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pryme:
you nailed it.
sex after marriage is one gamble am not willing take.

Scam . the person you quoted said:

" I'd rather have bad sex with an excellent personality husband than good sex with jerk " - Takotsubo

Can you marry a Jerk or Wayward lady because of Good sex ?

Peacefullove:
Point . but then in this part of the world most women marry for Money , So forget the testing before marriage , as long as their Ned Nwoko is around .. They dont care . So testing is just another excuse to be wayward as far as am concerned. Most girls even with the testing will still Marry that One minute man as long as he has Money . its after marriage they start crying

So we can infer that all married women are married to money bags, right?

So many funny minds abounds the earth

AllforJesus7:
Sister Philomena,

Now you are talking. A wonderful spouse is all that matter's. Peace of mind in marriage.

When you carry sex matter for head like Cecilia, you miss the mark. You test and test until you test away the wonderful partners.

Omotola Jolade did not test. Look at her today. Even Regina did not test look at her today.

Your testing policy may actually bring more trouble than good.

Bottom line is that issues regarding marriage have gotten very complicated.

Neither abstinence nor indulging will actually guarantee you happiness in the marriage. But finding a good man will.


Peace.

Why do I sense selfishness in this post.

Do not test (I don't even know what this means) yes!

Also do not because of 'no testing' bring rubbish to the table. Be very open minded to satisfying your spouse within reasonable limits and be creative.

And sex is very very important in marriage. It is like saying food is not important.

One of the major reasons of marriage in the Bible is sex.

Takotsubo:
Madam,you know nothing about me or a person like me.

I never knew I would fancy using restraints on my partner (DH)during sex - he's not into this.

I didn't ever know my libido would be raging.

No amount of discussions would have revealed this to me. So many examples sef.

Some people will never be sexually compatible, and unfortunately I'm one of them.

Others don't test and end up with amazing sexual vibes and that's fine.

End result of sex should be both partners clim axing ,there's no in-between,it's either you do or don't.

In my next life,I shall be testing to make sure I cli max every damn time,no time for fruitless theory.

What are his concerns with what you like?

Peacefullove:
Scam . the person you quoted said:

" I'd rather have bad sex with an excellent personality husband than good sex with jerk " - Takotsubo

Can you marry a Jerk or Wayward lady because of Good sex ?

Thats not your choice to make.

So I want to ask you, how to do you discuss sex with your partner?
What do you talk about?

yeyeosoronga:
Women want sex, and rightly so.
Nothing beats good sex. At least have that experience in your lifetime.
I am eternally grateful for all the experience I gained before marriage.
I have been married now for over a decade, so no small pikin should come and try to tell me some kin thing. Go and marry first and stay married with a family, before you come tell me nansense
I still appear like a new bride before my partner, and we both enjoy ourselves. Infact, during our heyday, we don do 12 rounds before. Yes, all day. Now, sex is the least of my worries.
Of course, you reminisce sometimes about the past, laugh about a lot of things, but I even wish I had partied harder then. I still have my friends from way back, and atimes we remind ourselves of how silly we were, and we laugh about stupid gists.
Now I feel too old to do certain things, even with my partner.
What better time could I have done these things na, if not when I was single?
I wouldn't touch my ex escapades with a barge pole now btw, just saying. Simply because I loved on. I also moved on too.
I have no single regrets. None whatsoever.
As a young person, remember to live life.
If you're down with premarital sex, stay protected. Insist you're both tested for diseases before getting down, insist on condoms, and use contraceptives.
Many nasties out there.

Why?

Are you 80?

bukatyne:
What are his concerns with what you like?

A bit too out there for his tastes..it's not his fault at all and I have accepted it. He is still wonderful.

Peacefullove:
Not blaming you .. Sorry if I come across that way.
My point is even if you test and he wasn't into it ... You might still marry him considering his other qualities that endear you to him with the mantra of " He will change " . and besides if your husband was a Good Christian he should know the Bible says a man should Please his wife Sexually . its a command.



" The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs , and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. " 1 Cor 7:3

I apologise if I sounded defensive.

Some people cannot get it right and it's okayy.
For sex to.sync between two people,I think they have to be mostly on the same page in terms of preferences.

Some people like things a bit freaky others prefer to point and kill instantly.

