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Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by tyup(m): 9:01pm On May 27, 2020
Professorcplus:

You need it more!

Just get away

it would have even been nice if you had kept quiet than saying things that doesn't even have good experience at all

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Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by Dannyfan(m): 9:01pm On May 27, 2020
You've no problem only that ur thoughts are filled with guilty, comparison, hatred, pain and sorrow. When you get over it u will be free. They harm you not neither did you. They really don't want you to match their children. Forget the memories.

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Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by joceey(m): 9:02pm On May 27, 2020
Pls don't visit any spiritualist if you love yourself and life ,don't allow them to add salt into your injury .I can instruct and guide you what to do by yourself it will not cost you anything but your sleep for 7 nights, because you will have to do 7
days night vigils from 12 midnight to 3am.If you are interested send me a pm and I will give you just three psalms in which you re going to use for the 7days night vigil the rest will be victory and history.
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by lilyheaven: 9:05pm On May 27, 2020
lipsrsealed that attitude of hers
Was recorded in your brain subconsciously, it just replaying itself, it will keep occurring
I'
charlesELIKIBA:
HELLP NAIRALANDERS

I will be brief with my writeup as much as possible so I can explain my connection with this lady.

My single mom gave me away at a tender age of 5 to her elder brother (financial difficulties i assume), this ''aunty'' happens to be the wife of this my mother's elder brother.

Aready they had 4 children, all boys.

The home was a tough upbringing with strict rules about socialising, we weren't allowed to bring friends home or go to friends places. It was pretty strict and my uncles wife i would say was the mastermind of it all, she was strict and mean maybe because it was a house of 5 boys.

Growing up in my uncles home, I wouldn't say I was treated diffrently because I always got matching outfits with my uncle's children during christmas, gifts during christmas, same portions of food BUT IN ALL I was always scared of doing somethings my cousins would do. I didn't feel free growing up, i felt diffrent from them. In some cases they attended the best schools than I (but I never attended a govt. school or a bad private school).

It's like if their school fees was 1m naira per term, mine would be 150,000 per term.

I lived with them until I was about 16 or 17 and one morning I woke up and they said i was going back to my mother at 15 or 16 like any kid, you would start to develop conscience (sense), maybe breaking some rules and being stubborn just like their own kids. This I assume was why they wanted to send me back to my mother OTHERWISE I CAN THINK OF NOTHING ELSE I DID WRONG OR DIFFRENT.

In all of these years living with them, I saw my mother as a strange person. I had no motherly connection with her. My anty to me, was my real mother. Whenever we went visiting my mother in very rare occasions, it was always awkward.

Well long story short, I found myself back in my mother's arms, to a new environment i knew nothing about and starting to learn to live with a woman called my mother. I was naive, had no choice but to accept realities on ground. Do you know that feeling of living in a pouch house and wake up next morning in a 1 room surrounded by thick bushes. Yes that was the change.

I was enrolled into a school, my uncle was repeatedly forced to send/ pay my schoolfees until i was in ss3 and i called him to inform him about waec enrolment. He told me on the phone ''all the exams i have been writing, how many have i passed'' and that was it. He never sent a dime anymore meanwhile at this point his children, my cousins were already miles ahead of me suddenly in education. When i left the home, the eldest son went to canada to school, the second who is my agemate was already in a private uni in Nigeria and the 3rd who i am senior to with a year is preparing to go to ukraine for school and years later the last born who i spoonfed and chewed meat for attended uni in Ghana.

Well long story short, since my uncle had failed me. My mother said it was time i go to my father. My father was old retired pensioner. My mother took me to him, as expected awkward encounter. I have never known this man, no memory of him. Well he said he would find my enrolment money and he did, he later passed on a year or two later.

I enrolled waec and pased in one sitting, thanks to miracle centres.

PS: i must say i was never an intelligent student. i wasn't even average but i wasn't the poorest and neither of my uncles children were better. We were all poor educationally.

Long story short another uncle sprang up and paid for my university diploma which i later acquiried.


YEARS LATER my uncle and aunty decided to move back to our home town, please note the home my mother stayed in was this my uncles home. It was the boy quarters, the main house was not even in sight as at the time i was returned to my mother. We did series of bush clearing and snakes killing lol. well my uncle returned home town after retirement and setup the main structure ( a 5 bed room duplex) and thats were they lived while i and my mother lived in the BQ.

I WAS very angry with myself that i happened to still live with them AGAIN, i needed to get out of their sight, my condition was bad. i was a mere teacher to some rickety school. In all of this my uncle's wife always ensured she knew what i was upto and she derived satisfaction when she knew i wasn't doing better than her kids who were all abroad. i turned to their errand boy again after years of neglect. i was very angry with myself and needed to save to get out of the house.

Well i did manage to save up and leave the house and i promised myself never to return to that house. i felt neglected, i felt they sent me away because the goodthings were coming and they couldn't bear to see me share in them because to me they were my parents.


YEARS LATER, my aunty was sick with cancer
please note before i left the home, my uncle and aunty always sent me to travel journeys to get them medicines from a monastry. i attended such trips severally and ran other seperate errands but i never dared to drive their car talkless ask for the key. i always washed their car in the mornings, i would never also dare to see myself in the living room of the duplex with the remote in hand. when they moved back to the hometown, that fear in my childhood started again but this time i was mature enough to know i would never m amount to anything in life if i continued this again hence the reason i needed to move out.

