bukatyne:

One of the reasons I created the thread.

The quote in the OP just summarized my thoughts on the matter.

Hopefully, more women chose right and take responsibility for their actions.

we all know (deep down) whats right or wrong, but due to circumstances, we have to understand that many have to do what they gotta do (regardless of what it is). also, social media is fukcing up with people's common sense, so they look at the fake nonsense they see on the Gram/FB etc and are even more desperate to achieve something they may not deserve "yet". so they do whatever madness to burn bridges and FLAUNT what other yeye people have/do on social media.

btw this is not a gender issue as so many MEN are in the exact same "lack of self-worth" boat!

MrBrownJay1:


we all know (deep down) whats right or wrong, but due to circumstances, we have to understand that many have to do what they gotta do (regardless of what it is). also, social media is fukcing up with people's common sense, so they look at the fake nonsense they see on the Gram/FB etc and are even more desperate to achieve something they may not deserve "yet". so they do whatever madness to burn bridges and FLAUNT what other yeye people have/do on social media.

btw this is not a gender issue as so many MEN are in the exact same "lack of self-worth" boat!

Very true.

Just wanted to talk to my ladies joor.

A guy can read and also flip:

'Does this babe deserve me'?

bukatyne:

Very true.

Just wanted to talk to my ladies joor.

A guy can read and also flip:

'Does this babe deserve me'?

Now you're talking, it really does go both ways.

But yes, I understand this thread was meant for the ladies.

thorpido:
Idi oko.

Have a great day.

crackkhaus:

Now you're talking, it really does go both ways.

But yes, I understand this thread was meant for the ladies.

It is for ladies however, guys can and should learn.

If something is not teaching you what to do/have, it is teaching what you shouldn't.

That's why I read Ubuanja's posts and enjoy every lady to do so.

At least, note the type of man you/your daughter don't deserve.

bukatyne:

It is for ladies however, guys can and should learn.

If something is not teaching you what to do/have, it is teaching what you shouldn't.

That's why I read Ubuanja's posts and enjoy every lady to do so.

At least, note the type of man you/your daughter don't deserve.

I noticed that you do, have seen some of your comments agreeing with him too..

crackkhaus:

I noticed that you do, have seen some of your comments agreeing with him too..

I do agree with some of his stuff:

It is only a low self-esteemed woman that would accept the treatment of women he prescribes or cannot handle a man who respects her. Like an analogy I gave on one of his threads,

When a lady sees herself like a rag and a gentleman treats her right, she would see him like a fool and maltreat him.

Like my signature, I don't subscribe to blanket treating all women/men like ladies and gentlemen. They need to earn it.

bukatyne:

I do agree with some of his stuff:

It is only a low self-esteemed woman that would accept the treatment of women he prescribes or cannot handle a man who respects her. Like an analogy I gave on one of his threads,

When a lady sees herself like a rag and a gentleman treats her right, she would see him like a fool and maltreat him.

Like my signature, I don't subscribe to blanket treating all women/men like ladies and gentlemen. They need to earn it.

I guess there are a multitude of low self-esteemed women then, extremely beautiful and classy ones too...because some of his topics while controversial, are actually the reality of things.

It's up to people like you to focus on making women discover themselves...but until that happens, gamers will continue enjoying.

Afterall na women dem dey play, dem no kill person.

bukatyne:
You know that moment when your belief or idea about a topic that you go on and on for 30 minutes is summarized in a single sentence?

I came across a beautiful quote today:

'Sis, know the difference between a man that wants you and a man that deserves you!'

What is a want?
To have a desire to possess or do (something); wish for. The fact I want or wish for something doesn't mean I deserve or have worked hard for it. Right now, I want a life where I work hard for three months, meditate/write for five months and trott round the globe for the reminder four. Have I worked enough/put systems in place to afford that type of life today? NO!

What does it mean to deserve?
do something or have or show qualities worthy of (a reaction which rewards or punishes as appropriate). Other synonyms are 'merit', 'worthy' etc. Before I can be said to deserve a thing, I must have proven myself worthy to have it.

It is the responsibility of every woman to place a value on herself and choose a deserving man.

Enough of 'this brother is evil/dog/bla bla';

Sister, what premium or tag did you place on yourself? Why did you choose a man who wants/fancies you over the one that have proven worthy of you? Let's assume brother pretended to be worthy, the minute he showed otherwise, why didn't count your losses and move on while noting what made you make a mistake of choosing him?

Sister, do you love yourself and have a healthy self-esteem? If you claim to have, why are you with the guy that treats you like shit? Why are you casting your pearls before swines because you think you can't do better?

What has made you settle for less?

