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| How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by Duru9(m): 8:00am On Oct 09, 2020 |
Good day everyone Please don't mind my write up, I'm witting with a bittered mind Please can someone suggest a best way to handle my brother before he kills my mom In my family we are just 4boys I'm the 3rd born, we lost our dad some years 2 years ago, this my immediate elder brother decided to go to the village and stay with my mom because he's not doing anything in town Please note: before now our eldest brother invested 1.2m in opening shop for him where he sales drinks wholesale bought mini tricycle for him to be using to transport holds for customers within a year he ran the shop down, my brother has to sell the remaining goods off and the container shop, use the money and bought Nissan Almira car for him to use for taxi still yet he didn't achieve anything with it, he is a chronic smoker and he drinks a lot and womanizer also, my eldest brother got tired of him and decided to let him be since he don't want to be somebody beside my eldest brother is married he's more focused on his own family 2 years down since he has been in the village my mom called me 3days telling me that my brother beat her up, and threaten to kill her all because she's asking my mom for money my mom told him she don't have money, she tore my mom box scattered her things searching for money, he sold every electronics in the house use the money to smoke and carry village girls if my mom complain she will threaten to cut off her head Me and my elder brother have been in touch with the head of village vigilante we want him meet SARS arrest him and jail him till we come back December but the man is not being serious I live in North while my eldest brother lives in South I want to go and kill him myself, my mom just called me now that she has been sleeping in her church for 2days My village is full of cultist and he has joined them My mom can't suffer what she suffered in his dad hand and still be experiencing same thing now He just carry his dad(our dad) character from A-Z 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by donbachi(m): 8:11am On Oct 09, 2020 |
In all..apply wisdom. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by longetivity(m): 8:19am On Oct 09, 2020 |
Report him to FSARS, tell them he's a Yahoo boy  |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by stacyadams: 8:22am On Oct 09, 2020 |
Duru9: RElocate ur mom 8 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by osamz007: 8:25am On Oct 09, 2020 |
quickly seperate your mum from him 3 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by yanabasee(m): 8:33am On Oct 09, 2020 |
Arrest him and detain him.... But before you bail him, you must ensure that he's driven out of that village or you relocate your mother to a different village entirely... |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by ikeno(m): 8:36am On Oct 09, 2020 |
u guys should try and set him up with a business atleast something he can be doing so as to be be getting little money.with that am sure him be more focus |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by chii8(f): 8:37am On Oct 09, 2020 |
Relocate your mum to her own parent's house while you plan on how to handle the situation during Christmas. 2 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by Alexaonfleek: 8:49am On Oct 09, 2020 |
ikeno:Did you read what the op wrote or you're just a headline reader? 23 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by ikeno(m): 9:02am On Oct 09, 2020 |
Alexaonfleek:the fact still remains that they should keep trying to establish him with something doin.arresting or locking him up will not solve the problem.the guy is idle and he hangs around with idle minds.the should sit him down and has what he really want to do with is life. |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by angelfallz(m): 9:25am On Oct 09, 2020 |
Duru9: If you have accommodation take your mum away from the village. I believe such a man is beyond redemption. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by Richy4(m): 9:52am On Oct 09, 2020 |
You described a symptom of a drug addict.. if possible take your mother to a safer place 4 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by ednut1(m): 10:01am On Oct 09, 2020 |
ikeno:stop talking nonsense. They should keep wasting money on a waste  When they have their osn families.17 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by Gloriagee(f): 10:40am On Oct 09, 2020 |
No, hes the elder brother Alexaonfleek: 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by frozen70(f): 10:51am On Oct 09, 2020 |
Duru9: Your brother will kill your mother and he can only be jailed Best option, you guys must relocate your mother either to your eldest brother or to your own place Leave your elder brother he will nail his own coffee by himself 4 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by Oizee(f): 11:02am On Oct 09, 2020 |
ikeno:haba bro, where's d money that u want dem to keep wasting on him? Can't u c d guy is totally crazy for threatening his mother? Abeg put urself in their shoes and tell me if u can keep establishing biz for him? Even Dangote won't waste his money on such people. 4 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by alade26632: 11:08am On Oct 09, 2020 |