So my aunty sickness grew worse, the husband flew her to india and back but the sickness grew worse. in all of this cancer times i never went back to the house to see her. I only heard of her conditions from my siblings (my half siblings, my mother was married to 3 men in diffrent years and she had only me for my father, another for another man and 3 for another man, i was the lastborn of all).

Then my aunty died. The day she died, i saw her in my dreams and she was crying saying ''she forgave me''. A day or two later i went to my sisters store and she told me of my aunty death, i went to my rented apartment and cried profusely. i later summouned courage and maybe sympathy and went to my uncles house and i cried before my uncle and told him to forgive me too for all abandoning them all this while.

NOW ABOUT MY AUNTY SAYING SHE FORGAVE ME IN THE DREAM: i did not do her any wrong neither did i wish death on her. All her life her greatest fear was maybe i would become greater than her children. She loved these comparisms, i was never wicked to her, i never cursed her, i was never rude to her unless i some instances when she sends me errands and i tell her i have other things to do.... Otherwise i never was negative to her instead she is the one nobody likes, by nobody i mean my uncles family. Nobody talks good of her, they say she controls my uncle and also squandered his money but in all of this i never spoke of my experiences living with them and somethings they did wrong that made me feel diffrent, i did not even tell you guys neither have i told my mother ever. i don't see them as anything that would stop my growth in life. i hate to talk about the bad in people.

WELL BACK TO REASON THE TOPIC WAS CREATED, why do i keep repeatedly seeing her in my dreams even after her death and its always on a negative role. its either in the dream she still plays mother, or she is gossip about me in the dream or she is against me in the dream, just think of anything negative in a dream and she will be the mastermind. This is really beginning to worry me. Why is she still attached to me in the dreams?

After she died, her husband, my uncle started his own sickness but has been sick for years now, he is bed ridden. The family has repeatedly asked him if there is anything he and his late wife did in the past to amount such sickness were he is living in pain but refused to die and he would not answer. One time they said, he said ''it was out of ignorance'' and thats all he ever said about anything.

It will also be good to note that of all my 4 cousin brothers and i today, i am the most successful by far.

i just finished my house (a 3bedroom, 2 bedroom, 1 bedrrom bungalow)
january this year i bought my 3rd car.
i travel round the world effortlessly.
YES I DID TURN OUT FAR BETTER THAN MY COUSINS WHO YOU KNOW HAD THE BEST EDUCATION.

I don't want to talk of their conditions, lets concentrate on me.


So this is my much writeup... I had to skip many things so you can bear to read but please be free to ask me questions.

Why do I repeatedly see my aunty in my dreams.... just before this writeup, i had just woken up from another dream she was present in, she was whispering to the ears of a very good friend of mine and then the friends turned to me and was like '' ah cahrles na so you be''?...and i was angry and was like '' how can you believe something someone you just met told you against i your best friends word'' and minutes later dream ended and i woke up.

At this point i am thinking of going spiritual to know why this is happening but this will be a first in my life. There are two popular places i have never being in my life until lately last year... One is a shrine and the other is a police station. Last year was my first time to be in a police station.
I was driving my unregistered car. That was my offence.
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by grandlexuz(m): 9:06pm On May 27, 2020
charlesELIKIBA:

you are still but a child.
I wouldn't trade words with you.

That is Nairaland for you. Drop a story of your life hoping to get some positive contribution and see children crucify and hang you. I read your story and love how honest you were about your feelings. Don't let anyone weigh you down, judge or hang you. Believe me even some folks reading your piece are not happy at the succes you preach of yourself. Competition is common in our African society especially amongst cousins.

Moving ahead accept no one is perfect. Despite the shortcomings of your uncle and aunt accept they did the best the could for you at a time even your parents couldnt. The might not have seen things through to the end but accept it as the straw that has brought you to sucess. Had Joseph brothers not sold him to slavery the family would have died of hunger in the years of famine.

Only you can disconnect yourself from your aunt. Forget a shrine. A prophetess will only confuse you more. Since you have made your peace with your uncle disconnect yourself from your aunt by appreciating the food she cooked for you, clothing, shelter and the medicines she bought you during those tender years. Accept she did better than your mum. Atsame time forgive your mum and try to reconnect with her if not for anything but for the gift of life. If you are a Christian find solace in the bible when you can. Not talking of a pastor or church. Talking of grabbing your bible yourself to find peace. I am not a very Religious person but the peace you can get from the Bible is one that surpasses every understanding.

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Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by armyofone(m): 9:06pm On May 27, 2020
Who knows maybe he is even thinking because they didn't do what they did for their children- such as sending him abroad was the reason for the couple's sickness. You know, one can never please family members. It is either "You didn't do enough or you didn't do at all"

I agree @ sisioge - they didn't do enough for me, they didn't send me overseas like their children etc. Human nature - nothing is ever enough.

Op, visit him with fruits and other things he likes. Be a source of comfort. Now get those family members asking voodoo and juju questions off his back.

You are rich now so be thankful for how far you've come. Make a difference by helping and contributing to your community. Try leave grudges behind.

ddaammyy:
such a boastful ingrate. People and their sense of entitlement ehn
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by Macon1212: 9:07pm On May 27, 2020
charlesELIKIBA:
HELLP NAIRALANDERS

I will be brief with my writeup as much as possible so I can explain my connection with this lady.

My single mom gave me away at a tender age of 5 to her elder brother (financial difficulties i assume), this ''aunty'' happens to be the wife of this my mother's elder brother.

Aready they had 4 children, all boys.

