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I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Kendo16: 10:23am On May 08, 2020
I created this account just for this, I am an old member of Nairaland.
I am in a sort of delimma. Have you ever fallen in love with someone you are not sexually attracted to? Here is my story.

I saw this lady for the first time last year we met in my place of work. She has a face that I can consider to be more beautiful than Rhianna's and I am not exaggerating.

When I saw her, I was instantly awe struck, was looking at her like a fool, all the time wandering how one person has all this beauty in her, a lot of ladies working there actually noticed what was happening, and one of them felt it to embarrass me. She asked, did you come here to look, or you came for something?
Instantly, I remembered that my boss actually sent me there to get stuff. I moved to her (the pretty girls) table and decided to get the thing there since all of them actually had what I wanted, I introduced myself, told her I was new and requested for her number, she gave me.

From there, I kicked things off, called her, and she was coperative to say the least. She actually found me attractive, and that worked in my favor. Due to mutual attraction, things really sped off so fast, then we started dating.

I noticed that a lot of rich people were coming for her hand in marriage, I have seen a lot of whatsapp chats with men I feel like I can't even measure up to, but she says that she wants me, and we can actually start a quite comfortable family with our salaries, it's a good pay, and we are both just starting.

The problem :

Due to the fact that a lot of people were coming for her, and also, I don't want her to feel like I am wasting her time, I decided that it's best we cohabit a little so to ascertain if we would be compatible. We moved in together, Feb. this year, and we were together till mid March when I traveled to my parents and got held by the pandemic.

I actually noticed that this lady was thin before dating her, but I never imagined it was this bad, she has no boobs, my ass is bigger than her's, if she inhales deeply, I could see her ribs, but I never knew this would turn out to be much of a problem. I am sexually attracted to chubby people, but I thought I should compromise based on her facial beauty, height and personality (which is superb for a lady this beautiful).

Well, since we are cohabiting, she got all comfy and goes around the room naked, first time I saw her naked, I think my d.ick actually shrank. Due to much pressure from her, I resorted to taking Vega any time I wanted to do things to her. We have done this on 3 different occasions, and I know how long it takes me to cum, and instead of it getting better with time, it gets worse.

She's a bit anorexic, obsessed with not getting fat, would never eat any good food past 8pm. She always tells me how proud she is of her flat tummy, I would fake smile at her, while hidding the pain in me.
She's got her mum's physic, the woman still looks thin even at her age, and after giving birth to so many Children.

I am very confused about the whole thing, this is my first time actually being in love, also with a queen, and yet somehow have this problem to contend with.
Please, what should I do?

And before you ask;
I don't masturbate, never done it.
I still get erections some mornings and when I see some big booties.
Up until January this year, I have been naking, and if you asked me then, I would have told you that erectyle dysfunction is not real.

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by ajasbaba(m): 10:26am On May 08, 2020
story story

you cant like your chicken soo much and say it wont end up in the pot.

if e no end up for ur pot e go end up for somebody else pot.
Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Davash222(m): 10:26am On May 08, 2020
I actually noticed that this lady was thin before dating her, but I never imagined it was this bad, she has no boobs, my ass is bigger than her's, if she inhales deeply, I could see her ribs, but I never knew this would turn out to be much of a problem. I am sexually attracted to chubby people, but




Werey!
All of a sudden, she has no boobs.
All of a sudden, your ass is bigger than her's.

So, you didn't noticed all these before you collect number since you are sexually attracted to chubby girls?
The thing is, you're not conversant with valuable things hence you're treating a slim girl girl this way. Slim girls are the best in the world! Underestimate them at your own detriment.

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Oyiboman69: 10:30am On May 08, 2020
So what do you want us to do?...are you a virgin?
Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Kendo16: 10:30am On May 08, 2020
ajasbaba:
story story

you cant like your chicken soo much and say it wont end up in the pot.

if e no end up for ur pot e go end up for somebody else pot.

