kunkelhanspeter:
Imagine useless bank if the person is dead they will never call the next of kin

Is that so?

SSpeter:
A friend is calling off his wedding plans because he thinks his girlfriend lacks integrity. They have known for about 3years and he has not complained about her to me or any one.

Problem started when he got a call from the bank pleading with him to tell his girlfriend to reverse/return the excess amount credited to her account when she visited the bank to make a deposit into her account. He called his account officer to investigate the issue. The account officer confirmed that she got excess of what she wanted to deposit and she has moved all the funds to another bank.

She used the guy as her next of kin that was how they could contact him. He called his babe who denied initially but reluctantly agreed when he divulged that the bank contacted him. Dude became angry and paused all wedding plans.

The lady s begging and has cried her eyes out...what do you think? can you compromise integrity...?

I got permission to write about this here incase you think xyz and my friend is a Nairalander!

Your friend is a wise man and needs to stick to his guns. Kudos to him.

chii8:
Waoo... this is huge,you know....most issues in today's marriages gave a warning sign at the beginning but the "love is blind" saga won't let people use their God given common sense.

Na you dey the dp. P.S this is a public chat. You fine. Where in Lagos can I find you?

First of i don't think a bank would call you to reverse any money... I've been mistakenly credited before and when i withdrew the money the put my account on negative

My friend ended a relationship because a lady - whose education he was sponsoring in UNILAG - denied receiving the recharge cards' details sent to her. Turned out she loaded all the cards.

It may not seem like a big deal but integrity is a fundamental requirement in every relationship. And when integrity is lacking, a lot of questions and assumptions are raised - many of them needless but difficult to ignore.

SSpeter:
quite a though decision to make.

Tough

Saintinoo:

Those banks are also robbing us, they hardly return the illegal charges on our account.
If you think you can have an angel as a wife, then try and watch your own life and see if you have no fault.

Bro, Banks do steal actually, but it doesn't justify what the lady did if this story is true. Banks, being corporate organisations would cook up terms & jargons as to why they stole. What would the girl say? Ignorance? Ignorance doesn't overrule the law of nature nor the constitution.

If this story is true.

Then what she did is bad. It's an omen of something bad that may later hit in the future. People shouldn't feel too clingy with money...at all.

SSpeter:
A friend is calling off his wedding plans because he thinks his girlfriend lacks integrity. They have known for about 3years and he has not complained about her to me or any one.

Problem started when he got a call from the bank pleading with him to tell his girlfriend to reverse/return the excess amount credited to her account when she visited the bank to make a deposit into her account. He called his account officer to investigate the issue. The account officer confirmed that she got excess of what she wanted to deposit and she has moved all the funds to another bank.

She used the guy as her next of kin that was how they could contact him. He called his babe who denied initially but reluctantly agreed when he divulged that the bank contacted him. Dude became angry and paused all wedding plans.

The lady s begging and has cried her eyes out...what do you think? can you compromise integrity...?

I got permission to write about this here incase you think xyz and my friend is a Nairalander!

What I think or don't think is immaterial.

Your friend has values which he couldn't compromise on. A good name is better than riches. I have gotten favours because of my parents attitude to people.
That's the legacy they left me.

Your friend intends to build a good name and his girl is a stumbling block to it. Can 2 walk together except they agree?

There are things I can't do such as scam and often wonder how people get comfortable with it. I sleep well knowing I have wronged no man at least consciously and don't expect police to barge into my house anytime for anything.

Op I suggest you stay away from interfering. Dude knows what he wants.

Your wife is like a child that still needs to be trained, teach her what integrity means, preach it to her, pray for her, very ambitious people from poor background are always criminal minded cos they get to hustle their way to the top without support from family, integrity is not in their dictionary o, bt I think God is trying to change her through you, now she's abt to lose the love of her life, I'm sure she's learnt her lessons and will change for good.. please forgive her

That the guy she is marrying asked about and she couldn't open up is a big deal

Might be the girl is Yoruba, Yahoo ruba girl has seen free money.
D guy is igbo, we no take last

kalufelix:
Keep shut and read slowly

....I'm not surprised.Only a thief will support another thief

Your comments here just exposed your kind of person.

You lack intergity and claim being smart while embezzling people's money paid into your account.

Yet you re still poor.

Lovelyn451:
Your wife is like a child that still needs to be trained, teach her what integrity means, preach it to her, pray for her, very ambitious people from poor background are always criminal minded cos they get to hustle their way to the top without support from family, integrity is not in their dictionary o, bt I think God is trying to change her through you, now she's abt to lose the love of her life, I'm sure she's learnt her lessons and will change for good.. please forgive her

Okoto

Lovelyn451:
Your wife is like a child that still needs to be trained, teach her what integrity means, preach it to her, pray for her, very ambitious people from poor background are always criminal minded cos they get to hustle their way to the top without support from family, integrity is not in their dictionary o, bt I think God is trying to change her through you, now she's abt to lose the love of her life, I'm sure she's learnt her lessons and will change for good.. please forgive her

....Can you do all these if it was your husband to be that did it?

Gerrard59:
The story is false.

Questions: which Nigerian bank will plead with a third party to convince a fraudulent person to return excess cash? You mean a Nigerian bank cannot freeze withdrawals from her account? Use BVN to trace accounts she might have in other banks and tell them to do same? Use police through court order to arrest her? They went through a third party pleading? Nigerian bank, plead? How come a Nigerian spinster will use the name of the man she is yet to marry as NoK rather than her mother, father or siblings?