The home was a tough upbringing with strict rules about socialising, we weren't allowed to bring friends home or go to friends places. It was pretty strict and my uncles wife i would say was the mastermind of it all, she was strict and mean maybe because it was a house of 5 boys.

Growing up in my uncles home, I wouldn't say I was treated diffrently because I always got matching outfits with my uncle's children during christmas, gifts during christmas, same portions of food BUT IN ALL I was always scared of doing somethings my cousins would do. I didn't feel free growing up, i felt diffrent from them. In some cases they attended the best schools than I (but I never attended a govt. school or a bad private school).

It's like if their school fees was 1m naira per term, mine would be 150,000 per term.

I lived with them until I was about 16 or 17 and one morning I woke up and they said i was going back to my mother at 15 or 16 like any kid, you would start to develop conscience (sense), maybe breaking some rules and being stubborn just like their own kids. This I assume was why they wanted to send me back to my mother OTHERWISE I CAN THINK OF NOTHING ELSE I DID WRONG OR DIFFRENT.

In all of these years living with them, I saw my mother as a strange person. I had no motherly connection with her. My anty to me, was my real mother. Whenever we went visiting my mother in very rare occasions, it was always awkward.

Well long story short, I found myself back in my mother's arms, to a new environment i knew nothing about and starting to learn to live with a woman called my mother. I was naive, had no choice but to accept realities on ground. Do you know that feeling of living in a pouch house and wake up next morning in a 1 room surrounded by thick bushes. Yes that was the change.

I was enrolled into a school, my uncle was repeatedly forced to send/ pay my schoolfees until i was in ss3 and i called him to inform him about waec enrolment. He told me on the phone ''all the exams i have been writing, how many have i passed'' and that was it. He never sent a dime anymore meanwhile at this point his children, my cousins were already miles ahead of me suddenly in education. When i left the home, the eldest son went to canada to school, the second who is my agemate was already in a private uni in Nigeria and the 3rd who i am senior to with a year is preparing to go to ukraine for school and years later the last born who i spoonfed and chewed meat for attended uni in Ghana.

Well long story short, since my uncle had failed me. My mother said it was time i go to my father. My father was old retired pensioner. My mother took me to him, as expected awkward encounter. I have never known this man, no memory of him. Well he said he would find my enrolment money and he did, he later passed on a year or two later.

I enrolled waec and pased in one sitting, thanks to miracle centres.

PS: i must say i was never an intelligent student. i wasn't even average but i wasn't the poorest and neither of my uncles children were better. We were all poor educationally.

Long story short another uncle sprang up and paid for my university diploma which i later acquiried.


YEARS LATER my uncle and aunty decided to move back to our home town, please note the home my mother stayed in was this my uncles home. It was the boy quarters, the main house was not even in sight as at the time i was returned to my mother. We did series of bush clearing and snakes killing lol. well my uncle returned home town after retirement and setup the main structure ( a 5 bed room duplex) and thats were they lived while i and my mother lived in the BQ.

I WAS very angry with myself that i happened to still live with them AGAIN, i needed to get out of their sight, my condition was bad. i was a mere teacher to some rickety school. In all of this my uncle's wife always ensured she knew what i was upto and she derived satisfaction when she knew i wasn't doing better than her kids who were all abroad. i turned to their errand boy again after years of neglect. i was very angry with myself and needed to save to get out of the house.

Well i did manage to save up and leave the house and i promised myself never to return to that house. i felt neglected, i felt they sent me away because the goodthings were coming and they couldn't bear to see me share in them because to me they were my parents.


YEARS LATER, my aunty was sick with cancer
please note before i left the home, my uncle and aunty always sent me to travel journeys to get them medicines from a monastry. i attended such trips severally and ran other seperate errands but i never dared to drive their car talkless ask for the key. i always washed their car in the mornings, i would never also dare to see myself in the living room of the duplex with the remote in hand. when they moved back to the hometown, that fear in my childhood started again but this time i was mature enough to know i would never m amount to anything in life if i continued this again hence the reason i needed to move out.

So my aunty sickness grew worse, the husband flew her to india and back but the sickness grew worse. in all of this cancer times i never went back to the house to see her. I only heard of her conditions from my siblings (my half siblings, my mother was married to 3 men in diffrent years and she had only me for my father, another for another man and 3 for another man, i was the lastborn of all).

Then my aunty died. The day she died, i saw her in my dreams and she was crying saying ''she forgave me''. A day or two later i went to my sisters store and she told me of my aunty death, i went to my rented apartment and cried profusely. i later summouned courage and maybe sympathy and went to my uncles house and i cried before my uncle and told him to forgive me too for all abandoning them all this while.

NOW ABOUT MY AUNTY SAYING SHE FORGAVE ME IN THE DREAM: i did not do her any wrong neither did i wish death on her. All her life her greatest fear was maybe i would become greater than her children. She loved these comparisms, i was never wicked to her, i never cursed her, i was never rude to her unless i some instances when she sends me errands and i tell her i have other things to do.... Otherwise i never was negative to her instead she is the one nobody likes, by nobody i mean my uncles family. Nobody talks good of her, they say she controls my uncle and also squandered his money but in all of this i never spoke of my experiences living with them and somethings they did wrong that made me feel diffrent, i did not even tell you guys neither have i told my mother ever. i don't see them as anything that would stop my growth in life. i hate to talk about the bad in people.

WELL BACK TO REASON THE TOPIC WAS CREATED, why do i keep repeatedly seeing her in my dreams even after her death and its always on a negative role. its either in the dream she still plays mother, or she is gossip about me in the dream or she is against me in the dream, just think of anything negative in a dream and she will be the mastermind. This is really beginning to worry me. Why is she still attached to me in the dreams?

