HelloHolla:
Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.

How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.

This man has refused to be on his own, his Grandma and 5 siblings (younger and older) live with him and he takes responsibility for them all, two of his siblings living with him also have their partners living with them. It's only a 3 bedroom flat. I feel like quitting the whole thing cause I don't feel comfortable going to his house. When I do, he wants me to cook for everyone which gets me strained.

With the look of things, he has no plans of moving out for them cause he rented the apartment, neither do they have intentions of moving out on their own, it's more like a family house. My period is two days late and I'm scared to the marrow.

Please advice me on what to do cause I can't live with him if they're still there after marriage, he's not even talking about marriage, I've not asked him yet so as not to sound desperate but why propose if you don't have plans of doing the next thing after a max of 6 months?

He's 31 and I'm 24

Thanks.

HelloHolla:
Thanks everyone
My family's not aware of the living arrangement, I never told them cause I know they wouldn't support the union if they knew
I'm a graduate, I'm working and equally run a business, to everyone saying I want him to throw his family out, I don't know but how do you want me to be comfortable living with 34-40yr Olds? And they don't seem to be bothered about having a bearing in life, sorry but that's the highest height of irresponsibility, sometimes, he doesn't have money and I have to support him financially and shouldering his family's responsibility, I find that very awkward, I can take care of someone younger but definitely not a full blown adult.

HelloHolla:
Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.

How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.

This man has refused to be on his own, his Grandma and 5 siblings (younger and older) live with him and he takes responsibility for them all, two of his siblings living with him also have their partners living with them. It's only a 3 bedroom flat. I feel like quitting the whole thing cause I don't feel comfortable going to his house. When I do, he wants me to cook for everyone which gets me strained.

With the look of things, he has no plans of moving out for them cause he rented the apartment, neither do they have intentions of moving out on their own, it's more like a family house. My period is two days late and I'm scared to the marrow.

Please advice me on what to do cause I can't live with him if they're still there after marriage, he's not even talking about marriage, I've not asked him yet so as not to sound desperate but why propose if you don't have plans of doing the next thing after a max of 6 months?

He's 31 and I'm 24

Thanks.

Ifechi2020:
My dear, the truth is that u have gone astray. Having sex for a man that hasn't paid ur bride price is grave sin. Many years ago, a boss of mine during my IT told me plainly that until a man takes u to the altar, do not ever believe whatever he says. I've been in marriage for over 10 years now and even with that I feel strange at times. We, ladies sell our pride so cheaply that a lot of men don't even appreciate the treasure we offer them. Go back to ur father's house, leave that ring, face ur studies/work /God. He will help u with his choice for u

truthsayer009:

Yes very deliberate, because your opinion was on the first page. It got many hits & I felt it was a biased point of view.

Can we just be honest that this lady is meant for doom if she goes ahead with this man? It's not even about engagement issue that she kept painting in her story. She should be grateful he hasn't even married her in that family house.

NextD18:
Give him money to rent another apartment if you can't cope with him and his family in the same building.

Or better still, give him money for wedding expenses if you can't wait or exercise some patients till he's ready for wedding!

You are 24!
-Do you work?
-Are you a student?
-Are you learning any skill?
-Do you have any meaningful thing to boast of?

Who and what are you exactly to the society and what exactly are you impacting in his life to warrant such thoughts of pressurizing him into sending his families out and marrying you as soon as possible!!

Smh! Keep fvckin him with reckless abandon, until you get pregnant, then will you understand the gravity of your fvckery!!

No use your head now wey you young!
Kpata kpata you'll turn to a single mother and a feminist wannabe, nothing go still change! Men go still dey ball higher!
Ask single mothers and feminist wannabes how they ended up and if anything changed in their lives after ranting and hating on men.

HelloHolla:
Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.

How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.

This man has refused to be on his own, his Grandma and 5 siblings (younger and older) live with him and he takes responsibility for them all, two of his siblings living with him also have their partners living with them. It's only a 3 bedroom flat. I feel like quitting the whole thing cause I don't feel comfortable going to his house. When I do, he wants me to cook for everyone which gets me strained.

With the look of things, he has no plans of moving out for them cause he rented the apartment, neither do they have intentions of moving out on their own, it's more like a family house. My period is two days late and I'm scared to the marrow.

Please advice me on what to do cause I can't live with him if they're still there after marriage, he's not even talking about marriage, I've not asked him yet so as not to sound desperate but why propose if you don't have plans of doing the next thing after a max of 6 months?

He's 31 and I'm 24

Thanks.

Paxie55:
You are still very young for this nonsense.

Davash222:

Lol.
I no just wan talk, all the same, good morning

Paxie55:

Lool. Goodmorning to you.
I hope you are safe out there.

Davash222:

One can’t be safe in Nigeria. Lol
Thanks. How you?

crackkhaus:

Lol.. please spare me bro.
There was nothing biased about D18's comment which I agreed on.

It's simple - she's the one looking to get married at all cost, so she should do something about it by providing the resources if she cannot wait. It's either she does that or she ends the relationship.

That was the summary of our so-called 'biased' opinion, which is not even biased at all. Lol

Whether you feel she's meant for doom if she goes ahead with the man is irrelevant. She's not your personal problem, nor is she mine either.
You don't care about her future if she marries that man anymore than you care about the blind beggar you come across on the road, let's not kid ourselves please.

Paxie55:

Lol. Gbalia ole I nwere ike.
I'm fine o, it's a rainy day today.
How's your side?

Davash222:

Just wished the rain will reach here.
My side just dey like Dele.
How’s Oga?

HelloHolla:


Thank you for the contribution, I accepted his ring because I thought he was going to "change" and perhaps, start living on his own, obviously, he doesn't look like he's moving anywhere, he has chased off other eligible suitors off me.

Paxie55:

Lool. It will.
He's fine.

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She said her period is two days late, meaning she's suspecting that she's pregnant

truthsayer009:

LMAO, I do & If you didn't, you wouldn't even waste a single moment writing a comment as soon as the post went up, you jumped on it.

You have missed my point which is providing the resources does not solve the problem, -Would she also provide the resources for the Man’s dependants?
-How far can she go?
-He proposed to her, was a Gun pointing at his head then?

She already complained that she cooks for everyone in the family house which gets her strained. A major problem here.

My point is: he is not ready to leave that family union, to start his own family. Mentally he his not ready, It isn’t only about finances.

crackkhaus:

You know why I like you?

Half the time I read your comments, they are exactly what I am going to type..

No homo..

EmzyT:

I swear, the guy is a Genius I just like him honestly

NextD18:
Give him money to rent another apartment if you can't cope with him and his family in the same building.

Or better still, give him money for wedding expenses if you can't wait or exercise some patients till he's ready for wedding!

You are 24!
-Do you work?
-Are you a student?
-Are you learning any skill?
-Do you have any meaningful thing to boast of?

Who and what are you exactly to the society and what exactly are you impacting in his life to warrant such thoughts of pressurizing him into sending his families out and marrying you as soon as possible!!

Smh! Keep fvckin him with reckless abandon, until you get pregnant, then will you understand the gravity of your fvckery!!

No use your head now wey you young!
Kpata kpata you'll turn to a single mother and a feminist wannabe, nothing go still change! Men go still dey ball higher!
Ask single mothers and feminist wannabes how they ended up and if anything changed in their lives after ranting and hating on men.