Fake news!

You freeze withdrawals and they take you to court, the thing you have been trying to hide comes out in the open...
Moreso there are processes. Bank manager cannot just say freeze account number XYZ...we are not in a banana republic...

chii8:
Waoo... this is huge,you know....most issues in today's marriages gave a warning sign at the beginning but the "love is blind" saga won't let people use their God given common sense.

Fact

if were to cut short every relationship because of just a single attitude that be manage and be control,we would never get married

But when the owner of an account dies, the next of kin isn't always contacted.

hotdo9:

The bank would collect the money back with any means, its only a matter of time.

Not when i made a cash deposit... Besides the funds will be moved before they realize... Why do you think they had to make contact and plead.

Hope by the time I am reading this post they have gone their separate ways?

Marriage has lots of surprises awaiting you, this one you found out on time, you are toying with the idea to go on or not?

#Fearwomenandmen

which money was it? was the money her own or from fraudulent way?

MrBrownJay1:


do everything to make sure the babe returns the money (even pretend you will marry again, if she does).... then when she returns the money, get rid of this low life thieving woman from your life.

you can already see the type of deceitful demon she will turn into...

let her gain something nah

if this happens and nobody called me, I will definitely keep the money. But if I get contacted I go return am asap

foreverdiamonds:
She made a mistake, she probably wanted to play a fast one. i will advise you to forgive her and continue with the marriage.

It's one thing being tempted by such an amount of money and then trying to play a fast one by keeping it to yourself; that is greed. But when a human being like her calls & begs her to return the money because he made a mistake, and she still refused and instead proceeded to transfer it to another bank account just so that they won't touch it. Then that is wickedness, and goes to show that she is inconsiderate. And then when the person she loves call to ask her about the money, she denies it, until he confronted her with proof. Kai! This one has gone beyond mistake abeg. This is character problem, and in marriage we pray to marry someone with good character.

One of her hidden character been exposed..but over time,I get to believe that most of us have to that kind of intent in our mind if given or the opportunity cross our way..that's human being nature.

Indomie generation,so,because your fiancee of three years refused to return another persons money,she's now a thief and lacks integrity.the action of the girl does not make her a bad person,marriage is a different ball game,women of yore,used half of what they were given by their husband to buy food for their family and use the rest for esusu,but they lead a happy married life,emotion forms the integeral part of a womans actions.You ain't see anything yet,you think marriage is a tea party.

Lovelyn451:
Your wife is like a child that still needs to be trained, teach her what integrity means, preach it to her, pray for her, very ambitious people from poor background are always criminal minded cos they get to hustle their way to the top without support from family, integrity is not in their dictionary o, bt I think God is trying to change her through you, now she's abt to lose the love of her life, I'm sure she's learnt her lessons and will change for good.. please forgive her

Wow......he should train her !!!......what are her parents for ?.if he is training her, who will train their children, or will he be training mother and children. wetin person no go see for nairaland.

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coputa:
Indomie generation,so,because your fiancee of three years refused to return another persons money,she's now a thief and lacks integrity.the action of the girl does not make her a bad person,marriage is a different ball game,women of yore,used half of what they were given by their husband to buy food for their family and use the rest for esusu,but they lead a happy married life,emotion forms the integeral part of a womans actions.You ain't see anything yet,you think marriage is a tea party.

....So what are you implying?

SSpeter:
For me integrity is everything!

Integrity is everything for you and many more hypocritic Nigerians when it has to do with another person and about money, yet almost every of you Nigerians lacks integrity in all spheres of life, marriage, relationship, etc.

He who goes to equity must come with clean hands.

I have never seen a country bereft of integrity like Nigeria which is why they celebrate criminals and have a messed up country. They dont even understand the word integrity.

my conclusion. If he had never sin in that way before (integrity wise) let him cast the first stone, but if he has, let him think deeply again about his decision because every human being has a flaw in one way or the other.

NB: Think deeply... I mean, he should ask himself, has this girl shown in the past that she is such a person and irredeemable?
Does she have a pressing need for money that would have pushed her to do that?
This last question is very important because, if you had ever been a financial mess for so long and seem to have no solution coming your way, you will understand what it means to be in dire financial problem. you could even steal Money kept in a shrine.

SSpeter:
A friend is calling off his wedding plans because he thinks his girlfriend lacks integrity. They have known for about 3years and he has not complained about her to me or any one.

Problem started when he got a call from the bank pleading with him to tell his girlfriend to reverse/return the excess amount credited to her account when she visited the bank to make a deposit into her account. He called his account officer to investigate the issue. The account officer confirmed that she got excess of what she wanted to deposit and she has moved all the funds to another bank.

She used the guy as her next of kin that was how they could contact him. He called his babe who denied initially but reluctantly agreed when he divulged that the bank contacted him. Dude became angry and paused all wedding plans.

The lady s begging and has cried her eyes out...what do you think? can you compromise integrity...?

I got permission to write about this here incase you think xyz and my friend is a Nairalander!

the guy did well God just want to expose her

kalufelix:
still not a near enough reason to cancel a wedding... If your wife or husband cannot partner you in crime who else will...let the teller pay for the mistake and learn a lesson

same way Adam partnered Eve in her crime.

Now, look at where we are today. had it been Adam didn't partner Eve people like you will condemn him. how he never really loved her.

Bottom line I have no sympathy for thieves/Yahoo whether a sibling, wife/husband, father/mother, I will GIVE U UP.