In your quest for a worthy man (note that every woman ultimately determines who is deserving of her and lives with the consequences of her choices), are you also a worthy find?

Would a man you find worthy or think you deserve find you deserving?

Food for thought.

Very well said, sister . . . very well said.

I pray I'm able to impact this lesson on my girls.

The question can be directed to women.

Most women don't know what they want.
Or,they assume they know what they want.

Then again, if u know what u want, u can be in a position to ask that vital question

UjuJoan2:


Very well said, sister . . . very well said.

I pray I'm able to impact this lesson on my girls.

Amen.

That's why I create threads like this.

sassysure:
The question can be directed to women.

Most women don't know what they want.
Or,they assume they now what they want.

Then again, if u know what u want, u can be in a position to ask that vital question

The question is actually to women.

crackkhaus:

I guess there are a multitude of low self-esteemed women then, extremely beautiful and classy ones too...because some of his topics while controversial, are actually the reality of things.

I guess it's up to people like you to focus on making women discover themselves...but until that happens, let gamers continue enjoying.

Afterall na women dem dey play, dem no kill person.

@bold:

If there is a word more than 'multitude' sef. There are beautiful, rich, classy, classless low self-esteemed people.

Unfortunately, some parents over compensate and breed narcissist women and men.

Hopefully, more people would discover/build their worth.

bukatyne:


The question is actually to women.

You confused?

MrBrownJay1:
also, you cant expect someone to act right when they hungry/desperate and cant even afford 3 square meals a day.

Why not?

They’re no acting right because they are giving themselves higher value than they deserve. If a woman will marry just anyone who can feed them, they deserve whatever else comes with that package.

Belafonte:
Why not?

They’re no acting right because they are giving themselves higher value than they deserve. If a woman will marry just anyone who can feed them, they deserve whatever else comes with that package.

absolutely, but i wouldnt/couldnt blame that hungry person who does whatever they need/can to feed themselves (so long as it aint a crime or against the law)

MrBrownJay1:


absolutely, but i wouldnt/couldnt blame that hungry person who does whatever they need/can to feed themselves (so long as it aint a crime or against the law)

Absolutely. However, they shouldn’t complain when the food provider attaches stringent standards or behaves like a psycho.

Beggars can’t be choosers

MrBrownJay1:


absolutely, but i wouldnt/couldnt blame that hungry person who does whatever they need/can to feed themselves (so long as it aint a crime or against the law)

The more reason I encourage shibaraba to consider being a gigolo in other to feed himself...why are people ashamed of hustle?

Arthur21:

The more reason I encourage shibaraba to consider being a gigolo in other to feed himself...why I people ashamed of hustle?

there are hustle and hustle... to each their own but i wouldnt recommend selling your body for survival. there are many other ways to make money without degrading yourself.

remember, the majority of women paying for gigolo usually look like the below:

Davash222:

Goodnight love.

Remember, non virgin girls don't have the luxury to make a choice.

Who determines the luxury of choice any women makes? You? If yes, who the hell are you?

I see some people saying "its a two way thing" no one says it isn't, this is a thread/advice for women, just read and learn, or create a thead for men.


Btw, nice thread Op, deep and thoughtful.

Biglittlelois:
I see some people saying "its a two way thing" no one says it isn't, this is a thread/advice for women, just read and learn, or create a thead for men.


Btw, nice thread Op, deep and thoughtful.

Thank you Biglittlelois.

You earned yourself a follower because of your high intellectual topics & posts bukatyne... I can see that you really understand yourself & you understand human nature. I could deduce that you're a very realistic person. I like realist a lot because they have the ability to see things from different perspectives & also because I'm too.

Consider yourself among the lucky ones...
Have a nice day!!!

Mubbyleey:
You earned yourself a follower because of your high intellectual topics & posts bukatyne... I can see that you really understand yourself & you understand human nature. I could deduce that you're a very realistic person. I like realist a lot because they have the ability to see things from different perspectives & also because I'm too.

Consider yourself among the lucky ones...
Have a nice day!!!

I should consider myself one of the lucky ones you follow?

Considered.

So where is my goody bag?

Thank you for the compliments.

bukatyne:


I should consider myself one of the lucky ones you follow?

Considered.

So where is my goody bag?

Thank you for the compliments.

Nah, not one of the lucky ones i follow but consider yourself lucky for being different, for the way you see things from different perspectives, for being a realist, for having so much wisdom about human nature cos people like us are very rare & few in the society... I believe you get the picture now

About the goody bag; that might take some time cos who knows, you might have personality disorder

I'll be looking forward to seeing more of your posts, don't disappoint me