I am a Proper Igbo Person, so I can talk for only Igbo people here. At least, I know the Igbo Marriage Protocols to a very good extent.
Same protocols may be applicable for the whole of Southern Nigeria, if not the whole of Nigeria, but let me not integrate my findings yet.
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Like I was saying, for proper Igbo persons, there is no need for any marriage proposal..
And this is the blunt truth..
Like, Is it even necessary??
Like Seriously, at what point in the Igbo Marriage Protocols timeline is the marriage proposal supposed to come in so that it would be a big surprise for the lady?
Ooh.. It should be done long before the mention of Introduction?
Then, if the man is serious that he wants to marry the lady, why don't he take the bold step of going for introduction. Or even if he is not ready yet but he has it in mind, he would just tell her “Me and my people are coming to see your people maybe next month or the upper month, so that we can do your introduction”..
Habbaaa!!
If she said NO to the man's intentions, then she will give her full reasons., and both of them would discuss the reasons very well.
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One big disadvantage with marriage proposals (especially public proposals) is that, the lady can say No for no reason and walk away, it may be due to fear, or surprise, or shock, or unpreparedness, or any other reason that is Not the Rejection Of The Proposal, and the man would be so embarrassed, and he would have no time to ask her why she said NO.
Another disadvantage with marriage proposals, is this insecurity issues which most often is the reason some men would rush to propose to a lady when he fully knew that he is not yet emotionally and financially ready to marry the lady in his life, but he wants to have the assurance that the lady would wait, and thus, the engagement ring.. Just look at the name.
It sounds just like Pinning-down Ring.
Anyway, the pinning-down thing, though filled with ideas of insecurity, and most likely necessary for people who are not yet ready or matured enough for marriage, shouldn't be a neccesary protocol for marriage.
In Igbo Land, It had never been, and it still is not.
All these surprise proposals and even romantic and dramatic proposals we see in the news are just people trying to go public with their private life's decisions and events, so that it would trend for the moment they were publicising it..
The point is, any intending marriage that went sour or got cancelled due to the fact that a marriage proposal was not done, or that an expensive diamond ring was Not used in the proposal, or that it was not done in public, or that a special proposal party was not organised for it, then that marriage was never supposed to be in the first place.
Marriage Proposal is such an inconsequential and unnecessary protocol when it comes to marriage in Igbo Land, And it can't be an issue for any reason.

For those that would want to do Very Mighty And Highly Dramatic Marriage Proposals, it is entirely your choice, Just do your thing anyhow you love it..
All I am trying to say is that, It is not a necessity.

This kinda long epistle sha

Well said

Peace666:
This kinda long epistle sha

If this is long for you, then I wonder what you would do when you see long epistles.
Anyway, I got your drift..
My little write-up scattered your paroles.

I am a blunt person anyway.

For my city I have never witness 1 proposal, just impregnate her and everything will be fine... even for bride price they will just be like

since you have accepted the pregnancy my son just bring any amount

Incoherent piece of shit

horlanrewaju11:
For my city I have never witness 1 proposal, just impregnate her and everything will be fine... even for bride price they will just be like

since you have accepted the pregnancy my son just bring any amount

Hehehehe..

Dande55:
Incoherent piece of shit

You can “Coherent” it for me..
Good Day

BluntNigerian:
You can “Coherent” it for me..
Good Day

Mind your business. Simple!

Lalasticlala

Dande55:
Mind your business. Simple!

You should be telling that to yourself.

BluntNigerian:
You should be telling that to yourself.

No! To you. Jobless man

Dande55:

No! To you. Jobless man

I am done with you.
Good Day

BluntNigerian:
I am done with you.
Good Day

Better!

Dande55:

Better!

Marriage Proposal Is Really Not Necessary For Igbo People

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GO AND DIE.!!!!
Haaahahahhhaaahahahaa
Aaaaahahhaahahahaaa.!!!

Thanks for your opinion. Permit me to add few things: my case is quite different because any lady am dating definitely knows it's marriage-centered and she's expecting it. In my beliefs, dating is not sth trivial. Therefore, if I have to propose (well discreetly), it'll be a 'yes yes.'

Make we go see your parent is enough proposal

The one wey dey vex me na the public marriage proposal. Everything is wrong with that stunt, I am yet to see the rationale behind it.

ITbomb:
Make we go see your parent is enough proposal

You got my exact point.
Like, all the surprise proposal stunts are practically unnecessary.

