| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Tamakay(m): 10:43pm On Mar 23, 2020 |
HelloHolla:
So, I shouldn't worry about his plans after engaging me? I wish your sisters end up with the same man, peace. At your age, you should have known that you're too naive and immature to be engaged. He just took advantage of u because u don't know anything. Sentiment and emotional blackmailing me by praying for my sisters to be naive like u will not solve d problem here. You're supposed to be in school or learning one handwork somewhere. |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by dominique(f): 10:43pm On Mar 23, 2020 |
xrayj:
So someone shouldn't be close to his family again?? Na wa O
I hope u will be saying same thing when you become a mother.... I'm a mum with kids and I pray they remain close till adulthood but would I want them living together as adults with one sibling living off the other? Heck no! They should maintain their closeness in their individual space, making their own money NOT with one sibling being a liability to the other. If your own prayer is for all your children to be living under same roof and living on handouts from one of them at an age when they should be independent, so shall it be for you. 6 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by alizma: 10:44pm On Mar 23, 2020 |
HelloHolla:
Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.
How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.
This man has refused to be on his own, his Grandma and 5 siblings (younger and older) live with him and he takes responsibility for them all, two of his siblings living with him also have their partners living with them. It's only a 3 bedroom flat. I feel like quitting the whole thing cause I don't feel comfortable going to his house. When I do, he wants me to cook for everyone which gets me strained.
With the look of things, he has no plans of moving out for them cause he rented the apartment, neither do they have intentions of moving out on their own, it's more like a family house. My period is two days late and I'm scared to the marrow.
Please advice me on what to do cause I can't live with him if they're still there after marriage, he's not even talking about marriage, I've not asked him yet so as not to sound desperate but why propose if you don't have plans of doing the next thing after a max of 6 months?
He's 31 and I'm 24
Thanks. I do not know his plan for your relationship but what I do know is that once a man is fully prepared and has his mind made up about a woman. It doesn't take more than average of one year to pay her bride price after engagement. In fact when a matured man who is ready for marriage engage you, you wouldn't be asking all these question because his, thought, actions, communication, appearance, demands etc will point at solidifying your relationship through marriage. Having said that, I want you to know that there was a time I mismatched things as well. That was when I gave engagement ring to someone based on hope and sincere intention to marry but now I understand that there is difference between those two and being ready to settle down. |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Mypeople2(m): 10:47pm On Mar 23, 2020 |
HelloHolla:
Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.
How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.
This man has refused to be on his own, his Grandma and 5 siblings (younger and older) live with him and he takes responsibility for them all, two of his siblings living with him also have their partners living with them. It's only a 3 bedroom flat. I feel like quitting the whole thing cause I don't feel comfortable going to his house. When I do, he wants me to cook for everyone which gets me strained.
With the look of things, he has no plans of moving out for them cause he rented the apartment, neither do they have intentions of moving out on their own, it's more like a family house. My period is two days late and I'm scared to the marrow.
Please advice me on what to do cause I can't live with him if they're still there after marriage, he's not even talking about marriage, I've not asked him yet so as not to sound desperate but why propose if you don't have plans of doing the next thing after a max of 6 months?
He's 31 and I'm 24
Thanks. Just imagine that I am looking for someone to marry and you are here forming lord of the rings ? Babe find your level .I don't see him marrying you in the next 6months because it seems the guy is trying to balance himself |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by DAVE5(m): 10:50pm On Mar 23, 2020 |
crackkhaus:
Women 100x better than you obviously.
Kill yourself... Mehn... Remind me never to get on ur bad side in my next ten lifetimes You were just too brutal man Fvck!!! 1 Like |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Rozaytee: 10:59pm On Mar 23, 2020 |
HelloHolla:
Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.
How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.
This man has refused to be on his own, his Grandma and 5 siblings (younger and older) live with him and he takes responsibility for them all, two of his siblings living with him also have their partners living with them. It's only a 3 bedroom flat. I feel like quitting the whole thing cause I don't feel comfortable going to his house. When I do, he wants me to cook for everyone which gets me strained.
With the look of things, he has no plans of moving out for them cause he rented the apartment, neither do they have intentions of moving out on their own, it's more like a family house. My period is two days late and I'm scared to the marrow.