I want to pretend I know what you are talking about, but I don't.
Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Niyeal(m): 10:33am On May 08, 2020
Misplaced priority
Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by 2dice01: 10:33am On May 08, 2020
So its big bootie and boobs that makes you hard goan and find and stop wasting her time

What makes me hard is Good looks and Brilliance

Different strokes for different folks

You can also get her Apetamin Syr its a multivitamin that will make her add weight

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by ajasbaba(m): 10:35am On May 08, 2020
quote author=Oyiboman69 post=89316100]So what do you want us to do?...are you a virgin?[/quote]


LOL you no hear say the guy knack pass fela for him write up
Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Kendo16: 10:37am On May 08, 2020
Davash222:
I actually noticed that this lady was thin before dating her, but I never imagined it was this bad, she has no boobs, my ass is bigger than her's, if she inhales deeply, I could see her ribs, but I never knew this would turn out to be much of a problem. I am sexually attracted to chubby people, but




Werey!
All of a sudden, she has no boobs.
All of a sudden, your ass is bigger than her's.

So, you didn't noticed all these before you collect number since you are sexually attracted to chubby girls?

I didn't notice her features before I collected her digits, and when I noticed her thin stature, she was putting on clothes and I never knew it would be hard getting my manliness to stand for her, it can happen to anyone, don't judge.

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Maxxim: 10:38am On May 08, 2020
grin cheesy abeg come help op before em egungun enter express
Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Kendo16: 10:38am On May 08, 2020
2dice01:
So its big bootie and boobs that makes you hard goan and find and stop wasting her time

What makes me hard is Good looks and Brilliance

Different strokes for different folks

You can also get her Apetamin Syr its a multivitamin that will make her add weight


Thanks.
Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Davash222(m): 10:40am On May 08, 2020
Kendo16:


I didn't notice her features before I collected her digits, and when I noticed her thin stature, she was putting on clothes and I never knew it would be hard getting my manliness to stand for her, it can happen to anyone, don't judge.
Just stop please!
So, you fancy boobs and ass over intelligence?

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by gaby(m): 10:42am On May 08, 2020
Who be the manist slim female defender and spokesperson for up there. He even sounds effeminate from his writing.

To you op,

You see this life wey we dey so, if everybody complete 100% and we dey get things the way we envisage them all the time, the world go lose him salt of unpredictability wey be the spice of life and it will all equal zero fun.

You've made your choice, stick with it, and realize in no time that you are just worrying over nothing.

Better still, get manly and tell her straight up that you've lost you felt for her so as to allow her get hitched to one of her suitors.

Be wise man.

BTW, why you come create another moniker for this kind tori, I know say na una dey chike and give the babes here false hopes over nothing.
Let's hope the girls will get smart and not get blinded by desperation.

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Kendo16: 10:45am On May 08, 2020
Davash222:

Just stop please!
So, you fancy boobs and ass over intelligence?

You guys seem to miss the whole point. It is not about whether intelligence is good or bad, it's due to the fact that intelligence alone cannot get me hard.
It's not like I have control over my sex drive, or what I am sexually attracted to.

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by oyindamex(f): 10:50am On May 08, 2020
Kendo16:
I created this account just for this, I am an old member of Nairaland.
I am in a sort of delimma. Have you ever fallen in love with someone you are not sexually attracted to? Here is my story.

I saw this lady for the first time last year we met in my place of work. She has a face that I can consider to be more beautiful than Rhianna's and I am not exaggerating.

When I saw her, I was instantly awe stock, was looking at her like a fool, all the time wandering how one person has all this beauty in her, a lot of ladies working there actually noticed what was happening, and one of them felt it to embarrass me. She asked, did you come here to look, or you came for something?
Instantly, I remembered that my boss actually sent me there to get stuff. I moved to her (the pretty girls) table and decided to get the thing there since all of them actually had what I wanted, I introduced myself, told her I was new and requested for her number, she gave me.

From there, I kicked things off, called her, and she was coperative to say the least. She actually found me attractive, and that worked in my favor. Due to mutual attraction, things really sped off so fast, then we started dating.

I noticed that a lot of rich people were coming for her hand in marriage, I have seen a lot of whatsapp chats with men I feel like I can't even measure up to, but she says that she wants me, and we can actually start a quite comfortable family with our salaries, it's a good pay, and we are both just starting.

The problem :

Due to the fact that a lot of people were coming for her, and also, I don't want her to feel like I am wasting her time, I decided that it's best we cohabit a little so to ascertain if we would be compatible. We moved in together, Feb. this year, and we were together till mid March when I traveled to my parents and got held by the pandemic.

