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Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Kalm4life: 10:27pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Amumaigwe:Thank you sir for your kind information |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Investnow2017: 10:29pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
pansophist: I disagree with you. An unwise woman who is being egged on by an evil older woman can do worse. The worst offence was what the OP committed which is cheating, there is nothing more for the OP to mention that could be worse than cheating. . |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Timileyin1234(m): 10:33pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Parisian:They won’t regard me cos we are mate huh? I go beat sense into into there head. If u marry one wife, they tend to give u problem that is more than separating two persons fighting |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Kalm4life: 10:38pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Amumaigwe:Thank you sir for every mistake lies our strength. Thank you. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by babadem2much(m): 10:40pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Ironic:Bro, Liberia is not like Nigeria, the children can sue their dad and can report him to the police, so you don't dare beat them just because of human right, I was there and I can relate to what this man is saying. I as a Nigerian have settled marital issues trying g to let both parties know that no home is perfect but with prayers and good understanding they can forever be together. So there are limits that... The poster can attest to that |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by bluebay(m): 10:45pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Ngoze:I think you being sentiment here . well I understand how you feel coz you seems to be the first to oppose . funny being without knowledge |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by ahukannakate(f): 10:49pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000:Your wife didn't turn your children against you, you turned yourself against your family, when you were busy with your concubines don't you know they were watching, I'm sure you weren't caring for them then, you don't know what it feels like to see your father misbehave. Pray and Involve the family, they will give you another chance if they notice you've really changed 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by CandidNotes: 10:51pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
OP, it doesn't matter what you did in the past, your wife's treatment of you says a lot about her; she is toxic. The only thing you can do with a toxic spouse is divorce, unfortunately. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by lovenavigation: 10:53pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Leave that woman before she kills you. She doesn't have respect and love for you. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by babadem2much(m): 11:00pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
There are things you don't do as a man, over gentleness can make a woman think you're weak, 1.Don't cheat despite the fact that your country ladies are open minded ladies who don't care to ask a man out, if am lying quote me, 2.16 whole years marriage is not a joke, 3.You can't beat your children because of the law in the land, they might sue you same applies to your wife? 4.Please don't opt for divorce rather look for someone whom your wife will listen to either her family member, your pastor that can make her speak.. 5. Call your elder kids and talk to them like a father let them know that if you have issues with the mother it does not concerns them because tomorrow they will also have a family and cannot condon this indiscipline. 6. Let your children know that every child has a mother but not all child have a father to call his own ... Mamehn you mo take eh ezeh yah, you mo no PRI PRI ousa again mamehn ... Liberia is my second home... May the good Lord restore peace in your home... GOD BLESS YOU 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Investnow2017: 11:01pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
mechanics: I take your points. There have been cases where a wife even disrespect a marriage committee with insults etc. A Godly woman will not go to such an extent no matter the husband's offence. Admittedly, what the OP did was very very bad. But he has apologized and likely still is. So why asking the children to openly disrespect their father? It is like urging them to disobey God, who says HONOUR YOUR FATHER AND YOUR MOTHER. That is my point. It is wrong. . 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by osayuking(m): 11:04pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
majamajic:as in na she marry you or na you marry her? No matter what people will say here and your family, she will never change just for the fact that she’s the breadwinner or she own your house. I’m sorry to say you have to let her go ASAP and fix your life for better. Nigerian woman wey don wacko non feet change to normal.Money gives power especially when you are married to an idiot...let her go even with the kids then take her to court on child sharing. Period |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Investnow2017: 11:05pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
The OP came here to seek for advice and possible solution; all I read are mainly blame blame blame. The OP has admitted he has done wrong and he is remorseful and looking for a way forward not additional blame. Many seem to paint a picture of finality. Is there a man-made problem that has no solution? Adultery is a very very heinous sin against God and wife. But should the adulterer die even while remorseful? Should his life completely end because of that wrong? It takes everything for a man to kneel down for his wife to plead for forgiveness and the OP said he has done that. Some are still asking that he has not told all the story. Which story could be worse than saying you have cheated on your wife? What else could be worse than that? From the children's name the OP family believe in the Bible. There is no reason for any man to cheat on his wife. But do you know that some women use sex as a weapon to foist their will on the family in order to wrest headship from the man? Remember this woman does not so much rely on OP financially since she has a well paying job too. Is adultery an unforgivable sin? And if you divorce because of that, what guarantee do you have that your next husband will remain ever faithful to you? When there is a problem, a wise person first of all examines his or herself. Divorce is not the answer. But OP right now is living in the midst of enemies created by himself. That woman can conveniently take care of those three children without the OP. Any attempt for the OP to try to win their hearts through taking them out bla bla will be matched by that woman. The woman is self sufficient. My prayer is that OP should not be poisoned one day. Living with a bitter woman and embittered children who have clearly taken sides is not an experience even meant for the devil - it is unbearable. If I were OP, I will move out and separate and beg God to help me be chaste. I will use the opportunity to sort out myself and get closer to God. What will be will be. If God forgives OP and the woman does not, it will still be difficult. While some persons are soft and can be forgiving some are eternally unforgiving. Marriage is a union of two good forgivers. Where that is not the case it is difficult, very. Sadly, the woman is employing the weapon of manipulation to have the children openly disrespect their father. Meanwhile the Bible says children should HONOUR, not just respect HONOUR their father. DO TWO WRONGS MAKE A RIGHT . If you do not have a manipulative spirit as a woman and evil advisers you will not suddenly learn that for one offence. