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Sunnymatey:
Op, in my opinion l ll say your uncle and his wife tried for you inspite not assisting you in your waec enrolment.
He laid a good and solid foundation in your life which your other uncle was able to build on.

He was sure you were cared for while under his roof and even after they sent you back home, he continued paying your fees (needless using the word 'forced').
He gave you the kind of baic education you wounldnt have gotten if you ve stayed back.

Deal with the dreams saga and no need for the preambles cus many uncles careless whether they have nephews/nieces or not.

So deal with the issue at hand and see to it that you try and keep in touch with your cousins. Success isnt dependent on whether you studied in Ukrain or Canada.

And success to others might not be measured base on acquiring cars, houses and touring the entire globe.
Blame no one for anything even your mum cus you never knew what she faced, rather, try not to make their mistakes.

I spoke to my mother today and she said my cousins were crying they wanted me to stay with them at their base (this was after she and I, I was 4yrs old visited them the first time.)
so when they revisited hometown, on their way back to the base the kids were crying uncontrollably and my uncle and the wife couldn't bear it anymore and they had to turn back to come pick me up.
she said it wasn't that she couldn't care for me even though I assume she was in bad shape financially but this was what happened (even tho I still feel as a mother she could have insisted the most but she did it of freewill. if you can't trust anybody with your kid at least not your blood brother).

years later she said she ask my uncle why he returned me and he said it was the devils work.

we just had this discussion tonight and all this while I tot she just begged them to cater for me.

So many people won't read everything before jumping to comment. I'll give an example of those who read the story to the end versus those who didn't read everything. Examples below:

Macsjebs:
It is well
You shall overcome

Guys, kindly read up testimonies/reviews on my thread on my signature and patronize your boy

Don't ignore your boy, na we we, we gather dey, we are one Nairaland family
Thanks

Didn't read everything

Vs.

sisisioge:
Hmmmm....inside life!

1. Your Uncle and Aunty really tried for you. They collectively did more than your parents did so you should be very grateful to them. Get this and stop being bitter about it, it will help you further release yourself and them.

2. Comparing yourself to their kids shouldn't even happen...they weren't your parents, they were nice people who took you in. I understand how you might have felt differently though...thank goodness it was in the past. Everyone is running a different race...you apparently still think you and your cousins are still on the same track hence your conscious and subconscious comparison. Free your mind...move on and you will stop seeing their mother gossiping in your dream.

3. In your hearts of heart you still think you didn't quite do enough for them, hence the reason you kept dreaming about her. Free you mind, talk to a therapist if you have too or pray and speak with her in your spirit. You did nothing wrong... Have that conversation in your mind, believe it and move on.

May God bless you with peace...peace supersedes any other thing in this dear life.

Read everything

charlesELIKIBA:
HELLP NAIRALANDERS

I will be brief with my writeup as much as possible so I can explain my connection with this lady.

My single mom gave me away at a tender age of 5 to her elder brother (financial difficulties i assume), this ''aunty'' happens to be the wife of this my mother's elder brother.

Aready they had 4 children, all boys.

The home was a tough upbringing with strict rules about socialising, we weren't allowed to bring friends home or go to friends places. It was pretty strict and my uncles wife i would say was the mastermind of it all, she was strict and mean maybe because it was a house of 5 boys.

Growing up in my uncles home, I wouldn't say I was treated diffrently because I always got matching outfits with my uncle's children during christmas, gifts during christmas, same portions of food BUT IN ALL I was always scared of doing somethings my cousins would do. I didn't feel free growing up, i felt diffrent from them. In some cases they attended the best schools than I (but I never attended a govt. school or a bad private school).

It's like if their school fees was 1m naira per term, mine would be 150,000 per term.

I lived with them until I was about 16 or 17 and one morning I woke up and they said i was going back to my mother at 15 or 16 like any kid, you would start to develop conscience (sense), maybe breaking some rules and being stubborn just like their own kids. This I assume was why they wanted to send me back to my mother OTHERWISE I CAN THINK OF NOTHING ELSE I DID WRONG OR DIFFRENT.

In all of these years living with them, I saw my mother as a strange person. I had no motherly connection with her. My anty to me, was my real mother. Whenever we went visiting my mother in very rare occasions, it was always awkward.

