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stanliwise:
I be lag boy o.
But I dey Kwara now

heisdvrkskinned:
Oh! So we'd have stuff to talk about if we're comfortable with each other?

ZINIBANKS:
Ok no qualm bro I hail bad guy's when I spot them it's not a day job to be a bad guy especially in dating game

stanliwise:
Man learnt the hard way o.

heisdvrkskinned:
Dude. I've got no strength to explain what I mean by that. BTW, don't you think that everyone's got the right to do whatever they want? And look, you taking this all left with your unnecessary assumptions. Nobody wan dey go parties . I just wanna learn game, dude. All my life, I've been a good boy. Now wey I don't enter uni, I wan learn game and still be a good boy. If only yk how many girls feels like choking me because of waving them of, when I really don't know how to go about anything.

stanliwise:
Yea infact you don’t have to think while talking it just happens so. But in most initial stage you can and it is advisable you keep chat to a minimum and also leave chat first. Don’t give girl the impression of been jobless to have so much to spend with them. This is different when you guys are committed already.

Freestainworld:
bad boy, you don spoil finish, if you learn game now, you go cause problem, that's by the way, just learn to be confident and composed around ladies, try initiating conversation without slagging down, talk responsible and in the midst of the conversation try talking a little silly, but you must be ready to sacrifice your time for ladies, they like it alot, thank me later.

heisdvrkskinned:
To achieve that comfort between us, what do you suggest I do with a classy stranger?

stanliwise:
start some practical first

heisdvrkskinned:
Lmao!

I swear. The confidence aspect , how do I go about it? like, I'm that shy dude that'd never stand up in class to answer questions even if know them. I don't walk alone in where people are. I prefer going down with someone. Sometimes, I even stay outside when they're people in the LT already. like I can't walk in front of them to go climb the stairs and go up. Because, id be feeling like 2 pac. Yeah - all eyes would be on me. So, you see...? this isn't just about the ladies. but more of me trying to be the best version of myself. biko help

Christiano25:
Bro I’m exactly as the ‘op’ I’m fucking introvert and it’s killing me. I can’t approach any lady. I love the step format you drop and will love you to give me few cue on how to go about it. Thanks

Makaveli217:
Bro I am introvert like you too, but I can hold conversations a with any lady, woman or any body with boldness and courage if I want, but I still love keeping to myself when I feel like.
I guess the fear is not having what to say or fear of being turned down.
Just Have the mind of a soldier, and you'll see its nothing.

heisdvrkskinned:
Lmao! So, true. My cuz was a playa in his 100 lvl days. 2 , sorry * During his 100, he was just one dull boy. When he got to 200 , he became a bad ass somehow and guess what..? Dude became lean due to much looting and all that. Look, I just wanna know how this whole lady thing works, so I get to make the right choice of copping me one. The worst thing that can happen to anyman would be leaving game aside and getting burned by that you truly luv. Why? Because you never took the game seriously. Believe it or not, [b]game helps a lot in finding that best relationship[b] and know how to improve or keeping a relationship.

stanliwise:
day go dark o. But really there is no particular words or steps. As much as you understand what we call social awareness. Any of your behavior are right.
Few of them are.

Talk to girl you like as you would discuss with any random person you are not attracted to.

[b] Don’t ever pretend you don’t like her, show it when necessary [b]

Give her only things she has earn

Don’t ever show a sign of desperation.

Understand social etiquette both for you and her.

Respect yourself as much as you do for her.

Keep an impression of what you want her to see you like and stick to it. Not what you think she likes to see you like.

Do quality talk and not an interview

Do what you think is appropriate and not what you think she likes.

Lastly: Girls can tell from ten miles if your are a novince so don’t act up too much. Do as your body reach

stanliwise:
Yea infact you don’t have to think while talking it just happens so. But in most initial stage you can and it is advisable you keep chat to a minimum and also leave chat first. Don’t give girl the impression of been jobless to have so much to spend with them. This is different when you guys are committed already.

Freestainworld:
try to apply the I don't care attitude when you are in the campus, discuss more with people, I used to to be shy too before but when I got admission those days, it happens that my specialty is full of ladies( BSC in nursing) before you know it I became the ladies man, they will always cluster around me, I will be cracking unrealistic jokes and they will be laughing, I ended up eating free for throughout my stay in school till I graduated, my pocket never ran dry because the pocket money I usually receive from my father will just be there cooling in my account, the ladies bought handout for me too, it's not a magic brother, when you start associating with them more and more, the real nigger in you will surface.

Freestainworld:
try to apply the I don't care attitude when you are in the campus, discuss more with people, I used to to be shy too before but when I got admission those days, it happens that my specialty is full of ladies( BSC in nursing) before you know it I became the ladies man, they will always cluster around me, I will be cracking unrealistic jokes and they will be laughing, I ended up eating free for throughout my stay in school till I graduated, my pocket never ran dry because the pocket money I usually receive from my father will just be there cooling in my account, the ladies bought handout for me too, it's not a magic brother, when you start associating with them more and more, the real nigger in you will surface.

