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Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by lasher1: 5:59pm On Apr 24, 2020
When I was much younger my mom brought in a house help to help with chores in the home. This quiet churchy house girl defiled me severally from the age of around 6 till I went to boarding house. She used the opportunity of bathing me every morning to play with my Willie and made me to suck her booby, till she gradually opened my eyes to everything about sex, hard core and all. I hated it at first and was disgusted with some of the stuff she made me do but gradually my innocence wore off at a tender age and I became a daring bad @ss.

She was a very dutiful, hard-working, obedient and humble lady on the outside but turned me into a sex addict at a very young age. I have also heard of househelps who awakened homosexual or lesbian tendencies in little boys and girls they were meant to care for while parents were away.

We often hear about the stories of violated girls and scream about it but brush off those done to little boys. I know of a guy who is now gay but had a similar experience with his mom's houseboys, I on the other hand was was trained for the chronic pant shifting life I lived i my younger days.

I'm just wondering if anyone here has gotten any such experience in the past or these days, please share to warn others.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by KELVINXY: 6:17pm On Apr 24, 2020
the sexual harassment of the males are usually swept under the carpet and its really worrisome cry

BTW
Op why dint you complain to your parents undecided

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by dawnomike(m): 6:34pm On Apr 24, 2020
Growing up, I had 6 sisters so our house use to attract a lot of ladies (friends to my sisters and family friends' daughters)... I never knew I was been molested back then with their luring me to touch 'suplentioisrious' places angry. I became aware when I grew up to become a teenager.
It never really affected me thoug

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by crackkhaus: 6:38pm On Apr 24, 2020
Females (aunts, older cousins, maids, family friends) are the sexual predators no one really talks about.
Hiding in plain sight, these paedophiles have been able to normalize their behaviours around innocent little boys.

- A female can bathe a boy child and go scot-free. A male cannot bathe a girl child without suspicions.

- Females will show off their breasts and asses in front of little boys on the excuse that they are changing clothes. If a man changes clothes in front of a little girl, the streets will hear it.

- Females can share a bathroom with little boys, but should males try the same thing with little girls, it's a cause for concern.

- They say you can rape a female even if she was wet, but you can't have raped a man who had an erection. The idea of consent only works when it's a female.


These are some of the inequalities pro-women advocates will NEVER talk about because it doesn't fit into their victim narrative.
Apparently, only men can be predators because that's what the MSM would have us believe...but some of us know better.

There are more females walking around who have at one time in their lives exposed themselves to a boy child or touched his weenie unnecessarily than there are males who have exposed themselves to a girl child or touched her funny. FACTS!!! cool

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by Mariangeles(f): 6:39pm On Apr 24, 2020
dawnomike:
Growing up, I had 6 sisters so our house use to attract a lot of ladies (friends to my sisters and family friends' daughters)... I never knew I was been molested back then with their luring me to touch 'suplentioisrious' places angry. I became aware when I grew up to become a teenager.
It never really affected me thoug
grin "sunplentiosrious"
Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by Mariangeles(f): 6:42pm On Apr 24, 2020
KELVINXY:
the sexual harassment of the males are usually swept under the carpet and its really worrisome cry

BTW
Op why dint you complain to your parents undecided
The truth is that most of them never speak up.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by Nobody: 6:45pm On Apr 24, 2020
KELVINXY:
the sexual harassment of the males are usually swept under the carpet and its really worrisome cry

BTW
Op why dint you complain to your parents
undecided

It's harder for a male child to report sexual molestation because even when you are molested by an older girl or lady, you'd feel guilty afterwards. And as you grow older, the urge comes naturally and you find it hard to tell anyone about it.

For the girl child, there's more focus on them. A lot of parents are naturally protective and observe signs easily.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by lasher1: 7:01pm On Apr 24, 2020
KELVINXY:
the sexual harassment of the males are usually swept under the carpet and its really worrisome cry

BTW
Op why dint you complain to your parents undecided

Funny enough, I never knew I was being molested, it started with her trying to wash my body parts thoroughly, then fond.ling me, then telling me to have my bath with her to conserve water which was hard to fetch thenetc. At the point when I knew I was into something bad I was way in too deep and I guess I was enjoying it then. She usually gave me a lot of shut up sweets, extra food and let me get around mom's harsh rules when Mom wasn't home, which was most of the days and weekends anyway.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by lasher1: 7:05pm On Apr 24, 2020
dawnomike:
Growing up, I had 6 sisters so our house use to attract a lot of ladies (friends to my sisters and family friends' daughters)... I never knew I was been molested back then with their luring me to touch 'suplentioisrious' places angry. I became aware when I grew up to become a teenager.
It never really affected me thoug

Tales like these abound amongst guys. But it's often seen as no biggie.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by lasher1: 7:13pm On Apr 24, 2020
crackkhaus:
Females (aunts, older cousins, maids, family friends) are the sexual predators no one talks about. Hiding in plain sight, these paedophiles have been able to normalize their behaviours around little innocent boys.

