thedarkfuzz:
Ekaso y'all. I'm an American white guy married to a wonderful Yoruba lady. We live in America.

My wife is travelling for work 4 days out of 7 the last two weeks. When she came home last week, I put on a suit and took her out to a fancy restaurant to let her know how incredibly happy I was to have her home.

This week, I want to surprise her again - she's expecting the suit, so I thought I might go with my buba and agbada instead. I have one from our wedding and another that she bought me for general fancy occasion wear.

I've only ever worn this kind of dress to local events with lots of Nigerians (birthday party, wedding) and once to a friend's wedding. I haven't ever used it for something like a dinner date. I have a general sense (from growing up here) of when it's right and not right to put on a suit, but I have no clear idea of what occasions are ok/not ok for a buba and agbada.

Should I pick up my wife at the airport tomorrow for a dinner date in Nigerian formal dress?

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Chii59:

Who's my brother and who's naked? Stop this pepper body jare.

Jaqenhghar:

Coon! Stop projecting your lack of self esteem on others. You are the ones singing the praises of the man because he is dressed in Nigerian attire. With the millions of inter racial marriages that have veen happening this is still news to you. You for kuku declare public holiday nah. Villager

Mo3891:


Your insult and agitation only points out facts I stated about your esteem issues and probably lack of love and good up bringing..

I see no reason to hate a stranger or get bitter about love

I still ask you incase you are sensible and reasonable enough to point out just one comment, or in this case my comment I directly or indirectly sing praises of interracial marriage




.

kingreign:


Saddists and hater!

thedarkfuzz:
Ekaso y'all. I'm an American white guy married to a wonderful Yoruba lady. We live in America.

My wife is travelling for work 4 days out of 7 the last two weeks. When she came home last week, I put on a suit and took her out to a fancy restaurant to let her know how incredibly happy I was to have her home.

This week, I want to surprise her again - she's expecting the suit, so I thought I might go with my buba and agbada instead. I have one from our wedding and another that she bought me for general fancy occasion wear.

I've only ever worn this kind of dress to local events with lots of Nigerians (birthday party, wedding) and once to a friend's wedding. I haven't ever used it for something like a dinner date. I have a general sense (from growing up here) of when it's right and not right to put on a suit, but I have no clear idea of what occasions are ok/not ok for a buba and agbada.

Should I pick up my wife at the airport tomorrow for a dinner date in Nigerian formal dress?

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Mgtowmonk:
old mama.. how are your eggs doing?
Do you still make any at all or they are all dried up?

Ejlove4u:
how is this one news?

Sirapretty870:
Is like na white I go marry, white guys see me o...
Carry on....

Sirapretty870:
Is like na white I go marry, white guys see me o...
Carry on....

Jaqenhghar:

Meanwhile if a Nigerian wore agbada to go see his wife you wont call ot gangster you will call him a fool

Mancala:
Ekaso y'all? That's straight up gangsta dude . JK, kudos on making an effort to speak the lingo.
If your intent is to please/ make your wife happy, only you can answer the question. But I can give you some practical tips to help you figure this out. First, the full native wear comprising of the buba (shirt), sokoto (trousers) and agbada (flowing wide sleeved robe) is equivalent in formality to wearing a three piece suit (if you're old school) or just a regular 2 piece suit. But there's a further twist to it. The type of material the native wear is made of also determines the degree of formality. In general (old school thinking), the "Ankara" material would be at the lower end of the formalilty spectrum whilst "aso oke" would be at the higher end of it. But these days, there are real fancy Ankara materials that could pass for formal.

