₦airaland Forum

emmanuelewumi:
But those women are richer than their husbands, that is life. Some start life as the husband been the sole provider before events change.

emmanuelewumi:
Do you know the reason why a number of Nigerian men kill their financially stable wives in the US. In the beginning, their wives were fully dependent on them. Such women took nursing courses which were financed by the husbands. The husband's never needed the voluntary support of their
wives in the home front.
While the man is labouring to keep on being the sole provider, the woman is investing having hundreds of thousands or millions of dollars, while the husband is in debts and a pay cheque away from bankruptcy.

When such men realize how financially fortified their wives are, jealousy comes in. Some will now plan to kill their wives in order to inherit such investments. Unfortunately most of such men imported their wives from villages in Nigeria thinking they will be different from the Akatas. That is why character, attitude and fear of God are very important.

emmanuelewumi:
We also have women do not have anything that still treat their husbands with comtept and disrespect.

Genset:
Oga experience men . It is experienced men not experience men . From all indications, u re an illiterate . No wonder u need a rich woman since u wont be able to put food on the table with your bad English

RisenPhoenix:
You feel that women can only contribute by bringing money into a marriage? That is not my view. Much more important than washing your dirty dishes, paying half the rent or paying a third of the school fees, is what women contribute by making the home emotionally conducive for the rest of the family, providing a base of rest and comfort from which the husband goes out to fight in the rat race every morning, and nurturing the bodies and minds of the progeny. That is their primary and only duty. Do not underestimate that contribution, it is very important to society. In fact, the neglect by women of this primary duty is what gave rise to the sick society we have today, with rebellious children, stressed husbands and criminal behaviour everywhere. Anything that helps them in that duty; like getting a househelp to take away the less important functions; should be enhanced and encouraged. Would Boeing waste their chief engineer's time by asking him to count bolts and nuts in the store?

The only problem is that women are failing in their primary duty because they are not encouraged to perform it. Rather, weak and lazy men try to get their wives to do the men's duty instead of theirs, and men judge them on that basis. Witness the op.

Poorboy:
says who don't know the direction of his life..... From your ideology, you will die a poor man.

2buffagain:
Guys should give this a try.
Give her money (if she hasn't got now) so as to know
1. Her disposition towards money.
(your money ours, my money mine)
2. Her managerial and decision making skills.
3. Her behaviour (respect & obidence ) when she's gat lots of cash at her disposal.

Well do Nigerian men have enough general game to work with and live with women without trying to be autocrats?
If your plan is to leave the country one day with your wife , you will quickly realize that the only way you can deal with your wife in these western countries is through negotiation, not by you just yelling and giving commands. And that is even a wife who is not making any money so you are not even getting any benefits of said negotiation style.

Might as well adjust your pattern, and have her enjoy some of the benefits of her input by her also being able to have a say.
Sooner or later, if you ever leave naija, you will have to anyway.

That said, the woman who overdos and destroys her marriage over the fact that she manages to bring something in is a fool.
The only way to know she is this kind of fool is by observing how she behaves as an earning woman before marriage. If you are keen (and you have to be in this game), you will detect what you need to detect to either continue or abort.

RisenPhoenix:
You feel that women can only contribute by bringing money into a marriage? That is not my view. Much more important than washing your dirty dishes, paying half the rent or paying a third of the school fees, is what women contribute by making the home emotionally conducive for the rest of the family, providing a base of rest and comfort from which the husband goes out to fight in the rat race every morning, and nurturing the bodies and minds of the progeny. That is their primary and only duty. Do not underestimate that contribution, it is very important to society. In fact, the neglect by women of this primary duty is what gave rise to the sick society we have today, with rebellious children, stressed husbands and criminal behaviour everywhere. Anything that helps them in that duty; like getting a househelp to take away the less important functions; should be enhanced and encouraged. Would Boeing waste their chief engineer's time by asking him to count bolts and nuts in the store?

