MrBrownJay1:


until its "your" money that is sent by mistakes to a stranger's account, and then you will be singing a different tune and crying like a lil girl to get your hard earned money back. wrong is wrong however desperate and hungry a person may be!

hey I am not in support of what the lady has done. The bank will be responsible for the money. So who cares. I made a transfer from utako first bank branch to a friend using same first bank in lagos.using atm transfer. The money was not credited to the guy and was not return bank to me for months. I keep filling forms upon forms. That was why I close my first bank account back then. For someone like me that the bank Rob now. Do you think I will return such money.

I will show her the exit door immediately. Integrity is everything.

foreverdiamonds:
She made a mistake, she probably wanted to play a fast one. i will advise you to forgive her and continue with the marriage.

What mistake...she knew exactly what she was doing.....

The bank called she refused to return the money, fiancee asked, she denied....
This one na international tiff, tiff

To those supporting the guy to do away with the lady, do you people have a perfect marriage and many of we Nigerians are criminals just like our politicians. The lady see an opportunity to steal and she get cut, she have apologized and admit her wrong doing which means she is ready to change.
Let your friend go ahead with his mindset if he think the lady won’t make a good wife let her go and if he think she will be a good wife, let her stay.
Even those that are married they do face many challenges but many keep it a secret within themselves and for your friend to expose his fiancé means he can’t be a good husband himself.

Your friend is right.

He should throw the lady out immediately and never allow her back to his life again!

He should thank his God he discovered he was about to make the mistake of his life by marrying a thief.

kalufelix:
True that.. She should have let another ear be a witness not necessarily her man. Maybe she was waiting for the right time... There was a time i was overpaid. I told my close friend this is not my salary... We just went out and drank a few bottles and that was it till today... I am just shocked the way people are calling for her head

The right thing to do is to return the money without a prompt or refund any money overpaid.

However, I understand that this is Nigeria and people throw integrity and morals out of the window when it comes to money.

What shocks me is her blatant denial even when the hubby to be initially called her.

In 2008. I was over paid at a zenith bank branch here in lagos. I didn't even count but i knew that by the time i got to where i was travelling to i would be having 22k left on me as i withdrew 30k. I was entering into Benin when my kin called me to ask if i received extra 10k from the bank. I didn't know so i told him to call me back so i could count the money. I did and there it was, extra 10k. I told him and he asked the branch to debit him while i went to a branch and paid the money into his account. Coming back to lagos, i was in the branch some weeks later when the cashier thanked me for my honesty as his job was on the line had i said "No". If she won't return it then don't proceed with the plan because in the marriage she will not be so truthful to you.

kalufelix:
How much are we talking about here.... Pay excess money enter my account and be waiting for integrity...integrity bawo... Because she is a woman... She even used the mofo as her next of kin... I need to marry that babe. Hypocrites everywhere!

Lool... You don't mean it...

After reading many of the comments above....I now understand why we have the kind of leaders we have..

All honesty and integrity has been lost....see so many lopsided thinking
A lot of the argument people are making here if they are in front of God, can they say these things

integrity my ass

kalufelix:
True that.. She should have let another ear be a witness not necessarily her man. Maybe she was waiting for the right time... There was a time i was overpaid. I told my close friend this is not my salary... We just went out and drank a few bottles and that was it till today... I am just shocked the way people are calling for her head

....Stop supporting evil.


Just for some bottles of beer,you sold your concience?

khalids:

What are you saying.........

The lady keeps begging & crying. Money can be tempting

No one should come and prove HOLY HOLY here on top money matter.

He could pause the wedding plan but cancelling it is proving overrighteousness.

See as God dey do his thing.. God ehhhh you are too good sir.God just use this to give him a big sign to be careful and watch the woman he wan marry..he expose the lady that would have sent him his early grave and he is still contemplating whether to cancel or leave.

Ok you see a strong sign as integrity issue and you wan go commit your life to lack of integrity and laya. She will sell you finish before you realise you've dine and agreed with d devil. No human feeling for the teller who made that mistakes. Except you too are the same. Then continue with the wedding.

This is a special warning in This covid 19, any money not your own please don't touch it.You open your defence for the devil to attack..with the way people are dying everyday everything should be to please our maker , lets be content with what we have..Jesus is Lord.Amen.

If your friend is a nairalander, why can't he write the story by himself abi Whitlow hol am for hand ni

kalufelix:
How much are we talking about here.... Pay excess money enter my account and be waiting for integrity...integrity bawo... Because she is a woman... She even used the mofo as her next of kin... I need to marry that babe. Hypocrites everywhere!

i dey tell u. let him just pass her to real guys, he deserves a slap

Talk it out, if the lady apologize let it slide with strong warning

It's not every offense you break up for

Unless you have major issues with her in the past hence this just single one can be forgiven

If really the guy call off the wedding he is right, but he should still give her a chance to change, Money is not everything to some people, so you better watch your actions, and character in any relationship

yahoo wife. She's a thief actually got her to have mind to do that.
May she receive sense

Integrity goes a long way in life, family, marriage and relationship....Lack of it brings issues as seen above.
Reading some comments here makes me conclude that our politicians are not the only problem our nation is worse off like this.

djojo:
To those supporting the guy to do away with the lady, do you people have a perfect marriage and many of we Nigerians are criminals just like our politicians. The lady see an opportunity to steal and she get cut, she have apologized and admit her wrong doing which means she is ready to change.
Let your friend go ahead with his mindset if he think the lady won’t make a good wife let her go and if he think she will be a good wife, let her stay.
Even those that are married they do face many challenges but many keep it a secret within themselves and for your friend to expose his fiancé means he can’t be a good husband himself.

