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Reverend fathers actually have significant qualifications. You can find reverend fathers in all fields. Reverend sisters too. Some are PhD’s, accountants, lawyers, engineers and counselors. I think they get training to counsel people. I personally will advice you to seek a professional counselor and separate your marital issues from your church life.

Sanchez01:
Counsels and advice are largely dependent on one's experience in an area. A Reverend Father, SHOULD NOT BE SEEN CLOSE TO MARITAL COUNSELLING. Marital issues are as sensitive as they come.

Just it is out of place to invite a reverend father to a relationship/marriage seminar to talk to couples and potential couples, the same applies to personal counselling.

When it comes to marital issues, it is simple and straightforward because you can't give what you don't have and you can't share experiences when you have none.

At best, a reverend father can only talk about what the Bible says and not what he thinks or feels. People with broken marriages are unfit to advice those who are married on what to do and how to live, let alone one who has never been married.

Reverend fathers are not like useless pastors that go to bible school for 6months and climb pulpit. They are qualified professionally in counseling. They are very educated and go through rigorous trainings for many years.

Those trainings continue till they retire. Many have high level of professional qualification as the church sponsors them to study. Some on scholarship. I know a reverend father that is a doctor and a nun that is a chartered accountant. The only thing is they use their skills for the church!

I will rather go to a native doctor who has many wives.

Wetin old bachelor Sabi for inside marriage.?

Kiddo01:
I've been thinking about this and so I decided to bring it here.

A friend of mine has been having issues with his wife for some time now. He said that the Parish Priest has advised both of them but without positive result.

But I keep wondering, is it that both parties do not want to settle their differences or is the reverend father actually giving the needed council? Is the reverend father who has not married before qualified to give advice on marital crisis? What do you think

Is it all married persons that are qualified to give good advice on marital issues? The truth is a Rev Father that spent almost 10 years in Seminary is qualified to give advice on marital issues.
I have seen singles advised married men and women correctly. Wisdom can be acquired in various form and marriage is dynamic, you cant use what works in your marriage as a principle.
The basic principle in the scriptures that makes a better and peaceful home is in Ephesians 5:24-25

"Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her..."

You will agree with me that if a woman submits in love to her husband and the husband love the wife whether she submits or not there will be little or no problem.

Paul that wrote almost the verses of the scripture was unmarried yet he spoke expressly on marriage thru the help of the Holyspirit, my believe on marriage counseling is not base on residual knowledge or how old u are in marriage, most time we have some single who are more mature than those u call married one at time

This is a very good question and a food for thought

The concept of marriage was developed by God in the book of Genesis 2 verse 18

An experienced Man of God, though not married may be qualified to advice on marital issues as led by the Holy Spirit and the Word of God.


On the other hand, how does an Estate developer who does not have house of his or own give professional advice on Estate development?

Charleys:
It's very hard to meet a Reverend father and get marital advice from him.

I believe you are referring to meeting a priest.

A priest is qualified to give Marital advice. Priests study a lot.

Oga, leave studied first...
Marriage is s not studied on pages of books.
Marriage is better studied through first hand experience.

SoftP:
Since the couple Knew they have issues, why not settle it amongst themselves’ must they involve 3rd party ‘

I so believe couple who table their matters before other persons for judgement are not mature for Marriage

Very true...
One pastor near crashed my marriage that year.
Yesterday I and my wife remembered the issue and laughed over it .


We settle our issues you trough discussion and praying about it.

victorazyvictor:
Every answer is in the bible he has been reading, he must not have experience before giving advice.

Bros, forget that thing o
The Bible is our guide,I know.
But, using just the Bible for marriage counseling would be teaching just theories. it can never be the same as one who has marital experience.


I'm saying this as a pastor sir

Charleys:
What about doctors who treat diseases that they haven't had before, will it not make sense that only people who have had the disease should be able to treat the disease?