The only problem is that women are failing in their primary duty because they are not encouraged to perform it. Rather, weak and lazy men try to get their wives to do the men's duty instead of theirs, and men judge them on that basis. Witness the op.

Ladiesdream:
why bother replying a boy still being fed by parents. Can't you see he is not in touch with the realities of life in this 21st Century?

MrBrownJay1:
in this age of woman being intelligent and educated, of course they will... unless of course you are talking about useless good for nothing slay queen that have nothing to offer a man but a warm coochie.
REMEMBER a man may be broke AFTER paying the rent/bills/food etc and that certainly does not make him a poor dude....far from it!
Oga super hero marry character and forget financial sustainability..no one plans for the worst in life, but if happens you are no longer capable of providing for your family, CHARACTER would continue the good work!!!

Be fucking real no one is against anyone seeking out a decent , upright bankable charactered woman, but in today’s world that’s not a priority.. a woman that can compliment financially is ...done are the days of parasitic relationships...it MUST BE SYMBIOTIC...if u need a good character woman who will attend to all your domestic needs get a MAID!!!


i dont believe it is... it only is in Africa/Nigeria etc where marriage is a do or die mission. thus many are marrying donkeys not because they want to spend the rest of their natural life with their loved one, BUT SIMPLY BECAUSE thats what society/family/religion/friends etc demands of them.

there should be no overcalculation here... you find someone, she ticks all the natural foundation/character/desire that you need in a mate, and you you guys settle to spend the rest of your lives together. having a job is irrelevant, so long as she is intelligent/educated and actively seeking for employment.

MrExpensive:
he will die a poor man...... Hahahhaaahhaha hahahaha hahahaha

DexterousOne:
As usual
I'm impressed with your comment

When you see a mans comment
You know
Not some still growing up.

Let me add this

For all young men out there

What you should be looking out for principally is PRUDENCE in a woman


Regardless of a woman's income
A woman who is NOT PRUDENT is a BIG liability to your life

And if you are not prudent yourself

Sorry be two of una name

Genset:
What realities abeg? The reality that u lots are looking for women to gold-dig from and still submit to you . A man has just one job which is to provide and u lots are whining and crying over it. If u can't be a damn man, then , please , exchange roles with a woman that is interested .

sweetrace:
Women make sure you marry a man who makes good money. Then he won’t be interested in making you a source of income. He will be willing and able to provide for his family.

2buffagain:
Gentlemen. The reality of living in the 20th century has changed, and so must every notion formed from previous days that no longer hold weight today.

Women are not the only ones who should be asking what you do.
You should also be asking her what she does....and guaging her wifeability from her response.
Nobody likes to suffer...yourself included. So why sign up for a lifetime of every financial request of your immediate family (and possibly both your extended families ) coming to just you alone?

Gone are the days where families survived on one income alone. Those days, houses in Nigeria used to cost #5M or less. These same houses now cost well over #30M.

I can bet your income did not also inflate 6x over the same time.

The reality is that you need a wife who also brings something home, and honestly it should hopefully be around the same (or more God willing) of what you pull in.

This way one person's income can cover the family stuff and the other person's income goes towardssavings/investments/emergencies/joblessness buffering/ etc. Your family will go farther and you can even both retire earlier if this is done right.

Also Naija guys please, have some respect for yourself.
If you meet a girl and she has the mental configuration of always wanting money from you, just know that she is not the one.

As a sister here once said, "A girl who truly likes you, won't ask you for money...unless it's bad and you are her last resort."
Na woman talk am. Believe that sister. Peep that one game from her, and most of you will be alright.

If a girl really likes you, she'll be too busy trying to think of ways to be an asset to your life or impress you...not a taker.

Get you a girl who makes her money with a good source of income and who understands that her income is to be included in plans.

You have been told.
You should be done with your broke girl phase right about now ^{(much like how women should be done with their bad boy stage).}
It does nothing for your life.

NOTE: I am not saying go and marry an idiot because she makes money.... Obviously.
You are still looking for a good wife, who just ALSO happens to be equipped with income and/or good income prospects and drive.

franchasng:
yes oh!


