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| . by Olarewajub: 5:25pm On Jul 12, 2020 |
Source: https://obodiary.com/ 9 Likes 2 Shares
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| Re: . by Professorcplus(m): 5:44pm On Jul 12, 2020 |
Sometimes, I find it very disheartening when you found yourself in a society where they wanted to conform you and your personality to their standard especially when you're fully under their control. I wished I could have that environment where I could freely express myself and thought without having to let it according to how the people wanted to hear but sadly, should I say my voice never count. I was raised in an insane neighborhood, a typical face me house rented by my parents. My parent could not afford television so I had to watch it elsewhere. Maybe, they wanted something better, but couldn't afford it. I was a typical loud child as a result of such environment where neighbours play loud music back to back, a house full of gossip, full of people of immoral deficiency. As a result of these, my mum whom hold a strong belief in her faith made sure I never mix with other "bad child". This was how I spend my childhood with just a few friends. Few years down the line, my few friends left our neighbor and i had no choice but to make out for new friends. I personally developed self decepline as a child even in school but sadly, I have no friend we both share the same interest with. I wanted to conform and be like them but I just didn't always fit in. A generation of astray kid. I wouldn't want to lie, I wouldn't want to steal, I wouldn't want to always do what other kids feel it's good, I felt dejected, I struggle with my pride, I wrestle with my pain, sometimes I feel alone, and I cry. I was just not among. I figured out my environment wasn't just for somebody like me. I was always proud within my peers. Well, I care less. Finally, I find solitute been alone, and I developed my personal interest, independent of the environment. Generally, environment influences people's trait but mastery over ones self. But, I never end there, i am always in trouble, big trouble. Nigeria as we all know is a very religious country. I lived with diversed people with different belief. Sometimes, I felt I was a prisoner. My parent seperated, and had to stay with my grandparents for sometime, I had no choice but to pick their ideology and belief even when it wasn't forcefully. Living a life with a traditional worshipers come with another idea and form of living. I was quick redrawn by my mum whom hold strong faith in SU Christianity faith as a result of her "village people" experience. I had to stay with a very closed friend of her. Its a family whom had a son and daughters within my age bracket and for the first time, I felt among. I openly share my ideas so we had some few things in common. Even when the family was a muslim family I was treated like a son. I felt loved. I was typically smart among the children, I was taught Arabia and taught in the Islamic way. I was quick withdrawn from their family for some unknown reasons. I felt pained, fell sick. No one understands me. I stayed with other family mostly brought up in the SU Christians ways. I was among them but I don't feel among. I made my choice never to become nussience to the society. I have decided to stand out. I will never let my experience define me. I finished secondary school with few friends, entered universities and I just have to be focused, I have my principles, I never follow the crowd. I decided never to do certain things my mates are doing not because I am "God fearing" child. I was made to feel I was missing out, I never let peer pressure overwhelme me. I want to make my standard. Which is why I respect introverts when I see one. I am an introvert and I'm proud to be one. Introvert have great minds and with the right opportunity they change the world. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: . by RoyalBlu(f): 5:45pm On Jul 12, 2020 |
Story of my life!!! There are a few negatives I haven't been labeled with. I blame it on ignorance tho. So I don't dwell on such. But do I want to be someone else? Absolutely no! I'm an introvert and loving every bit of my life. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: . by Olarewajub: 5:14pm On Jul 13, 2020 |
Cc: lalasticala RoyalRoy Seun |
| Re: . by Mumben(f): 7:11pm On Jul 13, 2020 |
Introverts are the most misunderstood people. Growing up for me was kinda different cos I was not that kind of kid that likes mingling a lot. My teenage years were no better as I had very few friends. I am married with kids and nothing has changed and funny enough, amongst my kids, only one is an introvert. The others took after my husband. Within my neighbourhood, people wonder how I am so calm even though I was born and bred in Lagos, I don't engage in unnecessary gossip, I always mind my business and you know people will always misinterpret ur character. What people fail to understand is that we like our personal space, I so much Miss my 'me' time cos of the unending banter of d kids. Do you know from my observation, introverts are very very intelligent set of people, but they usually don't blow their trumpets. Introverts are very patient, d only people that can remain calm in d face of provocation. I am a CONFIRMED introvert and I don't feel sorry. Only an I introvert will b patient enough to read my epistle 4 Likes |
| Re: . by Nobody: 8:15pm On Jul 13, 2020 |