Some people like sensuous sex,others like it straight to the point.

I'm not one of those who believes premarital sex makes a person wayward but I understand and respect people who do.

My own lack of sex wasn't religious,one of the reasons is because I just didn't have time or meet someone interesting enough to bother with.

Husband is more religious,I will never blame him for not having sexual skills.I know he tries as much as he can but it just doesn't work.

It's not his fault.

Peacefullove:
Point . but then in this part of the world most women marry for Money , So forget the testing before marriage , as long as their Ned Nwoko is around .. They dont care . So testing is just another excuse to be wayward as far as am concerned. Most girls even with the testing will still Marry that One minute man as long as he has Money . its after marriage they start crying

Ahhhhh!! Are you saying I married for money?
I am actually an accomplished professional making my own coins.
Husband was not even financially stable when we married

sisisioge:
Hmmm...well done maami. You are truly a good woman. But you know you could get that man of yours some serious education through movies and books, since talking hasn't really helped.

Believe me,good is the last word i'd use to describe myself. I have considered truly evil things.
My man has tried jare,one person can't know how.to do everything.

Peacefullove:

This topic lacks basis as far as am concerned ... Most ladies shouting Testing testing are scam. Take this scene

Raymond is a jerk , broke guy with Good sex to give .

Desmond is a responsible Guy, Good Job .. But he is always busy , even when he has time for sex , he can't stress himself.

Who will Stella pick among the two for Marriage ? DESMOND. Despite she saw Raymond give her good sex/testing

I thought this ladies say Good sex is important, why not marry Raymond like that ? Scammers everywhere. If you want to have sex, Just do it , don't heap blame on the written laws of the holy book. Its never the cause of your predicament
after all the testing , testing , Adultery is still everywhere .

Doesn't have to be extreme,there are good , wonderful men out there who can finish you in bed and turn you out who are non Christian and don't believe in anything sef.

Adultery ,fornication will always exist,religion or no. Non testers and tester get stung daily.

Everyone should just live their best life and define their own happiness.

I'm doing the exact thing I said I wouldn't,

Namaste

yeyeosoronga:
Nobody is competing with men.
It's not a competition that I want to have sex and enjoy sex. Why are you telling me not to do so, while you're enjoying the same thing.
Don't be evil.
What makes a vagina wall loose is hormones and having a baby, and not sex.
In this day and age, any woman with a loose vagina even after a baby wants one. There are several ways to make your vagina walls firmer, and kegels is just one of them.
Where are the gyne physiotherapists here

Yes, you have the freedom to do whatsoever that pleases you, in fact it's a free world. But it'll be a crime against humanity if you've explored everything explorable before getting married with all sort of men ranging from Tramadol men to Viegra men to Alomo men to all kind of men that enhance their sexual act with sexual enhancement drugs and moaned 2 hours non stop under them that your body is accustomed to 2 hours sexing non stop to now marry to an innocent man that have not even heard of all these drugs before let alone using them, that now perform under the normal time frame for sex. No matter how he tries you'll never be satisfied, all what's you'll be shouting is the man is bad in bed, not knowing that you're the one that have rewired your sexual system in the name of I want to have sex and enjoy my youthful age.

yeyeosoronga:
Women want sex, and rightly so.

What better time could I have done these things na, if not when I was single?
I wouldn't touch my ex escapades with a barge pole now btw, just saying. Simply because I loved on. I also moved on too.
I have no single regrets. None whatsoever.
As a young person, remember to live life.
If you're down with premarital sex, stay protected. Insist you're both tested for diseases before getting down, insist on condoms, and use contraceptives.
Many nasties out there.

I loved loved reading this,haha especially protection and running from nasties.
I think once you pass 10 years of marriage,you just start to reflect.

I do not think that acquiring sexual experience would have changed my quality of partner anyways.

Testing or no testing a person should just align with another with similar values .

Deepocean:
Yes, you have the freedom to do whatsoever that pleases you, in fact it's a free world. But it'll be a crime against humanity if you've explored everything explorable before getting married with all sort of men ranging from Tramadol men to Viegra men to Alomo men to all kind of men that enhance their sexual act with sexual enhancement drugs and moaned 2 hours non stop under them that your body is accustomed to 2 hours sexing non stop to now marry to an innocent man that have not even heard of all these drugs before let alone using them, that now perform under the normal time frame for sex. No matter how he tries you'll never be satisfied, all what's you'll be shouting is the man is bad in bed, not knowing that you're the one that have rewired your sexual system in the name of I want to have sex and enjoy my youthful age.

