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my dear what you said to your sister is not wrong... if her boss didn't create that room for her housemaid, things won't go that way... I was in the same position, as the house maid, I grew up with my aunt, stayed with them for 8 years she is a business and carrier woman, she doesn't have time for her kids, her husband also a career person, so the children grew to love me more,, there was even a time the husband called me " second mummy of the house" , when I left the house, the children couldn't cope, because they are use to me in the house , I had to go back, No one should blame the maid. blame the woman who doesn't have time for children.

Rickmann:
The truth is bitter.. and trust me, u subconsciously hit her real hard with that comment...u spoke well bro.

Thank you so much

astonished:
Your sister is worst than her boss you narrated above.

If I were you and I don't depend on the sister for anything, I will bone her and forget about her even for many years, until she comes back to her sense. I will never apologize to her even if family beg me. If truly your conscience told you you haven't done anything wrong.

That your sister is evil, veageance. I hate people like that, just because of small things

you spoke well . Thanks

adajoe555:
my dear what you said to your sister is not wrong... if her boss didn't create that room for her housemaid, things won't go that way... I was in the same position,

Thank u for this truth

Jack005:
The house help fit don give the man and his kids some thing chop for them to love her exceptionally. Op you did nothing wrong by the way.

Maybe it's because you have never love and cherish someone who is not your relation.
The girl must have been pure and helpful to the little children. Imagine children you carried and play with for years.

desertboom:
The girl must have been pure and helpful to the little children. Imagine children you carried and play with for years.

exactly my point

adajoe555:
my dear what you said to your sister is not wrong... if her boss didn't create that room for her housemaid, things won't go that way... I was in the same position, as the house maid, I grew up with my aunt, stayed with them for 8 years she is a business and carrier woman, she doesn't have time for her kids, her husband also a career person, so the children grew to love me more,, there was even a time the husband called me " second mummy of the house" , when I left the house, the children couldn't cope, because they are use to me in the house , I had to go back, No one should blame the maid. blame the woman who doesn't have time for children.

And they want to crucify me for saying the truth. Thank you

pri4life:
And they want to crucify me for saying the truth. Thank you

You just told her the bitter truth... she should spend more time with her kids... that's the simple truth.

pri4life:
Thank you so much, I wanted to know if I am the only one that See's things the way I saw it here. thanks

You mean the man suddenly suffered a stroke just because his house girl left?

adajoe555:
You just told her the bitter truth... she should spend more time with her kids... that's the simple truth.

God bless you

SavageResponse:
You mean the man suddenly suffered a stroke just because his house girl left?

sorry not stroke but SHOCK

What u said is the truth,but am sorry to say this but your sister is selfish and one thing about selfish people is that they will never agree to their faults..I think she needs help,so I advice u not to turn it to a fight rather try to make her see reasons why she need to spend more time with her family and give them more love, please don't call her a failure cos no one wants to hear they are failures even if it's true and u know there is always room for change to the better...

You said the truth.. Nah im make she dey vex
Her Belle too small to stomach the truth.. In as much as you're not even talking to her directly.. I think she has issues herself

ruffkenny:
What u said is the truth,but am sorry to say this but your sister is selfish and one thing about selfish people is that they will never agree to their faults..I think she needs help,so I advice u not to turn it to a fight rather try to make her see reasons why she need to spend more time with her family and give them more love, please don't call her a failure cos no one wants to hear they are failures even if it's true and u know there is always room for change to the better...

my dear am in for a long thing, the issue have excalated to the extent that she has told my family members that she will have nothing to do with me in this life again. The husband said why should I tell my elder sister that the truth is bitter. That I indirectly spoke to her

Frenzy01:
You said the truth.. Nah im make she dey vex
Her Belle too small to stomach the truth.. In as much as you're not even talking to her directly.. I think she has issues herself

she said I insulted her by using the word ' the truth is bitter' that I indirectly spoke to her. This matter don carry plenty load

So your sister finally accepted that she is as culpable as her friend too?
Are you the last born of your family? How come that your sister is mad at you for saying a harmless truth to her face?
This incident reveals the type of personality she is.

Anyways, you can make peace reign if you want. How?
Tender an apologia. An apologia is different from apology. You are tendering an apologia not because you said anything wrong but because you want peace to reign. If you love your sister, win her back. Ask mom to speak to her or any of your siblings that she succumbs to but then maintain your innocence that you never had her in mind when you condemned her friend.

