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I know that everyone has a right to privacy. But in marriage, can the two still become one when one of the couple really cares about having his/her own privacy?
Please, I may not be so directional on my definition of privacy, as I do not expect any biased comment. Thanks

SIR0:
I know that everyone has a right to privacy. But in marriage, can the two still become one when one of the couple really cares about having his/her own privacy?
How do you handle such a situation?

What is your definition of privacy?

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bukatyne:
What is your definition of privacy?

Good question

bukatyne:
What is your definition of privacy?

Being secretive

SIR0:
Being secretive

You are still speaking in parables.

Give us concrete examples or scenarios.

SIR0:
I know that everyone has a right to privacy. But in marriage, can the two still become one when one of the couple really cares about having his/her own privacy?
Please, I may not be so directional on my definition of privacy, as I do not expect any biased comment. Thanks

It's dicy

If it's to pray or maybe read for promotion and he/she wants to lockup in the room it's OK... But in most cases why the lockup when your partner will understand your focus and would be willing to give you some space.


I believe no need for privacy. It's easier to be one when understanding of needs are shared not when one still acts like a single

Even prospective couples share a lot these days...


So I doubt if two can be one when undefined privacy sets

Guy wants to get married, but still live the single life!
Oga, that is not how it works oo.
When you decide to get married, it means you have made room for another person to be in your space.

SIR0:
I know that everyone has a right to privacy. But in marriage, can the two still become one when one of the couple really cares about having his/her own privacy?
Please, I may not be so directional on my definition of privacy, as I do not expect any biased comment. Thanks

Needing privacy and being secretive are two very different things.

When you've been with someone for a while, it becomes very unnecessary to be in each other's space/company ALL THE TIME... privacy is required sometimes and a good partner would respect it.

Being secretive on the other hand is never a good thing in the long run, especially on things which your partner will inadvertently get to find out from someone else.

I think you can have a healthy level of boundaries between married partners.

Some things/information can not be a certain person’s business, but the thing/information itself isn’t necessarily deceitful, harmful to the relationship, ‘incriminating’ etc

You form a joint unit when you get married, but at the same time, you should maintain your own individual autonomy.

You should change "privacy" to "secretive" in your title because there's no synonymity with being private and being secretive.

Amos 3:3.. there most be a solid agreement with love.

I can't deal with someone that claims to love me yet don't want to involve me in their lives. Opening up helps with the bond too.

privacy might be a boundary. so, dont over-exaggerate

I nor get secret, I tell my wife everything including income inflow, ATM pins and all internet banking logins and investments.
Some people have advised against such openness but I know who I married.

Study your partner and know if he or she deserves to know everything about you. Some partners will ruin you if you are that open. To each his own.

If privacy means occasional alone time, then yes. Everyone needs that space from time to time.