Like meeting a dentist that had never had a toothache

Your opinion is flawed.

can u compare the behaviour of diseases with that of human being. My dear they are 2 different things entirely.

There is no better adviser than the holy spirit and the couple. Because finally na each of us know how the shoe dey pain am. But if the priest advices and it does not work it is not his fault. Is almost like faulting a pastor for wedding a couple and the marriage later breaks down.

dokyOloye:
A doctor might never have experienced toothache but can understand and treat it based on intense studies and complains from other patients.
Rev fathers are highly educated and trained in such things, na 10-11yrs be senior seminary.
Many are certified guide and counselors.

but he can never know how tooth aches.

NaijaFutbol:
If Jesus and the unmarried apostles were qualified why not?

Anyway, Nigerians should always give to Ceaser what belongs to Ceaser. If the problem between the spouses are legal or non-religious, they should be seeing a marriage counselor or legal advice.

Thanks

Did Jesus ever give marital advice in the Bible?
Please, help me with one example.

Don't forget that Peter was married o.

Charleys:
It's very hard to meet a Reverend father and get marital advice from him.

I believe you are referring to meeting a priest.

A priest is qualified to give Marital advice. Priests study a lot.

So what's your point? Is a revd father not a priest?
Yawns

Kriss216:
Singles give the best marital advice.

As a political science student trying to teach biochemistry

victorazyvictor:
For Hadiza

Who isHadiza?

victorazyvictor:
For Hadiza

Who is Hadiza?

Danniedpastor:
Very true...
One pastor near crashed my marriage that year.
Yesterday I and my wife remembered the issue and laughed over it .


We settle our issues you trough discussion and praying about it.

Shikinah’

Misunderstanding is bound to happen in every marriage, bringing in 3rd parties is just a sign of irresponsibility.

did Jesus or his apostles including Paul need any qualification to give marital advice.answer that and you answer your questions.

[quote author= post=93380419]Talking from experience about one of us @[b][/b] that is into Marriage counseling,
This is what she has to contribute to the topic.....

These are some of the advantages of Marriage counseling...
It helps build a solid, biblical foundation for marriage.
A lot of time is spent in Scripture looking at how biblical ideas apply to marriage.

It helps couples begin a dialogue.
Topics like communication, finances, sex and parenting need to be discussed before marriage.

It points out areas of concern in the relationship. No relationship is perfect.
Potential problems, conflict and struggles should be addressed.It preserves couples from temptation. 

Getting engaged can result in couples rationalizing premarital sex.
Premarital sex and other temptations need to be discussed.It prepares couples for the marriage, and not just the wedding day.
Couples can have a tendency to focus on the wedding day and not on the marriage.

An important part of premarital counseling is getting the couple to have serious conversations about their upcoming marriage.
Marriages are filled with common problems that most couples experience, and each couple has certain strengths and weaknesses that require a certain approach.

Premarital counseling explores each person’s faith and history.
It helps the couple examine personal convictions, expectations for their future and responsibilities they will have.
More than anything, premarital counseling aims to produce a marriage that is biblical and God-honoring.


This is our contribution to the topic,
About Reverend Fathers Qualification,
We leave other members to Comment on that!

We Rise![/quote]Well said

At some points, he has to use himself as a reference. So, he's not supposed to

Kiddo01:
I've been thinking about this and so I decided to bring it here.

A friend of mine has been having issues with his wife for some time now. He said that the Parish Priest has advised both of them but without positive result.

But I keep wondering, is it that both parties do not want to settle their differences or is the reverend father actually giving the needed council? Is the reverend father who has not married before qualified to give advice on marital crisis? What do you think

Absolutely not, logically speaking.

Just like a Doctor can give a sufficient advice about high BP or the likes without having had it, so also can a priest give advice on marriage without having married.

You will be surprised the number of marriages that re succeeding today because of Rev Fathers.
Some older ones might HV handled marriage cases of up to 500 in their sojourn...