I actually noticed that this lady was thin before dating her, but I never imagined it was this bad, she has no boobs, my ass is bigger than her's, if she inhales deeply, I could see her ribs, but I never knew this would turn out to be much of a problem. I am sexually attracted to chubby people, but I thought I should compromise based on her facial beauty, height and personality (which is superb for a lady this beautiful).

Well, since we are cohabiting, she got all comfy and goes around the room naked, first time I saw her naked, I think my d.ick actually shrank. Due to much pressure from her, I resorted to taking Vega any time I wanted to do things to her. We have done this on 3 different occasions, and I know how long it takes me to cum, and instead of it getting better with time, it gets worse.

She's a bit anorexic, obsessed with not getting fat, would never eat any good food past 8pm. She always tells me how proud she is of her flat tummy, I would fake smile at her, while hidding the pain in me.
She's got her mum's physic, the woman still looks thin even at her age, and after giving birth to so many Children.

I am very confused about the whole thing, this is my first time actually being in love, also with a queen, and yet somehow have this problem to contend with.
Please, what should I do?

And before you ask;
I don't masturbate, never done it.
I still get erections some mornings and when I see some big booties.
Up until January this year, I have been naking, and if you asked me then, I would have told you that erectyle dysfunction is not real.

Don't leap before you look. I don't have anything to say to you but I advise you let her go for another person who would appreciate her for who she is and what she looks like

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Kendo16: 10:52am On May 08, 2020
oyindamex:

Don't leap before you look. I don't have anything to say to you but I advise you let her go for another person who would appreciate her for who she is and what she looks like

Thanks. This is what I am seriously considering.
Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Davash222(m): 10:56am On May 08, 2020
Kendo16:


You guys seem to miss the whole point. It is not about whether intelligence is good or bad, it's due to the fact that intelligence alone cannot get me hard.
It's not like I have control over my sex drive, or what I am sexually attracted to.
If you want to get hard, go and join Nigeria Army!

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by baldman: 11:01am On May 08, 2020
Just gently let her go please. You do not really love this girl ( love is a major aphrosidaic), you love your self, you like her face and she has got a good personality so you realize she is a good thing to have. However, she is obviously not good enough for you, and I am not blaming you, attraction is key; you should not have to take vega to make love ( I wish you can repent from fornication, it complicates things, and in cases like this, it may rule your judgment). There are guys out there who will consider her to be perfect the way she is, some are already chasing her, some of them are reading this and having a hard-on already just by reading your description. They deserve her more than you do, and you deserve a voluptuous who will keep you wanting more and more. So do right by our beauty queen, nicely let her go. Find an excuse that will not deal a blow on her self esteem and leave.

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Nobody: 11:01am On May 08, 2020
B.oo.bs and a.rs.e is not all that it is cracked up to me. Here is a girl who is keeping fit and not wanting to be an obesity statistic but you have come online to denigrate her figure, shame on you! angry.

Please leave this Queen alone, there are many girls with b.oo.bs and a.rs.e out there. This girl deserves better.

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by KNOWMORE56: 11:05am On May 08, 2020
Men are the cause of the many troubles we hear about in marriage. BEHAVIOR and not BEAUTY; CHARACTER and not CLOTHING, is the beauty of a woman, They won't hear.

The things you are concerned about now, are the least things that can make a good home.

The things that attracted her to you are still there, carry go.
The possibility of adding weights after child birth is high. This is my own opinion.

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Nobody: 11:05am On May 08, 2020
See ehn I'm not gonna repeat myself again Emancipate yourself from that sweet lepa that abandoned stacks of real niggas for you before ogun go spark angry

Hollup Wait! did you know that Dan jazzy's been looking for a Rihanna's replica since 2005
True fact embarassed
Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by neloyah: 11:11am On May 08, 2020
Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Nobody: 11:12am On May 08, 2020
Dear Op, you don't have to feel bad that you don't find her sexually attractive. It isn't your fault and wouldn't be if you let her go because of this so don't let anyone guilt-trip you into believing you are devilish. Although I would have preferred you had opened up to her before getting down with her. If you had, she might have suggested you use the Vega, that way she wouldn't feel used and dumped. Next time learn to open up and talk, it's not every time you have to take charge of things because you are a MAN. some come back to hurt. Learn to talk.