My questions for you are thus: How did your wife react to your wearing a suit to pick her up at the airport and going directly to a fancy restaurant? Do you think she may have felt underdressed or wanted to change out of her travel clothes to match you? Did she enjoy the experience? If she did, then go for it with the Nigerian clothes. But this time, bring her a change of clothes, perhaps bring her matching Nigerian outfit so y'all are both dressed up. You may also up the ante and research a good Nigerian restaurant in your neck of the woods. Call ahead and have them prepare her favorite Nigerian dishes. I am yet to meet a Nigerian in the diaspora who does not miss Nigerian food! Lastly, if you've had any experience wearing an agbada, you know that it takes a certain level of Pizzaz to pull it off effectively. It's really not suited for the tasks of fetching luggage and rolling or carrying any distance through the airport, especially if its of the "aso oke" variety. Feel free to leave the agbada in the car and wear only the buba and sokoto if that makes it easier to go get her. Good luck and let us know how it went. We're rooting for ya

One last thing. Some folks have strong sentimental feelings about their wedding outfits and may not want them worn anyhow. Figure this out first that your wife will not go nuts if you wore your wedding attire out to pick her up from the airport. Maybe go with the non wedding attire?

Coldfeets:


That one concern you.

People will always be wasting time doing nonsense.

Every week you will be changing your dress up just because you want to surprise her.

For how long do you intend to keep on doing that?

Whether you wear suit or you decide to wear traditional, it is still just dress at the end of the day.

No need for all these useless grandiose displays of "romantic" gestures.

That's my point.

kingreign:

Mehn you must be so silly to had commented in such negative vibes to me.

I am an African and I wear my traditional attire alot so go to hell.

Jaqenhghar:

Truth hurts. Go sit your white worshipping, coon ass dow somewhere

kingreign:

His life, his clothes, his spouse. Not your frigging biz! C'mon why you worked up cos someone is trying to please and surprise his spouse? Go get a life and stop bringing such negative vibes.

Tufiakwa!

Spits!

Coldfeets:


This is how stupidity propagates...

It's his life, his clothes, his spouse... and before you know it, another idiot copies it from him just like he must have copied it from another idiot... and before you know it, it becomes the standard and even people who cannot afford such or have time for such frivolities will be forced into performing such useless rituals all because some idiot wants to be seen as being romantic.

Total balderdash!

kingreign:

Whatever!
Honest truth is this,
You're nothing but a low life hater, quit before you die of all the bile and hate poisoning you're accumulating in you.

thedarkfuzz:
Ekaso y'all. I'm an American white guy married to a wonderful Yoruba lady. We live in America.

My wife is travelling for work 4 days out of 7 the last two weeks. When she came home last week, I put on a suit and took her out to a fancy restaurant to let her know how incredibly happy I was to have her home.

This week, I want to surprise her again - she's expecting the suit, so I thought I might go with my buba and agbada instead. I have one from our wedding and another that she bought me for general fancy occasion wear.

I've only ever worn this kind of dress to local events with lots of Nigerians (birthday party, wedding) and once to a friend's wedding. I haven't ever used it for something like a dinner date. I have a general sense (from growing up here) of when it's right and not right to put on a suit, but I have no clear idea of what occasions are ok/not ok for a buba and agbada.

Should I pick up my wife at the airport tomorrow for a dinner date in Nigerian formal dress?

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thedarkfuzz:
Ekaso y'all. I'm an American white guy married to a wonderful Yoruba lady. We live in America.

My wife is travelling for work 4 days out of 7 the last two weeks. When she came home last week, I put on a suit and took her out to a fancy restaurant to let her know how incredibly happy I was to have her home.

This week, I want to surprise her again - she's expecting the suit, so I thought I might go with my buba and agbada instead. I have one from our wedding and another that she bought me for general fancy occasion wear.

I've only ever worn this kind of dress to local events with lots of Nigerians (birthday party, wedding) and once to a friend's wedding. I haven't ever used it for something like a dinner date. I have a general sense (from growing up here) of when it's right and not right to put on a suit, but I have no clear idea of what occasions are ok/not ok for a buba and agbada.


Brother I advise you wear one of those fancy ocassion dress she bought for you when you go pick her up. she's gonna appreciate it trust me
Should I pick up my wife at the airport tomorrow for a dinner date in Nigerian formal dress?

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