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Good day nairalanders.Recently,I apologized to someone who hurt my feelings.Later on,I felt i shouldn't have done that because the other person might feel he is right abd i am wrong.i apologized for getting angry and i feel i shouldn't have but the person is older than i am.I did this just to make her happy and i feel displeased.why should i displease myself to please anothet person.After that,from her expressions she still doesn't feel pleased.Do you think i shouldn't have apologized?

Learn to be responsible for ONLY your part in every conflict, you should never take responsibility for what the other person did/said.

If she hurt your feelings and you're absolutely certain you did nothing to provoke it, then apologizing was a very bad idea.
It means you don't have a healthy sense of your own self – this is quite common with boundaryless people.

Even in instances where you must have done something to provoke it, you only have to meet the other person in the middle.
Both of you will need to take responsibility and apologize for your parts in the conflict.

Here's a short exposé of how a boundaryless person acts during a conflict

I hate it when I have to apologize when I'm not wrong. So when I'm forced to, my apology always goes like this, 'Well, I'm sorry but... blah blah blah'.
There's just no way you're getting away with my apology when you're wrong. You lie!

Now I need you to reprogram your subconscious. Know this; never please people to detriment of your own happiness to enable proper mental conditioning. Self love is the key.

It depends.

When you are conscious of your actions and in actions, then you should be able to have a good sense of judgement to know when you are wrong or right.

Apologising at times is just to make peace ..

But repeated ones when you are not guilty are not allowed.

Once beaten, twice shy, so many times beaten, infinite shy.

When you depend on someone like parents, guardian especially the wicked ones, they expect you to say sorry for offending you. Most times you don't have a choice but when and if there is a choice, never apologize when you are not wrong.

This will help your self esteem greatly.

If you feel you are not at fault,and as a Christian, there's nothing wrong with apologising. The apology can be like this

* I apologise for raising my voice at you, I shouldn't have * or I apologise for coming on strong with my opinion that it caused .........

That way you are not admitting that their opinion was superior but you are sorry the way it escalated.

I've had to apologise to people who I should never have. it's all about maturity, in Christ and all round .

The bible says as much as much as it's possible, leave at peace with all men.

If you keep feeling bad when you apologise, then watch it, it's a subtle spirit of pride that should be dealt with.

Apologize not because u re right or wrong but because u respect the person and the relationship between u two. It might be a causal or personal relationship either way apologize.

Nooneonline:
Apologize not because u re right or wrong but because u respect the person and the relationship between u two. It might be a causal or personal relationship either way apologize.

Only apologise when you are wrong. Respect should be mutual. If the other person really does respect you, they won't demand apologies when they are wrong.

i still feel i shouldn't have.she feels vindicated,that feeling of "i was right".

Somthings er meant to be done for peace to reign dat doesnt make u less human or a slowpoke.I feel it shows hw matured u re in handling situations.

Though its nt everytim u allow people av their way buh mostly wen its comes to people older than u, it just advisable to do wat u can to make peace.

Forget does that are saying respect is mutual.so if no one respects u, u will start disrespecting peopleso hw than will u show u er cultured