man, whenever I see him I start feeling murderous. But I do not want another person raising my kids. I feel terribly sad.

Pls I will beg you to relax before you do or take a decision you will not be happy with

For now stop contributing to the building project and face your children pls

Fight him from now till the end of the year, he will not change until something terrible that will teach him a lesson happens to him

Just face your children and family if you can't pack out

Any sex from him, you must use protective, if he refuses to put on a condom, no sex, start from that

Let it be known to you now thst he is clueless about you and your children so forget about him and stop reading his messages or chats it hurts anytime you find out about his escapedes

If you over look him amd his clueless attitude, you will be happier than the fun he is having outside

If he becomes violent, walk out alive

Start saving because of tomorrow

You only live once (YOLO)

TONYE001:
It's either you didn't read the OP's post completely or you didn't understand it.

Kindly read again and change your opinion. It's just unfair to her after she has spent all energy and time explaining this much.

So who told you that hypertitise B is now sexual transmitted, hmmm

Plead:
Tales by moonlight

He is the architect of his own bad life not his family because his dick is with him and not with his family

If that same dick gets sterile or impotent, he will humble himself

InDistress:
Please I want reasonable opinion from responsible people.

I got married 12years ago and have 3 kids. His elder brother is a family friend and my dad knows their family quite well, especially his older siblings.
He does not live in the country but visits 4 times a year, during those visits, he spends about a month or two. Before someone says I Married him for money, I didn't. As at the time we got married he had NOTHING, in fact he was sharing a 2bedroom flat with his elder sister in a remote part of Lagos and drives a rickety Audi, but he was this type of person that wants to be seen as a multi millionaire, he is so desperate to put out a certain public image. Yes he is doing quite well now, but he isnt rich.
During the haydays of the marriage, as at then, camera phones were not rampant, so I picked up his Sony camera when he came back from abroad just to view pictures, then I saw him in a 3some, in fact it was an òrgy because I could hear other people's voices in the video. I confronted him about it and he begged. Later i also found out that he was sleeping with his secretary in Nigeria. It was on Valentine's day that year, I begged this man to stay home so we can celebrate valentine at home, but he refused asking me if valentine is the food we will eat, but I had a hunch and decided to go to his office only to see him sharing a bottle of red wine with his secretary and some other people. He later didn't come home that day as he said he went to the island to see a business partner and was stuck in traffic so he decided to sleep at his business partners. But i later saw his chat and it happemed that he lodged in a hotel with the secretary to placate her for me coming to the office.
Recently I called him when he travelled to the village, but he didn't know we didn't hang up the call and I heard him propositioning a hooker. I confronted him and he got defensive. So I decided to hack his whatsapp. It was then I found out tgat this man is the most irresponsible man alive. I saw a chat with a Tanzanian girl he met on flight and he booked a two-way ticket for this girl to come and meet him in Dubai. What broke my heart the most was that he told me he had an urgent deal and had to travel to his country of residence. Last Thursday, he told me he was going to for a friends childnaming ceremony, I asked to go with him and he declined only for me to see his chat where he was booking a hooker to go with him. I also saw his chat where he was telling one to come and meet him at an upscale hotel in my area where the least room is 35k. The girl asked if they accept short rest there, he said that he will pay full and the girl can stay back to rest afterwards. But whenever you ask this man for money fornhomekeeping ,he will say there's no money tgat business is bad.
Recently we started a building project in the village and I committed almost 4m of my own money (My mom warned me not to try it). We already have a 3b3droom apartment in same compound but we are building a bigger one now. Instead of him to be sleeping there, he opted to stay in a hotel for over two weeks. We agreed he should be as discrete as possible when he goes for the project, but this man packed 2 other tagalongs and paid for their rooms too where they were taking pròstitutes.
Everytime, he will say there is no money. When travelling, he will drop 15k for me and 4kids while he pays his hookers as much as 50k, in fact there is one he is paying her houserent. I contacted one and she said she asked him for assistance for her sick child, and he said he will only help if they have sex and he paid her 30k , all these while the children's fees have not been paid.
He keeps very irresponsible and backward thinking friends who empower his behaviour. I saw a chat where he and his friend were passing around a particular hooker. The funny thing is that before he has 5 lines of chatbwith these girls, they start bringing all their family problems and he will ask for account number.
Currently, I have herpes and the gynecologist said it's untreatable, I confronted my husband and he denied any wrong doing. Ever since I Married this man, heaven knows that no man has ever come close to my body. I always saw packs of antibiotics in his car but I never knew he was always popping them after having unprotected sex withbtge hookers. Every part of the country he visits, he has a load of callgirls at his beckand call.
I feels so used and heartbroken because I have dedicated my entire being to make this marriage work. Sometimes I go on days of fasting for this man whenever he has a downturn in his business, but I never knew he was the one invalidating the prayers with his waywardness. He goes about telling his whòres that he isnt married. One of them I contacted told me that he is a serial womanizer and never uses protection.
Before anyone ask me what I bring tontge table, I own a flourishing business. I can afford to travel to Dubai to bring my wares. Yes he started the business for me, but that's just it and that was 10yrs ago. I'm tired of this man, whenever I see him I start feeling murderous. But I do not want another person raising my kids. I feel terribly sad.

