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@darknez, thanks for sharing. Insightful and very informative.

I am married and can tell you its not worth it.
If its kids you need, get pregnant & have as much kids as you want, i regret going into it in the first place

cricifixo:
I am married and can tell you its not worth it.
If its kids you need, get pregnant & have as much kids as you want, i regret going into it in the first place

wao. Based on comments from experienced married people above, it could be you married the wrong person or something is going on bad. Maybe it could be fixed.

Of course, with the right person it is.

Don't rely on what you read on Nairaland alone.
There are many happy couples outside there.

cricifixo:
I am married and can tell you its not worth it.
If its kids you need, get pregnant & have as much kids as you want, i regret going into it in the first place

ve been following dis advice for long

Expensiverichyb:
Honestly, it's so scary reading different stories about marriage, married people online. Most especially nairaland. Does it mean we don't have great marriages that's working here? Why too many nagative stories. It's discouraging.

So, do you think marriage is beautiful, does it worth it or a waste of time?

What area are you pride of for being married?
Are you more happy and fillfied now than when you were single?

What beautiful view can you share with us?

Married people in the house, share with us please.

It is these men that is making marriages uninteresting anymore,they keep wandering around even after marriage and wants their wives to accept it as they claim it is nature. God knows i can't stand a cheating man,i will simply go in peace

Expensiverichyb:
Honestly, it's so scary reading different stories about marriage, married people online. Most especially nairaland. Does it mean we don't have great marriages that's working here? Why too many nagative stories. It's discouraging.

So, do you think marriage is beautiful, does it worth it or a waste of time?

What area are you pride of for being married?
Are you more happy and fillfied now than when you were single?

What beautiful view can you share with us?

Married people in the house, share with us please.

Let's use your parents' marriage as a case study op. Do you think it worth it ?

Tolulopefinest:
Let's use your parents' marriage as a case study op. Do you think it worth it ?

Don't even take my mind there.

drmikeadams:
ve been following dis advice for long

Why? Are you fully convinced it's the right advise to follow?

Expensiverichyb:
Don't even take my mind there.

wow

Yes , if you get married to your best friend

Expensiverichyb:
Why? Are you fully convinced it's the right advise to follow?

using my parents as case study ,,yes am fully convinced it's not worth it

Bola146:
Yes , if you get married to your best friend

. This na normal slogan,,it's just like saying "abia state is Gods own state

Bola146:
Yes , if you get married to your best friend

Hmmm...

I do not think that is always the case. I did not get married to my best friend yet I have a very happy marriage. Truth is, it is impossible for me to get married to my best friend at the time. Even now, I do not consider my wife to be my best friend. There are things my best friend was not privy but my wife knows about. I see my wife as an extension of myself. Our relationship goes beyond friendship.

darknez:
Hmmm...

I do not think that is always the case. I did get married to my best friend yet I have a very happy marriage. Truth is, it is impossible for me to get married to my best friend at the time. Even now, I do not consider my wife to be my best friend. There are things my best friend was not privy but my wife knows about. I see my wife as an extension of myself. Our relationship goes beyond friendship.

Lucky you both

drmikeadams:
using my parents as case study ,,yes am fully convinced it's not worth it

It's well o. But come to think of it. Don't you think there's a way one can identify mistakes made by our parents and work on it? Just thinking out loud anyway.

Expensiverichyb:
It's well o. But come to think of it. Don't you think there's a way one can identify mistakes made by our parents and work on it? Just thinking out loud anyway.

.

Am not a religious person

But some problems. RE foundational..

In some cases some children from polygamous homes tend to continue in d polygamous way knowingly or unknowingly

Some cases children from single parenting tend to go the way of single parenting when they grow up,knowingly or unknowingly .

In my parents case ,they are not compatible


Maybe they thought they were compatible

Expensiverichyb:
Lucky you both

I don't believe people should be worried
about marriage. Rather people should focus on being the best of themselves
Having fulfilment. Getting the best out of themselves.

Marriage should just be an addition.
Worrying yourself is waste
Just be your best self
Marriage will just be jara

That way you won't break your head from eventual outcome.

Dear lady,

Marriage is one sweet thing I ever cherish and I don't regret it.
First of all decide what u want in ur marriage,and discuss with whomever u are dating and that becomes ur blue print.

Marriage is worth being in it cos of the stored blessing although,some people abuse it and make it look like a soured soup.

If u must marry,pls remove ur ex in ur life,disconnect any extra-marital relationship from ur head including the guys,else marriage will become like a curse.

This is my five years in marriage and I am happy to say, that I have not seen another woman's pant
Let alone toast them.
The only gift I have for my children as a father,is to remain chaste and teach them to be when they grow up.

So,marriage is wonderful despites all the nonsense going on in our society's.

Ibechris2:
Dear lady,

Marriage is one sweet thing I ever cherish and I don't regret it.
First of all decide what u want in ur marriage,and discuss with whomever u are dating and that becomes ur blue print.

Marriage is worth being in it cos of the stored blessing although,some people abuse it and make it look like a soured soup.

If u must marry,pls remove ur ex in ur life,disconnect any extra-marital relationship from ur head including the guys,else marriage will become like a curse.

This is my five years in marriage and I am happy to say, that I have not seen another woman's pant
Let alone toast them.
The only gift I have for my children as a father,is to remain chaste and teach them to be when they grow up.

So,marriage is wonderful despites all the nonsense going on in our society's.

So good to know.

djon78:
I don't believe people should be worried
about marriage. Rather people should focus on being the best of themselves
Having fulfilment. Getting the best out of themselves.

Marriage should just be an addition.
Worrying yourself is waste
Just be your best self
Marriage will just be jara

That way you won't break your head from eventual outcome.

You're right. The worries aspect is as a result of bad stories everywhere. Making it look like there's a monster inside that you only get to discover once you're in.
Take nairaland for example, the family and romance sections, you can never come across lovely, romantic stories. Rather horrible things people do to themselves in marriage, relationship and life in general.

It's alright. Someone have advised above about being mindful of what we read online anyway.

Expensiverichyb:
You're right. The worries aspect is as a result of bad stories everywhere. Making it look like there's a monster inside that you only get to discover once you're in.
Take nairaland for example, the family and romance sections, you can never come across lovely, romantic stories. Rather horrible things people do to themselves in marriage, relationship and life in general.

It's alright. Someone have advised above about being mindful of what we read online anyway.

Negative news creates bind mindset, worries and bad mindset creates bad outcome.
Focus on the positive things.
Whatever you believe or entertain in your mind comes to you...

So instead of worrying, focus on how to be the best of you and naturally, you will attract who you are...
Nothing melts a human heart like good nature. No matter how evil that heart is.
The only option to an evil heart that doesn't change is karma, payback, retribution. As long as we are under the sun. I have seen it countless times.

You see an evil man married to a good woman and he doesn't change. Karma always strikes and most times the individual dies. Likewise a good man married to an evil woman. If the woman doesn't change, karma hits and the end is always fatal.
The worst thing that can happen to any evil spouse to repay a good spouse married to them with evil..it doesn't always end well at all.

So just be the best of you
And leave the rest to God.

Bola146:
Yes , if you get married to your best friend

My exact point have been telling the teenagers around me. Best friend is the key.