Well long story short, I found myself back in my mother's arms, to a new environment i knew nothing about and starting to learn to live with a woman called my mother. I was naive, had no choice but to accept realities on ground. Do you know that feeling of living in a pouch house and wake up next morning in a 1 room surrounded by thick bushes. Yes that was the change.

I was enrolled into a school, my uncle was repeatedly forced to send/ pay my schoolfees until i was in ss3 and i called him to inform him about waec enrolment. He told me on the phone ''all the exams i have been writing, how many have i passed'' and that was it. He never sent a dime anymore meanwhile at this point his children, my cousins were already miles ahead of me suddenly in education. When i left the home, the eldest son went to canada to school, the second who is my agemate was already in a private uni in Nigeria and the 3rd who i am senior to with a year is preparing to go to ukraine for school and years later the last born who i spoonfed and chewed meat for attended uni in Ghana.

Well long story short, since my uncle had failed me. My mother said it was time i go to my father. My father was old retired pensioner. My mother took me to him, as expected awkward encounter. I have never known this man, no memory of him. Well he said he would find my enrolment money and he did, he later passed on a year or two later.

I enrolled waec and pased in one sitting, thanks to miracle centres.

PS: i must say i was never an intelligent student. i wasn't even average but i wasn't the poorest and neither of my uncles children were better. We were all poor educationally.

Long story short another uncle sprang up and paid for my university diploma which i later acquiried.


YEARS LATER my uncle and aunty decided to move back to our home town, please note the home my mother stayed in was this my uncles home. It was the boy quarters, the main house was not even in sight as at the time i was returned to my mother. We did series of bush clearing and snakes killing lol. well my uncle returned home town after retirement and setup the main structure ( a 5 bed room duplex) and thats were they lived while i and my mother lived in the BQ.

I WAS very angry with myself that i happened to still live with them AGAIN, i needed to get out of their sight, my condition was bad. i was a mere teacher to some rickety school. In all of this my uncle's wife always ensured she knew what i was upto and she derived satisfaction when she knew i wasn't doing better than her kids who were all abroad. i turned to their errand boy again after years of neglect. i was very angry with myself and needed to save to get out of the house.

Well i did manage to save up and leave the house and i promised myself never to return to that house. i felt neglected, i felt they sent me away because the goodthings were coming and they couldn't bear to see me share in them because to me they were my parents.


YEARS LATER, my aunty was sick with cancer
please note before i left the home, my uncle and aunty always sent me to travel journeys to get them medicines from a monastry. i attended such trips severally and ran other seperate errands but i never dared to drive their car talkless ask for the key. i always washed their car in the mornings, i would never also dare to see myself in the living room of the duplex with the remote in hand. when they moved back to the hometown, that fear in my childhood started again but this time i was mature enough to know i would never m amount to anything in life if i continued this again hence the reason i needed to move out.

So my aunty sickness grew worse, the husband flew her to india and back but the sickness grew worse. in all of this cancer times i never went back to the house to see her. I only heard of her conditions from my siblings (my half siblings, my mother was married to 3 men in diffrent years and she had only me for my father, another for another man and 3 for another man, i was the lastborn of all).

Then my aunty died. The day she died, i saw her in my dreams and she was crying saying ''she forgave me''. A day or two later i went to my sisters store and she told me of my aunty death, i went to my rented apartment and cried profusely. i later summouned courage and maybe sympathy and went to my uncles house and i cried before my uncle and told him to forgive me too for all abandoning them all this while.

NOW ABOUT MY AUNTY SAYING SHE FORGAVE ME IN THE DREAM: i did not do her any wrong neither did i wish death on her. All her life her greatest fear was maybe i would become greater than her children. She loved these comparisms, i was never wicked to her, i never cursed her, i was never rude to her unless i some instances when she sends me errands and i tell her i have other things to do.... Otherwise i never was negative to her instead she is the one nobody likes, by nobody i mean my uncles family. Nobody talks good of her, they say she controls my uncle and also squandered his money but in all of this i never spoke of my experiences living with them and somethings they did wrong that made me feel diffrent, i did not even tell you guys neither have i told my mother ever. i don't see them as anything that would stop my growth in life. i hate to talk about the bad in people.