Stop being a prude, oga at the top. You can also enjoy being at the bottom too, when you drop your prudishness
Our definition of crime and humanity apparently is very different.
China choosing to keep mum about the epidermic in their country and allowing it spread can perhaps be seen as a crime against humanity, slavery is definitely one also, genocide is another. Ah, how about terrorism .
Those are crimes against humanity.
However, me choosing to have sex with someone who uses alomo/yoyo bitters/opa eyin/agbo jedi/viagra is DEFINITELY no crime against humanity.
Sex is just what it is- sex. A basic primal human need.
Some of us like it slowly and jejely, while some of us like it hard and rough. Some are fine with 2 minutes of it and 1 hour of kissing, while some don't want any kissing but want the main action for 2 hours.
The earlier you learn to start discussing the real issues of sex amongst couples, the better for everyone. You can always adjust to your partners needs, without losing yourself.

sisisioge:
Thanks for sharing maami...I guess as expected, the guys hunting virgins aren't taking into full account her true self/feeling. They mostly think virgins won't really have desires cos what do they know! A man cant honestly understand the feelings in a woman's body no matter how much they pretend to.

Anyways, may God's mercy continue to flow in your family. Last last, while sex is highly important, a wonderful spouse is second to none! Cheers.

Your problem is that you think we look for virgins because we want to hide sexual inadequacies! That is not the case! I personally prefer virgins because virginity in this spoilt generation is a great indicator of moral soundness and self control!

I bet if the madam you quoted married as a wh0re, she would have resorted to cheating on her man with some numerous exes. But she is taking things easy and looking at other great qualities in the man instead of defiling her matrimonial bed. That's the self control I'm talking about!!

Lol, nobody eats his/her cake and have it.
Enjoy the sex at the wrong time with the wrong people and suffer for it later, but stop putting the blame on thhe innocent man. Blaming a man for what he's didn't cause is the greatest of crime against humanity, don't you know that wrong accusation is a crime If a narrow tube is turned to a pipeline or well or borehole by randon guys in exchange for cash and material things under the guise of boyfriend/girlfriend lover, who should be blamed? Blaming that man is a great crime my dear. Though I know that the the did is done already as concerning your case, I'll advise you not to quote me again but look for a solution to your problem if the problem hasn't gone beyond repair. And stop comparing your gender with male gender, doing that is a subtle competition, we are not equal and we'll never be, we pay the bride price, and no one wants to pay for a destroyed, dilapidated, stinking, rotten thing.

My advice for you is to know that the virtue placed on woman's chastity is worth what is to look at and have a hard ponder on rather than comparing with men that nobody cares about what they've done (though this is not not promote male promiscuity). Nature had created female gender body to be more precious and cherished more than gold or diamond, that is why it is vety difficult for the reasonable and sensible type among your gender to even allow her laps to be revealed even while sitting down at home, let's cherish it and treat you like gold and diamond rather than to allow yourself to be treated like common sand that we all match and step on. Stop sleeping around like a street dog, be responsible.

yeyeosoronga:
Our definition of crime and humanity apparently is very different.
China choosing to keep mum about the epidermic in their country and allowing it spread can perhaps be seen as a crime against humanity, slavery is definitely one also, genocide is another. Ah, how about terrorism .
Those are crimes against humanity.
However, me choosing to have sex with someone who uses alomo/yoyo bitters/opa eyin/agbo jedi/viagra is DEFINITELY no crime against humanity.
Sex is just what it is- sex. A basic primal human need.

Lol, nobody eats his/her cake and have it.
Enjoy the sex at the wrong time with the wrong people and suffer for it later, but stop putting the blame on the innocent man. Blaming a man for what he didn't cause is the greatest of crime against humanity, don't you know that wrong accusation is a crime If a narrow tube is turned to a pipeline or well or borehole by randon guys in exchange for cash and material things under the guise of boyfriend/girlfriend lover, who should be blamed? Blaming that man is a great crime my dear. Though I know that the the did is done already as concerning your case, I'll advise you not to quote me again but look for a solution to your problem if the problem hasn't gone beyond repair. And stop comparing your gender with male gender, doing that is a subtle competition, we are not equal and we'll never be, we pay the bride price, and no one wants to pay for a destroyed, dilapidated, stinking, rotten thing.