She is bitter because she is in the same boat that carried her friend too.
Do you love her kids?
Do you want your sister and her family to still come close to you?
Fix it now.

But if you can survive without them and you care less, 'bon voyage!'

NobleDeSage001:
So your sister finally accepted that she is as culpable as her friend too?
Are you the last born of your family? How come that your sister is mad at you for saying a harmless truth to her face?
This incident reveals the type of personality she is.

Anyways, you can make peace reign if you want. How?
Tender an apologia. An apologia is different from apology. You are tendering an apologia not because you said anything wrong but because you want peace to reign. If you love your sister, win her back. Ask mom to speak to her or any of your siblings that she succumbs to but then maintain your innocence that you never had her in mind when you condemned her friend.

She is bitter because she is in the same boat that carried her friend too.
Do you love her kids?
Do you want your sister and her family to still come close to you?
Fix it now.

But if you can survive without them and you care less, 'bon voyage!'

Pri4life here is what u need to do.

Good advice,I think u should follow the path of peace and apologize to her for using the word truth is bitter okay..

NobleDeSage001:
So your sister finally accepted that she is as culpable as her friend too?
Are you the last born of your family? How come that your sister is mad at you for saying a harmless truth to her face?
This incident reveals the type of personality she is.

Anyways, you can make peace reign if you want. How?
Tender an apologia. An apologia is different from apology. You are tendering an apologia not because you said anything wrong but because you want peace to reign. If you love your sister, win her back. Ask mom to speak to her or any of your siblings that she succumbs to but then maintain your innocence that you never had her in mind when you condemned her friend.

She is bitter because she is in the same boat that carried her friend too.
Do you love her kids?
Do you want your sister and her family to still come close to you?
Fix it now.

But if you can survive without them and you care less, 'bon voyage!'

pri4life:
she drops her children in my house since covid started, and this morning my mum said she and her husband have made arrangements on where they will be keeping them for now. I am just disappointed in my elder sister's actions

oh

I have a clearer picture of what is happening now...

Your sister has vexed niyen o

astonished:
The bolded is what I hate to hear, say what? Nobody is immune from wrong doing, stupidly or bad behaviour in respective of age, and you claim the younger one should apologize for wrong of elder.
This is nonsense

I don't support it o

I am just saying it's a norm fur our parents

NobleDeSage001:
She is bitter because she is in the same boat that carried her friend too.
Do you love her kids?
Do you want your sister and her family to still come close to you?
Fix it now.

But if you can survive without them and you care less, 'bon voyage!'

Thank u so much. Yes I am the last daughter second to the last

You are most welcome.

This could be the reason why she is reacting this way. Her lil' kid sister should not have indirectly told her the bitter truth.

Show her some love and win her back.

You were too blunt, the aim is to advice her and not to make her feel guilty. You could have told her that the girl has stolen her role as the love provider of her family and simply tell her how to win them back

thymm:
You were too blunt, the aim is to advice her and not to make her feel guilty. You could have told her that the girl has stolen her role as the love provider of her family and simply tell her how to win them back

it was not about her to, we were talking about her boss and she took it personal. The message was not for her.

NobleDeSage001:
You are most welcome.

This could be the reason why she is reacting this way. Her lil' kid sister should not have indirectly told her the bitter truth.

Show her some love and win her back.

remember that it was her boss I directed the words to, and she took it personal and when I saw how angered she was I asked her why she is angry and bittered about what I said ,she said she saw herself in it because she is working also. And I told her wither she likes it or not I will not because of her change what I said about her boss. That was it.

I understand that you feel let down by her reaction but stay calm and do the needful.
Win her back. You are doing this not because you are wrong.

I hope no one else is putting blames on you? They ought to understand that you meant no harm to your sister.

NobleDeSage001:
I understand that you feel let down by her reaction but stay calm and do the needful.
Win her back. You are doing this not because you are wrong.

I hope no one else is putting blames on you? They ought to understand that you meant no harm to your sister.

yes , no one else. Thanks a lot. She and her husband have taken their children and have gone there separate ways. It's okay.

You are most welcome.

Perhaps, this was just a way for you to be relieved of unnecessary headache that may arise from her kids staying with you. God may just have saved you from something imminent.

Stay safe, stay strong and good luck.