WELL BACK TO REASON THE TOPIC WAS CREATED, why do i keep repeatedly seeing her in my dreams even after her death and its always on a negative role. its either in the dream she still plays mother, or she is gossip about me in the dream or she is against me in the dream, just think of anything negative in a dream and she will be the mastermind. This is really beginning to worry me. Why is she still attached to me in the dreams?

After she died, her husband, my uncle started his own sickness but has been sick for years now, he is bed ridden. The family has repeatedly asked him if there is anything he and his late wife did in the past to amount such sickness were he is living in pain but refused to die and he would not answer. One time they said, he said ''it was out of ignorance'' and thats all he ever said about anything.

It will also be good to note that of all my 4 cousin brothers and i today, i am the most successful by far.

i just finished my house (a 3bedroom, 2 bedroom, 1 bedrrom bungalow)
january this year i bought my 3rd car.
i travel round the world effortlessly.
YES I DID TURN OUT FAR BETTER THAN MY COUSINS WHO YOU KNOW HAD THE BEST EDUCATION.

I don't want to talk of their conditions, lets concentrate on me.


So this is my much writeup... I had to skip many things so you can bear to read but please be free to ask me questions.

Why do I repeatedly see my aunty in my dreams.... just before this writeup, i had just woken up from another dream she was present in, she was whispering to the ears of a very good friend of mine and then the friends turned to me and was like '' ah cahrles na so you be''?...and i was angry and was like '' how can you believe something someone you just met told you against i your best friends word'' and minutes later dream ended and i woke up.

At this point i am thinking of going spiritual to know why this is happening but this will be a first in my life. There are two popular places i have never being in my life until lately last year... One is a shrine and the other is a police station. Last year was my first time to be in a police station.
I was driving my unregistered car. That was my offence.

it's either of the two:
1.) They (,aunt, uncle and your mother) did something against you in the past that you managed to survive and then thrive
Or
2) you did something against any of the three

Which one is it? The answer lies with you

Ten06:
What i try to pick from this story is that, it seems the woman did something against you that will hinder your success but by stroke of luck unknown to you the thing got backfire. She waited for you to return to the compound so that she can renew the thing but you did not show up so she die disappointed knowing that you will become better than her children. And it is the effect of that thing that is appearing to you in the dream. But be WARN immediately you set your leg in the house or shrine of a native doctor that will be the beginning of problems and negative things (God forbid). Try see a pastor who is not fake, his one prayer for you will stop you from seeing the woman again

wow but thanks.
like I said I don't like to say the bad in people.
when every comment on here says evil or good about my uncles wife, I can relate to it
thanks once again

This is a clear reason why they say the heart of man is dangerously wicked, you mentioned yourself these people never treated you badly, your only grudge against them was because they failed to enroll you for Waec, you don't know how much they sacrificed to take you, love and care for you while you stayed with them, you don't know their agreement with your mom before accepting to take you in, you have no idea if both couple agreed to take care for you to that level before giving you back, You can be travelling the world, living a near luxurious life but sincerely you're nothing, that is the reason why your spirit is troubled. you weren't motivated to hustle to be a good man, to be a testimony to many nor to extend a hand of love to those who need them but rather to compete with your uncle's family, I was sure about this the moment you compared your school to theirs.
when you said family memebers started asking questions if they did anything wrong, I know you've once in you mind bore a thought of whether your uncle used your destiny while you stayed with them hence the reason for their illness.
Honestly you won't stop seeing her if you don't apologize deeply in heart for the negative thoughts you have in mind. You can say you don't have any but reading through your story I can only but perceive bitterness and anger towards a cheerful family.
Maybe no one told you this but Truly you're responsible for her death and evil misfortune against them. You're mindset is exactly what is killing this family.
Bro... you need to free them from your shackles of bondage.
They are the bedrock of your successful today but sadly you're the foundation of their downfall...
Have you ever for once imagined where this family would be today if they had not took you in ... or what your life would be without them.
Why didn't the uncle who eventually paid for the waec not take you from the start.. another lesson for you to learn that on your ladder to success, you will need help from different people at different times.
You don't have to travel to any place to sought for answers... Just a feeling of gratitude and sincere restitution will fix all this.

Makschinchin:
So many people won't read everything before jumping to comment. I'll give an example of those who read the story to the end versus those who didn't read everything. Examples below:



Didn't read everything

Vs.


