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Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 10:37am On Jun 13
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Jmk9292(m): 10:41am On Jun 13
That's when both are in marriage because of pressure..... Pressure arising from poverty on the side of the man.... Pressure on the side of the woman to be a Mrs..

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 10:43am On Jun 13
Jmk9292:
That's when both are in marriage because of pressure..... Pressure arising from poverty on the side of the man.... Pressure on the side of the woman to be a Mrs..
Exactly guy ur brilliant ur right dat is wat pressure can cause

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 10:49am On Jun 13
Once you marry those kind of women be ready to recieve insult you have sold ur self...no respect for you d woman is a graduate the man is not and she come get money pass the man ... I pity him so much.. He is working now stil he cant get his respect back

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by CosmicPhoenix: 10:50am On Jun 13
bringing in another woman will only escalate the situation,best thing for them is to go their seperate ways

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by SageMK: 10:55am On Jun 13
Love is never enough.
You can't demand respect when you don't give that out.
It's evident he didn't respect and appreciate her doings.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 10:55am On Jun 13
CosmicPhoenix:
bringing in another woman will only escalate the situation,best thing for them is to go their seperate ways
the man is trying all he could to avoid his wife embrassment stil i dnt know if the wife derive joy insulting the man... She told the man that highest he can do is to marry another woman

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by immaculate1234(m): 11:00am On Jun 13
My uncle is having this same problem everyday na wahala but they have 3 kids now I guess he is enduring the relationship and being matured about it, love supersedes all

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 11:01am On Jun 13
SageMK:
Love is never enough.
You can't demand respect when you don't give that out.
It's evident he didn't respect and appreciate her doings.
he did the man anoyance is lack of respect in the side of the woman she wants to be the final say in the family

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by greatbygrace: 11:01am On Jun 13
This has nothing to do with finance or academic. It has everything to do with the attitude and the love they claim they had. There are people in the same scenerio who are happily married. So your generalization is wrong.

There is nothing wrong in a wife calling her husband by name. It only depends on the attitude and manner.

There is also nothing wrong in a man dishing his food himself and even dishing for his wife. It is all about understanding and love.

Loving someone isn't all about money and academics afterall there are illiterates who are madly in love and there are poor people in love also. Although money makes it better. The main thing about love is understanding and sacrifice.

My opinion.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by chinchonglee(m): 11:07am On Jun 13
If u hear marriage, run!!!

I dnt see myself tied down wit anybody in d name of being married.


Meanwhile my kid sister is here playing love. Love is shacking her. I jst dey laff

Shud i tell her? grin grin

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 11:10am On Jun 13
greatbygrace:
This has nothing to do with finance or academic. It has everything to do with the attitude and the love they claim they had. There are people in the same scenerio who are happily married. So your generalization is wrong.

There is nothing wrong in a wife calling her husband by name. It only depends on the attitude and manner.

There is also nothing wrong in a man dishing his food himself and even dishing for his wife. It is all about understanding and love.

Loving someone isn't all about money and academics afterall there are illiterates who are madly in love and there are poor people in love also. Although money makes it better. The main thing about love is understanding and sacrifice.

My opinion.
the man is a very quiet man the wife dnt see him as anybody but she respect men who are rich or literate yes she does it... It is bcoz she knows the genesis of the man? Had it been she met the man financially ok i dnt think she wil insult him

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by donbachi(m): 11:13am On Jun 13
Money is good in marriage and degree is only a piece of paper,that shows in one's character...in marriage,don't judge a man by his lack of money and education..vessels of honour will always face challenges in life..but,will never die poor..my friend had no university degree,his wife has.her money and her education got into her head,making her disrespectful...today,my friend is on a salary of 3million as a filter.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 11:17am On Jun 13
greatbygrace:
This has nothing to do with finance or academic. It has everything to do with the attitude and the love they claim they had. There are people in the same scenerio who are happily married. So your generalization is wrong.

There is nothing wrong in a wife calling her husband by name. It only depends on the attitude and manner.

There is also nothing wrong in a man dishing his food himself and even dishing for his wife. It is all about understanding and love.