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by CuteYvonne777: 11:05pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Ngozi123(f): 11:08pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Cblessing: I hope the OP doesn't go ahead and follow your example as that'll land him in big trouble. Focusing all of your attention onto your other mistress' child will only make your other children hate you even more. What happens if the one you're doting on becomes useless and the other ones you ignored become successful? Such things can happen, especially if the first wife has laid a heavy curse on your head. Let this be a lesson for men who cheat. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Paul8000: 11:19pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
bbankky:she has forgiven me... because she accepted the child and has been raising him like her own for the past 5 years. She treats him ... so many people doesn’t know that Samuel is not her biological child because they can’t tell the differences between our 4 together and him... |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by AlphaStorm: 11:20pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
OP , I would advise you to readup on Maryam Sanda and that female lawyer who stabbed her Husband to Death.Secondly, while I would not advise you to DIVORCE her, i just want u to know that she may end up STABBING you one day. The children would simply corroborate the story that their Father has been abusing their mother for a long time. What that Woman is planning for u is beyond what u think she is. Pls be careful about eating her food too. May we not get involved with a WOMAN WHO HAS UNFORGIVING SPIRIT. Paul8000: |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Ngozi123(f): 11:20pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Parisian: Most of them are going through hell. They'll pretend for outsiders but if you ask them to tell you the truth then you'll hear some horror stories. As for those who think that being a married man and running around sleeping with different women without protection is good just know that what goes around comes around and what usually comes around in that case is HIV/Gonorrhea/Herpes etc. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Paul8000: 11:22pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Martinez39s:I am the breadwinner ... I make more money than her |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Ngozi123(f): 11:24pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000: If she's raising a child that's the product of your infidelity to her then it's either that she's a very good woman, who's not at all what you describe her to be, or a very smart woman. Honest question for you but would you have accepted to raise a child that was the product of your wife's extramarital affair? |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by BlackPantherCri: 11:28pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Parisian: Forgiveness my ass! Dude is lucky she hasn't cut off his John Thomas yet 3 Likes
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Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Ngozi123(f): 11:31pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
pansophist: He purposely didn't mention in his first post that he cheated on his wife several times, impregnated another woman and got his wife to look after that other woman's child. That's three strikes he's hit her with in succession. He's probably done something else that he hasn't disclosed yet. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by mechanics(m): 11:56pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Investnow2017:Yeah, we are saying the same thing, let him try his MC first, they will now advice him on what to do next. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Ofadaman(m): 12:10am On Apr 21, 2020 |
Op what have u done? |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by MrPaul2: 12:24am On Apr 21, 2020 |
Paul8000:Are you sire you didn't do such to your parents? Because karma is real |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by InvertedHammer: 12:34am On Apr 21, 2020 |
Paul8000:/ Read the above statement 100 times. You knelt down to beg your wife? She has your balls in her purse. It didn't start recently. You just never paid attention. You are not a man. / |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Eroms4life17(m): 12:35am On Apr 21, 2020 |
It takes a sensible child to see through the emotional blackmail of some mothers always talking bad of their husbands in front of the kids. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Martinez39s(m): 12:39am On Apr 21, 2020 |
Paul8000:You really need to start taking charge in your house. Your are weak and confused. One of these days, call your children for a meeting and ask them why they disrespect you, and ask them what grievances they have with you. During that meeting, make it known to them that you love them as a father and you have no ill intentions toward them. After that, sternly and solemnly warn them that such disrespect and disobedience ends that very moment or you seize playing your role as a father and provider toward them. If the house is yours, let them know that no disrespectful one among them shall stay under your roof. As for your wife, you need to do the following: (1) stand your ground and boundaries, (2) stop being too caring, (3) stop thinking marriage is a do-or-die thing, and don't be afraid of losing her and the marriage if situation demands these. Once you abide by these three, confront your wife and tell her that you are tired of her rubbish. Either she opens up and tells you what grievances she has with you and you guys settle your differences amicably, or she leaves your house and the marriage is dissolved. If she decides on persisting in her toxicity, she can go to blazes for all you care. The house is yours, I presume, and you ought to make the rules and take charge. I am sure you will not take my advice; like many men, you probably think marriage is such a do-or-die thing, and hence you would grasp at straws and consider certain opinions to salvage a shipping ship even at the expense of your peace of mind. A lot of you men might disagree but just know that any woman or marriage that is compromising your peace of mind and happiness is worth doing away with. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by ashjay001(m): 12:42am On Apr 21, 2020 |
Ironic:You dey mind am! Who cares if they like you? As long as they give you your respect and you play your part as their father. With age, they'll come to understand better. But, being a sissy, doesn't do any shit! Some brain resetting slaps, would have cut this msunery short, a long time ago! Dem never born monkey |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Mooye41(m): 1:08am On Apr 21, 2020 |
This is from the African Perspective. The best approach bro. Try this out. I can imagine what you are going through now. The Lord is your Strength. Ironic: |
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