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Kobicove:
Bb

prince2blinks:
What point are u trying to make....

Preshieben:
with that big head of yours?

PrecioussB:
Just like the title says.
I have noticed, when guys talk about some exs, they will kinda hint that the girls is an addict or crazy, but then after looking into it, I just realised that these guys can bring a lot of it on themselves, oh do they know how much torment not having closure brings on someone. Not knowing why your once beloved girlfriend or boyfriend refuses your calls, why they won't explain or even see you, why they just disappeared can leave you very confused.

The women aren't crazy because they call you all the time, they are probably really desperate to find out the truth, which guys often don't say (though I've noticed that Nigerian guys, tend to just let it out which can be good at times). This feeling is like being stood in front of a brick wall, the truth is on the other side and the ex is the wall who refuses to budge, to even hint what went wrong, so you're left guessing, you can't see the truth and the ex is barely interacting with you too.

WE NEED CLOSURE, EVERYBODY DOES > now that can drive a woman crazy. All the questions roaming through our heads, of 'why did he leave?', 'why didn't he even tell me what I did?', then you start thinking 'Am I that disgusting that he won't pick up my call?', 'was I that bad a girlfriend that he avoids me?' and worst of all 'I don't want to seem psycho or like a stalker, I'm sure one simple phone call to him will sort everything out.', when these get unbearable, you try and call, and he doesn't pick up because little did you know he's so over you and he doesn't have the time, even just a little time to let you get over him.

MAYBE you guys actually don't want us to get over you. Maybe that is why the mess made is left there. Surely if you want us to move on, you will meet up with us, tell us the deal and move on.

GUYS please understand the power of closure, and so what if you hurt our feelings, at least now we can move on and so can you, and you won't need to explain to your new girlfriend that your ex stalks you and such. Ok, ok, I think the stalking is a bit much, but it is just some women are so desperate to find the answers that they will go to some extents, think of it from your point of view.

Your girlfriend of 7 months, just tells you one day that it's all over. Ok, so in the past 2 months she's been slowly distancing herself from you, less phone calls, visits and barely any enthusiasm, so of course, she's prepared herself for the breakup, but you are completely unaware, you think everything is fabulous, you're even thinking about what to get her for her birthday. The birthday comes, and she's all fantastic, you think you two are a match made in heaven, then a week later, she breaks up with you, and of course you're stunned so you don't ask all the questions you want to ask and the questions just float around in your head, you sulk for ages and then after the initial stage of upset, you now want answers, but guess what, she's moved on, she's now got a new guy, your number's been deleted off her phone, and you're calling to ask her why she left you, because you deserve to know, and she just speaks to you like your wasting her time, she is uneasy to talk to you or acknowledge the good 5 months you spent as a close knit couple, and it hurts, in order to move on, you need to know where you went wrong, so it's not too personal, after all it could easily be her cheating ways or wandering eyes. Just knowing this would save so much soul-searching, further heartbreak and just confusion.

Now do you understand the power of closure?? If you don't I will gladly go on and on and on. .

This is just my plea, so you guys give us a break, stop dragging things along, we know you hate confrontation and hurting our feelings, but being left to our own thoughts could actually really affect us, and is far worse for our psyche than being told the truth.

CLOSURE is KEY!

Peace

snitchbitch:
Nigerian girls are not crazy. They are smart and they always go for the best.

You don't have money and you are toasting a girl, what will you give to her? The more money you have the more she loves you.

emmax27:
Lads sha, I got several stories of how my ex left but I'll talk bout one cause hers was painful.

Know her since around 2012 and we started dating around 2013 till like 2017 when one day she chatted me and told me she's done with the relationship, little do I know she was already seeing someone engineering her to end the relationship.

I could remember that night I was in a rehearsal when she broke the news to me that night, I tried calling and asking what I did wrong she just kept saying nothing even tho we had broken up several times and reconcile I just wasn't myself that night


The kind keyboard tire me to just play sef, was praying time would fast forward so I can call her in the morning or perhaps get a text that she was just joking as usual or what ever story she has to say so I can form jagaban and be like stop playing with shits like that.