After she died, her husband, my uncle started his own sickness but has been sick for years now, he is bed ridden. The family has repeatedly asked him if there is anything he and his late wife did in the past to amount such sickness were he is living in pain but refused to die and he would not answer. One time they said, he said ''it was out of ignorance'' and thats all he ever said about anything.

It will also be good to note that of all my 4 cousin brothers and i today, i am the most successful by far.

i just finished my house (a 3bedroom, 2 bedroom, 1 bedrrom bungalow)
january this year i bought my 3rd car.
i travel round the world effortlessly.
YES I DID TURN OUT FAR BETTER THAN MY COUSINS WHO YOU KNOW HAD THE BEST EDUCATION.

I don't want to talk of their conditions, lets concentrate on me.


So this is my much writeup... I had to skip many things so you can bear to read but please be free to ask me questions.

Why do I repeatedly see my aunty in my dreams.... just before this writeup, i had just woken up from another dream she was present in, she was whispering to the ears of a very good friend of mine and then the friends turned to me and was like '' ah cahrles na so you be''?...and i was angry and was like '' how can you believe something someone you just met told you against i your best friends word'' and minutes later dream ended and i woke up.

At this point i am thinking of going spiritual to know why this is happening but this will be a first in my life. There are two popular places i have never being in my life until lately last year... One is a shrine and the other is a police station. Last year was my first time to be in a police station.
I was driving my unregistered car. That was my offence.

Go to nearest deeper life Bible Church for the solution. This is a bad omen for you
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by Ademoore07(m): 9:08pm On May 27, 2020
I had read your post and responses to comments hereof. I need to be sincere with you. Your biological mother can be behind this issue. This is purely spiritual. I will advise that you go for consultation OUTSIDE YOUR STATE. I knew why i said this. There are many things i cant say here. Take this instruction serious please.
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by PericomaNwankwo: 9:10pm On May 27, 2020
Please this is very spiritually significant. Do not underestimate the relevance of the dead in our life.

Now what you have to understand is that dreams are tricky and doesn't carry a straight definition.

I can't explain everything here, no strength to type but just know that your aunt knew it that you'd be better than her kids and that has always been here fear. She is a part of your life no matter what. Take an egg, kola and schnapps and say a traditional prayer to the dead. Break the egg, call her name and remind her that you remember her and hope she is doing good over there. Also extend greetings to your late dad and great grand father and mother. Your dreams are not bad, it's just a reassurance that you're becoming something great and she always knew this, if she as alive, she'd still be jealous because your growth is still happening.
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by Professorcplus(m): 9:10pm On May 27, 2020
tyup:


Just get away

it would have even been nice if you had kept quiet than saying things that doesn't even have good experience at all
No offence. At times some people need such words to bring them back to reality. He will never have horrible dream about his uncle's wife after reading my post. It's a thing of mindset trust me.
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by olalekan1(m): 9:10pm On May 27, 2020
My logical thinking is telling me that it was revealed to your uncle and his wife that your presence in their life is very important hence the reason why they return back to where you and your mom were living. After they return, you left the house as if you already know that your absence will cause problem. Your absence eventually caused problem (Your uncle's wife death). This is the reason you are seeing her in your dream, she wants you to know the effect of what you did, even though she has forgiven you. The moment you realized this, pray for her and spirit to have eternal rest.

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Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by Mannnn(m): 9:13pm On May 27, 2020
Bros you be benin man ?
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by charlesELIKIBA: 9:15pm On May 27, 2020
Ademoore07:
I had read your post and responses to comments hereof. I need to be sincere with you. Your biological mother can be behind this issue. This is purely spiritual. I will advise that you go for consultation OUTSIDE YOUR STATE. I knew why i said this. There are many things i cant say here. Take this instruction serious please.
why would my biological mother want to harm me? do tell please.
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by Nobody: 9:17pm On May 27, 2020
Pray to God about it and I'm sure all will be fine.
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by Unrated900(m): 9:18pm On May 27, 2020
The story is too long I cannot read it

I will need Heineken to read it next week
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by JYKZ: 9:19pm On May 27, 2020
I don't read ghost stories in the night biko.
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by godfrey01(m): 9:20pm On May 27, 2020
charlesELIKIBA:
HELLP NAIRALANDERS

I will be brief with my writeup as much as possible so I can explain my connection with this lady.

My single mom gave me away at a tender age of 5 to her elder brother (financial difficulties i assume), this ''aunty'' happens to be the wife of this my mother's elder brother.

Aready they had 4 children, all boys.

The home was a tough upbringing with strict rules about socialising, we weren't allowed to bring friends home or go to friends places. It was pretty strict and my uncles wife i would say was the mastermind of it all, she was strict and mean maybe because it was a house of 5 boys.

Growing up in my uncles home, I wouldn't say I was treated diffrently because I always got matching outfits with my uncle's children during christmas, gifts during christmas, same portions of food BUT IN ALL I was always scared of doing somethings my cousins would do. I didn't feel free growing up, i felt diffrent from them. In some cases they attended the best schools than I (but I never attended a govt. school or a bad private school).

It's like if their school fees was 1m naira per term, mine would be 150,000 per term.

I lived with them until I was about 16 or 17 and one morning I woke up and they said i was going back to my mother at 15 or 16 like any kid, you would start to develop conscience (sense), maybe breaking some rules and being stubborn just like their own kids. This I assume was why they wanted to send me back to my mother OTHERWISE I CAN THINK OF NOTHING ELSE I DID WRONG OR DIFFRENT.