Loving someone isn't all about money and academics afterall there are illiterates who are madly in love and there are poor people in love also. Although money makes it better. The main thing about love is understanding and sacrifice.

My opinion.
Imagine if your friends came around and u instruct your wife to go and bring food for U and ur frd then she told you to go and do by urself how wil u feel? My girlfrd wont try dat talkles of wife

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by SageMK: 11:27am On Jun 13
kevin25:
he did the man anoyance is lack of respect in the side of the woman she wants to be the final say in the family

From what you posted, he wanted her to serve him his food in the presence of a stranger (you). And while she declined, he tried forcing her. (Bear in mind she did the cooking with her own money).

From this it clearly depicts —

1. He felt entitled to her caring and wasn't appreciative.
2. He had no respect for her by trying to emasculate.

Note that I am not saying she isn't disrespectful.
But her husband gave her a reason to disrespect him.

And it's not because of financial status but his behavior.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 11:35am On Jun 13
SageMK:


From what you posted, he wanted her to serve him his food in the presence of a stranger (you). And while she declined, he tried forcing her. (Bear in mind she did the cooking with her own money).

From this it clearly depicts —

1. He felt entitled to her caring and wasn't appreciative.
2. He had no respect for her by trying to emasculate.

Note that I am not saying she isn't disrespectful.
But her husband gave her a reason to disrespect him.

And it's not because of financial status but his behavior.

The man is working now not broke he provides but stil the woman dnt respect him coz no matter any amount the man has she has it times two

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Nobody: 11:43am On Jun 13
What's so bad in him dishing out his own plate?

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Headlesschicken(m): 11:52am On Jun 13
undecided Please tell that person above me to keep quiet...

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by nwanneni(m): 11:53am On Jun 13
Go check now na 2m you go see for that her account grin grin
Any woman with 200k monthly income then a small car plus 2m naira savings turns to a feminist overnight.these women no go kill person.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by sassysure: 12:00pm On Jun 13
So he can't go and dish out food?
I have never dished out food for my husband and he is not a small or hungry man. As a matter of fact even when I stopped working for sometime unless when we are eating together.
Once he finish eating, from the day one of our relationship, he will take his plate and wash, with every other thing he sees on the sink.
It has not reduced him from being a man and the man in the house that has my respect always.

Enough of all these gender rules. It has destroyed more than it builds.

Simple things like that are what endears your spouse to you but it seems like your friend is always trying to bring "I'm the man card" in his union like most of our men do.
The woman refused to dish out food, and she was forcing her?
If she usually dish out food, what made her not to do it at that time. Was she too tired or very angry over something?
Did he try to know what was her annoyance, rather he want to exert his right as the head by ordering her to do that. Somebody that houses and feed you?
Common, u guys are really very dumb sometimes. It takes so little to make women lay down everything they have for guys especially working ladies but pride will never allow you guys to see whats before u.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Iwanttoto1: 12:02pm On Jun 13
nwanneni:
Go check now na 2m you go see for that her account grin grin
Any woman with 200k monthly income then a small car plus 2m naira savings turns to a feminist overnight.these women no go kill person.


Na Yaounde Abi calabar camerunian border u deys dey post all this nonsense?

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by nwanneni(m): 12:03pm On Jun 13
Iwanttoto1:



Na Yaounde Abi calabar camerunian border u deys dey post all this nonsense?
I dey your papa house cool

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Iwanttoto1: 12:04pm On Jun 13
sassysure:
So he can't go and dish out food?
I have never dished out food for my husband and he is not a small or hungry man. As a matter of fact even when I stopped working for sometime unless when we are eating together.
Once he finish eating, from the day one of our relationship, he will take his plate and wash, with every other thing he sees on the sink.
It has not reduced him from being a man and the man in the house that has my respect always.

Enough of all these gender rules. It has destroyed more than it builds.