Read everything

Apologizes Sir
Not reading it all was intentional
Didn't mean to offend you
Thanks

charlesELIKIBA:
unknown covenant?
how so?

check what led to ur father's death...he said something out of annoyance ND hardship.
u were named after ur dad?
sometimes u do get angry without knowing d reason
as for ur uncle u have d chance to help him bfore it's late so as to safeguard ur future and also.......

pongwa:
it's either of the two:
1.) They (,aunt, uncle and your mother) did something against you in the past that you managed to survive and then thrive
Or
2) you did something against any of the three

Which one is it? The answer lies with you

my mother did something against me?
I didn't do anything against anybody... I just face my road and moved on from all the drama.

u be big boy now person de this thread wey no de see food chop o.

if u can wire them something they will HV strength to advice you no need for u to go shrine so they won't kill u n take ur hard earn money.

dreams do HV meaning I dreams about my late mum too.

engees001:
check what led to ur father's death...he said something out of annoyance ND hardship.
u were named after ur dad?
sometimes u do get angry without knowing d reason
as for ur uncle u have d chance to help him bfore it's late so as to safeguard ur future and also.......

oh ok.
get angry with who?
the only person that triggers anger in me sometimes is my biological mother. it's on and off anyway.
my father died of diabetes.

charlesELIKIBA:
HELLP NAIRALANDERS

I will be brief with my writeup as much as possible so I can explain my connection with this lady.

My single mom gave me away at a tender age of 5 to her elder brother (financial difficulties i assume), this ''aunty'' happens to be the wife of this my mother's elder brother.

Aready they had 4 children, all boys.

The home was a tough upbringing with strict rules about socialising, we weren't allowed to bring friends home or go to friends places. It was pretty strict and my uncles wife i would say was the mastermind of it all, she was strict and mean maybe because it was a house of 5 boys.

Growing up in my uncles home, I wouldn't say I was treated diffrently because I always got matching outfits with my uncle's children during christmas, gifts during christmas, same portions of food BUT IN ALL I was always scared of doing somethings my cousins would do. I didn't feel free growing up, i felt diffrent from them. In some cases they attended the best schools than I (but I never attended a govt. school or a bad private school).

It's like if their school fees was 1m naira per term, mine would be 150,000 per term.

I lived with them until I was about 16 or 17 and one morning I woke up and they said i was going back to my mother at 15 or 16 like any kid, you would start to develop conscience (sense), maybe breaking some rules and being stubborn just like their own kids. This I assume was why they wanted to send me back to my mother OTHERWISE I CAN THINK OF NOTHING ELSE I DID WRONG OR DIFFRENT.

In all of these years living with them, I saw my mother as a strange person. I had no motherly connection with her. My anty to me, was my real mother. Whenever we went visiting my mother in very rare occasions, it was always awkward.

Well long story short, I found myself back in my mother's arms, to a new environment i knew nothing about and starting to learn to live with a woman called my mother. I was naive, had no choice but to accept realities on ground. Do you know that feeling of living in a pouch house and wake up next morning in a 1 room surrounded by thick bushes. Yes that was the change.

I was enrolled into a school, my uncle was repeatedly forced to send/ pay my schoolfees until i was in ss3 and i called him to inform him about waec enrolment. He told me on the phone ''all the exams i have been writing, how many have i passed'' and that was it. He never sent a dime anymore meanwhile at this point his children, my cousins were already miles ahead of me suddenly in education. When i left the home, the eldest son went to canada to school, the second who is my agemate was already in a private uni in Nigeria and the 3rd who i am senior to with a year is preparing to go to ukraine for school and years later the last born who i spoonfed and chewed meat for attended uni in Ghana.

Well long story short, since my uncle had failed me. My mother said it was time i go to my father. My father was old retired pensioner. My mother took me to him, as expected awkward encounter. I have never known this man, no memory of him. Well he said he would find my enrolment money and he did, he later passed on a year or two later.

I enrolled waec and pased in one sitting, thanks to miracle centres.

PS: i must say i was never an intelligent student. i wasn't even average but i wasn't the poorest and neither of my uncles children were better. We were all poor educationally.

Long story short another uncle sprang up and paid for my university diploma which i later acquiried.