In all of these years living with them, I saw my mother as a strange person. I had no motherly connection with her. My anty to me, was my real mother. Whenever we went visiting my mother in very rare occasions, it was always awkward.

Well long story short, I found myself back in my mother's arms, to a new environment i knew nothing about and starting to learn to live with a woman called my mother. I was naive, had no choice but to accept realities on ground. Do you know that feeling of living in a pouch house and wake up next morning in a 1 room surrounded by thick bushes. Yes that was the change.

I was enrolled into a school, my uncle was repeatedly forced to send/ pay my schoolfees until i was in ss3 and i called him to inform him about waec enrolment. He told me on the phone ''all the exams i have been writing, how many have i passed'' and that was it. He never sent a dime anymore meanwhile at this point his children, my cousins were already miles ahead of me suddenly in education. When i left the home, the eldest son went to canada to school, the second who is my agemate was already in a private uni in Nigeria and the 3rd who i am senior to with a year is preparing to go to ukraine for school and years later the last born who i spoonfed and chewed meat for attended uni in Ghana.

Well long story short, since my uncle had failed me. My mother said it was time i go to my father. My father was old retired pensioner. My mother took me to him, as expected awkward encounter. I have never known this man, no memory of him. Well he said he would find my enrolment money and he did, he later passed on a year or two later.

I enrolled waec and pased in one sitting, thanks to miracle centres.

PS: i must say i was never an intelligent student. i wasn't even average but i wasn't the poorest and neither of my uncles children were better. We were all poor educationally.

Long story short another uncle sprang up and paid for my university diploma which i later acquiried.


YEARS LATER my uncle and aunty decided to move back to our home town, please note the home my mother stayed in was this my uncles home. It was the boy quarters, the main house was not even in sight as at the time i was returned to my mother. We did series of bush clearing and snakes killing lol. well my uncle returned home town after retirement and setup the main structure ( a 5 bed room duplex) and thats were they lived while i and my mother lived in the BQ.

I WAS very angry with myself that i happened to still live with them AGAIN, i needed to get out of their sight, my condition was bad. i was a mere teacher to some rickety school. In all of this my uncle's wife always ensured she knew what i was upto and she derived satisfaction when she knew i wasn't doing better than her kids who were all abroad. i turned to their errand boy again after years of neglect. i was very angry with myself and needed to save to get out of the house.

Well i did manage to save up and leave the house and i promised myself never to return to that house. i felt neglected, i felt they sent me away because the goodthings were coming and they couldn't bear to see me share in them because to me they were my parents.


YEARS LATER, my aunty was sick with cancer
please note before i left the home, my uncle and aunty always sent me to travel journeys to get them medicines from a monastry. i attended such trips severally and ran other seperate errands but i never dared to drive their car talkless ask for the key. i always washed their car in the mornings, i would never also dare to see myself in the living room of the duplex with the remote in hand. when they moved back to the hometown, that fear in my childhood started again but this time i was mature enough to know i would never m amount to anything in life if i continued this again hence the reason i needed to move out.

So my aunty sickness grew worse, the husband flew her to india and back but the sickness grew worse. in all of this cancer times i never went back to the house to see her. I only heard of her conditions from my siblings (my half siblings, my mother was married to 3 men in diffrent years and she had only me for my father, another for another man and 3 for another man, i was the lastborn of all).

Then my aunty died. The day she died, i saw her in my dreams and she was crying saying ''she forgave me''. A day or two later i went to my sisters store and she told me of my aunty death, i went to my rented apartment and cried profusely. i later summouned courage and maybe sympathy and went to my uncles house and i cried before my uncle and told him to forgive me too for all abandoning them all this while.

NOW ABOUT MY AUNTY SAYING SHE FORGAVE ME IN THE DREAM: i did not do her any wrong neither did i wish death on her. All her life her greatest fear was maybe i would become greater than her children. She loved these comparisms, i was never wicked to her, i never cursed her, i was never rude to her unless i some instances when she sends me errands and i tell her i have other things to do.... Otherwise i never was negative to her instead she is the one nobody likes, by nobody i mean my uncles family. Nobody talks good of her, they say she controls my uncle and also squandered his money but in all of this i never spoke of my experiences living with them and somethings they did wrong that made me feel diffrent, i did not even tell you guys neither have i told my mother ever. i don't see them as anything that would stop my growth in life. i hate to talk about the bad in people.

WELL BACK TO REASON THE TOPIC WAS CREATED, why do i keep repeatedly seeing her in my dreams even after her death and its always on a negative role. its either in the dream she still plays mother, or she is gossip about me in the dream or she is against me in the dream, just think of anything negative in a dream and she will be the mastermind. This is really beginning to worry me. Why is she still attached to me in the dreams?

After she died, her husband, my uncle started his own sickness but has been sick for years now, he is bed ridden. The family has repeatedly asked him if there is anything he and his late wife did in the past to amount such sickness were he is living in pain but refused to die and he would not answer. One time they said, he said ''it was out of ignorance'' and thats all he ever said about anything.

It will also be good to note that of all my 4 cousin brothers and i today, i am the most successful by far.

i just finished my house (a 3bedroom, 2 bedroom, 1 bedrrom bungalow)
january this year i bought my 3rd car.
i travel round the world effortlessly.
YES I DID TURN OUT FAR BETTER THAN MY COUSINS WHO YOU KNOW HAD THE BEST EDUCATION.