I am the most introverted person I know. 1 Like |
| Re: . by tobechi74: 8:52pm On Jul 13, 2020 |
INTROVERTS ARE THE ONLY GROUP THAT ENJOYED THE STAY AT HOME LOCKDOWN 4 Likes |
| Re: . by WhisperedNoise: 7:19pm On Jul 14, 2020 |
This is a very interesting thread. I'll be back. Surely, I'll be back. 1 Like |
| Re: . by Olarewajub: 7:03pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Squillaci: Haha. Here is a common term used by many introverts. Hope you are a member of the Introvert Lounge? |
| Re: . by BigSarah(f): 9:00pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Olarewajub:Link please 1 Like |
| Re: . by bukatyne(f): 9:15pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
I do not understand the need for people to constantly prove themselves or why they invest so much emotions on what people say/think about them (perhaps except loved ones to a healthy degree). I want to be alone? I stay alone. I want to mingle? I do. I want to stay on NL all day? I do. I want to attend parties back to back? I do. I want to read online novels all day? I do. I want to write all day? I do. In all of the above, would I consider loved ones and strike a bit of balance? Bend backwards to please them sometimes? Or mellow on my own to recharge if I need to? YES. But to write a thesis on how I am misunderstood or 40% like others in the world or wonder why I am different from party jumping and outing Shade? Can't relate. Like a brother said: I make my own rules. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: . by Karlebolu(m): 10:45pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
bukatyne: I could remember when I bombarded their thread with my other moniker few weeks back. They all complain about how they are misunderstood but they fail to ask themselves: who the hell understands extroverts? Many of those people need serious flogging! 1 Like |
| Re: . by Karlebolu(m): 10:48pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Mumben: Man! I so much detest your first line. 1 Like |
| Re: . by Microwhy: 4:26am On Jul 22, 2020 |
Karlebolu:Why? The first line is true bro.. I wish my wife can understand me better. 1 Like |
| Re: . by Microwhy: 4:40am On Jul 22, 2020 |
Olarewajub:That is what my wife want me to do.. Though I planned on working on some of my ways to fill-in-the-gaps. I can admit that mine is a bit extra and I understood her complains. But I wish she can understand that staying alone for an introvert is just like having your favourite meal. 2 Likes |
| Re: . by Unnerve: 7:03am On Jul 22, 2020 |
Microwhy:I find it odd that she married you despite not being comfortable with your introversion. Or did your introversion get worse after getting married? 4 Likes |
| Re: . by bukatyne(f): 8:16am On Jul 22, 2020 |
Microwhy: How did she marry you in the first place? 1 Like |
| Re: . by Olarewajub: 6:47pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
BigSarah: Apologies for the late response. Here is the link to the Nairaland Introvert Lounge https://www.nairaland.com/1830091/introverts-lounge-extroverts-pls-keep 1 Like |
| Re: . by Olarewajub: 6:50pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
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| Re: . by merieam16(f): 11:22pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
Guess i entered d wrong thread...am out. |
| Re: . by Olarewajub: 6:01pm On Jul 25, 2020 |
bukatyne: First of all, this is no thesis. Learn how to use words appropriately. I recommend you read https://obodiary.com/why-using-big-words-make-you-sound-foolish/ The purpose of this content is to create more awareness for introverts who are always seeking for ways to have a genetic makeover to be extroverts. There are a lot of introverts, kids in the world who have no clue why they need to be alone to recharge. For this reason, Susan Cain spent almost a decade writing “Quiet” - a must-read for every parent. She also went on to give a TED Talk. Scentists have been researching to figure the genetic makeup of the introvert brain to know why introverts are different. So far, the results have been amazing. I am an introvert and happy. My goal is to create awareness for parents, introverts and extroverts. Anybody who has a problem with that will have to come and jump on my back. |
| Re: . by Olarewajub: 6:07pm On Jul 25, 2020 |
Karlebolu: Introverts need no flogging. If anybody needs flogging, it is people who mistake introversion for mental illness. |
| Re: . by Confusedgirlie: 6:16pm On Jul 25, 2020 |
Olarewajub:You are really so right. I always feel sad when I see introverts feel bad about themselves and wish that they were extroverts or more extroverted. While that in itself is nothing bad, having ill feelings towards oneself is definitely horrible. As an introvert, I see no reason I should change my personality. I love myself and I feel good about myself. I tell people that I am never alone. There are a million and one thoughts running through my head at every single instance, it is as if I have company every time. No complaints. 1 Like |
| Re: . by Corroro: 7:28pm On Jul 25, 2020 |
This is so true, people think only extroverts can have fun forgetting that you can always have fun even in solitude, like me, once I recharge my phone from my bank with *444#, I can spend the whole day happily just watching movies and videos online. Just because I don't go out to anywhere doesn't mean I'm not happy or catching fun. 3 Likes
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