YEARS LATER my uncle and aunty decided to move back to our home town, please note the home my mother stayed in was this my uncles home. It was the boy quarters, the main house was not even in sight as at the time i was returned to my mother. We did series of bush clearing and snakes killing lol. well my uncle returned home town after retirement and setup the main structure ( a 5 bed room duplex) and thats were they lived while i and my mother lived in the BQ.

I WAS very angry with myself that i happened to still live with them AGAIN, i needed to get out of their sight, my condition was bad. i was a mere teacher to some rickety school. In all of this my uncle's wife always ensured she knew what i was upto and she derived satisfaction when she knew i wasn't doing better than her kids who were all abroad. i turned to their errand boy again after years of neglect. i was very angry with myself and needed to save to get out of the house.

Well i did manage to save up and leave the house and i promised myself never to return to that house. i felt neglected, i felt they sent me away because the goodthings were coming and they couldn't bear to see me share in them because to me they were my parents.


YEARS LATER, my aunty was sick with cancer
please note before i left the home, my uncle and aunty always sent me to travel journeys to get them medicines from a monastry. i attended such trips severally and ran other seperate errands but i never dared to drive their car talkless ask for the key. i always washed their car in the mornings, i would never also dare to see myself in the living room of the duplex with the remote in hand. when they moved back to the hometown, that fear in my childhood started again but this time i was mature enough to know i would never m amount to anything in life if i continued this again hence the reason i needed to move out.

So my aunty sickness grew worse, the husband flew her to india and back but the sickness grew worse. in all of this cancer times i never went back to the house to see her. I only heard of her conditions from my siblings (my half siblings, my mother was married to 3 men in diffrent years and she had only me for my father, another for another man and 3 for another man, i was the lastborn of all).

Then my aunty died. The day she died, i saw her in my dreams and she was crying saying ''she forgave me''. A day or two later i went to my sisters store and she told me of my aunty death, i went to my rented apartment and cried profusely. i later summouned courage and maybe sympathy and went to my uncles house and i cried before my uncle and told him to forgive me too for all abandoning them all this while.

NOW ABOUT MY AUNTY SAYING SHE FORGAVE ME IN THE DREAM: i did not do her any wrong neither did i wish death on her. All her life her greatest fear was maybe i would become greater than her children. She loved these comparisms, i was never wicked to her, i never cursed her, i was never rude to her unless i some instances when she sends me errands and i tell her i have other things to do.... Otherwise i never was negative to her instead she is the one nobody likes, by nobody i mean my uncles family. Nobody talks good of her, they say she controls my uncle and also squandered his money but in all of this i never spoke of my experiences living with them and somethings they did wrong that made me feel diffrent, i did not even tell you guys neither have i told my mother ever. i don't see them as anything that would stop my growth in life. i hate to talk about the bad in people.

WELL BACK TO REASON THE TOPIC WAS CREATED, why do i keep repeatedly seeing her in my dreams even after her death and its always on a negative role. its either in the dream she still plays mother, or she is gossip about me in the dream or she is against me in the dream, just think of anything negative in a dream and she will be the mastermind. This is really beginning to worry me. Why is she still attached to me in the dreams?

After she died, her husband, my uncle started his own sickness but has been sick for years now, he is bed ridden. The family has repeatedly asked him if there is anything he and his late wife did in the past to amount such sickness were he is living in pain but refused to die and he would not answer. One time they said, he said ''it was out of ignorance'' and thats all he ever said about anything.

It will also be good to note that of all my 4 cousin brothers and i today, i am the most successful by far.

i just finished my house (a 3bedroom, 2 bedroom, 1 bedrrom bungalow)
january this year i bought my 3rd car.
i travel round the world effortlessly.
YES I DID TURN OUT FAR BETTER THAN MY COUSINS WHO YOU KNOW HAD THE BEST EDUCATION.

I don't want to talk of their conditions, lets concentrate on me.


So this is my much writeup... I had to skip many things so you can bear to read but please be free to ask me questions.

Why do I repeatedly see my aunty in my dreams.... just before this writeup, i had just woken up from another dream she was present in, she was whispering to the ears of a very good friend of mine and then the friends turned to me and was like '' ah cahrles na so you be''?...and i was angry and was like '' how can you believe something someone you just met told you against i your best friends word'' and minutes later dream ended and i woke up.