I don't want to talk of their conditions, lets concentrate on me.


So this is my much writeup... I had to skip many things so you can bear to read but please be free to ask me questions.

Why do I repeatedly see my aunty in my dreams.... just before this writeup, i had just woken up from another dream she was present in, she was whispering to the ears of a very good friend of mine and then the friends turned to me and was like '' ah cahrles na so you be''?...and i was angry and was like '' how can you believe something someone you just met told you against i your best friends word'' and minutes later dream ended and i woke up.

At this point i am thinking of going spiritual to know why this is happening but this will be a first in my life. There are two popular places i have never being in my life until lately last year... One is a shrine and the other is a police station. Last year was my first time to be in a police station.
I was driving my unregistered car. That was my offence.


bros abeg waitin carry you go shrine? thats the one i am interested in

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Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by NiCurious: 9:24pm On May 27, 2020
charlesELIKIBA:
HELLP NAIRALANDERS
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Why do I repeatedly see my aunty in my dreams.... just before this writeup, i had just woken up from another dream she was present in, she was whispering to the ears of a very good friend of mine and then the friends turned to me and was like '' ah cahrles na so you be''?...and i was angry and was like '' how can you believe something someone you just met told you against i your best friends word'' and minutes later dream ended and i woke up.
...

Our dreams deal with different aspects of our inner selves. How I interpret your aunty dreams: on some level, YOU are still believing your aunt's whispers against your own better knowledge; you are not being a good friend to yourself when you believe those whispers. Your dream about your aunt forgiving you--turn it around, forgive your aunt, for her ignorance. It is done, she is gone, let her whispers be silenced. smiley
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by toyotamuscle: 9:24pm On May 27, 2020
agwacha oso agwue mile.never you think you are better than anyone yet.the race isn't over yet.the were good to you.also what makes u think she was bad to you or even compered u to her sons.men you are so ungrateful.what ur mother couldn't do for you.or even that ur father.

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Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by mechanics(m): 9:24pm On May 27, 2020
Going to shrine won't solve the problem, you need to give your life to Christ, believers don't see dead people in their dreams.
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by NiCurious: 9:25pm On May 27, 2020
sisisioge:
Hmmmm....inside life!

1. Your Uncle and Aunty really tried for you. They collectively did more than your parents did so you should be very grateful to them. Get this and stop being bitter about it, it will help you further release yourself and them.

2. Comparing yourself to their kids shouldn't even happen...they weren't your parents, they were nice people who took you in. I understand how you might have felt differently though...thank goodness it was in the past. Everyone is running a different race...you apparently still think you and your cousins are still on the same track hence your conscious and subconscious comparison. Free your mind...move on and you will stop seeing their mother gossiping in your dream.

3. In your hearts of heart you still think you didn't quite do enough for them, hence the reason you kept dreaming about her. Free you mind, talk to a therapist if you have too or pray and speak with her in your spirit. You did nothing wrong... Have that conversation in your mind, believe it and move on.

May God bless you with peace...peace supersedes any other thing in this dear life.

Short, sweet, and beautiful.
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by Ademoore07(m): 9:32pm On May 27, 2020
charlesELIKIBA:

why would my biological mother want to harm me? do tell please.
You can check my signature and do the needful. I advised based on experience. It might not be intentional.
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by redcap: 9:32pm On May 27, 2020
Your mind is playing tricks on you. I think you never really appreciated what they did for you, reason why you keep seeing the woman in your dreams. Just know that the dead doesn't in any way has any thing to do with the living it's just your mind playing the usual games. Take a chilled bottle of beer after each dream, Las Las you'll be alright. Cheers.
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by Nobody: 9:33pm On May 27, 2020
If you were a muslim, i would have given you an islamic view point to your dream. But since you'll not believe it, then no need for it.

But i bet you, you'll be destroying your life by going to a spiritualist just because of a dream.

What you have acquired and become is real while what you see in the dream is fiction, are you now going to build the rest of your life on fictions?

Advice: Keep dreams aside and move on with reality.
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by Ladfem(m): 9:34pm On May 27, 2020
All you need is Jesus Her plan for u is that u will not amount to anything compared to her children even in her grave she is still bitter that u have some how make it in life reason for seen her badmouthing you in your dream ,Give your life to Jesus and commit ur ways into the hand of God in prayer ,believe me u will stop seen Her. Also find place in heart to forgive ur mother ,God will be with u.
charlesELIKIBA:
HELLP NAIRALANDERS

I will be brief with my writeup as much as possible so I can explain my connection with this lady.

My single mom gave me away at a tender age of 5 to her elder brother (financial difficulties i assume), this ''aunty'' happens to be the wife of this my mother's elder brother.

Aready they had 4 children, all boys.

The home was a tough upbringing with strict rules about socialising, we weren't allowed to bring friends home or go to friends places. It was pretty strict and my uncles wife i would say was the mastermind of it all, she was strict and mean maybe because it was a house of 5 boys.

Growing up in my uncles home, I wouldn't say I was treated diffrently because I always got matching outfits with my uncle's children during christmas, gifts during christmas, same portions of food BUT IN ALL I was always scared of doing somethings my cousins would do. I didn't feel free growing up, i felt diffrent from them. In some cases they attended the best schools than I (but I never attended a govt. school or a bad private school).

It's like if their school fees was 1m naira per term, mine would be 150,000 per term.