Please advice me on what to do cause I can't live with him if they're still there after marriage, he's not even talking about marriage, I've not asked him yet so as not to sound desperate but why propose if you don't have plans of doing the next thing after a max of 6 months?
He's 31 and I'm 24
Thanks. this is exactly how my ex was living ...till I dumped his sorry ass...u better breakup wit dat nigga...who doesn't want to man up 1 Like |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by DAVE5(m): 11:01pm On Mar 23, 2020 |
Reference:
Noticed that too. Unfortunately housewife is the only vocation in marraige that comes that early. And since she maybe pregnant already I can definetely see at least half a dozen children and a complete waste of a lifetime. Too many women are totally useless, just a total waste of a man's time and energy, can't add any value to young agile men, just to eat, sleep, wash plate, lick ice cream and fvck, worse part is if you find 1 that can't even fvck, mehn you're doomed Most can't even hold a profitable or educative discussion for more than 10 seconds, useless girls all around, the op is probably one of such 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Nobody: 11:04pm On Mar 23, 2020 |
Amumaigwe:
@Bolded:
That is if they are indeed Queens. The irony is that most of you ladies are at best 'tarts' but desire to be treated as Queens, which they can neither factor how to become nor can pay the price thereof. Which man sees a real queen and dares to place her on suspense for 5 whole years without receiving an invite to her wedding to another man along the line? The complex answers ladies seek are, almost all the time, within them. 
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| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by imagrg(m): 11:07pm On Mar 23, 2020 |
Oh! Girl!
MY daughter had a similar experience and I advised her not to marry the young man until he was man enough to live on his own but she ignored me and went ahead to get pregnant for him to spite me!
After the first child, she observed that she had turned the family house maid.
She made a move to return to my house after the man refused to rent his own accommodation, but I chased her
back pronto.
Today, she has another baby and still living as a house help. No marriage, no home of their own!
Let this be a lesson to YOU!
***Visit the website on my signature below if you want to make some money weekly! 2 Likes |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Nobody: 11:14pm On Mar 23, 2020 |
born2reign001:
Ladies, when a man proposes, "will you marry me?" don't answer Yes, ask him when? To avoid stories like this. Many have been turned to Lord of the rings. Yes oooo. Loud it 
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| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Karac: 11:22pm On Mar 23, 2020 |
They have given this one too her own shekesheke ooo. Lmao!
The easiest way to trick a lady into losing her number 6... Just buy ring give her. E no hard at all. |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Nobody: 11:23pm On Mar 23, 2020 |
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| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Utanuje: 11:29pm On Mar 23, 2020 |
Why will there be introduction when all you girls do is to sleep around 1 Like |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Nobody: 11:35pm On Mar 23, 2020 |
HelloHolla:
Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.
How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.
This man has refused to be on his own, his Grandma and 5 siblings (younger and older) live with him and he takes responsibility for them all, two of his siblings living with him also have their partners living with them. It's only a 3 bedroom flat. I feel like quitting the whole thing cause I don't feel comfortable going to his house. When I do, he wants me to cook for everyone which gets me strained.
With the look of things, he has no plans of moving out for them cause he rented the apartment, neither do they have intentions of moving out on their own, it's more like a family house. My period is two days late and I'm scared to the marrow.
Please advice me on what to do cause I can't live with him if they're still there after marriage, he's not even talking about marriage, I've not asked him yet so as not to sound desperate but why propose if you don't have plans of doing the next thing after a max of 6 months?
He's 31 and I'm 24
Thanks. I dont have much experience on this as am yet to get married so the decision is left for you but his family's act got me though. I hv encountered many similar scenerios and it never really ends well . In the end, They always maltreat,frustrate,belittle and enslave the newly wedded wife. If you cant talk him out of this madness, you better let him go in order to live your life in true peace. |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by XshegzzyeeiX: 11:40pm On Mar 23, 2020 |
NextD18:
Give him money to rent another apartment if you can't cope with him and his family in the same building.
Or better still, give him money for wedding expenses if you can't wait or exercise some patients till he's ready for wedding!
You are 24!
-Do you work?
-Are you a student?
-Are you learning any skill?
-Do you have any meaningful thing to boast of?
