When I met my wife she said that she wanted a non sexual relationship because of the past bad experiences she had when with her ex boyfriend. I was fine with that because I had been with so many girls in the past and I already had a child with one of my ex but we broke up because she traveled abroad . I was ready to settle down so I told her it’s fine by me I love for real and I am not after her for sex , I want to settle with her.

During courtship we had never been alone she always visited me with her friends and most of the time we used to meet in public places she wanted it like that to avoid temptation . I have tried before jokingly demanding her for sex but she bluntly refused. But I was surprised on valentine day 2013 she came alone without her friends , she wore a seducing dress exposing her breast unlike her because she had never wore something like that before immediately she entered she sat on my lap and started caressing me and everything was like a dream to me .

I then asked her why she suddenly changed her mind , she said she have seen how happy I made her ever since she is been with me so she has decided to have sex with me but she said I should promised her that I will never dump her after sex for another woman. I have told her I cannot do such and will never dumped her because if I only wanted her for sex then I wouldn’t have stayed with her for a year and 6 months when there is other women out there who willingly would have given me the sex but I didn’t go after them


Because I love and want to spend the rest of my life with her . We had sex and continuing been having sex then in May 2013 She told me she was pregnant , I was so excited even though I didn’t want any pregnancy before marriage but I have accepted my responsibilities and we started planning for our wedding , we did our traditional marriage 3 months before she was due she gave birth to a baby girl in November 2013 and our white and court wedding was the following year. To cut the long story we have 4 children together plus the 1 From my previous relationship making them 5 but I have been doubting whether my first child with her is mine , the reason why she looks exactly nothing like me or her mother, my wife and I are both dark skinned same as our other 4 children they are all dark skinned and looks exactly like my wife and I and my first daughter from my previous relationship is my carbon copy but my first child with my wife she is fair with beautiful curly hair like a mixed race Indian which I believe she is my wife ex boyfriend child , I saw her ex pictures before on Facebook he is fair mixed race ,his mother is Indian mother and Nigerian father my daughter looks exactly like him .

I saved his picture on my phone and mix it together with my daughter picture , and I went around asking strangers if they could see any resemblance of him and the child , I lied to those strangers that my daughter was my niece and the guy has been denying her and everybody that I asked has confirmed that the resemblance is so much that he is her father. My heart is broken in pieces because I loved my girl
So much she is the most loving and caring child , she is always with me when I am
Home she love spending time with me , the first thing she does when she wakes up she will come to my room to ask if I am fine.

I remembered when I had an accident at work I broke my wrist she was always there for me asking daddy how are you feeling today , do you want me to
Make something for you to eat and she is always in the kitchen helping her mother to prepare food for me , out of all my children she is the most caring one even my first daughter at 15 she is not that caring .

It break my heart to know that she is not mine that I have been raising someone else child for 7 long years it pained me so bad that she is been lying to me all those years and I strongly believe the reason she has agreed to give me sex was because her ex has gotten her pregnant then dumped her so she came to have sex with me when she was already pregnant so she could set me up for her pregnancy which is not mine. I hate her for doing this to me which I think I will never forgive her, I wouldn’t mind if she was a single mother when I met her because I was also a single father , I would have happily married her with her child but for her to set me up with a pregnancy which is not mine and for 7 long years I have been raising her child believing she is mine I don’t think I will ever forgive her .

I know that I haven’t done any DNA test yet to be sure if she is mine or not but asking strangers was enough proofs for me to confirm my suspicions. For the past few days now I have been treating her and her child differently every night when I get home from work I will buy snacks for the other 4 kids without buying for her child and when she comes to my room I will kick her out , I know I have been hurting her feeling badly for her to see how her dad has sudden change towards her but I just can’t help it because I don’t know why the love I had for the child has disappeared , as for my wife I hate her even more I see her as a betrayer , I have been avoiding her and have been sleeping in the parlour which she is been wondering about the sudden change in me but I am waiting for the right time to come so I can spill the beans and only God knows what will happen after .. I am at loss . I don’t know what advice you can offer me because I don’t have anyone else to turn to. Please forgive me if I made some mistake grammar and vocabulary

This was really wicked of her to do if it comes out true. .
First you need to call and have a talk with your wife. How will she know why you suddenly started the resentment.