Omo 2 weeks pass and nothing change, usually outperform quarrel or break up no dey reach one week so I just know yawa don gas.
So I tried reaching her and even apologizing for what I didn't even do, cause this girl was just too fine and can make you look like a king and the only one in her life..

Well as I see say nothing fit come outta fish head I begin accept fate tho I just asked her what my offense was so I could learn from it and be a better bring , well she kept saying nothinh and that was how I died the matter.

Fast forward to 2018 a year after, we begin chat again and started talking bout our life's and all, then I brought up the question, wenti I do wrong? And even invited her to come around sef but somehow that year pass and we didn't see until 2019 when she come find me for house and spent a week or so in my place, she didn't even give me any reason still, only how she met her bf of 2 years she was dating at that time so I use my head calculate when she break up with me and when she start dey date the guy to know she left me for that same guy, so to pay the idiot back I decided to bang her which for straight one week was a marathon even the girl sef start they tell me to come back say she dey willing to leave the guy for me but too bad cause I was in a relationship with someone I cherish so damn much I wasn't gonna lose her for some confuse human being.


But wenti shock me be say when she come she been no ion dey get her brother time or pick em calls cause we dey bleep, and at some point the guy was suspicious so she even promise to dey call the guy five times a day, which she dey do and call him sweet name while I was still bleeping this girl.

Honestly speaking I regret having bleep her cause there was a big price I paid, story for another day tho..


There are some stuffs I skilled tho, but what am I trying to say in excess, I no pursue her for long bugging her life and disturbing her like you said, I left her and after some time she came back so maybe you guys are going bout it wrongly..

See who first break up for relationship no dey feel the pain at first na after sometime wey em don dey miss thing wey una don share together, that's why I would advise girls to always at all time trying new stuffs with their partners cause that memories would go a long way, no be when na just to bleep, like I can't get that with another prettier Barney?

HeavenlyCherub:
They always come back. You can’t keep a good woman down. Once they get bored with their new toy and realize how much of a good woman you are. They regret.

Samiah33:
Really? Can’t you just skip his lane? Before you come after me I am only looking out for a brother

dalass:
Another nonsensical topic

Preshieben:
you must be a very good Brother Keeper

doctore212:
Me I just need 5 Oloshos for my birthday.

You need the three Trinity

FuckTheWorld:
When I finally impregnate you, you'll understand...

emmax27:
Lads sha, I got several stories of how my ex left but I'll talk bout one cause hers was painful.

Know her since around 2012 and we started dating around 2013 till like 2017 when one day she chatted me and told me she's done with the relationship, little do I know she was already seeing someone engineering her to end the relationship.

I could remember that night I was in a rehearsal when she broke the news to me that night, I tried calling and asking what I did wrong she just kept saying nothing even tho we had broken up several times and reconcile I just wasn't myself that night


The kind keyboard tire me to just play sef, was praying time would fast forward so I can call her in the morning or perhaps get a text that she was just joking as usual or what ever story she has to say so I can form jagaban and be like stop playing with shits like that.

Omo 2 weeks pass and nothing change, usually outperform quarrel or break up no dey reach one week so I just know yawa don gas.
So I tried reaching her and even apologizing for what I didn't even do, cause this girl was just too fine and can make you look like a king and the only one in her life..

Well as I see say nothing fit come outta fish head I begin accept fate tho I just asked her what my offense was so I could learn from it and be a better bring , well she kept saying nothinh and that was how I died the matter.

Fast forward to 2018 a year after, we begin chat again and started talking bout our life's and all, then I brought up the question, wenti I do wrong? And even invited her to come around sef but somehow that year pass and we didn't see until 2019 when she come find me for house and spent a week or so in my place, she didn't even give me any reason still, only how she met her bf of 2 years she was dating at that time so I use my head calculate when she break up with me and when she start dey date the guy to know she left me for that same guy, so to pay the idiot back I decided to bang her which for straight one week was a marathon even the girl sef start they tell me to come back say she dey willing to leave the guy for me but too bad cause I was in a relationship with someone I cherish so damn much I wasn't gonna lose her for some confuse human being.


