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UyaiIncomparabl:
I hope you'll learn to see that he's really not into you like that. A man who hasn't made plans to leave and cleave definitely has no business getting married. That he is 31 doesn't mean he's ready. You cook and tend to his family whenever you are around them, right? You'll do worse when you get married. You'll become head chef and senior nanny to his siblings and aging Grandmother.

Have a serious discussion with him, tell him to give you a time, set your own time too since you're the one whom the shoes hurts. If he still shows signs of unseriousness and unwillingness, then I see no reason why you shouldn't start extending your search outside. This is your future. Don't ruin it. The partner you marry is liable to make or mar you.

In the end, it's all your brunt to bear. Choose wisely now to avoid coming to the front page of Nairaland tomorrow seeking for marital advice.

Ladies, even if you date a douchebag, please endeavor not to marry that douchebag. Please, see it as an importance to marry a man that has sense. You're Queens and Queens do not eat debris nor settle for less.

Thread wisely and carefully.

You are "queen" when you can afford your bills and take your responsibilities... stop deceiving yourself nothing makes you special if you can't bring anything to the table means you are also a. douchbag!

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Inyayiz:
Sorry sir, but you sound very unintelligent, Goodluck trolling, hit the road. Eranko.

Unintelligent people resought to insulting others to avoid been told d truth d hard way because they don't have d mental wherewithal to convince or make their point. After this, you will hiding under feminism to insult men because you will surely be used the second time. How can a guy marry a mannerless thing like u as a wife in d first place? Continue wearing the ring and be deceiving ur frustrated kitten

UBGGA:
You're just 24!

Read. Travel. Build a career. Start a company.

Girl, live first, really live, before thinking marriage.

When do you advice she starts thinking marriage, 35?

HelloHolla:
Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.

How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.

This man has refused to be on his own, his Grandma and 5 siblings (younger and older) live with him and he takes responsibility for them all, two of his siblings living with him also have their partners living with them. It's only a 3 bedroom flat. I feel like quitting the whole thing cause I don't feel comfortable going to his house. When I do, he wants me to cook for everyone which gets me strained.

With the look of things, he has no plans of moving out for them cause he rented the apartment, neither do they have intentions of moving out on their own, it's more like a family house. My period is two days late and I'm scared to the marrow.

Please advice me on what to do cause I can't live with him if they're still there after marriage, he's not even talking about marriage, I've not asked him yet so as not to sound desperate but why propose if you don't have plans of doing the next thing after a max of 6 months?

He's 31 and I'm 24

Thanks.

Talkt to him get back to me. Hear what he has to say don't do this on phone do it in an eatery.... Don't do it at his house he will manipulate you using the environment.

Beside some dude are scared of their long partner proposing publicly so the propose to end the embarrassment but have no vision of future anyway..

UyaiIncomparabl:
No surprises here. Just like he is, is the way you are. I wonder who dates you people.

Bunch of walking, imbecilic narcissists.

Hi, what's up. Have you seen the quilox job? Let's link up

pls just tell him you are pregnant if the period refuse to show then from there you know the next step to take ,he will now make the necessary plan , pls dont tell him to chase his people it will tell on you later just watch him do it

U should be happy after 3 years of bf and gf he done engage u my neighbor date girl for almost 7years no engagement ring she dey wash d guy cloth and d guy mama cloth after all d girl do for am he still marry a different girl ..If u want make d guy marry u u go reason d kind marriage u want know the cost then bring part of the marriage money give the guy and also find another apartment know d cost and assist d guy with part of d money

Be like say the guy sabi kpansh, but remember one thing. Never mistake good sex for love, you will regret it later. I just don't know why women attach sex with emotion.

kushme:
. Yea, the act of a thief and a selfish bastard. That's exactly what you are trying to achieve.. So, because you think you've got a pussi to give, then you should be the only one in his house and life ? Damn it pussi... Stupid female orientation.. Wicked girl..

You are an idiot. Go and rent house then park all your family members to live with you including your grandma. Then look for one girl that will be family cook and maid and marry. You are the wicked person. I'm sure at your age you are still squatting with your brother. Shameless goat

Pinkie2018:
You are an idiot. Go and rent house then park all your family members to live with you including your grandma. Then look for one girl that will be family cook and maid and marry. You are the wicked person. I'm sure at your age you are still squatting with your brother. Shameless goat

Hey, yet another THIEF. Who gives a fvck about marriage ? I ain't giving you or any desperate female ma money or a space in ma house and definitely don't need your dirty pinkie bloody pussi. Think about it carefully.You see, you are damn useless to this playa.

you little dirty bastard with the fvcked up herd mentality, a stinking ass hole. Most of you are like babies with emotions, only thinking about your damn pussi entitlement...