Simple things like that are what endears your spouse to you but it seems like your friend is always trying to bring "I'm the man card" in his union like most of our men do.
The woman refused to dish out food, and she was forcing her?
If she usually dish out food, what made her not to do it at that time. Was she too tired or very angry over something?
Did he try to know what was her annoyance, rather he want to exert his right as the head by ordering her to do that. Somebody that houses and feed you?
Common, u guys are really very dumb sometimes. It takes so little to make women lay down everything they have for guys especially working ladies but pride will never allow you guys to see whats before u.

That your husband na very stupit boy. Infacts, him be disgrace to human beans wey carry prick in btwn dier legs

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by sassysure: 12:07pm On Jun 13
kevin25:
The man is working now not broke he provides but stil the woman dnt respect him coz no matter any amount the man has she has it times two
That is what he told you or what u and host of his friends have planted and watered in his heart and it has grown.

I'm sure u and ur likes will be happy when their union ends.

He even discuss his relationship with u guys.
What a man!

This is how people like you go about destroying relationships.

When your friend marry and you are still single, limit the way you go to their house, it's a simple rule cos u guys will always look and feast on their marital weakness as you are doing now.
Go and marry your own wife and leave them alone.
Amebo.
Home breaker.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by AHCB: 12:09pm On Jun 13
Bla bla bla. It's almost the same for men who marry women they're financially and educationally better than. They still brag and more often than not, talk to the woman anyhow. Some will even say 'all what I've done for you can your father do it for you?". While some will even use it as an excuse to cheat profusely. So don't make this a woman's thing alone.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by nwanneni(m): 12:12pm On Jun 13
AHCB:
Bla bla bla. It's almost the same for men who marry women they're financially and educationally better than. They still brag and more often than not, talk to the woman anyhow. Some will even say 'all what I've done for you can your father do it for you?". While some will even use it as an excuse to cheat profusely. So don't make this a woman's thing alone.
get a woman to feed you for a week then come back and gist me smiley

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by AHCB: 12:13pm On Jun 13
nwanneni:
get a woman to feed you for a week then come back and gist me smiley
pardon me, a woman fed me when I was a child till I got a job and started fending for myself.

A woman too once fed you and even went as far as buying a car for you, no?

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by sassysure: 12:14pm On Jun 13
Iwanttoto1:


That your husband na very stupit boy. Infacts, him be disgrace to human beans wey carry prick in btwn dier legs
U can never be half of who he is. When u see his type out there, u will only wish but your slow mindset will never allow u to grow.
slowpoke and dunce.
U write like a gateman.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by greatbygrace: 12:15pm On Jun 13
kevin25:
Imagine if your friends came around and u instruct your wife to go and bring food for U and ur frd then she told you to go and do by urself how wil u feel? My girlfrd wont try dat talkles of wife


I quite understand what you are trying to say. The problem with what you just typed is "Instruct your wife"..... This shows an attitude problem. Many problems of marriage is perception and attitude.

Are there difficult peoole? Yes!
Annoying wives? Yes!
Annoying husbands ? Definitely!

But with the right attitude towards them some can change and with the wrong one, some get worse.

The whole point I'm trying to pass across is that both husband and wife in the story above have attitude problems. BOTH not just the wife.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by nwanneni(m): 12:15pm On Jun 13
AHCB:
pardon me, a woman fed me when I was a child till I got a job and started fending for myself.

A woman too once fed you and even went as far as buying a car for you, no?
my mom for sure.i was talking a woman you are in a relationship with.
Let's not be political please.
Immediately a woman starts fending for you bro you better be ready. cheesy

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by AHCB: 12:19pm On Jun 13
nwanneni:
my mom for sure.i was talking a woman you are in a relationship with.
Let's not be political please.
Immediately a woman starts fending for you bro you better be ready. cheesy
political? This is the real dose of truth. Men do this just like women, in fact, with men, it's even worse.

Let's use you and your posts here on this forum as a case study bro. It's a no Brainer that the woman will worship you and if she doesn't... Ghen Ghen Ghen, action film done start. Lol

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by FortifiedCity: 12:20pm On Jun 13
I think the man didn't start from the onset to assert his authority irrespective of who is bringing in money

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