Many guys be searching for a 24yrs and below hot, sexdoll as a wife and at the same time hoping to get a financially valuable and prudent Lady to marry, that's contradiction.


You cannot be here and there at the same time. Define what matters most to you as a single man and go for that.


If you want a sex machine with big nyash and big breast, then go for it and don't expect her to be a financially valuable/prudent lady.


Ned Nwoko that married Regina knows what he wants, he is not expecting Regina Daniels to help him grow his wealth or manage his wealth, he just want her for a showoff and to promote his political ambition and brands.


So all you single guys reading, find our the qualities that matters most to you and go for them, neglect the others cos u cant have all in one lady.


But I would advice all single guys of today, in as much as u should not just go after a lady because she has money or good job or business. Please don't marry an unemployed lady who is lazy, have no selling skill, have no selling profession, only in your life to sex and give birth for you. It may have worked for men of decades ago, time have changed, global economy is no longer smiling like in the past so marry wisely.


Ask yourself, how many billionaires in the world married housewife

Melinda Gates, Bill Gates wife is working. Mark Zuckerberg's wife is working. Jeff Bezos ex wife works.


US President Donald Trump's wife works.

So why must you, a struggling young man marry a lady that is financially unproductive in this time and era


And to the ladies before you start thinking of getting married, please develop yourself financially, stop marrying without having your own means of livelihood, it is a bad thing to do as a single lady. Develop yourself now that you are single

Afodot0022:
I dont believe in this. A good woman will still be loyal and submissive even if she earns better or more. That doesnt give her the mind to be rude to her hubby.From the very day i got married have been taking 101% financial responsibility in my house, despite that my wife is still rude and attimes disrecpect me alot. So you can imagine what she will do if she start earning money and start taking financial responsibility in my house, only God knows what will happen then. It pay me that you are assisting as a wife financially and you disrespect attimes, atleast i know am getting assistance from you, not when nothing is coming from you and you are still rude and disrespectful as fur....k. So it boils down to the person personality.To intendeing bachelor at there, abeg open eye marry better woman that will supplement you and not one that will drag you back instead forward. You will live to regret it.Gone are the days the man will be taking all financial responsibility in the home, things have change. Attimes i get annoyed when i see a lady or woman that dont have a school certificate or doesnt not have any skill at hand or any business, tell me what value are you going to add to your man or your intending family, you will be so useless as a mess coming out of the bombom . wake up ladies and give your live a value.

2buffagain:
Nigerians in general tend to believe in autocracies and theocracies...not democracies.

This bleeds into everything they do.

CHoccolaTE:
Do you know that this bit of common sense you typed is too hard for them to understand.
Confused and selfish people

Eriggs:
That is an added advantage

Poorboy:
A woman that eats buy clothes, pay rent etc and has nothing to do( no job, no business, no family stipends like even 25k monthly ) is a Prostitute.

RisenPhoenix:
That they are richer is not an excuse for their husbands to rely on their wealth. That switches the roles. The wives then become the husbands. The husband should instead, make the wife live within the standatd that he can afford.



What you cited as the reason is the fault of the husband not the wife. First, the husband tried to live above his means by taking loans and living on credit. Then he gets jealous and kills himself because of his own financial recklessness. He should have restricted his expenses to what he could afford after savings and investments. His financial carelessness is not her fault.



Yes. When their husbands are not good providers. It is not her responsibility to have anything, but her husband's. Like I said, nothing creates contempt in a woman for her husband more than a lack of responsibility. She can bear the infidelity, the violence, the drunkenness. But very few women can bear the irresponsibility.

josen16322:
wen som women start makin cash more dan their husband dey wil be like i am now d head of d family i can provide half of d tins my children needs be4 u kno it d husband wil be talkin one d wife wil be talkin 2 no more respect 4d husband dis incident is hapenin in my compound dat is y women can neva rule dis country becos wen dey start 2 earn more dan their husband,dem go form pass shit

2buffagain:
Gentlemen. The reality of living in the 20th century has changed, and so must every notion formed from previous days that no longer hold weight today.

