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"My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Juliusdaughter: 10:32pm On May 30, 2020 |
This is what my boyfriend said to me when I asked about his relationship status before I went into the relationship with him, he said hes recent ex is the daughter of his mummy's friend and the only reason his mummy does nor want them together is because she is not about to let their relationship(my boyfriend and the lady) ruin the friendship she has with the mother of the lady in case things dont go as planned between them. I recently got to find out he is still talking to the lady and because of that I have not been in talking terms with him. I dont know what to do, he keeps saying he loves me and he is not with her anymore because of what his mum said. I dont want to break up with him just yet for this, he is the only guy that I have been with that knows how to say he is sorry, he always asks what the problem is and want us to talk about it. He doesnt come across as a proud person, he listens to me but I find him a bit traditional. I have also told him no sex until I get to meet his mum and she gives her approval, he also do not have a problem with this. What do I do please |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by SweetCunt97(f): 10:36pm On May 30, 2020 |
Continue living and hope for the best |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Freestainworld(m): 10:39pm On May 30, 2020 |
get to know him more, especially family wise |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by AngelicDamsel(f): 10:45pm On May 30, 2020 |
Follow your heart. |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Ningen(m): 10:48pm On May 30, 2020 |
I recently got to find out he is still talking to the lady and because of that I have not been in talking terms with him. So you want to end things or what?? Shit. Your are definitely insecure & clinging. Eventhough he's in a relationship with you, he is still his own person. He should be able to talk to his ex or anyone he want as long as he is being honest about it. Or is there something extra?? 4 Likes |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by thorpido(m): 10:48pm On May 30, 2020 |
Don't break up with him just yet but keep your mind alert and don't get played. 1 Like |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Juliusdaughter: 10:53pm On May 30, 2020 |
Ningen:I have been in this situation before. The guy lied to me about how his mum wont allow him marry from my town, only to see on social media that he got married to 'a friend' he told me about, this friend also happens to be the lady he told me about when I asked about his relationship status. I'm just trying to be careful. |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by annex1: 11:03pm On May 30, 2020 |
Juliusdaughter: LoL |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Juliusdaughter: 11:16pm On May 30, 2020 |
annex1:Why are you laughing |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Ningen(m): 11:52pm On May 30, 2020 |
Juliusdaughter: Cutting off communication is just unfair. If you are afraid to trust him; it's time to let go. But... you're hesitating. So talk to him. Let him know your position. While you can't make him “stop” talking to his ex, you can walk from all this stress and worry. Sorry about your past. 1 Like |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by bukatyne(f): 12:51am On May 31, 2020 |
Juliusdaughter: He is not with his ex because his mother doesn't want them together. This means he still has feelings for her (communication lines beyond your comfort level) is open. I think you are a rebound girl and while he might not end your relationship for her, he could still be sneaking behind your back. Communicate and iron out issues and decide if it is stay or waka. You determine what are deal breakers for you. P. S. Traditional in what sense? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by tobechi74: 1:40am On May 31, 2020 |
she knows something you do not |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by chiefmc: 1:43am On May 31, 2020 |
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Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Chicent(m): 3:49am On May 31, 2020 |
So if his mum gives approval then you will give him free sex until he gets tired and go back to the one he truly loves when its time. Kontinue 4 Likes |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by StubbornGENIUS: 3:53am On May 31, 2020 |
The Gee will be hoping for mum's sharp approval so that he can start eating the forbidden truth.In any case,I believe you are old enough to take your own decisions. |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Juliusdaughter: 6:19am On May 31, 2020 |
Chicent:His mum is not in the same town with us. This is like buying time too, I'll get to know him without sex messing things up. The lady already knows the stand of his mum as per their relationship |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Amanee(f): 7:23am On May 31, 2020 |
Your actions are already in the right place, try to stick to them and see them through. But be sure that you really want this guy enough to play second fiddle forever (if need be) because what if he never gets over his ex. Even if his mother approves of you, you cannot wipe away his relationship with his ex by just being the chosen one. Be very sure that you can stay with a man who is constantly looking back, wondering 'what if' even when he's with you. 3 Likes |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Chicent(m): 9:04am On May 31, 2020 |
Juliusdaughter: And you won't mind if and when he gets it outside from someone else.... Mind you he still loves the other gal and its only a matter of time before his mother changes her mind... Keep buying time... hope its for your good. #Peace 1 Like |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Juliusdaughter: 9:51am On May 31, 2020 |
Chicent:Thank you 1 Like |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Juliusdaughter: 9:54am On May 31, 2020 |
Amanee:It's true that I might not be able to wipe the relationship, both of them have been friends before they decided to date until his mum said she cannot approve them getting married because of the friendship between both mothers |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Juliusdaughter: 9:59am On May 31, 2020 |
bukatyne:Thank you. Traditional in the sense that it is the upmost duty of a woman to run the home(cook, clean, laundry), maybe once in a while assistance from the man. I feel as young couple these are things we should be able to do together. And he does not mind me being in charge of the finance(his salary) |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by merieam16(f): 11:02am On May 31, 2020 |
Be careful nd prayerful |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by dominique(f): 11:21am On May 31, 2020 |
Never go into a relationship knowing you were the 2nd option, especially if the first option is still very much available. It doesn't always end in praise 2 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by bukatyne(f): 11:38am On May 31, 2020 |
Juliusdaughter: So he 1. Believes a wife should be solely responsible for the domestic affairs 2. Believes a wife should be in charge of the finances. What are his thoughts about childcare? Decision making? Outlook of the home? etc. Is he fine with a maid? Are you fine with a maid? What do you think about domestic affairs, finances and childcare? |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Nobody: 12:24pm On May 31, 2020 |
dominique:But at the end of the day, someone has to go before we can come in. Except for people that married their first love, there is always an ex before you meet the special person. What if it is genotype incompatibility 1 Like |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Nobody: 2:14pm On May 31, 2020 |
What If his mum changes his mind abt his ex do u think he will choose u over her? Use the Answer to this question to determine ur stand. |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by infogenius(m): 2:26pm On May 31, 2020 |
Op You just have to stick with till you meet his mum. However, it's only on a condition that he wants to marry u, otherwise, find ur way. 1 Like |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by dominique(f): 2:26pm On May 31, 2020 |
rockstarB: Couples going their separate ways on their own terms is totally different from couples who were put apart by circumstances beyond their control. They will still find ways to meet up behind their partners. Dating such person will make you feel like the outsider in your own relationship 1 Like 4 Shares |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Nobody: 3:22pm On May 31, 2020 |
I don't trust that his mother. I have this feeling that your boyfriend and his exgirlfriend have the same biological father. Several mothers stop their sons from marrying certain girls not because of the silly reasons they give but because they have a secret to protect. |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by jgbemson1: 12:07am On Jun 01, 2020 |
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Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Gloriagee(f): 5:14am On Jun 01, 2020 |
Conspiracy theorist J111333: |
Re: "My Mum Does Not Want Me To Marry Her Friends Daughter" by Nobody: 8:05am On Jun 01, 2020 |
How old is the Cos i don't understand how a 27+ years old guy will wait for his mother's decision on who to marry. Like, wtf? So, he's not looking after himself but his mum? Is this the case of a mummy's boy or a scruple? Last last, you go de alright |
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