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diamondagent:
I'm regretting that I didn't learn any skill before going to the school and studying what is not helping my situation, soon I will be 26 this year, yet don't have a thousand naira in my bank account currently, no job, no money to even learn a skill, all efforts to look for jobs has been in futility

It seems as if the future looks bleak on my side, I'm ashamed and most often depressed that at my age I can't afford to provide the basic needs of life for my self

This lock down is even making things worse, hunger has reset my body system

Relocate to another state and I bet u will find ur niche quickly. I was in this same predicament before I relocated to another state entirely.

novice22:
my biggest regret is going into betting , now it has eaten deep into my life and i have discover that it's a waste of time and resources.


I dont even know whether i can make it in life anymore .

this day april 13th 2020 i promise to part ways with anything related to betting....so help me God.

Dissociate with everything that has to do with betting and even avoid people/friends who are into it, and u see how fast it will leave u too.

knowyaself2:
(1) I regret marrying the wrong woman. She's based in the UK while I'm in Nigeria. I had a good paying job then and was always visiting. Once I lost the job, she started being irritable and quarellsome, she cut all ties with me and also cut me off from my two boys. I almost died of heartbreak and depression.

(2) believing men of God and their false prophecies

Even the Reverend father that wedded me knows I don't trust him. Believe them at your peril. Pastors and business.

Astride:
We've all made bad choices. I'll start with mine...

One of my biggest regrets till date was not seizing the opportunity to migrate to the U.S when it was presented to me on a platter.

I was in my penultimate year at the university. My dad had made some connections and he presented the idea to me.

I refused.

I told him I wanted to acquire my certificate first so I don't have to start from scratch when I migrate. I mean, it was the most logical thing to do since I had just one year remaining to get my degree.

Well, 6 months later, my dad passed on and so went the connections.

Inasmuch as things are great for me right now, I'm not fulfilled. I'm not living at my full capacity cause my work environment (and this country at large) breeds mediocrity.

I can't share my ideas with my bosses without fear of hurting someone's ego and calling unwarranted resentment targeted at me.

The mentality of the black man is his own curse and his resolve to stick to outdated traditions is his punishment.

If you're a progressive and aims for excellence, you should consider outsourcing your skills outside this country where hardwork and intelligence are duly rewarded.


Alright. That's mine. Share yours.

I just had to save and screenshot this master piece and also gave you one like. Very short and simple. Well my own biggest regret still remains been born In Nigeria and from an average mediocre family who aren't supportive. Ignorant and unintelligent parent and siblings precisely, most especially the older ones. I wasted most of my youthful years seeking an admission Into the university with my own personal money hustle for four years traveling Interstate for exams. When I eventually got the admission In 2013, I couldn't proceed on the process due to financial Issues. No one came to my rescue, Even I couldn't even pay my acceptance fee. I haven't registered as a member on nairaland then, I usually visit as a guest and I had no clue on how to seek for assistance from the right channel online then, I would have come on here nairaland to seek for an assistance. But I'm thanking God today after learning some IT Skills. Something I would have channel my energy and finance Into In the first place....

StPete:
I regret not traveling out to the US when I had the chance. Very similar to the OPs, it was during my NYSC, I had started the process, gotten everything else, even paid for my interview at the embassy. I had someone in the US back then pulling all the necessary strings. Everything was smooth but I just lost interest in going for the interview when it was time to. Told myself I would round up nysc, get my dream job, then go to the US on holidays without any fuss but here I am 10 years after. This country wrenches my heart everytime. It's so so depressing living in Nigeria

But Why Why?? I've got some people In this kinda situation as well. One was even to be attached to the entourage of a prominent figure back then but he refused the offer because he was raking In some amount of money weekly at Nacho then. Now he Is regretting because the freebies aren't there anymore hmmm

Ibechris2:
Even the Reverend father that wedded me knows I don't trust him. Believe them at your peril. Pastors and business.

Especially Nigerian pastors. These guys are simply con men

Ibechris2:
Relocate to another state and I bet u will find ur niche quickly. I was in this same predicament before I relocated to another state entirely.