My advice for you is to know that the virtue placed on woman's chastity is worth what is to look at and have a hard ponder on rather than comparing with men that nobody cares about what they've done (though this is not not promote male promiscuity). Nature had created female gender body to be more precious and cherished more than gold or diamond, that is why it is vety difficult for the reasonable and sensible type among your gender to even allow her laps to be revealed even while sitting down at home, let's cherish it and treat you like gold and diamond rather than to allow yourself to be treated like common sand that we all match and step on. Stop sleeping around like a street dog, be responsible.
'

yeyeosoronga:
Our definition of crime and humanity apparently is very different.
China choosing to keep mum about the epidermic in their country and allowing it spread can perhaps be seen as a crime against humanity, slavery is definitely one also, genocide is another. Ah, how about terrorism .
Those are crimes against humanity.
However, me choosing to have sex with someone who uses alomo/yoyo bitters/opa eyin/agbo jedi/viagra is DEFINITELY no crime against humanity.
Sex is just what it is- sex. A basic primal human need.

Crap!

Trying to justify losing virginity before marriage.

Jman06:
Your problem is that you think we look for virgins because we want to hide sexual inadequacies! That is not the case! I personally prefer virgins because virginity in this spoilt generation is a great indicator of moral soundness and self control!

I bet if the madam you quoted married as a wh0re, she would have resorted to cheating on her man with some numerous exes. But she is taking things easy and looking at other great qualities in the man instead of defiling her matrimonial bed. That's the self control I'm talking about!!

Hello Mr Jman06,

Unfortunately,my lack of sexual experience doesn't mean I am a better person. I have had thoughts to cheat and have seriously considered it.These thoughts wax and wane depending on how frustrated I feel.

The ONLY THING holding me back isn't really self control but the fact that my husband is a fantastic human being in my opinion. I'm not being virtuous at all,I'm just striking a balance and appreciating a good man.

I believe that if I didn't have his type of personality as a spouse,I may have done a lot of things by now.


Remember everyone has their own definition of 'who re'. Some want to know how many sexual partners in the past,others do not.

Some choose a number and that is their own defining line.

It is very important to bear in mind that people are very very unpredictable especially sexually and there's loads of men offering free sex,doesn't have to be an ex.

Put someone in the right place at the right time ,and you will be very shocked.

In my view,sex is a normal basic instinct,to.indulge or not to indulge is left to whomever and I respect that.

I just don't believe virginity had any impact on my marriage,maybe because it wasn't a factor for my husband and his personality is very laid back or because he's all shades of awesome..not perfect but awesome.

Everything I've written is my personal opinion,my own personal experience,not a manual for others to follow.

Good luck.

Deepocean:
Lol, nobody eats his/her cake and have it.
Enjoy the sex at the wrong time with the wrong people and suffer for it later, but stop putting the blame on the innocent man. Blaming a man for what he didn't cause is the greatest of crime against humanity, don't you know that wrong accusation is a crime If a narrow tube is turned to a pipeline or well or borehole by randon guys in exchange for cash and material things under the guise of boyfriend/girlfriend lover, who should be blamed? Blaming that man is a great crime my dear. Though I know that the the did is done already as concerning your case, I'll advise you not to quote me again but look for a solution to your problem if the problem hasn't gone beyond repair. And stop comparing your gender with male gender, doing that is a subtle competition, we are not equal and we'll never be, we pay the bride price, and no one wants to pay for a destroyed, dilapidated, stinking, rotten thing.

My advice for you is to know that the virtue placed on woman's chastity is worth what is to look at and have a hard ponder on rather than comparing with men that nobody cares about what they've done (though this is not not promote male promiscuity). Nature had created female gender body to be more precious and cherished more than gold or diamond, that is why it is vety difficult for the reasonable and sensible type among your gender to even allow her laps to be revealed even while sitting down at home, let's cherish it and treat you like gold and diamond rather than to allow yourself to be treated like common sand that we all match and step on. Stop sleeping around like a street dog, be responsible.
'

You're preaching to the wrong choir, dear brother.
Your fears that you won't be able to satisy your woman, isn't my problem at all. Many of your mates are able to do that, so ask them to teach you.

