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Good morning...I met my wife at my former place of work and we dated for two years before we married, the organization we worked refuses couples working in same organization so she resigned while I continued because she is pregnant later on the following year I quit the job and get another job elsewhere because the salary is OK unlike the other place..to cut the story short I've been taking responsible for her and my daughter. Here is where my para start the people she stayed before I married demanded that she should come and stayed with them because the auntie is pregnant and around her delivery period because my wife is staying at home doing nothing, she asked for my permission and I granted her,when she give birth 3 months later she demanded for my wife to come and assisted her stayed with the infant for 6 months when she will take her to daycare because she is about resuming to her federal government job.6 months is now over a year and my wife never planned of founding work to do or start any petty business but feel relaxed and comfortable working like a slave or nanny for them because she cooked and a time do other chores for them and I'm confused because she always feel offended whenever I ask her what is the way forward for her like working and make decisions on her own and those people are not her related family because she is comfortable with them than her biological family.... Please how can I stop her from bonding with those peoples

Are you married? If yes, you have every right to demand she returns home. If not, you can appeal to her sense of sentiment. Guess you started what you can't take.

What a sweet man you are.

You can as well take some of your things in preparation to join her cause she may not be strong enough to help them put on their generator, wash cars and some other strength demanding chores, plus when she's(your wife) stressed out,you will be able to give her some lovely and romantic massage in preparation for her next chore in her madam's house





Weh done sir "MR MARRIED BUT SINGLE"

Bros if she's not missing you, that's a sign that she doesn't love u self. Tell her to come and pack her things from ur house. use her do baby mama comot body

Insist she gets a job or a shop. Or if this would work, keep making jest of her that she's just a slave to another family. A whole married woman reduced to baby sitting and doing chores for another family. God forbid bad thing.

How on earth will a married man release her wife for months?
You have a hidden agenda. Just confess

This is simple, tell her to stay at home, call her aunty too that you want your wife back or you too doesn't have time for your family Because I don't know why your wife feel relaxed in another person's house . Sit her down and tell her you give her 2 weeks to think on what to do, either business or to apply for a job. If she refused, then withdraw all the financial support from her maybe she go get sense

They're controlling the life of a grown, married woman, and like a puppet, she's always at their beck and call. Hmmm...

You only allow CULTURE to take precedence over your HOME.
So you think releasing your wife for 6 months to them is a way of repaying what they've done for her in the past.

These people have deliberately or not deliberately ENSLAVED her.

I dont think they are legally married.

New account, deliberate bad grammar. Classic traits of a made up story by NL aspiring writers.

She needs to emancipate herself from mental slavery.

Do you mean bonding or slavery? From your story, the functions she performs are that of a maid, assisting her madam for a pay. How can a married woman abandon her home and finds comfort in another woman's home? First, your wife does not have self-respect and she is not an ambitious person. No matter what she benefits from that house, it is unreasonable to enlongate her stay months after the child delivery of her "Madam." Second, it appears that you worth very little in her eyes to warrant such degree of abandonment. Third, she is toiling with her marriage, and she seems convinced that her position is well secured, hence her enduring practise of an absentee wife. Take charge, now!

stillondmatter:
What a sweet man you are.

You can as well take some of your things in preparation to join her cause she may not be strong enough to help them put on their generator, wash cars and some other strength demanding chores, plus when she's(your wife) stressed out,you will be able to give her some lovely and romantic massage in preparation for her next chore in her madam's house





Weh done sir "MR MARRIED BUT SINGLE"

This new generation of husband tire me.. We can no longer tell who is the wife and who is the husband.. Op needs to be checked!

Please go and get marry to her legally . After that, am sure your wife family will behave well.
There is no way a legally married woman will abandoned her home all in the name of one aunty.

peacefulhome:
Please go and get marry to her legally . After that, am sure your wife family will behave well.
There is no way a legally married woman will abandoned her home all in the name of one aunty.

we are legally married...

Seundrizzy:
we are legally married...

Then take charge of your home. Ask your wife to come back home. Stand by your decision and that is final.
This is the right time to take control, if you allow your wife family to continue this way, am sorry to say this.

It may not end well and am sure , you will not like your marriage get destroy for such reason.

oga married man er u sayìn u cannot control ur home ni