That's true, but I don't have where to go to

Westernlove:
But Why Why?? I've got some people In this kinda situation as well. One was even to be attached to the entourage of a prominent figure back then but he refused the offer because he was raking In some amount of money weekly at Nacho then. Now he Is regretting because the freebies aren't there anymore hmmm

Let's just call it been young and stupid. If I could've seen the future, I would've given myself a terrible knock on the head

rockstarB:
It has to be my first boyfriend. I regret ever dating him. I thought I was smart. I told myself i wouldn't date a guy from school, i needed a long distance thing so i could focus on myself and school. I rejected the guys from school because of him.
My village people reasoned my matter and gave me a liar, I was with him for over 4 years, I saw the signs but couldn't let myself free from him.
Women and mothers here, please educate your daughters on sex, a lady doesnt have to be ashamed for having sex, I was too naive, I told myself "i cant break up with him, he has seen my naked body..."
I enjoy my privacy so I give him the same. I dont visit him unannounced, it has to be him that tells me to come. I was unable to catch him red handed because of this. I supported him financially, emotionally, I pray for him and all of that.
I really dont know how some guys can be intentionally wicked to a lady that clearly loves them, all his family members knew I wasnt the only one he was deceiving. 80% of the money I saved while in school or during service I borrowed him because I believed God would have found him a job before I needed the money.
The money was meant to start a business after my service year.
I didnt know my boyfriend was an SSCE holder, my money was gone, the dream of starting the business started to look blurry. He had lied to me all along, even told me about how difficult it is to get a job after school, how his dad has sent his CV to a rich uncle so he could work in his company, yet this guy was an SSCE holder!
Rumour has it that it was me that even paid part of his 100L school fee when he eventually got admitted, he lied he needed the money for something bla bla. He had no bank account and I gave a spare one of mine, the day he started making money he saved them with his new gf. He is out of school cos the guy couldn't even get serious with his educational life. I could go on and on. I didnt curse him with my mouth, my heart does that everytime I remember.
I shot myself in the leg when I concluded not to date a guy in same school as me.
I'm happy I broke with him when I did, it would have traumatized me if I had broken up with him earlier. By the time I did, the love don clear for me eye. I was free from him, he had no hold on me anymore.
Sorry for long post

I dont even know wat to say, but all i can say is U FVCKED UP.

OlawaleBammie:
I dont even know wat to say, but all i can say is U FVCKED UP.

I realised that too late.

rockstarB:
I realised that too late.

Sorry maam, but me i wil never agree to a condition of dont visit me unannounced in a relationship....NEVER.

And as my partner, i wil tell u that u shouldn't visit me without prior notice,

what is d meaning of a relationship that is bn run regimentally just cus of privacy??

who are u to me that i wil b keeping a private life from, aren't we partners??

I dont do privacy stuff with the person i know i love wholeheartedly, what is it about me that should even b kept from u at the base of thins?? Na wayo relationship dey reek that.

OlawaleBammie:
Sorry maam, but me i wil never agree to a condition of dont visit me unannounced in a relationship....NEVER.

And as my partner, i wil tell u that u shouldn't visit me without prior notice,

what is d meaning of a relationship that is bn run regimentally just cus of privacy??

who are u to me that i wil b keeping a private life from, aren't we partners??

I dont do privacy stuff with the person i know i love wholeheartedly, what is it about me that should even b kept from u at the base of thins?? Na wayo relationship dey reek that.

The fact you're in a relationship doesn't mean you should throw privacy out the window. Some folks love their own space.

Astride:
The fact you're in a relationship doesn't mean you should throw privacy out the window. Some folks love their own space.

Sure, ur siggy says it all

But to me, what do i even have to keep in privacy?? and for me, clamouring for privacy is to seek an Avenue for cheating

diamondagent:
Pol.science.Education

...

Just be strong and never give up...
On GOD.

novice22:
my biggest regret is going into betting , now it has eaten deep into my life and i have discover that it's a waste of time and resources.