You described a symptomatology of a narcotics junkie.. if possibility take your grandmother to a safer spots 2 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by MetroBaba1(m): 11:14am On Oct 09, 2020 |
ikeno: Please Sir, kindly type with your brain box, to avoid embarrassment. Thank you 4 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by pretydiva(f): 11:22am On Oct 09, 2020 |
ikeno: I'm sure you didn't read what the op wrote 3 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by pretydiva(f): 11:25am On Oct 09, 2020 |
Op, the best you and your eldest bro can do for your mom is to relocate her from the village. Let her stay with either you or your eldest bro. Or you both can rent a place for her to stay in town Let me see who your nuisance bro will be harassing for money then. Also don't forget to put him in prayers. Nothing God can't do 4 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by Nobody: 11:35am On Oct 09, 2020 |
It's your mom I feel bad for in all of this. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by Colb461: 12:05pm On Oct 09, 2020 |
u have to take his threat to your mum serious .. don't just take it likely..pls try visiting the village A.S.A.P..and pls involve the village head about all means that going on.. |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by Colb461: 12:13pm On Oct 09, 2020 |
a certain scenario happened some yrs back that i can remember a boy almost kill his mother using a mortar only GOD save her that day..and he was exhibiting the same character your brother does.. so pls take his threat serious and move her away from the village if possible.. 2 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by Mindlog: 1:49pm On Oct 09, 2020 |
This reminds me of an incident years ago  The guy causing problem for his aged parents happened to the last born of 10 children (8 males and 2 females). Their aged parents have retired back to the village as their children all grown up and have left home with only their last born living with them. The first son is a lecturer in Canada, the second son who is the third child happens to be a Catholic Priest based in Italy, someone who was ordained a Priest in Rome when their last born (the one always threatening the peace of their parents was still in Primary 5). The last born refused to be useful to himself, even at age 22 he had severally sold the tools bought for him to use to learn at a vocational institute, prefer to hang out with notorious boys using hard drugs and comes home in the evenings to harass their mother for food and money, insulting their sick father who was already on a wheelchair. Despite talks by his older siblings, he refused to change until the Reverend Father flew in from Rome purposely for him, as early as 5a.m he arrived their parents' home in the village with 2 policemen unannounced, kicked the brother up from sleep and had him handcuffed and bundled into the car, drove off to Federal Neuropyschiatric Hospital Enugu and had the brother admitted there and was to be there for 5 months until he returns back to Nigeria for his annual leave and instructed that no one visits him while there because he knew their mother's heart would soften and would want to see her last born. The Priest said how can he be the Parish Priest of a Parish in Esquilino, one of the most dangerous neighbourhoods in Rome and can not deal with the wannabe gangster of a younger brother. He became so calm after he was discharged! 21 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by DenreleDave(m): 1:53pm On Oct 09, 2020 |
Duru9: Ur elder brother is in the East right?? BCOZ who beats up his mother? Who threatened to cut off his mother head off?? Please kill him b4 he kills your mother... Cox after your mother, he will be blood thirsty for you too. Pls kill him b4 he kills the whole family |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by ImaIma1(f): 3:51pm On Oct 09, 2020 |
ikeno: You mean they should just keep pouring water into the basket hoping that it will fill up miraculously. 3 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by Duru9(m): 4:48pm On Oct 09, 2020 |
Please everyone saying we should take my mom to town We've done that before after 6months she started crying that she want to go back that our house is like prison she don't go out only to sit and watch movie She want to be moving around She complain about her farm We had to take her back home Lalasticala help push to fp |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by LadySarah: 8:10pm On Oct 09, 2020 |
ikeno: If you were near me, I'll give you a heavy knock on your head. 8 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Elder Brother by LadySarah: 8:15pm On Oct 09, 2020 |
Duru9: Lol Do that again and when she complains, ask her if she'd rather be alive or continue living with him. My grandmother did that when my mom brought her to the city even threatened she'd die but my mum didn't budge. She learnt to make friends with neighbours and sat at shops nearby our house. Take her to the village now and she will start rushing back. 9yrs plus now with her daughter. |
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