I lived with them until I was about 16 or 17 and one morning I woke up and they said i was going back to my mother at 15 or 16 like any kid, you would start to develop conscience (sense), maybe breaking some rules and being stubborn just like their own kids. This I assume was why they wanted to send me back to my mother OTHERWISE I CAN THINK OF NOTHING ELSE I DID WRONG OR DIFFRENT.

In all of these years living with them, I saw my mother as a strange person. I had no motherly connection with her. My anty to me, was my real mother. Whenever we went visiting my mother in very rare occasions, it was always awkward.

Well long story short, I found myself back in my mother's arms, to a new environment i knew nothing about and starting to learn to live with a woman called my mother. I was naive, had no choice but to accept realities on ground. Do you know that feeling of living in a pouch house and wake up next morning in a 1 room surrounded by thick bushes. Yes that was the change.

I was enrolled into a school, my uncle was repeatedly forced to send/ pay my schoolfees until i was in ss3 and i called him to inform him about waec enrolment. He told me on the phone ''all the exams i have been writing, how many have i passed'' and that was it. He never sent a dime anymore meanwhile at this point his children, my cousins were already miles ahead of me suddenly in education. When i left the home, the eldest son went to canada to school, the second who is my agemate was already in a private uni in Nigeria and the 3rd who i am senior to with a year is preparing to go to ukraine for school and years later the last born who i spoonfed and chewed meat for attended uni in Ghana.

Well long story short, since my uncle had failed me. My mother said it was time i go to my father. My father was old retired pensioner. My mother took me to him, as expected awkward encounter. I have never known this man, no memory of him. Well he said he would find my enrolment money and he did, he later passed on a year or two later.

I enrolled waec and pased in one sitting, thanks to miracle centres.

PS: i must say i was never an intelligent student. i wasn't even average but i wasn't the poorest and neither of my uncles children were better. We were all poor educationally.

Long story short another uncle sprang up and paid for my university diploma which i later acquiried.


YEARS LATER my uncle and aunty decided to move back to our home town, please note the home my mother stayed in was this my uncles home. It was the boy quarters, the main house was not even in sight as at the time i was returned to my mother. We did series of bush clearing and snakes killing lol. well my uncle returned home town after retirement and setup the main structure ( a 5 bed room duplex) and thats were they lived while i and my mother lived in the BQ.

I WAS very angry with myself that i happened to still live with them AGAIN, i needed to get out of their sight, my condition was bad. i was a mere teacher to some rickety school. In all of this my uncle's wife always ensured she knew what i was upto and she derived satisfaction when she knew i wasn't doing better than her kids who were all abroad. i turned to their errand boy again after years of neglect. i was very angry with myself and needed to save to get out of the house.

Well i did manage to save up and leave the house and i promised myself never to return to that house. i felt neglected, i felt they sent me away because the goodthings were coming and they couldn't bear to see me share in them because to me they were my parents.


YEARS LATER, my aunty was sick with cancer
please note before i left the home, my uncle and aunty always sent me to travel journeys to get them medicines from a monastry. i attended such trips severally and ran other seperate errands but i never dared to drive their car talkless ask for the key. i always washed their car in the mornings, i would never also dare to see myself in the living room of the duplex with the remote in hand. when they moved back to the hometown, that fear in my childhood started again but this time i was mature enough to know i would never m amount to anything in life if i continued this again hence the reason i needed to move out.

So my aunty sickness grew worse, the husband flew her to india and back but the sickness grew worse. in all of this cancer times i never went back to the house to see her. I only heard of her conditions from my siblings (my half siblings, my mother was married to 3 men in diffrent years and she had only me for my father, another for another man and 3 for another man, i was the lastborn of all).

Then my aunty died. The day she died, i saw her in my dreams and she was crying saying ''she forgave me''. A day or two later i went to my sisters store and she told me of my aunty death, i went to my rented apartment and cried profusely. i later summouned courage and maybe sympathy and went to my uncles house and i cried before my uncle and told him to forgive me too for all abandoning them all this while.

NOW ABOUT MY AUNTY SAYING SHE FORGAVE ME IN THE DREAM: i did not do her any wrong neither did i wish death on her. All her life her greatest fear was maybe i would become greater than her children. She loved these comparisms, i was never wicked to her, i never cursed her, i was never rude to her unless i some instances when she sends me errands and i tell her i have other things to do.... Otherwise i never was negative to her instead she is the one nobody likes, by nobody i mean my uncles family. Nobody talks good of her, they say she controls my uncle and also squandered his money but in all of this i never spoke of my experiences living with them and somethings they did wrong that made me feel diffrent, i did not even tell you guys neither have i told my mother ever. i don't see them as anything that would stop my growth in life. i hate to talk about the bad in people.

WELL BACK TO REASON THE TOPIC WAS CREATED, why do i keep repeatedly seeing her in my dreams even after her death and its always on a negative role. its either in the dream she still plays mother, or she is gossip about me in the dream or she is against me in the dream, just think of anything negative in a dream and she will be the mastermind. This is really beginning to worry me. Why is she still attached to me in the dreams?

After she died, her husband, my uncle started his own sickness but has been sick for years now, he is bed ridden. The family has repeatedly asked him if there is anything he and his late wife did in the past to amount such sickness were he is living in pain but refused to die and he would not answer. One time they said, he said ''it was out of ignorance'' and thats all he ever said about anything.

It will also be good to note that of all my 4 cousin brothers and i today, i am the most successful by far.

i just finished my house (a 3bedroom, 2 bedroom, 1 bedrrom bungalow)
january this year i bought my 3rd car.
i travel round the world effortlessly.
YES I DID TURN OUT FAR BETTER THAN MY COUSINS WHO YOU KNOW HAD THE BEST EDUCATION.