At this point i am thinking of going spiritual to know why this is happening but this will be a first in my life. There are two popular places i have never being in my life until lately last year... One is a shrine and the other is a police station. Last year was my first time to be in a police station.
I was driving my unregistered car. That was my offence.

Your Uncle and his wife owe you nothing. You sound like some of my cousins and their mother (those ingrates) . Even after all that was done for them they still find a way to accuse my dad of doing nothing. My dad trained 4 out of 8 the other 4 refused to stay in school. Only one graduated eventually now they also expect him to care for their mother and their children but they go around saying he didn't do anything for them those mothafuckers. I can see that same entitlement in your narrative . As you are a big boy now you better find all your nephews, nieces both immediate ones and extended and make sure you all send them to the same schools you will send your kids.

snnazzy24:
This is a clear reason why they say the heart of man is dangerously wicked, you mentioned yourself these people never treated you badly, your only grudge against them was because they failed to enroll you for Waec, you don't know how much they sacrificed to take you, love and care for you while you stayed with them, you don't know their agreement with your mom before accepting to take you in, you have no idea if both couple agreed to take care for you to that level before giving you back, You can be travelling the world, living a near luxurious life but sincerely you're nothing, that is the reason why your spirit is troubled. you weren't motivated to hustle to be a good man, to be a testimony to many nor to extend a hand of love to those who need them but rather to compete with your uncle's family, I was sure about this the moment you compared your school to theirs.
when you said family memebers started asking questions if they did anything wrong, I know you've once in you mind bear a thought of whether your uncle used your destiny while you stayed with them hence the reason for their illness.
Honestly you won't stop seeing her if you don't apologize deeply in heart for the negative thoughts you have in mind. You can say you don't have any but reading through your story I can only but perceive bitterness and anger towards a cheerful family.
Maybe no one told you this but Truly you're responsible for her death and evil misfortune against them. You're mindset is exactly what is killing this family.
Bro... you need to free them from your shackles of bondage.
They are the bedrock of your successful today but sadly you're the foundation of their downfall...
Have you ever for once imagined where this family would be today if they had not took you in ... or what your life would be without them.
Why didn't the uncle who eventually paid for the waec not take you from the start.. another lesson for young learn that on your ladder to success, you will need help from different people at different times.
You don't have to travel to any place to sought for answers... Just a feeling of gratitude and sincere restitution will fix all this.

I love you bro no homo. In Nigeria family members have this sense of entitlement like wtf!

Macsjebs:
Apologizes Sir
Not reading it all was intentional
Didn't mean to offend you
Thanks

My brother, you didn't offend me

I'm not the original poster.. I happen to be in the same category as you are

God bless you

God is fighting for you.
they never planned well for you. they might be paying for their sins. so just keep praying fervently you will overcome, cos God just showed his supremacy #amen

snnazzy24:
This is a clear reason why they say the heart of man is dangerously wicked, you mentioned yourself these people never treated you badly, your only grudge against them was because they failed to enroll you for Waec, you don't know how much they sacrificed to take you, love and care for you while you stayed with them, you don't know their agreement with your mom before accepting to take you in, you have no idea if both couple agreed to take care for you to that level before giving you back, You can be travelling the world, living a near luxurious life but sincerely you're nothing, that is the reason why your spirit is troubled. you weren't motivated to hustle to be a good man, to be a testimony to many nor to extend a hand of love to those who need them but rather to compete with your uncle's family, I was sure about this the moment you compared your school to theirs.
when you said family memebers started asking questions if they did anything wrong, I know you've once in you mind bear a thought of whether your uncle used your destiny while you stayed with them hence the reason for their illness.
Honestly you won't stop seeing her if you don't apologize deeply in heart for the negative thoughts you have in mind. You can say you don't have any but reading through your story I can only but perceive bitterness and anger towards a cheerful family.
Maybe no one told you this but Truly you're responsible for her death and evil misfortune against them. You're mindset is exactly what is killing this family.
Bro... you need to free them from your shackles of bondage.
They are the bedrock of your successful today but sadly you're the foundation of their downfall...
Have you ever for once imagined where this family would be today if they had not took you in ... or what your life would be without them.
Why didn't the uncle who eventually paid for the waec not take you from the start.. another lesson for young learn that on your ladder to success, you will need help from different people at different times.
You don't have to travel to any place to sought for answers... Just a feeling of gratitude and sincere restitution will fix all this.