Freestainworld:
try to apply the I don't care attitude when you are in the campus, discuss more with people, I used to to be shy too before but when I got admission those days, it happens that my specialty is full of ladies( BSC in nursing) before you know it I became the ladies man, they will always cluster around me, I will be cracking unrealistic jokes and they will be laughing, I ended up eating free for throughout my stay in school till I graduated, my pocket never ran dry because the pocket money I usually receive from my father will just be there cooling in my account, the ladies bought handout for me too, it's not a magic brother, when you start associating with them more and more, the real nigger in you will surface.

Raymeskey:
I disagree with the bolded
Gaming can't guarantee you of getting a good relationship because after toiling with tens or hundreds of them you will be confused of choosing a right partner which may end up in getting a worst one.
My immediate elder b*o happens to be a bastard player till the extent that he called himself a love charm. He helped his friends to get any girl they wanted but at the end it cost him his life. Because of this I have to reduce mine and ignore most of them now

See women and Satan have something in common when you found out women are coming for you, start running there is something bright about you. The devil will use them to bring you down.

In conclusion I'm not saying gaming is totally bad but it should be done with moderation. One thing I like about gammers is that they take no shits from babes. They treat them anyhow and the funny thing is that they will still run after them.

If you want to be a player make it moderate pls
The lifestyle is full of fun and consequences.

loveyou123:
I use to be like u buh now I don dey upgrade


there is this fine girl in our area dat I use to buy stuffs from her in their shop, I just dey crush on dat girl anyhow

so yesterday I was passing by the shop and decided to at least be friend with her, I branch her place I greet her, she ask me what I want to buy i said I just come to gist with her

as we dey gist u just dey talk about herself her school, her sisters, her plans etc without knowing anything about me cos am new in the area

I later tell I know a lot about her but she don't know anything about me, she ask me wetin I know about her I said 'I know ur name, ur school, ur sisters and I know u are beautiful' u was just blushing anyhow...

later on one fine looking dude come to buy something, the guy wanted to touch some of her stuff she stop him and the guy was like "fine boy like me?" and she said " u no fine reach that guy" pointing at me, I was just blushing inside


we later exchange numbers...... this happened yesterday

Raymeskey:
Nice one
But the opposite of the bolded is my secret, it has helped me a lot. How?
When in a place a pretty lady comes in or I met her, I would pretend as if no one is there, I wouldn't start a conversation but deep down me I like her and I will like us to talking but I wouldn't show it. Others maybe trying to get her attention I wouldn't. After some time or about going I will initiate a conversation by now she is out of plan and I caught her unaware she isn't expecting it. If I ask for contact it comes immediately.

Note ladies hate being ignored especially when they wear their best cloth and make up. Do this at first then later approach her she will be uncomfortable and answer all your request. But you maself go dey package well o

heisdvrkskinned:
So, how fa the you two now?

heisdvrkskinned:
You became the ladies man, how did that happen though?

stanliwise:
Bro you are very right. Prolly I didn’t type it very well.
What I mean is when you approach a girl don’t act like you are not up for relationship and you are up for something else. E.g some guys comes like they want to be a friend or by so the fall into the friendzone.
It is better to come like you wanna know her without being aggressive or any PDA whatsoever, you have to show some attitude that you are on for romantic vibes.
Reason is most girls know that you like dem from day 1 but what most guy do is
1: They pretend like they didn’t come for the cookie.

OR

2. They act aggressive and too predictably by showing weird signal like smiling too much or being so anxious and even requesting for number
.
A perfect style is to approach her in a situation that seem normal and get her attention in a way of not anything related to relationship and so. Show value and leave an Impression and at the end of the day you could have her number or end up having a rapport.

loveyou123:
I don't want to look desperate, so I haven't call her yet

Freestainworld:
brother like I said, it wasn't a magic, ladies like some category of guys in the campus eg the guys with the cash, the good looking guys, the funny guys who they can play with, the composed guys who is not afraid to talk, the problem solvers or the bookworms. I happens to fall between the funny and problem solver, because of that , they are comfortable around me, they talk about their personal problems,I profer solution and also make them happy at the end, don't discriminate any of them cus of background or beauty, accommodate all and give equal respect, don't also be a stingy type, they hate it alot but use ur brains wella

daewoorazer:
How what baba mi?

stanliwise:
If you collect a girls number next thing is just to kind of know each other and do some fun talk.... becareful avoid chat that leads to friendzone o...... That one is another field of its own.

Secondly you must know how to do quality chat and not the interviewer type of chat, you must also understand how much of what to say at each point of the chat.

The format to get a hangout is like “I will like to see you”. Then it shouldn’t be like a real date but a causal hook up is okay.

But truth is any girl who hands you her number is ready to vibe, hangout is okay when you fear she may refuse a date. And it also helps when you have mixed feeling about the person. Hangout exist in many format. I have food and a nice movies I think we can watch it during the weekend is another format.
But before this stage you must have won her trust one kin through chat o. Except she would not come. Meet at an event you too may be attending.

The only importance of chat at the beginning is to build a rapport between you too After this you must get a bit physical except it may die down. The talk plenty jare

paste007:
dm bro, I used to be exactly like you lol same age
Send me a pm

heendrix:
Omg bro where are u based?

stanliwise:
am a lag guy