Pls I will beg you to relax before you do or take a decision you will not be happy with

For now stop contributing to the building project and face your children pls

Fight him from now till the end of the year, he will not change until something terrible that will teach him a lesson happens to him

Just face your children and family if you can't pack out

Any sex from him, you must use protective, if he refuses to put on a condom, no sex, start from that

Let it be known to you now thst he is clueless about you and your children so forget about him and stop reading his messages or chats it hurts anytime you find out about his escapedes

If you over look him amd his clueless attitude, you will be happier than the fun he is having outside

If he becomes violent, walk out alive

Start saving because of tomorrow

You only live once (YOLO)

TONYE001:
It's either you didn't read the OP's post completely or you didn't understand it.

Kindly read again and change your opinion. It's just unfair to her after she has spent all energy and time explaining this much.

So who told you that hypertitise B is now sexual transmitted, hmmm

Plead:
Tales by moonlight

He is the architect of his own bad life not his family because his dick is with him and not with his family

If that same dick gets sterile or impotent, he will humble himself

Pearl05:
Just sell the man

Who. Will buy a loofer like him, even ritualists will not get anything from him unless they want to use him ams get more girls

InDistress:
Please I want reasonable opinion from responsible people.

I got married 12years ago and have 3 kids. His elder brother is a family friend and my dad knows their family quite well, especially his older siblings.
He does not live in the country but visits 4 times a year, during those visits, he spends about a month or two. Before someone says I Married him for money, I didn't. As at the time we got married he had NOTHING, in fact he was sharing a 2bedroom flat with his elder sister in a remote part of Lagos and drives a rickety Audi, but he was this type of person that wants to be seen as a multi millionaire, he is so desperate to put out a certain public image. Yes he is doing quite well now, but he isnt rich.
During the haydays of the marriage, as at then, camera phones were not rampant, so I picked up his Sony camera when he came back from abroad just to view pictures, then I saw him in a 3some, in fact it was an òrgy because I could hear other people's voices in the video. I confronted him about it and he begged. Later i also found out that he was sleeping with his secretary in Nigeria. It was on Valentine's day that year, I begged this man to stay home so we can celebrate valentine at home, but he refused asking me if valentine is the food we will eat, but I had a hunch and decided to go to his office only to see him sharing a bottle of red wine with his secretary and some other people. He later didn't come home that day as he said he went to the island to see a business partner and was stuck in traffic so he decided to sleep at his business partners. But i later saw his chat and it happemed that he lodged in a hotel with the secretary to placate her for me coming to the office.
Recently I called him when he travelled to the village, but he didn't know we didn't hang up the call and I heard him propositioning a hooker. I confronted him and he got defensive. So I decided to hack his whatsapp. It was then I found out tgat this man is the most irresponsible man alive. I saw a chat with a Tanzanian girl he met on flight and he booked a two-way ticket for this girl to come and meet him in Dubai. What broke my heart the most was that he told me he had an urgent deal and had to travel to his country of residence. Last Thursday, he told me he was going to for a friends childnaming ceremony, I asked to go with him and he declined only for me to see his chat where he was booking a hooker to go with him. I also saw his chat where he was telling one to come and meet him at an upscale hotel in my area where the least room is 35k. The girl asked if they accept short rest there, he said that he will pay full and the girl can stay back to rest afterwards. But whenever you ask this man for money fornhomekeeping ,he will say there's no money tgat business is bad.
Recently we started a building project in the village and I committed almost 4m of my own money (My mom warned me not to try it). We already have a 3b3droom apartment in same compound but we are building a bigger one now. Instead of him to be sleeping there, he opted to stay in a hotel for over two weeks. We agreed he should be as discrete as possible when he goes for the project, but this man packed 2 other tagalongs and paid for their rooms too where they were taking pròstitutes.
Everytime, he will say there is no money. When travelling, he will drop 15k for me and 4kids while he pays his hookers as much as 50k, in fact there is one he is paying her houserent. I contacted one and she said she asked him for assistance for her sick child, and he said he will only help if they have sex and he paid her 30k , all these while the children's fees have not been paid.
He keeps very irresponsible and backward thinking friends who empower his behaviour. I saw a chat where he and his friend were passing around a particular hooker. The funny thing is that before he has 5 lines of chatbwith these girls, they start bringing all their family problems and he will ask for account number.
Currently, I have herpes and the gynecologist said it's untreatable, I confronted my husband and he denied any wrong doing. Ever since I Married this man, heaven knows that no man has ever come close to my body. I always saw packs of antibiotics in his car but I never knew he was always popping them after having unprotected sex withbtge hookers. Every part of the country he visits, he has a load of callgirls at his beckand call.
I feels so used and heartbroken because I have dedicated my entire being to make this marriage work. Sometimes I go on days of fasting for this man whenever he has a downturn in his business, but I never knew he was the one invalidating the prayers with his waywardness. He goes about telling his whòres that he isnt married. One of them I contacted told me that he is a serial womanizer and never uses protection.
Before anyone ask me what I bring tontge table, I own a flourishing business. I can afford to travel to Dubai to bring my wares. Yes he started the business for me, but that's just it and that was 10yrs ago. I'm tired of this man, whenever I see him I start feeling murderous. But I do not want another person raising my kids. I feel terribly sad.