- A female can bathe a boy child and go scot-free. A male cannot bathe a girl child without suspicions.

- Females will show off their breasts and asses in front of little boys on the excuse that they are changing clothes. If a man changes clothes in front of a little girl, the streets will hear it.

- Females can share a bathroom with little boys, but should males try the same thing with little girls, it's a cause for concern.

- You can rape a female even if she was wet, but you can't rape a man who has an erection. The idea of consent only works when it's a female.


These are some of the inequalities pro-women advocates will NEVER talk about because it doesn't fit into their victim narrative.
Apparently, only men can be predators because that's what the MSM would have us believe...but some of us know better.

There are more females walking around who have at one time in their lives exposed themselves to a boy child or touched his weenie unnecessarily than there are males who have exposed themselves to a girl child or touched her funny. FACTS!!! cool

Very true, the maid actually used to sleep in my room then and most times in the morning I woke up to find her in my bed wearing only pant and me ... Mostly naked.
My mom never really took it seriously cos there was always so much heat and I sweated a lot.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by lasher1: 7:15pm On Apr 24, 2020
These predators are sometimes the ones who have turned little unknowing girls to be confused about sexuality and they end up believing they always had gay tendencies, wake up people many started through innocent looking same sex househlps

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by yvelchstores(f): 9:24pm On Apr 24, 2020
All the women that put their career even before God, come in, read and be informed.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by crackkhaus: 9:30pm On Apr 24, 2020
lasher1:

Very true, the maid actually used to sleep in my room then and most times in the morning I woke up to find her in my bed wearing only pant and me ... Mostly naked.
My mom never really took it seriously cos there was always so much heat and I sweated a lot.

That's a very clear sign of perverted behaviour which has been normalized by women.
It's disgusting...

A male found laying next to a naked girl child with nothing but just his boxers on, will have a lot of questions to answer.

This is the world we are living in.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by CAPSLOCKED: 11:01pm On Apr 24, 2020
crackkhaus:

These are some of the inequalities pro-women advocates will NEVER talk about because it doesn't fit into their victim narrative.
Apparently, only men can be predators because that's what the MSM would have us believe...but some of us know better.

THE LATEST CONSPIRACY NOW IS —
IF HE SAYS IT HAPPENED, WE WAVE IT ASIDE OR CURSE HIM.
IF SHE SAYS IT HAPPENED, THEN IT SURELY HAPPENED AND HE MUST BE PROSECUTED WITHOUT PROVEN GUILTY.

PRO-WOMEN ARE CANCER TO THE SOCIETY, AND WE WON'T LET THEM WIN.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by lasher1: 11:28pm On Apr 24, 2020
Unknown or totally ignored by society is the fact that strange sexual perversion; which is observed in some men like phedophilia, rapist tendencies, homosexual attitudes, sexual addiction etc can be traced in many instances to this issue of early sexualized children in care of househelps, aunties and even neighbors right under the nose of their ignorant parents.

The Randy lifestyle in young men who can't stop chasing everything in skirts to be used and dumped; or the inability of a man to stay faithful to one lady are some outcomes of this careless attitude rooted in early male child sexual abuse

So each time you ignore the molestation of a male child by ladies expected to care for them you prepare the future for a sexual monster to be unleashed on society.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by Nobody: 11:33pm On Apr 24, 2020
As much as we like to ignore certain things it’s actually true that females aren’t excluded from being abusive and a lot of boys either do not know that it’s wrong or have become a part of it. Imagine a boy saying he has never been a virgin and the maid did it. The best thing is to watch your kids, helps (male and female) can be dangerous predators.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by cooooooks(m): 4:21am On Apr 25, 2020
One of my brothers refused to allow a maid to bath him after she did it for the first time.

My parents didn't force him to change his mind but looking back, we should have tried to find out if the reason was molestation specifically.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by Mindlog: 4:30am On Apr 25, 2020
Men have a key role to play in criminalizing the sexual abuse of the boy child. There must be continuous discussions and actions around it because such abuses are being diminished by the male folks themselves, you tend read some of them asking others who tend to speak up, if they didn't enjoy it? Some will even joke that they don't mind being raped by women.

Toxic masculinity as a defense mechanism has made some feel that males cannot be sexually abused but rationalizing that it is even the female that's even being used. A boy child who admits to being sexually abused should not be construed as weakness.

Men have to take charge in fighting it because a paedophile irrespective of gender, is both mentally disordered and a criminal.