My chastity isn't your business, neither is yours mine.
Some of my life's mantra include live and let live, so go and police your own body.

I'm soooo allergic to hypocrisy, pls stay far away.

I don't need you to treat me like gold or diamond, dear brother.
You wouldn't know what to do with gold/diamond if you ever saw it. The problem is, you wouldn't even recognize it.

The aim of this thread is to support sexual immorality. Virgin women are the best, keeping yourself pure until marriage still remain the best for both men and women.

Takotsubo:
Hello Mr Jman06,

Unfortunately,my lack of sexual experience doesn't mean I am a better person. I have had thoughts to cheat and have seriously considered it.These thoughts wax and wane depending on how frustrated I feel.

The ONLY THING holding me back isn't really self control but the fact that my husband is a fantastic human being in my opinion. I'm not being virtuous at all,I'm just striking a balance and appreciating a good man.

I believe that if I didn't have his type of personality as a spouse,I may have done a lot of things by now.


Remember everyone has their own definition of 'who re'. Some want to know how many sexual partners in the past,others do not.

Some choose a number and that is their own defining line.

It is very important to bear in mind that people are very very unpredictable especially sexually and there's loads of men offering free sex,doesn't have to be an ex.

Put someone in the right place at the right time ,and you will be very shocked.

In my view,sex is a normal basic instinct,to.indulge or not to indulge is left to whomever and I respect that.

I just don't believe virginity had any impact on my marriage,maybe because it wasn't a factor for my husband and his personality is very laid back or because he's all shades of awesome..not perfect but awesome.

Everything I've written is my personal opinion,my own personal experience,not a manual for others to follow.

Good luck.

For each one in ur suituation, there are 10 more who had it different.

Still, I sympathize with u.

Takotsubo:
Hello Mr Jman06,

Unfortunately,my lack of sexual experience doesn't mean I am a better person. I have had thoughts to cheat and have seriously considered it.These thoughts wax and wane depending on how frustrated I feel.

The ONLY THING holding me back isn't really self control but the fact that my husband is a fantastic human being in my opinion. I'm not being virtuous at all,I'm just striking a balance and appreciating a good man.

I believe that if I didn't have his type of personality as a spouse,I may have done a lot of things by now.


Remember everyone has their own definition of 'who re'. Some want to know how many sexual partners in the past,others do not.

Some choose a number and that is their own defining line.

It is very important to bear in mind that people are very very unpredictable especially sexually and there's loads of men offering free sex,doesn't have to be an ex.

Put someone in the right place at the right time ,and you will be very shocked.

In my view,sex is a normal basic instinct,to.indulge or not to indulge is left to whomever and I respect that.

I just don't believe virginity had any impact on my marriage,maybe because it wasn't a factor for my husband and his personality is very laid back.

Everything I've written is my personal opinion,my own personal experience,not a manual for others to follow.

Good luck.

Your honesty is a breathe of fresh air
I'm almost certain most of your youthful years wasn't spent in a place where hypocrisy reigns or is it just ignorance that reigns?
Sadly many of our men on NL have failed to listen to women and what they want. They would rather make assumptions for you, and swear it is what you want.
You have been told the reason you stay faithful is because there are no ex-es lurking by, forgetting that other "predators" abound.

To the sermon preachers on here:
It is actually a choice to stay faithful or break your marital vows.
I have no problem with women making a decision to remain virgins, and also for those who chose not to. It's afterall a decision one makes and lives with ( sadly , we also have many female victims of sexual molestation who had their choices taken away from them either as young children or even adults).
I'm just not happy with those telling women not to have sexual fulfilment, while they are enjoying the sex. Hypocrisy at its finest, as if they love your more than you love yourself.

yeyeosoronga:
Your honesty is a breathe of fresh air
I'm almost certain most of your youthful years wasn't spent in a place where hypocrisy reigns or is it just ignorance that reigns?
Sadly many of our men on NL have failed to listen to women and what they want. They would rather make assumptions for you, and swear it is what you want.
You have been told the reason you stay faithful is because there are no ex-es lurking by, forgetting that other "predators" abound.