My advice : Talk to your woman, reach an agreement. If you can compromise to keep such good woman, fine. If not please split up mutually, and the earlier the better.

BTW I wonder why you aren't attracted to her though, cry We slim ladies rock! tongue tongue

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Kendo16: 11:24am On May 08, 2020
Ariza:
Dear Op, you don't have to feel bad that you don't find her sexually attractive. It isn't your fault and wouldn't be if you let her go because of this so don't let anyone guilt-trip you into believing you are devilish. Although I would have preferred you had opened up to her before getting down with her. If you had, she might have suggested you use the Vega, that way she wouldn't feel used and dumped. Next time learn to open up and talk, it's not every time you have to take charge of things because you are a MAN. some come back to hurt. Learn to talk.

My advice : Talk to your woman, reach an agreement. If you can compromise to keep such good woman, fine. If not please split up mutually, and the earlier the better.

BTW I wonder why you aren't attracted to her though, cry We slim ladies rock! tongue tongue

Thanks for this.

She didn't request I used Vega. I did that without her knowledge, since we have tried fruitlessly before to have sex, and she was becoming worried over our lack of sex.

I would let her be, I know fully well that there are lots of men rushing on her, it should be easy for her to move on.
Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by honourjohn: 11:26am On May 08, 2020
Deport her since u don't like bone, real men eat meat not bone shocked shocked

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Nobody: 11:32am On May 08, 2020
Kendo16:


Thanks for this.

She didn't request I used Vega. I did that without her knowledge, since we have tried fruitlessly before to have sex, and she was becoming worried over our lack of sex.

I would let her be, I know fully well that there are lots of men rushing on her, it should be easy for her to move on.
I know you used the Vega without her knowledge, I'm only pointing out the fact that if you had told her about your lack of sexual attraction for her, she might have suggested you use Vega herself. That way she wouldn't feel used and dumped when you two break up.


@bolded that's a very selfish assumption right there. She had lots of guys after her before choosing you, and still do after choosing you. That should show she really has genuine feelings for you. Under playing her emotions with such assumptions isn't nice. Please let her go already, she deserves better.

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by mrblessed(m): 12:03pm On May 08, 2020
Thank God her beauty made you to be "awe stock" and probably blinded your eyes from seeing her "unattractive" physique. Mind you, I don't believe you didn't assess her properly, even when you claimed you stood for minutes admiring her. Her pretty face is her charm, that is her selling point. Since you have gotten the gorgeous face, why not work on the body to align to your preffered taste? Did you notice she isn't worried about her lanky stature? The one with problem is you. Do you think she hasn't made any sacrifice to be with, despite the deluge of rich suitors swarming all over her? If you can't withstand the kitchen heat,...

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Nobody: 12:25pm On May 08, 2020
Kendo16 .

Maroon 5 : girls like that go out with guys like me.


Back to the topic you know you're reall attracted to Chubby girls , then why did you approach her in the first place? Leave those girls for me ooo

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Juliusdaughter: 12:28pm On May 08, 2020
Hey guys and ladies, is saggy balls normal? I could not get myself to have sex with my boyfriend because of it. A absolute turn off

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by Nobody: 12:28pm On May 08, 2020
Kendo16:

She's a bit anorexic, obsessed with not getting fat, would never eat any good food past 8pm.

Some of us do actually eat even at 11pm we still don't get fat
Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by duality(m): 1:42pm On May 08, 2020
People living sexually reckless life. Tomorrow, they will tell you to forget the past.

They would attack virgins, try to intimidate them because they've lost something they wished they never lost.

A Lady cohabiting with a student?

I know God is still keeping people who will not bow to immorality.

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Re: I Am In Love With Her, But Not Sexually Attracted To Her. by NobleDeSage001: 1:54pm On May 08, 2020
It's obvious that you do not know what you want.
Since you are not sexually attracted to her, the best thing is to let her go.
Open up to her and end it peacefully.

But then, truth is, she will add weight certainly during pregnancy and after her first child. Perhaps, the curves and the desirable features you crave would become very noticeable at that point.

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