The sexual abuse of boys and men is an ignored crime.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by crackkhaus: 4:45am On Apr 25, 2020
CAPSLOCKED:

THE LATEST CONSPIRACY NOW IS —
IF HE SAYS IT HAPPENED, WE WAVE IT ASIDE OR CURSE HIM.
IF SHE SAYS IT HAPPENED, THEN IT SURELY HAPPENED AND HE MUST BE PROSECUTED WITHOUT PROVEN GUILTY.

PRO-WOMEN ARE CANCER TO THE SOCIETY, AND WE WON'T LET THEM WIN.


That's another one - rape accusations, pregnancy accusations, domestic violence accusations etc.
Apparently, the point is to sell the idea that women are sweet innocent victims who never lie, manipulate, or abuse privilege.

Tell them you want to have DNA tests done, they blackmail you with trust.
Tell them you want to sign a pre-nup, they blackmail you with love.
Tell them you won't have sex with them until they explicitly say to you, "I want to have sex with you", they blackmail you with your masculinity/inability to take charge.

Truly, women like these who go around touting themselves as feminists/pro-women advocates and will never talk about these problems but rather pretend the problems don't exist or aren't even problems in the first place, they are a real wound that has continued to fester in society.

With dissidents like us though who refuse to swallow the victimized-woman default narrative but clearly see a lot of them for what they truly are, there's still hope.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by adanny01(m): 8:16am On Apr 25, 2020
I know a similar case. In his case, he grew up avoiding sex and women. Through our university days, I thought he was still a virgin until he told me what happened. 2 of his grown up aunties were living with his family who used to take turns having him make love to them. He grew up and developed a conscience which got him irritated. The aunties both later died and he stopped having female relationships.

He is married now and not doing bad.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by lasher1: 8:18am On Apr 25, 2020
Mindlog:

Toxic masculinity as a defense mechanism has made some feel that males cannot be sexually abused but rationalizing that it is even the female that's even being used. A boy child who admits to being sexually abused should not be construed as weakness.

We often warn girls not to let any man touch them in sensitive areas but never tell boys, this is why little boys don't say anything when the phedophile aunty, househlps or neighbours touch them in sensitive area or make age inappropriate sexual, erotic jokes and gestures sometimes even in the presence of the ignorant parent.

Many of us never saw these acts as wrong hence no reason to report them, many boys even learnt very vulgar sexualized languages and slangs at these stages.
Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by lasher1: 8:22am On Apr 25, 2020
adanny01:
I know a similar case. In his case, he grew up avoiding sex and women. Through our university days, I thought he was still a virgin until he told me what happened. 2 of his grown up aunties were living with his family who used to take turns having him make love to them.

shocked shocked
Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by Nobody: 9:10am On Apr 25, 2020
lasher1:
When I was much younger my mom brought in a house help to help with chores in the home. This quiet churchy house girl defiled me severally from the age of around 6 till I went to boarding house. She used the opportunity of bathing me every morning to play with my Willie and made me to suck her booby, till she gradually opened my eyes to everything about sex, hard core and all. I hated it at first and was disgusted with some of the stuff she made me do but gradually my innocence wore off at a tender age and I became a daring bad @ss.

She was a very dutiful, hard-working, obedient and humble lady on the outside but turned me into a sex addict at a very young age. I have also heard of househelps who awakened homosexual or lesbian tendencies in little boys and girls they were meant to care for while parents were away.

We often hear about the stories of violated girls and scream about it but brush off those done to little boys. I know of a guy who is now gay but had a similar experience with his mom's houseboys, I on the other hand was was trained for the chronic pant shifting life I lived i my younger days.

I'm just wondering if anyone here has gotten any such experience in the past or these days, please share to warn others.

The same happened to me too, when I was younger I think age 5 or so by our female househelp. But never told any one at all , plus it didn't affect my psychology or make me sexually charged. It was just something that happened that I didn't understand. I can't bring it up because the last person I told, tried to make me look like a victim. I'm a guy so it's hard for me to understand the taken advantage of sexually part just being honest. I rarely even think about it until I see topics like this. Not ashamed of it not proud of it. Sometimes not sure what to make out of the experience.
Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by Nobody: 9:18am On Apr 25, 2020
She slept in your room and would wake up in the morning on your bed mostly naked and your mom didn't see anything wrong with that?! That is all sorts of wrong.
Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by Mizwisdom(f): 9:53am On Apr 25, 2020
KELVINXY:
the sexual harassment of the males are usually swept under the carpet and its really worrisome cry

BTW
Op why dint you complain to your parents undecided


Do you know that many guys pray to be sexually exploited by women? I'm totally against it but if a guy complains of rape fellow males will call him a phool, there goes your answer.
Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by lasher1: 11:43am On Apr 25, 2020
Mizwisdom:



Do you know that many guys pray to be sexually exploited by women? I'm totally against it but if a guy complains of rape fellow males will call him a phool, there goes your answer.