Pls I will beg you to relax before you do or take a decision you will not be happy with

For now stop contributing to the building project and face your children pls

Fight him from now till the end of the year, he will not change until something terrible that will teach him a lesson happens to him

Just face your children and family if you can't pack out

Any sex from him, you must use protective, if he refuses to put on a condom, no sex, start from that

Let it be known to you now thst he is clueless about you and your children so forget about him and stop reading his messages or chats it hurts anytime you find out about his escapedes

If you over look him amd his clueless attitude, you will be happier than the fun he is having outside

If he becomes violent, walk out alive

Start saving because of tomorrow

You only live once (YOLO)

TONYE001:
It's either you didn't read the OP's post completely or you didn't understand it.

Kindly read again and change your opinion. It's just unfair to her after she has spent all energy and time explaining this much.

So who told you that hypertitise B is now sexual transmitted, hmmm

Plead:
Tales by moonlight

He is the architect of his own bad life not his family because his dick is with him and not with his family

If that same dick gets sterile or impotent, he will humble himself

Pearl05:
Just sell the man

Who. Will buy a loofer like him, even ritualists will not get anything from him unless they want to use him ams get more girls

xendra:
you have obviously accepted this cross, as all the signs were there from the beginning and are still glaring; so why complain now stay and continue to suffer so that people wont talk, or leave and feel free no matter what haters say. the choice and decision remains yours

Why are you talking like this, would she had loved to have a man as irresponsible as he is

Who ever cares what people will say if your marriage brakes up, are you there for them

The more you care about what people say about you, the more you lose your happiness

slimjohn2k5:
All I am trying to say is that you fast and pray against the spirit of womanizing

So she should fast and pray for an idiot, what do you expect her to do when she needs God attention on her and the children

She should chanel her prayers to her and the children and leave that beast to suffer what he brought upon himself

InDistress:
My dad is a very conservative man and will be broken if I leave. My younger sister left her husband for same infidelity and my parents haven't heard the last of it from neighbours and gossips. I don't wantbtonput them through emotional stress. My husband's elder brother separated from his wife over 30yrs ago over infidelity and all tgeir children amounted to nothing, I feel scared for my kids.