I dont even know whether i can make it in life anymore .

this day april 13th 2020 i promise to part ways with anything related to betting....so help me God.

..

If u are gamble addict like me we could relate, if u wish.

diamondagent:
That's true, but I don't have where to go to

There're many places you can go, don't allow that excuse to keeping on keeping you from taking the bold step, I was once in your exact condition, it wouldn't be easily but I bet it with you that it'll be a good decision if you can take to this advice.

When I finished service and returned home, the experience wasn't palatable. Pressure coming from parents and the shame in the neighborhood was a big mess on me. I was confused and depressed. I summoned courage to leave my environment, I organized home lessons for primary school pupils and junior secondary school students to gather some money to move, this wasn't easy as I was running classes throughout the week not excluding Sundays, as I was gathering the money some expenses were surfacing which couldn't allow me to gather much.

I've knew of a town in the neighboring state ánd I relocated I checked for secondary schools around and I got one, though the payment isn't encouraging at all. But it's better. I coupled this with acquiring photography skill. If I have money to set up with the business I will, but for now I can't.

My Advice: You can do something similar, check for a town that has regular supply of electricity as the constant electricity will help you in many ways, even with the intending skill you wish to acquire. Don't go to a city if you don't have an understandable person to stay with (but I will advise you to try start your own life) at the same time don't go to a village, find a town that's not too expensive to go. All wil be well.

I regret not going to a private university even when my father insisted funniest part is that stupid me just wan explore ni ooo
Secondly I regret being so wasteful I could remember vividly when I was in 200 level my pop got really sick cos of diabetes issh and he called me and said it might be now or later but take this to fund your education till graduation,stupid me I wasted 2 six figures fortunately for me he didn't die.
Thirdly I was waiting for my trv to go for my MBA abroad when my father died and I lost out as cash no dey coupled with the fact that its a polygamous family of 8 wives ,chai depression almost killed me but I survived...
Learnt a great lesson the hard way..

OlawaleBammie:
Sure, ur siggy says it all

But to me, what do i even have to keep in privacy?? and for me, clamouring for privacy is to seek an Avenue for cheating

Lol.

Over familiarity squeezes out the juice in a relationship.

Deepocean:
There're many places you can go, don't allow that excuse to keeping on keeping you from taking the bold step, I was once in your exact condition, it wouldn't be easily but I bet it with you that it'll be a good decision if you can take to this advice.

When I finished service and returned home, the experience wasn't palatable. Pressure coming from parents and the shame in the neighborhood was a big mess on me. I was confused and depressed. I summoned courage to leave my environment, I organized home lessons for primary school pupils and junior secondary school students to gather some money to move, this wasn't easy as I was running classes throughout the week not excluding Sundays, as I was gathering the money some expenses were surfacing which couldn't allow me to gather much.

I've knew of a town in the neighboring state ánd I relocated I checked for secondary schools around and I got one, though the payment isn't encouraging at all. But it's better. I coupled this with acquiring photography skill. If I have money to set up with the business I will, but for now I can't.

My Advice: You can do something similar, check for a town that has regular supply of electricity as the constant electricity will help you in many ways, even with the intending skill you wish to acquire. Don't go to a city if you don't have an understandable person to stay with (but I will advise you to try start your own life) at the same time don't go to a village, find a town that's not too expensive to go. All wil be well.

This is wise advice. There's something about leaving your comfort zone to start on your feet afresh.
Abraham did it. Jacob, Moses et al

grandpoh:
I regret not going to a private university even when my father insisted funniest part is that stupid me just wan explore ni ooo
Secondly I regret being so wasteful I could remember vividly when I was in 200 level my pop got really sick cos of diabetes issh and he called me and said it might be now or later but take this to fund your education till graduation,stupid me I wasted 2 six figures fortunately for me he didn't die.
Thirdly I was waiting for my trv to go for my MBA abroad when my father died and I lost out as cash no dey coupled with the fact that its a polygamous family of 8 wives ,chai depression almost killed me but I survived...
Learnt a great lesson the hard way..

Good thing you learnt from your mistakes.