...A thief is always a thief.

You can go ahead and marry her.

kikero:


Let the girl show fruit of repentance. Maybe things will chage. Maybe not.

You have said it all here.

Cancelling the wedding would only make things worse for the lady.

kalufelix:
You say she is 'hardened' because she moved the funds... I like to use the word 'smart' .... See, all these is because she is a woman... I like the last part of your comment. The money may have intimidated the husband to be and made him insecure typical of nigerian men who like to sit on top of their woman... Forgetting that the babe will support the wedding expenses directly or indirectly from those funds and even beyond...infact she should be dumping that man ASAP...he doesn't want her progress and not worth being her husband.

ut comment shows dt u re a big would never repent thief. i encounter people like u and i wonder who created them

phemmyfour:
You are just like most deceitful Nigerians. Always looking for an excuse to gratify and justify irresponsible act

SMH.

How did I justify her act?

Pointing out a fact in that guys comment does not mean I'm justifying her actions.

Go and learn how to read and comprehend.

[quote author=SSpeter post=91349305]For me integrity is everything! I experience such recently when I sent money to my gf I was expecting her to call that she have seen it cos it was actually a surprise, after waiting she didn't call I called to ask she said no money entered her account, I was surprised cos I was debited n d transaction was successful without hitches, only 4 me to call my bank dey said she was credited I didn't believe den dey sent me the transaction code that I should give it to her to take to her bank if she wasn't credited they can use it to trace it and credit her account cos from their system it was successful maybe it's her bank,
When I now gave her d code she complained of having airtime to call her bank cos she travelled to her village n her bank wasn't close to her village when she came back I ask her to go to the bank she said ok, she never spoke to me about it again until oneday i asked her, she told me that her bank said they credited her but she didn't know how much was left in her account o maybe it actully entered, I said ok but in my mind am done with you, can't deal with ingrates n liars in name of relationship n love jare. She have been disturbing me of ignoring n giving her attitude if she have done anything wrong I should tell her so she can apologise.
As for me am walking away from such girls is less than 2 months we started self & she is already showing her attributes

Imagine useless bank if the person is dead they will never call the next of kin

[quote author=SSpeter post=91349305]For me integrity is everything!
I experience such recently when I sent money to my gf I was expecting her to call that she have seen it cos it was actually a surprise, after waiting she didn't call I called to ask she said no money entered her account, I was surprised cos I was debited n d transaction was successful without hitches, only 4 me to call my bank dey said she was credited I didn't believe den dey sent me the transaction code that I should give it to her to take to her bank if she wasn't credited they can use it to trace it and credit her account cos from their system it was successful maybe it's her bank,
When I now gave her d code she complained of having airtime to call her bank cos she travelled to her village n her bank wasn't close to her village when she came back I ask her to go to the bank she said ok, she never spoke to me about it again until oneday i asked her, she told me that her bank said they credited her but she didn't know how much was left in her account o maybe it actully entered, I said ok but in my mind am done with you, can't deal with ingrates n liars in name of relationship n love jare. She have been disturbing me of ignoring n giving her attitude if she have done anything wrong I should tell her so she can apologise.
As for me am walking away from such girls is less than 2 months we started self & she is already showing her attributes

optm:
Some persons have no issue marrying one without integrity cos they probably are lacking it ( there's compatibility ) . It's obvious your intended wife lacks integrity , the question is, can u deal with such a person as a wife ? It's her person already and hoping for a change that might hardly happen is risky. You have seen the red flag , ask your self if you can manage her if it happens she doesn't change ? If you cannot tolerate dealing with sm1 that lacks integrity, then, you'll be doing yourself much good by calling off the marriage else u'll be miserable in such union. When you re married, that's when you'll see her unleash all she is and you wouldn't be spared from having a taste of her untrustworthiness in her interactions/dealings with you

d guy should call off d marriage , people with integrity can't be hooked to people with out integrity but funny enough there are always a man for everyone , my cousin' wanted to marry a wayward bad girl and d whole family that knows d girl called him to tell him d type of person d girl is , do u know what he answered, he said that he himself is not a good person , that he has done a lot of bad things that it is only d girls type that can stay with him, up till now they are happily married and have 3 children

Environment and friends we keep influence certain decision we make, and we she might have been advised by friends or family who are ignorant of how banking operations work.
Being married and living together changes certain norms and way of doing things/thought through positive influence of your partner.

Don't call off the marriage because of this incident alone, most youth in Nigeria will behave similarly.

Baloranking:
Yahoo fiance.

Return person money na.

It's the girlfriend; not the boyfriend o.

She should leave her and go and marry another harlot.

For her to use him as Next of Kin if the story is true is Priceless.

She is into him and wil give up everything to be his babe.

I will encourage her to return the money and assure her we don't need to be shady to make it.

JONNYSPUTE:
....Stop supporting evil.

Just for some bottles of beer,you sold your concience?

Keep shut and read slowly

kalufelix:
..don't know why i find this your response amusing...the point here is that you don't take what does not belong to you right? I'll give you another scenario this one actually happened for real... Some time ago i used to wash cars for a living so on this particular day this bus (big ones) just came back from work and then straight to car wash...i was supposed to sweep the floor before using water in the course of that i discovered something on the floor wrapped in a black nylon..behold it was currency... I counted.. it was 12K... Obviously it doesn't belong to the driver... My question now is what will mrBrownjay do?

You need to shut it with your lame excuses.

Are you not ashamed to defend this rubbish? That means you are nothing but a poetic thief.

The fact that you're even arguing about it is disgusting.