Women are not the only ones who should be asking what you do.
You should also be asking her what she does....and guaging her wifeability from her response.
Nobody likes to suffer...yourself included. So why sign up for a lifetime of every financial request of your immediate family (and possibly both your extended families ) coming to just you alone?

Gone are the days where families survived on one income alone. Those days, houses in Nigeria used to cost #5M or less. These same houses now cost well over #30M.

I can bet your income did not also inflate 6x over the same time.

The reality is that you need a wife who also brings something home, and honestly it should hopefully be around the same (or more God willing) of what you pull in.

This way one person's income can cover the family stuff and the other person's income goes towardssavings/investments/emergencies/joblessness buffering/ etc. Your family will go farther and you can even both retire earlier if this is done right.

Also Naija guys please, have some respect for yourself.
If you meet a girl and she has the mental configuration of always wanting money from you, just know that she is not the one.

As a sister here once said, "A girl who truly likes you, won't ask you for money...unless it's bad and you are her last resort."
Na woman talk am. Believe that sister. Peep that one game from her, and most of you will be alright.

If a girl really likes you, she'll be too busy trying to think of ways to be an asset to your life or impress you...not a taker.

Get you a girl who makes her money with a good source of income and who understands that her income is to be included in plans.

You have been told.
You should be done with your broke girl phase right about now ^{(much like how women should be done with their bad boy stage).}
It does nothing for your life.

NOTE: I am not saying go and marry an idiot because she makes money.... Obviously.
You are still looking for a good wife, who just ALSO happens to be equipped with income and/or good income prospects and drive.

DexterousOne:
Bwahahahahahahahahahaha




That made me laugh


Which power woman get for those western countries sef?

In the real sense of it, that is no power whatsoever o.
It's the illusion of power.

But I get your point

Deoboss:
She may not necessarily be a prostitute bro

sassysure:

U surprised me.

No, I'm shocked

I have since given up hope.

sassysure:
Nothing is wrong with a working woman. Nothing at all.

sassysure:
What she needs at the end of the day is an understanding and caring man who sees her as his mate not competitor. Women can do anything for such men.

sassysure:
Women has been holding the house together for ages.
There are some men who are sacked from work yet they still live large courtesy of their working wives and u will never hear it.
Some houses are built by the wives and the husbands take the glory cos they don't want to shame their men.

If tomorrow I decide to buy a larger than life car cos I am able to afford it conveniently, I will end up giving it to my husband if his car is inferior than mine cos I wouldn't want to crush his ego as a man. He might not care but I will not feel comfortable. Women love being under their men only if their men know how to pamper them.
Women became rebellious when men take them for granted. Leave the house for your man and go for training or weekend out, he will know it's not easy keeping all together but women do that effortlessly.

bukatyne:
100%

yeyeosoronga:
Absolutely, he's not asking too much. I completely agree with the bolded
Same way the wife won't be asking too much for him to contribute his physical quota in the running of their household.
The children would always benefit from their dad looking after them and they also form a stronger bond with him.
The wife is happier when she's not the only one doing the chores either.
Everyone's happy.
Oga should also be happy he is able to co-provide acts of love/ service for his family, as madam is also happy to be able to co-provide school fees and a roof over their heads.
I belive we are saying the same thing or do you have any disagreement to what I've just said?

2buffagain:
Sounds like you have married and have stories.

placeofallure:
2buffagain, I absolutely agree with your argument. Why subject yourself to an entire life of siddon dey look, all in the name of full housewife?

A neighbour when I was much younger, she always defer all the bills till when the husband comes. I made that resolve since then, that even if I married a Dangote, I'd work.

The women who do it, I don't know how they manage. My husband used to call me, 'a sise gba jesu' that's his version of workaholic. According to a female preacher, if you are a full housewife, you are a monumental failure. What if the husband dies or become incapacitated? Women should wake up it's the 21st century.