Stop being harsh on the girl, she didn't ask to be born.
If you love her make moves to adopt her so nobody will drag her with you. This is after contacting the said biological father. But if you don't want her you are still right.

Fathers are not only biological!

What has the lil girl done wrong?

You should channel your bitterness to the apporpirate quarters.

You want to seek our approval before go for the DNA test? better use your head

Regardless of the outcome of the test remember its not the fault of the child

Oh

Stop treating an innocent girl bad...settle ur mata with ur wife and if u feel betrayed..call it a quit.

I don't know why some people just blatantly hate peace, my child, her child, their child. Oga leave that story and continue to train the child, who knows who will be help to you 2mro.
Listen, one day we will all pass on, the story of my child, my money and my estate will be gone. Just be a reason why some one is happy today.
This life is too short, to want to kill yourself on someone's mistake.

When you spill the beans please share with us the truth.......

And lastly free the innocent child and love her like ur own child

Bro don't blame the child continue loving the child. It's not the child's fault. But please and please do a DNA test just to avoid stories

she is black in complexion.
you are black in complexion.

she gave birth to her first kid.

the first kid is fair in complexion..

you should have taken action immediately she was born. abi you no see the odds when the kid was born?

ask her, and see her reply...or do DNA test.

the only thing I can do if I were you, I will send the kid back to her real father.

I can't raise a kid I didn't born blindly..

what if after raising her, her father comes back one day to claim the kid?

stop treating the baby harshly please, non of these is her fault. Whether you're her biological father or not, she is your daughter and you should treat and love her as one.

you need to be absolutely sure before making such accusation.

Why treating an innocent child bad. Do u kno if God brought her into ur life for a purpose? U said it all that she cares for u more than ur children.So why nt take care of her,atleast people adopt and care for other people's kids

I understand ur wife made a terrible mistake and it will be quite difficult to forgive her buh dont bring in ur kids into the situation

I advice u try settle with ur wife nd get a DNA for proof

That child accepted you as a father so take her as a daughter. Blood doesn't always make us family. The mistake of you and your wife shouldn't be passed down to an innocent child.


That is all I know. People who know better will come

It could be really hurting to make such accusations and it turns out to be false, she may in turn never forgive you. So if you could go for DNA test to be certain before such confrontation would be best, physical resemblance is not enough proof. And please don't mess up the life of that little girl, could you please be more matured in handling the situation even as much as it hurts

Why don't you confirm first via a DNA test before taking any drastic action. What if the test proofs she's yours. You would've caused a lot of damage to your family.

Another fake story.

Fair skin, curly hair. Her ex is Indian indeed.

LadySarah:
Can you paragraph your story?

First you need to call and haveca talk with her.

Stop being harsh to the Gil, she didn't ask to be born.

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LadySarah:


Lol.
My baby pressed submit.

I will answer u o... But quick question : how many fathers are you?

Unless I read your heading incorrectly, I hate being high when I'm not.

Please go for DNA test to be certain she's not yours, but what ever be the case, please remember d poor innocent baby is a victim like u. I know d pain can't be compared to anything right now.

Confront your wife once and for all. I just feel for the poor baby, she would be wondering what could have happened to her once lovely and caring Dad, she wouldn't be able to ask u wether or not she offended cuz she's little.
Oga I know it's not easy but don't display any hatred towards the baby.

As an adult put yourself in the little one's shoes. Please still treat her with love like others no matter what. Let the memories of u in her life be a positive one even if you divorce d mum as a result of dis issue.

Oga u bought things for others and u excluded her, u are not nice too, for Pete sake she's just a child who doesn't even have any idea of what you are going through.
But wait, what if at the end she ended up being your very own daughter? U will regret dis mistreatment to the child.
Please try to do the test. If d result turned out to be what you already suspected, na u know wetin u go do d woman but Sha no kil am. Don't let the innocent baby know she d cuz of everything.

If i Were you, I'll secretly run a DNA test on the child. If the result confirms that the child isn't mine, I'll send the lady away but keep the child and care for her like mine. She didn't ask to be born and I believe all children should be cared for.

1... please kindly grow up and stop making that little girl sad... U have a kid from your previous relationship yet you think it's proper to buy stuffs without buying for an innocent little girl.. Do u think that was nice?