We know most of the tricks. A reason, a shameless goat or homo sapien like me don't give a fvck about a 2 in your pink and a 1 in your stink. Stupid ass bi**tch..

dangotesmummy:
You remind me of the proverbial Yoruba addage about a man who doesn't want to move or work but wouldn't allow others to move or work and when those that are ready to work says he should leave the road for them,he will say no,I am not ready to work therefore nobody else should work


Does my little folklore teach you something?

The elders will say aboro lonsofun omoluabi,tobadeinu e, ADI odindin

For this your written Yoruba, Jesus wept

HelloHolla:
Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.

How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.

He's 31 and I'm 24

Thanks.

At the end of it all, I hope you know that the final decision you make rests on you. If you like, follow all the ladies screaming "leave him...you deserve better...and so on", when some of them have never sustained a relationship for 2 years.

Quick questions: Was he staying with his family before you met him? When he proposed to you, did you receive the ring cause you see your future with him or cause you feel you have waited too long? Apart from the marriage plans he wasn't putting forward, what other shortcomings have you found in him? (All the excuses you put up there are all in the line of your desire towards the marriage thing). Have you ever shown your unwillingness to cook or tend to his family and he was mad at you? Let me just stop here.

For your guy to be able to cope and fend for his family, then he is a responsible man and I'm sure no other person can categorically say why you have waited this long.

If you must leave or stay, let it be that your conscience will be at peace with you and you will be able to stand with your decision in the nearest future, come what may!

Shalom!!!

kushme:
Hey, yet another THIEF. Who gives a fvck about marriage ? I ain't giving you or any desperate female ma money or a space in ma house and definitely don't need your dirty pinkie bloody pussi. Think about it carefully.You see, you are damn useless to this playa.

you little dirty bastard with the fvcked up herd mentality, a stinking ass hole. Most of you are like babies with emotions, only thinking about your damn pussi entitlement...

We know most of the tricks. A reason, a shameless goat or homo sapien like me don't give a fvck about a 2 in your pink and a 1 in your stink. Stupid ass bi**tch..

Love your raps. You deserve a Grammy

UBGGA:
You're just 24!

Read. Travel. Build a career. Start a company.

Girl, live first, really live, before thinking marriage.

100 percent

jolyment:
What of if she has done all these things you listed?

I sincerely doubt that. Besides she would not be here, all desperate if she has tasted the said life.
She would chill, and be really chilled.

BLEMOSEDU:
Funny enough you can see how her fellow women are supporting her like seriously,
Because she is wearing ring, the young man should throw away his family to marry her so that she will make life miserable for him.

I am a woman, and first, I don’t know what the guy meant by proposing to her when he is clearly engulfed even though I like him for looking after his family. It is up to a lady to decide if she can and will fit into that tight/dire circumstance. That lady should not be the girl in the OP. That a girl is 24 and in that scenario makes me mistrust her motives. Desperate for marriage, resentful of hanger- on relatives and yet is willing to go on!? What happens afterwards?
The guy is also a very anyhow person, because he should look for a more independent (and older/mature) woman to give a ring. What is he afraid of?

In summary, the two of them should call it quits yesterday.
This topic is such a heartsore

Nnemuka:
lol
This story is funny
Young girls desperately want to settle
[/b]I believe your desperation led him to engage you so he can rest for a while[b].
I think the next step is to make you his baby mama.

Dont go and look for work

FanOfMyself:
Are you a harlot?

Ibrahiimo:
Wetin my EYES no go see

Wetin my EAR no go hear

And a HUMAN being will MARRY this one

Wonders Shall Never End!!!

Imagine?


An std infested pussy!

A worn out womb!!

A womb that is a victim of countless abortion!!!

Or is it the boiled ginger & theem soda crew.

In Mou's voice...
"I've absolutely nussing to say"

Ibrahiimo:
Wetin my EYES no go see

Wetin my EAR no go hear

And a HUMAN being will MARRY this one

Wonders Shall Never End!!!

Stacyomolola:
[s][/s]NextD18 oh please shut up. All in an aim to support ur fellow male u ended up spilling trash,
is that the life u purpose for ur sisters, thats if u are unfortunate to have one.
Shes been a cook, washing machine and generally a househelp to his extended family, to make matters worst he's not even proposing marriage and u calling her a wannabe feminist.
May ur sisters end up as one, AMEN.
Such detrimental, unfortunate and unreasonable smeg head[s][/s]

Tell that desperate girl using football age to go and look for a job , i.e if she's a graduate.

Local man cannot come & add another liability in the name of marriage. His hands are full already.

merahki:
I sincerely doubt that. Besides she would not be here, all desperate if she has tasted the said life.
She would chill, and be really chilled.

Okay

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
Tell that desperate girl using football age to go and look for a job , i.e if she's a graduate.

Local man cannot come & add another liability in the name of marriage. His hands are full already.

U could tell the desperate girl directly and keep me off ur mention
Thanks.

Stacyomolola:
U could tell the desperate girl directly and keep me off ur mention
Thanks.

I'll not.