you wasted time blabbing about comparison.
I made context in the post to make readers who can comprehend better to understand.
I could have chosen to just write " why do I see my....... in dream "
but I wrote more so people like you can understand the beginning but yet You still can't understand even if I direct a Nollywood movie to this effect.

charlesELIKIBA:
oh ok.
get angry with who?
the only person that triggers anger in me sometimes is my biological mother. it's on and off anyway.
my father died of diabetes.

ur sick uncle? what about his brother's

Hello man, from your explanation,it shows there's a spiritual attachment to it and it needs to be cleanse ... I will not talk further on here . you can call me on this contract to talk about it..08168034467....Kola... you need to do that to save your life... Call me ....Kola..08168034467

charlesELIKIBA:
oh ok.
get angry with who?
the only person that triggers anger in me sometimes is my biological mother. it's on and off anyway.
my father died of diabetes.

ur level now is not where u suppose to be..and if u don't get it now,ur cousin brother's will hurt u

Devil is tryn to mess your head up, she is dead that's the end of it, the rest could be partly due so what is in your memory

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snnazzy24:
This is a clear reason why they say the heart of man is dangerously wicked, you mentioned yourself these people never treated you badly, your only grudge against them was because they failed to enroll you for Waec, you don't know how much they sacrificed to take you, love and care for you while you stayed with them, you don't know their agreement with your mom before accepting to take you in, you have no idea if both couple agreed to take care for you to that level before giving you back, You can be travelling the world, living a near luxurious life but sincerely you're nothing, that is the reason why your spirit is troubled. you weren't motivated to hustle to be a good man, to be a testimony to many nor to extend a hand of love to those who need them but rather to compete with your uncle's family, I was sure about this the moment you compared your school to theirs.
when you said family memebers started asking questions if they did anything wrong, I know you've once in you mind bear a thought of whether your uncle used your destiny while you stayed with them hence the reason for their illness.
Honestly you won't stop seeing her if you don't apologize deeply in heart for the negative thoughts you have in mind. You can say you don't have any but reading through your story I can only but perceive bitterness and anger towards a cheerful family.
Maybe no one told you this but Truly you're responsible for her death and evil misfortune against them. You're mindset is exactly what is killing this family.
Bro... you need to free them from your shackles of bondage.
They are the bedrock of your successful today but sadly you're the foundation of their downfall...
Have you ever for once imagined where this family would be today if they had not took you in ... or what your life would be without them.
Why didn't the uncle who eventually paid for the waec not take you from the start.. another lesson for young learn that on your ladder to success, you will need help from different people at different times.
You don't have to travel to any place to sought for answers... Just a feeling of gratitude and sincere restitution will fix all this.

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MR MAN YOU'VE SPOKEN TOTAL[size=8pt][/size] RUBBISH

Stillthebest:
Whatever they did is left to them and their makers. Either money rituals or whatever. I don't want to think that you are trying to say they exchange your destiny for their children's and that power changed hands then you become successful while your cousins become the opposite of you!

no no no

OP pray for her and your uncle. That all.

It is not her that you were seen in the dream , it was a familiar spirit. Another family member was using her image to get information from you. Pray to God to reveal the spirit impersonating dead to you and after, you will never see her again.

[quote author=CAPSLOCKED post=90010597] ARE YOU SURE YOU'RE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HER MURDER?
FROM ALL INFORMATION GATHERED FROM THOUSANDS OF SPIRITUALISTS AND PROPHETS ON THIS FORUM IT APPEARS THAT YOUR LIFE IS IN GREAT DANGER FROM THIS WOMAN.

DO YOU DREAM OF DEAD PEOPLE?
DO YOU EAT IN DREAMS?
DO YOU SUFFER FROM GENERATIONAL CURSES, OR YOU'RE BEING FOLLOWED BY OCCULTIC SPIRITS AND DELEGATES FROM THE MARINE KINGDOM?

THE ONLY WAY OUT OF ALL YOUR SPIRITUAL PROBLEMS IS TO REALIZE THERE ARE NO "SPIRITUAL PROBLEMS", AND DREAMS ARE JUST DREAMS, AND CAN NEVER DETERMINE YOUR REALITY.