I don't want to talk of their conditions, lets concentrate on me.


So this is my much writeup... I had to skip many things so you can bear to read but please be free to ask me questions.

Why do I repeatedly see my aunty in my dreams.... just before this writeup, i had just woken up from another dream she was present in, she was whispering to the ears of a very good friend of mine and then the friends turned to me and was like '' ah cahrles na so you be''?...and i was angry and was like '' how can you believe something someone you just met told you against i your best friends word'' and minutes later dream ended and i woke up.

At this point i am thinking of going spiritual to know why this is happening but this will be a first in my life. There are two popular places i have never being in my life until lately last year... One is a shrine and the other is a police station. Last year was my first time to be in a police station.
I was driving my unregistered car. That was my offence.
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by adedehinbo(m): 9:34pm On May 27, 2020
charlesELIKIBA:

did you read what I wrote, if at all did you read to the end?
did you read the part I said this said uncle refused to pay my waec enrolment fee?
and how another uncle steps up to ensure I had a higher degree.
or you have comprehending disability?

the prayer for parents should be,circumstances that will lead to people raising ur kids for should never be yours
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by Azinco: 9:36pm On May 27, 2020
Where are yhu from and what is yhur religion? Moreso you don’t need any spiritual stuff but prayers
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by flexyndavis(m): 9:36pm On May 27, 2020
hmmm these ur topic is story from calabar or akwa ibom people, guy no reason hw they train others abroad,make sure u help her children succed,she help u for 16 yrs ,thats goood,forget d waec issue,u ate their food,dey cloth u,now ur own odd don play pass her children lift them up,as for her dream it will stop immediately u do these and consult ur pastor or shrine,help her husband materially since u get d cash, life is 2 odd
Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by Ge0grapher(m): 9:37pm On May 27, 2020
@charlsELIkIB from what u narrated one thing is clear...

You are bitter and angry towards your uncle's family because you feel they neglected and abandoned you when you needed them the most (your waec enrollment period).

That period was a crucial stage in your life, which gives you the notion that since they refused to help you at that point which significantly determined your educational development, they didn't want you to progress.

That is why up till now you feels like your uncles's inability to support you back then in your WAEC enrollment was a deliberate action to give his kids an edge over you. Hence to mind the issue of competition ..

I believe from your story it is easy deduce that those people didn't maltreat you, you said it your self, and even after they sent you back to your mom they continued to pay for your tuition ... Not until tour waec period .. I can categorically say they are good people..

But that aunty of yours fell ill and you were aware of that, but yet you didn't visit, I am guessing you didn't even call to know how she was faring until she died... That was where you messed up!

She is appearing in your dreams now saying "I forgive you” because she probably waited for your call or for you to pay her a visit on her sick bad but you didn't after all what they did for you, you didn't show up, @charlesELIKIBA, you didn't care, just because of your childish assumption of family competition and the unrealistic hatred you felt.


But there is a way for you to make this right, acknowledge that the annoyance you feel towards them is unnecessary and close your eyes and say with all sincerity "Aunty, I am sorry, I am sorry for not caring for you while you were Ill, I am sorry for neglecting you after all you did for me, I am SORRY”....

If you mean it, this wouldn't be your problem anymore . bye.

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Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by rhymz(m): 9:38pm On May 27, 2020
charlesELIKIBA:

I know this... am not scared I won't lie. just worried why she's always in my dreams.

I didn't even wish her death sef.

I like the fact that you are open minded and willing to accept that you may be nursing resentment for the way they dropped you off with your mother, a woman who you really didn't know that well. It is very much understandable, the deep-seated resentment you might still be having unconsciously especially towards his wife whom you might be thinking is the cause for your abandonment.....but the truth is they tried for you, whichever way you try to look at it, they did far better than even your own biological parents.

So my advice to you will be to try as much as you can to take care of your sick uncle, leave the past in the past and help him as much as you can.... let him feel like he has a son in you.... Try as much as you can to be in contact with your cousins and arrange with them how to make your uncle's life easier OR better.... than start thinking too much spiritual bullshit that will only get your paranoid and put you in more difficult position.

If this serves as any consolation, when my mum died, she was always in my dreams, though nothing a negative way, it was always like the normal life with us until I wake up and realize it was all a dream.... it continued like that and faded away over time....The worst thing any young will do to his sanity is to get involved with spiritual mumbo-jumbo about somebody hit wanting them to progress or trying kill them, it will do Bleep with your mindset and sanity to the point you will never be happy.

You are doing well, be happy..... When I lost my dad my aunties wanted to start that somebody killed him bullshit, I told them I don't care, I lived with the man, was in the hospital with him till he took his last breath, so that story does not cut it for me and I don't intend to dwell in such discussion unless they have proof.... they stopped and life moved on......

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Re: Seeing Dead Aunty In My Dreams Repeatedly. I Need Any Solutions Please by rhymz(m): 9:39pm On May 27, 2020
olalekan1:
My logical thinking is telling me that it was revealed to your uncle and his wife that your presence in their life is very important hence the reason why they return back to where you and your mom were living. After they return, you left the house as if you already know that your absence will cause problem. Your absence eventually caused problem (Your uncle's wife death). This is the reason you are seeing her in your dream, she wants you to know the effect of what you did, even though she has forgiven you. The moment you realized this, pray for her and spirit to have eternal rest.

This is bullshit..... and your way of thinking is very dangerous.....

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