So this morning I was in the office with my son and he said mum, there's something he want to ask and I should promise not to get angry and I told him to ask anything

Then he drop the bombshell, he said there's this girl he like in his class, I opened my mouth for like few seconds and don't know what to say. I asked him how did he know he like the girl and he told me since the day he stepped into that school he has developed feelings for the girl. Inside me I was shouting blood of Jesus but pretend everything is fine

I said ok can you tell me why you like the girl? He said the girl is intelligent and beautiful. I did not even know what to tell him honestly but am not happy at all and I really want to deal with him when we get home. Please mummies and daddies, how do I handle this

Dealing with him isn't the right solution, he need a rigid counseling.

Lol
Bahd guy

Felix180:
Dealing with him isn't the right solution, he need a rigid counseling.

Please tell me the things to tell him because I don't know. I really plan to flog that stupid feeling away from him when we get home

obviously your boy is smart, just tell him to play with her as a friend nothing serious it's 2020

It is natural.

The difference between him and an average Nigerian kid is that he's more expressive about his feelings.
Now, how you choose to handle the situation is up to you.

Enoch07:
obviously your boy is smart, just tell him to play with her as a friend nothing serious it's 2020

Ha, a boy of 9years old catching feeling

It's okay he's open to you. Try encourage the juvenile to study rather: explain that dating is strictly for marriage.

something is seriously wrong with YOU, if you want to deal with your son because he likes a girl at 9yrs old...

Xcelinteriors:
Ha, a boy of 9years old catching feeling

that one tire me too but you can't kill him na

That's a smart boy you've got there. Don't use self-righteousness to rob him off his innocence.

Tell him it's okay to be friends with the girl he likes and may be WHEN HE GROWS UP, he can marry her (na wash).

Tell him that it is right. Do you want him to hate?

MrBrownJay1:
something is seriously wrong with YOU, if you want to deal with your son because he likes a girl at 9yrs old...

Act maturely!

MrBrownJay1:
something is seriously wrong with YOU, if you want to deal with your son because he likes a girl at 9yrs old...

a 9yrs old boy telling you he likes a girl, pls it's very abnormal

Flog him for opening up at your own peril! that will be the last time he'd open up to you about anything.

Best bet is to tactically talk him out of it making him see reasons why he shouldn't have such feelings at such tender age!

Best of luck

He trusted you enough to share his feelings with you. Now it's your duty to guide him to the right path with love. Don't punish him please, otherwise he will recoil.

Enoch07:

a 9yrs old boy telling you he likes a girl, pls it's very abnormal

There is nothing abnormal about a 9year old liking a girl.

Boys at that age tend to pretend, but if you observe them closely, most of them know "what's up".

Mariangeles:


There is nothing abnormal about a 9year old liking a girl.

Boys at that age tend to pretend, but if you observe them closely, most of them know "what's up".

when I say abnormal, I mean for a 9yrs old bold enough to tell his mum he likes a girl omo it's not normal

You've got yourself a genius.

I wish my future son or daughter can be open as this.
I can imagine being my child's bestie

Enoch07:

when I say abnormal, I mean for a 9yrs old bold enough to tell his mum he likes a girl omo it's not normal

Wrong perception.
It's called being trustworthy

I used to like girls at such age, but no one to share such feelings with, pls leave d boy alone if u can't encourage him in peace like u never had such conversation, my 1kobo

Tale by moonlight....

Enoch07:
a 9yrs old boy telling you he likes a girl, pls it's very abnormal

there is absolutely nothing wrong with a boy of 9yrs old saying he likes a girl... its completely normal. you should actually be proud of the child that he was even so honest to you about it.

what you have to understand is that at such age, it means nothing... it certainly does not mean that they are gonna start dating and have kids, but a child of 9 can be attracted to a girl. i think my 1st crush was at the same age and she was my teacher. NO BIG DEAL!

MrBrownJay1:


there is absolutely nothing wrong with a boy of 9yrs old saying he likes a girl... its completely normal. you should actually be proud of the child that he was even so honest to you about it.

what you have to understand is that at such age, it means nothing... it certainly does not mean that they are gonna start dating and have kids, but a child of 9 can be attracted to a girl. i think my 1st crush was at the same age and she was my teacher. NO BIG DEAL!

You grab! I remember sending a love message to my class teacher and I remember getting really jealous when I heard she was getting married some years later!

mumu me

Enoch07:

when I say abnormal, I mean for a 9yrs old bold enough to tell his mum he likes a girl omo it's not normal

Would you rather your son told you he likes a girl or not?

Xcelinteriors:
So this morning I was in the office with my son and he said mum, there's something he want to ask and I should promise not to get angry and I told him to ask anything

Then he drop the bombshell, he said there's this girl he like in his class, I opened my mouth for like few seconds and don't know what to say. I asked him how did he know he like the girl and he told me since the day he stepped into that school he has developed feelings for the girl. Inside me I was shouting blood of Jesus but pretend everything is fine

I said ok can you tell me why you like the girl? He said the girl is intelligent and beautiful. I did not even know what to tell him honestly but am not happy at all and I really want to deal with him when we get home. Please mummies and daddies, how do I handle this

The world is corrupt especially with easy access to internet and white culture. My advice is for you to censor what he watches, ask his Teacher to monitor him, give him enough house chores to humble him, increase his daily assignments, buy him more books and encourage him to build a reading culture instead of exposing him to internet and television. You should regulate his exposure to them

I'm more concerned that he chose to tell you about his feelings for a girl, instead of telling his father.

crackland:
I'm more concerned that he chose to tell you about his feelings for a girl, instead of telling his father.

if he chooses to share such feelings with his dad, d man will surely encourage him more

Xcelinteriors:
So this morning I was in the office with my son and he said mum, there's something he want to ask and I should promise not to get angry and I told him to ask anything

Then he drop the bombshell, he said there's this girl he like in his class, I opened my mouth for like few seconds and don't know what to say. I asked him how did he know he like the girl and he told me since the day he stepped into that school he has developed feelings for the girl. Inside me I was shouting blood of Jesus but pretend everything is fine

I said ok can you tell me why you like the girl? He said the girl is intelligent and beautiful. I did not even know what to tell him honestly but am not happy at all and I really want to deal with him when we get home. Please mummies and daddies, how do I handle this

Haba thread cautiously o. Kids knows and feels differently from what the society allows, it is biology calling. you have to handle it with care or he will never confide in you again. Tell him it is natural but also help him see season why it is such a bad idea at this point in time. Let him know the time will definitely come but not yet

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Mizwisdom:




The world is corrupt especially with easy access to internet and white culture. My advice is for you to censor what he watches, ask his Teacher to monitor him, give him enough house chores to humble him, increase his daily assignments, buy him more books and encourage him to build a reading culture instead of exposing him to internet and television. You should regulate his exposure to them

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Mariangeles:


There is nothing abnormal about a 9year old liking a girl.

Boys at that age tend to pretend, but if you observe them closely, most of them know "what's up".

Are you in Africa? what do you mean by there's nothing abnormal in telling his Mother/Father he likes a girl. Is that the reason he goes to school? the child is clearly distracted and this will cause poor academic performance. It's not normal in our culture. He's not even a teenager but he's bold enough to tell his parent that he likes a beautiful girl

crackland:
I'm more concerned that he chose to tell you about his feelings for a girl, instead of telling his father.

Single mother things perhaps
Or
Maybe the dad is a bully