Proposal or no proposal, in public or in private, I'm just glad that some men are finally realizing they shouldn't kneel to give a woman an engagement ring bought with his money, simply because he wants her to marry him in a wedding dress he will buy for her, inside a venue he will pay for. Lol
Then there's also the fact that he may not be the first man to have had sex with her. Sister has probably had at least two other guys who saw, felt, and explored every inch of her body before him.


I'm a numbers guy, quite rational in my dealings, and I'm yet to deduce the simplest reason behind that whole kneeling facade.
Maybe someone can help me.

Unnerve:
Proposal or no proposal, in public or in private, I'm just glad that some men are finally realizing they shouldn't kneel to give a woman an engagement ring bought with his money, simply because he wants her to marry him in a wedding dress he will buy for her, inside a venue he will pay for. Lol
Then there's also the fact that he may not be the first man to have had sex with her. Sister has probably had at least two other guys who saw, felt, and explored every inch of her body before him.


I'm a numbers guy, quite rational in my dealings, and I'm yet to deduce the simplest reason behind that whole kneeling facade.
Maybe someone can help me.

SAVAGE.!!!

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Meanwhile, for the bolded statement, it is a way of making the whole drama more romantic, so as to increase the chances of getting a YES..
You can imagine that.
We in Nigeria copied and swallowed everything hook-line-and-sinker

BluntNigerian:
SAVAGE.!!!

I wasn't aiming for savagery, I'm really just trying to understand the necessity of the whole thing, lol.
And this is why I like your topic, although I don't believe it's just among Igbo people.

I went through those two threads about the men who stood to propose, and the common theme in the responses from females was the same, they want men to kneel.

Why, is what I don't understand.
What should be the motivation behind that sort of display given the Nigerian system of marriage.

BluntNigerian:

Meanwhile, for the bolded statement, it is a way of making the whole drama more romantic, so as to increase the chances of getting a YES..
You can imagine that.
We in Nigeria copied and swallowed everything hook-line-and-sinker

Lol, this photo below was even more romantic.

The man probably gave her the ring on the day of their introduction, and she was the one kneeling... rightly so

Unnerve:

I wasn't aiming for savagery, I'm really just trying to understand the necessity of the whole thing, lol.
And this is why I like your topic, although I don't believe it's just among Igbo people.

I went through those two threads about the men who stood to propose, and the common theme in the responses from females was the same, they want men to kneel.

Why, is what I don't understand.
What should be the motivation behind that sort of display given the Nigerian system of marriage.

Trust me, ladies won't like this very topic.
But I hope we realise soon enough that it is not every nonsense that we have to copy

Unnerve:

Lol, this was even more romantic.

The man probably have her the ring on the day of their introduction

They will soon come to start correcting you.

BluntNigerian:
Trust me, ladies won't like this very topic.
But I hope we realise soon enough that it is not every nonsense that we have to copy

BluntNigerian:
They will soon come to start correcting you.

I have said what I said, who does not like it is on their own.

Unnerve:


I have said what I said, who does not like it is on their own.

How are you doing?


At topic, please leave igbo people alone @op.
And leave women alone too!

When men can kneel down and beg for kpekus, is it this one that's a problem. Una wan emulate oyibo, why complain?
Don't take one and leave out the rest. They said what's worth doing is worth doing well. U broke the code already by buying engagement ring. So complete it by kneeling down to propose .

descarado:

How are you doing?


At topic, please leave igbo people alone @op.
And leave women alone too!

When men can kneel down and beg for kpekus, is it this one that's a problem. Una wan emulate oyibo, why complain?
Don't take one and leave out the rest. They said what's worth doing is worth doing well. U broke the code already by buying engagement ring. So complete it by kneeling down to propose .

Men kneel to beg for kpekus?

This is news to me

descarado:

How are you doing?


At topic, please leave igbo people alone @op.
And leave women alone too!

When men can kneel down and beg for kpekus, is it this one that's a problem. Una wan emulate oyibo, why complain?
Don't take one and leave out the rest. They said what's worth doing is worth doing well. U broke the code already by buying engagement ring. So complete it by kneeling down to propose .

You sound so funny.
I don't want to say stupid.

Proposals and unnecessary wastes in the name of marriage is for simps. Impregnate her and settle the necessary culturally then enjoy your home. Though personally, I am not against whatever anyone does as it suits one but imposing it on another man should be a crime

I am Igbo and I concur with you. The day I told my wife I wanted to marry her, we were both in my room, a few weeks earlier I had already told my mum about her and she said I shouldn't tell her cos She needed to some checks and fact finding, first thing she asked was "I hope she's not pregnant?. I told her she wasn't. Then she went to her community to check and you all wount believe my mum's immediate elder sister was married to the same family. Its been a jolly good ride my people.