2... Go and carry out a DNA test... I have watched paternity court programme long enough... Do not Base your assumption on people's theory..

3... If the kid is indeed not your daughter, Then you talk to your wife. Voice out your displeasure over the deception.. what she did was an abominable act.. U can still forgive her for your children's sakes.. it might be annoying but forgive.. Even if that girl is not yours, learn to treat people nicely..

Please treat the poor girl with love, you are hurting her.. And I don't think you need anyone's permission to go for a DNA test, afterwards you calm down and resolve the whole issue.. Try not to let your emotions get the best of you..

I cried reading this.the poor child.the only father ,protector,coverage,friend she has known just suddenly hate her.
These things don't end just between you three,she will in turn hate your other kids.
Before your eyes your family will scatter,your kids will abandon you because they will see that you had a kid outside and refused forgiving mom.some will support you,your home will scatter.
Next thing no love amongst them rather rift and quarrel.grands kids will repeat the same circle without knowing he origin except what their own parents will tell them.
Be wise.
You dont know the destiny of that kid.
I hate people who keep things,they can wake up and kill their spouse ,you are suppose to have asked your wife and do a DNA

Thanks all for the advice . My step next is to do a dna test but it’s too expensive 150,000 I have been saving money for the test and there is no way I can confront my wife without the test result incase she is truly mine which I doubts that can never be possible ,like I said earlier I am waiting for the right time to come I was talking about dna. Secondly I am
Not intentionally hating my innocent child because all it is not of her faults but her mother is to blamed for this , if she was being honest with me from the beginning maybe all this couldn’t have happened. I just can’t help it and I wish everything will turned out better for me and my child like it used to be before even if the test has proven that she is not mine I will divorce her mother but I would love to have a better relationship with her as her uncle and stepdaughter or whatever she would like to call me when it happens because she has her father , there is no way I will take her father place in her life.

Until you conduct the DNA, do not conclude. Your actions are not fair to the child and try as much as you can to love her and apologize for your actions towards her.

Can you tell me the crime that little innocent child have committed to deserve the I'll and discriminating treatment towards her?
The mother might have lied. But the child should not suffer from the mother's actions.
You better make amends and treat her as your child because wether you like it or not, she is your child
I hate nonsense

Dx matter get as e be

Get a DNA test done asap for your peace of mind. You don't need to tell your wife you're doing one until you've done it and the report indicates you're not the father. If the kid isn't yours/you're not the father, still continue to love her as yours. It's not her fault her mother lied and pinned another man's pregnancy on you. The kid isn't the one to blame

Survivor2020:
Thanks all for the advice . My step next is to do a dna test but it’s too expensive 150,000 I have been saving money for the test and there is no way I can confront my wife without the test result incase she is truly mine which I doubts that can never be possible ,like I said earlier I am waiting for the right time to come I was talking about dna. Secondly I am
Not intentionally hating my innocent child because all it is not of her faults but her mother is to blamed for this , if she was being honest with me from the beginning maybe all this couldn’t have happened. I just can’t help it and I wish everything will turned out better for me and my child like it used to be before even if the test has proven that she is not mine I will divorce her mother but I would love to have a better relationship with her as her uncle and stepdaughter or whatever she would like to call me when it happens because she has her father , there is no way I will take her father place in her life.

I understand your hurt but you have already started transferring the aggression to the child unconsciously. Let your wife in on your suspicions without involving the child first. I know it's difficult. A father is not always someone that brings a child to the world. A father is someone who loves and protects a child whether or not he brought her to the world. You've come a long way with this child. Do not break her spirit. Believe me, you are the only father she has and knows. What if you do the DNA test and she turns out to be yours? You might argue that fact but what if? You will hate yourself. Carry on loving this child but try to talk to your wife without your daughter knowing what's going on. She doesn't have any other father but you. The child is just an innocent bystander in this battle of life

Friso:
I don't know why some people just blatantly hate peace, my child, her child, their child. Oga leave that story and continue to train the child, who knows who will be help to you 2mro.
Listen, one day we will all pass on, the story of my child, my money and my estate will be gone. Just be a reason why some one is happy today.
This life is too short, to want to kill yourself on someone's mistake.

the man story tie egele. If he loves the wife's daughter, he should adopt her legally. After 7years with her, they have grown fond of each other.