You are giving me the impression that you are leaving for others

Forget about her they will feel, your happiness is being tampared and you are here considering how they will feel

OK keep lamenting if you can't take action

Leave ur marriage at ur peril.No saints out there.Even the so called men of God do it moderately.I know one who will be on the alter on Sunday to preach against Fornication and adultery and be at his side chics place the next day.Even very poor and wretched men cheat on their spouses.So It's not a recent development.One of my boss's side chic recently gave birth to a baby boy and the wife was shocked to know this.They almost sperated but are back together and doing just fine.
All u need to do is keep praying and talking sense into ur man.
The thing of cheating is more spiritual than normal.
I advise u stick with ur hubby soon he'll begin to find no pleasure in it and curtail his bad habits.It always start with a note to self.
Start to arrange condoms put inside him traveling bag.
Beg ur husband to always use cd if he must.
Problem half solved.
Marriage Union is far beyond "My husband is Cheating"
The question of are there men who doesn't Cheat??
Yes, There men who still do it Discreetly, Respectfully and Responsibly and will treat their women like Queens anytime.

You husband is an Idiot, a He-goat and a very very foolish man.

Tripitaka:
These things happen. They happen a lot too. Any man who sleeps with prostitutes is gone and may never stop.

Am not saying it doesnt happem but these story is fake.

24kmagic:
Yen yen yen

Cry me a lagoon.

For a woman to marry a man whose sex orgy video she watched, that's the height of irresponsibility.

So I put it to you that you're as irresponsible as your husband. Just that in your case you matured overtime whereas your husband hasn't.

No offense, but it's your choice.
You weren't coerced.

She was already married

Irony of everything, I know someone worse than your husband... This man even slept with his wife's mother who is now late... He travels to Europe and import a Nigerian LovePeddler etc... What I don't know is if his wife is aware of his escapades... Life is just a fvcking mystery...

Las Las life has a way of fvcking us...

May God help us all...

InDistress

From your article, it is obvious you have resolved to stay with him. Why are you coming here? If you can't leave him because of your children, then stay. There's no other option.

If on the other hand, you have the strong will to leave, leave and get your own place and raise the kids yourself. Before that, get enough evidence of his excessive womanizing and irresponsible lifestyle so that people won't accuse you of destroying your marriage. People will condemn you for not being able to sacrifice.

Only leave him if that is your character. If it is not in your nature, it may backfire big time. We are not all the same.

culturedboss:
Leave ur marriage at ur peril.No saints out there.Even the so called men of God do it moderately.I know one who will be on the alter on Sunday to preach against Fornication and adultery and be at his side chics place the next day.Even very poor and wretched men cheat on their spouses.So It's not a recent development.One of my boss's side chic recently gave birth to a baby boy and the wife was shocked to know this.They almost sperated but are back together and doing just fine.
All u need to do is keep praying and talking sense into ur man.
The thing of cheating is more spiritual than normal.
I advise u stick with ur hubby soon he'll begin to find no pleasure in it and curtail his bad habits.It always start with a note to self.
Start to arrange condoms put inside him traveling bag.
Beg ur husband to always use cd if he must.
Problem half solved.
Marriage Union is far beyond "My husband is Cheating"
The question of are there men who doesn't Cheat??
Yes, There men who still do it Discreetly, Respectfully and Responsibly and will treat their women like Queens anytime.

One of the so many things I read on here

Dyt:
One of the so many things I read on here

It wasn't aimed at you.Brush it off.

culturedboss:
It wasn't aimed at you.Brush it off.

It isn't about me
I just took pity on the womEn in your life

InDistress:
My dad is a very conservative man and will be broken if I leave. My younger sister left her husband for same infidelity and my parents haven't heard the last of it from neighbours and gossips. I don't wantbtonput them through emotional stress. My husband's elder brother separated from his wife over 30yrs ago over infidelity and all tgeir children amounted to nothing, I feel scared for my kids.

Well if you cannot for whatever reason get up and leave your blissful marriage , stay in it .
Do not kill the man oo, he has shown you (always has too) his colours, it is up to you to suck it in or leave.
I can’t get past that fact of your feeling murderous
That’s soo horrible to imagine and makes me mistrust and dislike you like no end.
Now I keep thinking you would rather kill him and be a widow than face sosayiti and your father with ohsodamning divos .
Do not kill another woman’s son because of his way of using his body. Leave if you can’t deal with it! Simple!!
And leave your kids out of this, it’s all you about the fear!!!
Lawd!!!!

Woman, the early you carry your load as a single mother the better for you. Thank God you have kids. There are some women begging for kids. May the Lord protect you and your kids. Your husband's eye dey outside. He is public water that all ladies come to fetch from.