I always tell people, if you can afford it, opt for a private university. Not just for the quality of education, but for the network and contacts.

Astride:
Lol.

Over familiarity squeezes out the juice in a relationship.

Yes!!! and under familiarity relapse the bond, and strength and closeness of a relationship.

Ibechris2:
Dissociate with everything that has to do with betting and even avoid people/friends who are into it, and u see how fast it will leave u too.

thanks for the tips.

Playstation1:
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If u are gamble addict like me we could relate, if u wish.

bro, i m scared of gambler because they are capable of anything. sorry but we cant relate.

Emioga:
What I regret most is my marriage. Wish I married someone who made me a better person. Now I'm a shadow of my former self and my family can't even come to my house to say hello. Please family should treat their daughters/sons intended spouse good even if you don't want them to get married to the supposed spouse. If my sisters had treated my ex well I wouldn't have been so secretive with my present spouse

if you can't find yourself please leave your spouse but first make sure you are not the cause of your martial problems. Don't blame your sisters for your present predicament because we are always presented with more than one choice at every given time. You are in this because you choose to
I won't say I regretted getting married because I have two beautiful souls from that union but getting married at 19 and to the guy I did to was my greatest mistake. I will never forgive myself for stooping so low and throwing my already bright future to be with a man that treated me like trash.
I can't share the pains and setbacks but at least the best decision I ever took was to walk out of that marriage at the time I did, enrolled into a degree program, got a job, took full responsibility of my boys and in an amazing relationship. It has not been easy but life gave me a second chance to rewrite my story and I have been developing myself ever since, taking up the new challenges as it comes everyday. So if it not working for you then it is time to step up. Don't live a life of regrets because it is all on you. You always have a choice. Rise above your present situation. One last thing don't trade your body for money because God has given us women a favourable environment to suceed all you need to do is to develop yourself, be good at what you do and you will rise, we always do.

sassysure:
That's how an average naija behaves na
It's in us
Make 150k a month, drive a car of 3m instead of investing it first or buying a cheaper car.
Competing and ego spirit

We compete even in essential goods e.g., I eat foreign rice, I can only eat foreign spagetti etc

Imagine! After getting free bag of Nigerian rice, she came back the next morning announcing In front of everybody that she can't eat such a local rice, that it smells, that she will have to go and buy Basmati rice.
Hehhhhhh!!!
Free bag of rice wey everybody dey thank God for!!?

Astride:
Yeah, she's great.

However, she's back with the guy.

Ha!
Hahahaha

DonroxyII:
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Women and Love though ... True love really exist but with all sense organs widely opened !!

Again, never put 100% in whatever that can mar you 100% if things go bad .... !! Always Protect ya precious Heart !! ..... You fell for promises

But, are you married yet?

rockstarB:
I want to assume the guy didnt come back because he saw her break down due to the breakup.

Which guy go do that?
Na mostly women dey do that kain thing jhor.

novice22:
my biggest regret is going into betting , now it has eaten deep into my life and i have discover that it's a waste of time and resources.


I dont even know whether i can make it in life anymore .

this day april 13th 2020 i promise to part ways with anything related to betting....so help me God.

Amin oruko Jesu! Amin! Amin!! Amin!!!

Astride:
There are a lot of free courses you can take online to master any skill of your choice. As for digital marketing, Google offers a comprehensive course on the subject matter and you'll even earn a certificate of completion at the end of the course. Absolutely free.

Here's the link
https://learndigital.withgoogle.com/digitalgarage

Goodluck

What of data? For all you know, he may be subscribing to the N25/day data at the moment.

Emioga:
What I regret most is my marriage. Wish I married someone who made me a better person. Now I'm a shadow of my former self and my family can't even come to my house to say hello. Please family should treat their daughters/sons intended spouse good even if you don't want them to get married to the supposed spouse. If my sisters had treated my ex well I wouldn't have been so secretive with my present spouse

Some sisters can find trouble.
Immediately their brother just bring serious girlfriend come house, them go just turn to Queen Of The Manor!