Who and what are you exactly to the society and what exactly are you impacting in his life to warrant such thoughts of pressurizing him into sending his families out and marrying you as soon as possible!!
Smh! Keep fvckin him with reckless abandon, until you get pregnant, then will you understand the gravity of your fvckery!!
No use your head now wey you young!
Kpata kpata you'll turn to a single mother and a feminist wannabe, nothing go still change! Men go still dey ball higher!
Ask single mothers and feminist wannabes how they ended up and if anything changed in their lives after ranting and hating on men.  |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Inyayiz: 11:47pm On Mar 23, 2020 |
Tamakay:
At your age, you should have known that you're too naive and immature to be engaged. He just took advantage of u because u don't know anything. Sentiment and emotional blackmailing me by praying for my sisters to be naive like u will not solve d problem here. You're supposed to be in school or learning one handwork somewhere. Sorry sir, but you sound very unintelligent, Goodluck trolling, hit the road. Eranko. |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Acidosis(m): 12:03am On Mar 24, 2020 |
If you're not going to marry her in 3-12 months, then keep your ring. But then that's my opinion and that's what I've done  1 Like |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Emaprince: 12:07am On Mar 24, 2020 |
UyaiIncomparabl:
The ilks who liked your post are obviously your flocks. I see how much they've influenced you since you've dated quality women.
I don't have anything to say to you, but I'll rather just hope that I never come across men like you in my life.
You're a total waste of time. crackkhaus:
Boo hoo.. The whinging of an obsessive compulsive liar...
You seem to forget you already arranged the chance to come across a man like me...
Now I'm quite thankful I had more important places to be that day, and postpone it.
Knowing what I know now about you, it would have been a total regret and waste of my time. Dam.n this one enter!! And she was running her mouth about not wanting to meet a guy like when she was previously arranging to come accross you like a fan. All these bitter and desperate Naija girls...with their lies and pretense...forming like they belong when they are just street mgeke dem 3 Likes |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by U2ice(m): 12:22am On Mar 24, 2020 |
HelloHolla:
Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.
How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.
This man has refused to be on his own, his Grandma and 5 siblings (younger and older) live with him and he takes responsibility for them all, two of his siblings living with him also have their partners living with them. It's only a 3 bedroom flat. I feel like quitting the whole thing cause I don't feel comfortable going to his house. When I do, he wants me to cook for everyone which gets me strained.
With the look of things, he has no plans of moving out for them cause he rented the apartment, neither do they have intentions of moving out on their own, it's more like a family house. My period is two days late and I'm scared to the marrow.
Please advice me on what to do cause I can't live with him if they're still there after marriage, he's not even talking about marriage, I've not asked him yet so as not to sound desperate but why propose if you don't have plans of doing the next thing after a max of 6 months?
He's 31 and I'm 24
Thanks. what a stupid thing to say or think so many who don’t know how to communicate thinks this way.. na only prick una sabi fvck |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by enemyofprogress: 12:22am On Mar 24, 2020 |
I ate people especially adults coming here to tell us useless stories all in the name of seeking for advice. Don't you have your iwn brain? you fokn know what to do, do what you think is right to do and stop fokn disturbing us with your useless story. Engagement ring my foot.
Dominique i still love you despite what you did to me last night |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by XshegzzyeeiX: 12:24am On Mar 24, 2020 |
Ladycewhy:
na to slap you dey hungry me . This girl you well so? So you are seeing fire with your krokro eyes you want to jump inside .
RUN ! What did I say ? RUN!
Now as for the pregnancy suspicion , go and boil blended ginger for 10 mins and add teem soda drink . |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Emaprince: 12:27am On Mar 24, 2020 |
Wendymary:
I don't believe in wearing engagement ring. When you pay my bride price, I will start wearing engagement ring, I will even buy it my self. But don't give up, maybe he is waiting for the right time... But babe if you see a suitor marry him o. So she should just jump into marriage with any suitor? Isnt this the reason majority of you women still call and fukc your exes after getting married to a man that just showed up as a suitor when your ex wasn't ready for marriage. You marry him, then continue fucking the ex who you truly have feelings for. When you have a little misunderstanding with him, you will call your ex. You will even discuss your husbands sex prowess (especially if its not so good) with your ex. In the end, we have a heartbreaking record of 50 percent of first children not belonging to the father...in this Nigeria. You women are very bad. The only thing you think about is marriage. How you can tie a man down. SMH 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Nobody: 12:28am On Mar 24, 2020 |
crackkhaus:
You have addressed the OP and given her your opinion as you feel is best.