To the sermon preachers on here:
It is actually a choice to stay faithful or break your marital vows.
I have no problem with women making a decision to remain virgins, and also for those who chose not to. It's afterall a decision one makes and lives with ( sadly , we also have many female victims of sexual molestation who had their choices taken away from them either as young children or even adults).
I'm just not happy with those telling women not to have sexual fulfilment, while they are enjoying the sex. Hypocrisy at its finest, as if they love your more than you love yourself.

Hmmmm

This thread is an eye opener! So, women really love sexx that much? But why do they pretend like they don't like sex and some even demonize men and call them dogs for always wanting sex

I wish guys could stop spending money on women just to get them agree to have sex since it is now obvious that women also want it badly. They may even want it more going by their responses here. Guys, wise up!!!

Jman06:
Hmmmm

This thread is an eye opener! So, women really love sexx that much? But why do they pretend like they don't like sex and some even demonize men and call them dogs for always wanting sex

I wish guys could stop spending money on women just to get them agree to have sex since it is now obvious that women also want it badly. They may even want it more going by their responses here. Guys, wise up!!!

Women want to enjoy sex, and have orgasms.
Give them this, and you won't have to pay for sex.
It's really weird when you have to pay for sex though, you guys should stop such nonsense

frozen70:
You are absolutely right

Most and I mean a big number of men with small joy sticks, go for Virgins

They know why and you will think they are proud getting married to a virgin, no ❗ ❗ ❗

They have their secret reason

I opened this thread hoping to read something different, but I have seen something along the lines of the bold portion repeated over and again. Sorry, your post was the final one that made me decide to comment.

A question: are you ladies saying those men chose to have small P? And now that they have it, they shouldn't get married?

Some ladies are so confused these days. I saw on another thread someone stating that a person without a 2-bedroom apartment shouldn't think marriage. Small time now na dem go full church dey pray for any man.

You ladies are most likely still very young and, in your mind, "hot." Kontinu.

yeyeosoronga:
Women want to enjoy sex, and have orgasms.
Give them this, and you won't have to pay for sex.
It's really weird when you have to pay for sex though, you guys should stop such nonsense

In that case, women should also start opening up when they are hot and want sex. It won't be bad for them to approach and woo men to have sex with them.

U1:
I opened this thread hoping to read something different, but I have seen something along the lines of the bold portion repeated over and again. Sorry, your post was the final one that made me decide to comment.

A question: are you ladies saying those men chose to have small P? And now that they have it, they shouldn't get married?

Some ladies are so confused these days. I saw on another thread someone stating that a person without a 2-bedroom apartment shouldn't think marriage. Small time now na dem go full church dey pray for any man.

You ladies are most likely still very young and, in your mind, "hot." Kontinu.

If you have been following the tread Well, a guy boasted that men should get married to a virgin or nothing else

So I asked him what about those virgins, he broked, who will marry them

Then I made it clear that most men you see that goes for virgins have small dick

They will rather not test until the day if marriage so that the lady will be stucked

Then if you follow the tread carefully, I said that, big or small dick is not the problem, the ability to use it well is what matters

As you guys know what you want in a woman, women also have a choice if what they want in a man

The size of the dick is part of it and his ability to use it well is the real thing

Takotsubo:
Doesn't have to be extreme,there are good , wonderful men out there who can finish you in bed and turn you out who are non Christian and don't believe in anything sef.

Adultery ,fornication will always exist,religion or no. Non testers and tester get stung daily.

Everyone should just live their best life and define their own happiness.

I'm doing the exact thing I said I wouldn't,

Namaste

The thread was opened to Pursue the view that ONLY Non testers suffer badly WHILE TESTERS are Not affected . which has been shown to be False.


Take care dear

PerfectMaster:
The aim of this thread is to support sexual immorality. Virgin women are the best, keeping yourself pure until marriage still remain the best for both men and women.

Fact .. That way you won't have to compare your partner with Ex'es

Takotsubo:
Ahhhhh!! Are you saying I married for money?
I am actually an accomplished professional making my own coins.
Husband was not even financially stable when we married

Sorry dear .. I actually said " most " not all . and you would agree with me that Many ladies of today will pick the money bag irrespective of his sex skills . So any such lady saying she is testing is actually deceiving themselves.