But wenti shock me be say when she come she been no ion dey get her brother time or pick em calls cause we dey bleep, and at some point the guy was suspicious so she even promise to dey call the guy five times a day, which she dey do and call him sweet name while I was still bleeping this girl.

Honestly speaking I regret having bleep her cause there was a big price I paid, story for another day tho..


There are some stuffs I skilled tho, but what am I trying to say in excess, I no pursue her for long bugging her life and disturbing her like you said, I left her and after some time she came back so maybe you guys are going bout it wrongly..

See who first break up for relationship no dey feel the pain at first na after sometime wey em don dey miss thing wey una don share together, that's why I would advise girls to always at all time trying new stuffs with their partners cause that memories would go a long way, no be when na just to bleep, like I can't get that with another prettier Barney?

webizone:
Something about you makes me want to meet you. I also read how calm you were when your brother wrecked your credit card. Just wish we could chat.

Ekejoestar:
So whats your point now? Closure is the key?

PrecioussB:
Just like the title says.
I have noticed, when guys talk about some exs, they will kinda hint that the girls is an addict or crazy, but then after looking into it, I just realised that these guys can bring a lot of it on themselves, oh do they know how much torment not having closure brings on someone. Not knowing why your once beloved girlfriend or boyfriend refuses your calls, why they won't explain or even see you, why they just disappeared can leave you very confused.

The women aren't crazy because they call you all the time, they are probably really desperate to find out the truth, which guys often don't say (though I've noticed that Nigerian guys, tend to just let it out which can be good at times). This feeling is like being stood in front of a brick wall, the truth is on the other side and the ex is the wall who refuses to budge, to even hint what went wrong, so you're left guessing, you can't see the truth and the ex is barely interacting with you too.

WE NEED CLOSURE, EVERYBODY DOES > now that can drive a woman crazy. All the questions roaming through our heads, of 'why did he leave?', 'why didn't he even tell me what I did?', then you start thinking 'Am I that disgusting that he won't pick up my call?', 'was I that bad a girlfriend that he avoids me?' and worst of all 'I don't want to seem psycho or like a stalker, I'm sure one simple phone call to him will sort everything out.', when these get unbearable, you try and call, and he doesn't pick up because little did you know he's so over you and he doesn't have the time, even just a little time to let you get over him.

MAYBE you guys actually don't want us to get over you. Maybe that is why the mess made is left there. Surely if you want us to move on, you will meet up with us, tell us the deal and move on.

GUYS please understand the power of closure, and so what if you hurt our feelings, at least now we can move on and so can you, and you won't need to explain to your new girlfriend that your ex stalks you and such. Ok, ok, I think the stalking is a bit much, but it is just some women are so desperate to find the answers that they will go to some extents, think of it from your point of view.

Your girlfriend of 7 months, just tells you one day that it's all over. Ok, so in the past 2 months she's been slowly distancing herself from you, less phone calls, visits and barely any enthusiasm, so of course, she's prepared herself for the breakup, but you are completely unaware, you think everything is fabulous, you're even thinking about what to get her for her birthday. The birthday comes, and she's all fantastic, you think you two are a match made in heaven, then a week later, she breaks up with you, and of course you're stunned so you don't ask all the questions you want to ask and the questions just float around in your head, you sulk for ages and then after the initial stage of upset, you now want answers, but guess what, she's moved on, she's now got a new guy, your number's been deleted off her phone, and you're calling to ask her why she left you, because you deserve to know, and she just speaks to you like your wasting her time, she is uneasy to talk to you or acknowledge the good 5 months you spent as a close knit couple, and it hurts, in order to move on, you need to know where you went wrong, so it's not too personal, after all it could easily be her cheating ways or wandering eyes. Just knowing this would save so much soul-searching, further heartbreak and just confusion.

Now do you understand the power of closure?? If you don't I will gladly go on and on and on. .

This is just my plea, so you guys give us a break, stop dragging things along, we know you hate confrontation and hurting our feelings, but being left to our own thoughts could actually really affect us, and is far worse for our psyche than being told the truth.

CLOSURE is KEY!

Peace