Most guys who are much older and sexually aware would welcome a come on or rape by a lady, but this is about the kids, the teenagers who are just ignorant or inquisitive. It's quite common to hear most guys lost their virginity at a young ignorant age by an older trusted relative or person they looked up to or were somehow put in care of...... Mostly a female.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by Mstick: 11:43am On Apr 25, 2020
THANK YOU!!!!!!!!


Mindlog:
Men have a key role to play in criminalizing the sexual abuse of the boy child. There must be continuous discussions and actions around it because such abuses are being diminished by the male folks themselves, you tend read some of them asking others who tend to speak up, if they didn't enjoy it? Some will even joke that they don't mind being raped by women.

Toxic masculinity as a defense mechanism has made some feel that males cannot be sexually abused but rationalizing that it is even the female that's even being used. A boy child who admits to being sexually abused should not be construed as weakness.

Men have to take charge in fighting it because a paedophile irrespective of gender, is both mentally disordered and a criminal.

The sexual abuse of boys and men is an ignored crime.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by bukatyne(f): 11:53am On Apr 25, 2020
Mindlog:
Men have a key role to play in criminalizing the sexual abuse of the boy child. There must be continuous discussions and actions around it because such abuses are being diminished by the male folks themselves, you tend read some of them asking others who tend to speak up, if they didn't enjoy it? Some will even joke that they don't mind being raped by women.

Toxic masculinity as a defense mechanism has made some feel that males cannot be sexually abused but rationalizing that it is even the female that's even being used. A boy child who admits to being sexually abused should not be construed as weakness.

Men have to take charge in fighting it because a paedophile irrespective of gender, is both mentally disordered and a criminal.

The sexual abuse of boys and men is an ignored crime.

Well said.

This would also mean changing of morals which is the bedrock of what is seen as right and wrong.

Most people begin to take it seriously when the boy child is abused by a male pedophile.

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Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by bukatyne(f): 11:56am On Apr 25, 2020
KELVINXY:
1.the sexual harassment of the males are usually swept under the carpet and its really worrisome cry

BTW
2. Op why dint you complain to your parents undecided

1. What do you think is the cause?
Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by bukatyne(f): 11:58am On Apr 25, 2020
lasher1:
Unknown or totally ignored by society is the fact that strange sexual perversion; which is observed in some men like phedophilia, rapist tendencies, homosexual attitudes, sexual addiction etc can be traced in many instances to this issue of early sexualized children in care of househelps, aunties and even neighbors right under the nose of their ignorant parents.

The Randy lifestyle in young men who can't stop chasing everything in skirts to be used and dumped; or the inability of a man to stay faithful to one lady are some outcomes of this careless attitude rooted in early male child sexual abuse

So each time you ignore the molestation of a male child by ladies expected to care for them you prepare the future for a sexual monster to be unleashed on society .

I don't think ignored is the right word. And yes, several sexual perversions we see are created through childhood sexual abuse.
Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by bukatyne(f): 12:02pm On Apr 25, 2020
crackkhaus:
Females (aunts, older cousins, maids, family friends) are the sexual predators no one really talks about.
Hiding in plain sight, these paedophiles have been able to normalize their behaviours around innocent little boys.

- A female can bathe a boy child and go scot-free. A male cannot bathe a girl child without suspicions.

- Females will show off their breasts and asses in front of little boys on the excuse that they are changing clothes. If a man changes clothes in front of a little girl, the streets will hear it.

- Females can share a bathroom with little boys, but should males try the same thing with little girls, it's a cause for concern.

- They say you can rape a female even if she was wet, but you can't have raped a man who had an erection. The idea of consent only works when it's a female.


These are some of the inequalities pro-women advocates will NEVER talk about because it doesn't fit into their victim narrative.
Apparently, only men can be predators because that's what the MSM would have us believe...but some of us know better.

There are more females walking around who have at one time in their lives exposed themselves to a boy child or touched his weenie unnecessarily than there are males who have exposed themselves to a girl child or touched her funny. FACTS!!! cool

What do you think is the root cause?

Put feminism aside:

Even in Igbo Tutu where the women see themselves as third class citizens, they would take the issue of the abused boy child differently from the abused girl child.

Why?
Re: Beware Some Househelps Are Sexual Predators by lasher1: 12:05pm On Apr 25, 2020
There was a certain case I heard about in a certain private school in Lagos where some kids of about 8-9years old were caught having sex in a school toilet, the boy's dad was an upstanding pastor and this was shocking to all those around.

On further enquiry from the kids how he got to be sexually aware the boy said their maid who though never physically touched him or his siblings always watched hardcore porn all day on the family computer with them around when they were all alone in her care. This had gone on for many years unknown to their parents.

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