I WAS ONCE LIKE YOU. PARANOID ABOUT SPIRITS AND DEAD PEOPLE AND CHARMS.
THEN I GREW INTO A TEENAGER AND DUMPED SILLY RELIGIOUS AND SUPERSTITIOUS BELIEFS I WAS FED BY NIGERIAN NEIGHBORS AND RELATIVES AS A CHILD.
TODAY I'M DOING JUST FINE, AND GRAB A BEER AFTER EACH BAD DREAM OR THREATS FROM SO CALLED OCCULTIC PEOPLE... BECAUSE I DON'T BELIEVE IN NONSENSE. [/quo

Your first paragraph tho. It's good to read through

engees001:
ur sick uncle? what about his brother's

all kicking great

Makschinchin:
My brother, you didn't offend me

I'm not the original poster.. I happen to be in the same category as you are

God bless you

engees001:
ur level now is not where u suppose to be..and if u don't get it now,ur cousin brother's will hurt u

you my friend are a horror movie
either way thanks
I am guided

BurnStoner:
You had this childish entitlement growing up, You probably still hold a grudge you cannot identify or place a finger on; the only spiritual I would advise you go is prayers. Pray to God to simplify and make things easy for your hearts to understand, forgive and forgive. There’s no simple answer to your quest but then you probably should forgive her kids too.

He was a kid
Easy with the judgement

Kweensavvy:
Why exactly are you feeling entitled? It might have been painful that he didn't help you further than he did but all you should have done is thank him profusely with a grateful smile on your face, while you double your hustle.

Why?

YOU WERE NOT HIS RESPONSIBILITY. Try to face the painful truth.

How come you didn't talk much about your mum who left you when you were just a suckling baby? That was cowardly. Even if na garri, she for manage am.

Or the dad that denied you/abandoned you for years? This is pure misplaced anger abeg.

These people took you in, sheltered you and trained you till high school. Till they felt it was time to know your biological parents?

Or didn't you want to know them at all? But it's normal for abandoned kids to be reunited with their parents once they are old enough. What they did was normal. I think you just hyped things.

Also, it's wrong to compare yourself with your cousins. What's their fault in all of these?

Finally, concerning the dreams, its obvious you're obsessed about this issue, hence the dream.

Please try to let this go. This kind of obsession will definitely freak out your loved ones soon. You're already talking of spiritualists. May God help you sha.

The writer clearly still feels resentment at his then better-off relatives, but like you have noted, they were beyond generous to him. It is not easy for anybody to take up the task of financing an entire human being outside of the Kids they planned for - and like he said they didnt give him low quality education, just not as expensive as what they planned for, and that is fine. As for his Uncle declining to pay for his WAEC, I can honestly see why in his resentment for having to bear the burden of another's mistake, he made that statement to him, cos truly, if his Mum had Kids by 3 different Men, it clearly shows a trend of poor decision-making on her part. Inspite of this, his UNcle still allowed his Mother to continue living for free in the BQ of his house. Honestly, the Uncle and his family have done nothing wrong to Charles.

My advice to Charles would have been to find a therapist, but since those are far and few in Nigeria. He can dedicate half an hour daily to writing down his feelings about how he grew up in a note-book. He should spend time exploring how going away to live with another family made him feel, the shame of being the poorer relation, the pain of having no 'place' in his Uncle's house, as well as his father's, explore how his pain and shame probably motivated him to push harder to become successful.

charlesELIKIBA:
all kicking great

You worked hard for yourself
For that, GOOD JOB!

And it’s true your Uncle is the foundation of your success. But you were a child and like some people mentioned now that you’ve grown, you need to recognize that.

Stop thinking about her. It will fade away
Be good to your cousins and your Mother.
Forgive yourself. Breathe.
It will all be okay

May be she meant to say 'pls forgive me'

Mariangeles:
How does it make you feel knowing you are "miles ahead" of your cousins? Why was ever the need to compare your success to theirs?
Like you wrote, you uncle treated you like a son; the question is did you see him as a father?
How's your relationship with your cousins at the moment?

pardon me but , i think i've read this exact lines you posted before on nairaland at around this time of day or thereabout that i'm writing this . deja vu ? i must exit this thread now .