Why exactly do I still need to know that you disagree with me? Yes very deliberate, because your opinion was on the first page. It got many hits & I felt it was a biased point of view. Can we just be honest that this lady is meant for doom if she goes ahead with this man? It's not even about engagement issue that she kept painting in her story. She should be grateful he hasn't even married her in that family house. 1 Like |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by adg98(f): 12:44am On Mar 24, 2020 |
About being pregnant visit a good clinic and do the necessary
Never marry that man my dear
Flee away 1 Like |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Marsnizz: 12:47am On Mar 24, 2020 |
NextD18:
Give him money to rent another apartment if you can't cope with him and his family in the same building.
Or better still, give him money for wedding expenses if you can't wait or exercise some patients till he's ready for wedding!
You are 24!
-Do you work?
-Are you a student?
-Are you learning any skill?
-Do you have any meaningful thing to boast of?
Who and what are you exactly to the society and what exactly are you impacting in his life to warrant such thoughts of pressurizing him into sending his families out and marrying you as soon as possible!!
Smh! Keep fvckin him with reckless abandon, until you get pregnant, then will you understand the gravity of your fvckery!!
No use your head now wey you young!
Kpata kpata you'll turn to a single mother and a feminist wannabe, nothing go still change! Men go still dey ball higher!
Ask single mothers and feminist wannabes how they ended up and if anything changed in their lives after ranting and hating on men. Love this.Why on earth will a lady try to separate a guy and his family?That is greediness of the highest level. |
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| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by dontrulee: 1:41am On Mar 24, 2020 |
UyaiIncomparabl:
I hope you'll learn to see that he's really not into you like that. A man who hasn't made plans to leave and cleave definitely has no business getting married. That he is 31 doesn't mean he's ready. You cook and tend to his family whenever you are around them, right? You'll do worse when you get married. You'll become head chef and senior nanny to his siblings and aging Grandmother.
Have a serious discussion with him, tell him to give you a time, set your own time too since you're the one whom the shoes hurts. If he still shows signs of unseriousness and unwillingness, then I see no reason why you shouldn't start extending your search outside. This is your future. Don't ruin it. The partner you marry is liable to make or mar you.
In the end, it's all your brunt to bear. Choose wisely now to avoid coming to the front page of Nairaland tomorrow seeking for marital advice.
Ladies, even if you date a douchebag, please endeavor not to marry that douchebag. Please, see it as an importance to marry a man that has sense. You're Queens and Queens do not eat debris nor settle for less. 
Thread wisely and carefully.
Hey folk, las Las you will marry a douchebag. you will say I said it. you think you're wise? |
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| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Rejoice5000(f): 2:07am On Mar 24, 2020 |
2goodbobo:
If you dont talk to him, you will never know. You are right |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Biggers82(m): 2:09am On Mar 24, 2020 |
Hahahaha
A sure sign of free fuc-k nah
He never fuc-k finish |
| Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Rejoice5000(f): 2:10am On Mar 24, 2020 |
NextD18:
Give him money to rent another apartment if you can't cope with him and his family in the same building.
Or better still, give him money for wedding expenses if you can't wait or exercise some patients till he's ready for wedding!
You are 24!
-Do you work?
-Are you a student?
-Are you learning any skill?
-Do you have any meaningful thing to boast of?
Who and what are you exactly to the society and what exactly are you impacting in his life to warrant such thoughts of pressurizing him into sending his families out and marrying you as soon as possible!!
Smh! Keep fvckin him with reckless abandon, until you get pregnant, then will you understand the gravity of your fvckery!!
No use your head now wey you young!
Kpata kpata you'll turn to a single mother and a feminist wannabe, nothing go still change! Men go still dey ball higher!
Ask single mothers and feminist wannabes how they ended up and if anything changed in their lives after ranting and hating on men. Heh! Very hot pepper soup but u are right. |
