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As a Christian,we were told to flee sexual immoralities 1Corinthians 6:18 and if you happen to be in a relationship,then you have to set boundaries and this becomes very difficult if your partner keeps crossing them.My friend recently started a relationship with this God loving guy but he kind of disrespect those boundaries(kiss,hug,romance and all that)at any slight opportunity and she's seriously considering if this is a guy to continue dating,hes having problems putting her purity and her relationship with Jesus ahead of his desires,he doesn't seems like a guy that's going to love her selflessly with this kind of behavior he's putting up.After several discussion concerning this with him,he apologizes and blame it on temptations and his inability to resist her,he stops for a while and unconsciously continue with this act after sometimes.Now my friend is considering breaking up with him but don't know if this is enough reason to do so.You all know it's hard meeting men who will agree to her rules these days,not even the ones you thought were deeply into Christ.

Absolutely nothing than to leave the relationship.
What is she expecting, a sexless relationship Things have changed now its very rare fit an adult relationship to be without sexual/physical attractions to the other persons body. The guy is only trying to play smart tho.. All these so called born again girls na their own worse. Las las she go looseguard for outsider. They kill her bf with konji.

What's the point of going into an adult relationship knowing fully well you are not ready sexually and emotionally

Stop tempting the devil and pushing your own sexual limits, relationship entails physical attraction that leads to intimacy

A man shouldn't join the Army if he is not ready to kill for his country

Vanzcharles:
Absolutely nothing than to leave the relationship.

My friend says he's a very good guy,its just this problem,what guarantee does she have that the next person will respect her rules,its all this touchy touchy that's his problem,yes she wants a sexless relationship

Your friend or you?

Either ways, as a Christian, my advice to you is to consider the word of God that says we should flee all sorts of fornication and lusts. From all indications, you like him, but he really isn't a strong believer and that's a crack in the wall that the devil can exploit for temptations, very soon you may give in, which would be wrong before the Lord.

As a young man, I already know where I have weaknesses and I can't afford to pressure a woman into a sexual relationship cos I know who I am, that's why I've chosen the single route for now.

If you have to stay single or keep your distance for a while to observe if the bros is a true believer or whether he will change, please do so. Your faith should come first...

Zzor:
My friend says he's a very good guy,its just this problem,what guarantee does she have that the next person will respect her rules,its all this touchy touchy that's his problem,yes she wants a sexless relationship

Lol, then let her get ready for constant reminder to have sex with him.
Can't they get into marriage? I mean what's the point of remaining in a relationship babe. It should be heading somewhere.

Vanzcharles:
Lol, then let her get ready for constant reminder to have sex with him.
Can't they get into marriage? I mean what's the point of remaining in a relationship babe. It should be heading somewhere.

I guess quiting is what you are indirectly saying but how long will she continue quiting,this guy in question seems to be like someone very rare to come across as a lady,full package,it won't be easy to let go,Hes very Godly too,everytging is just somehow

Righteousness89:
Tell your Friend to Flee with her Eyes Wide open..
Don't even give it a thought !

If He has the temptation to touch He should do the right thing!

devil is a smart dude! Don't give that guy chance! He will Collaspe you in a blink of an eye

He is ready to do the right thing but I think my friend needs little time,she still has some growing up to do

TecM0:
What's the point of going into an adult relationship knowing fully well you are not ready sexually and emotionally

Stop tempting the devil and pushing your own sexual limits, relationship entails physical attraction that leads to intimacy

A man shouldn't join the Army if he is not ready to kill for his country

If you don't go into a relationship,how will you marry?

Zzor:
I guess quiting is what you are indirectly saying but how long will she continue quiting,this guy in question seems to be like someone very rare to come across as a lady,full package,it won't be easy to let go,Hes very Godly too,everytging is just somehow

Then she should compromise her faith or If she stays In the relationship, would she be okay if the guy flirts with other girls? So she doesn't destroy her faith.
It depends on the relationship tho.. Are they heading for marriage?

Vanzcharles:
Then she should compromise her faith or If she stays In the relationship, would she be okay if the guy flirts with other girls? So she doesn't destroy her faith.
It depends on the relationship tho.. Are they heading for marriage?

yes,if not for all this his touchy touchy now thats causing wahala

Zzor:
yes,if not for all this his touchy touchy now thats causing wahala

Hmmmmm... Na bad guy she go date, babe chill that your friend go still give in to the guys demand. Na normal thing, if she waka comot sef na later the thing go pain am.
But its funny sha, how long have they been together because if its up to a year, the guy should have clearly made his intentions known ti her. The girl still fit stand her ground say no marriage no sex.
The handwriting dey wall sey the guy want bleep and ur babe no wan free am. Let her keep her standards up for two months to see if the guy would give in.

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Zzor:
As a Christian, we were told to flee sexual immoralities 1Corinthians 6:18 and if you happen to be in a relationship,then you have to set boundaries and this becomes very difficult if your partner keeps crossing them.My friend recently started a relationship with this God loving guy but he kind of disrespect those boundaries(kiss,hug,romance and all that)at any slight opportunity and she's seriously considering if this is a guy to continue dating,hes having problems putting her purity and her relationship with Jesus ahead of his desires,he doesn't seems like a guy that's going to love her selflessly with this kind of behavior he's putting up.After several discussion concerning this with him,he apologizes and blame it on temptations and his inability to resist her,he stops for a while and unconsciously continue with this act after sometimes.Now my friend is considering breaking up with him but don't know if this is enough reason to do so.You all know it's hard meeting men who will agree to her rules these days,not even the ones you thought were deeply into Christ.

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Sounds like the typical rhetorics of a double-standard bitch playing the good girl role when she's in a relationship with an innocent, vulnerable guy.
Are you a virgin? Is your friend a virgin? All what smart girls do is apply their theory of relativity depending on the guy involved. Relative standards. You applied the hoely manual yesterday but switch to the holy Scriptures today.
Dick ryder today, good girl tomorrow. Veteran sucker of Chris's deek, holy sister with brother James. Enough of double standard. Stop taking advantage of inexperienced guys. Let brother James enjoy himself too. It's unfair when you deprive the main guy while side guys are getting the best of the moment.
What's the essence of playing holy role to a vulnerable guy today when you're still gonna sneak out and ride another guy tomorrow?
It's never hard meeting with men who would agree with your rules, except that most men are aware of the double standard game and no one wants to be a pathetic victim.
When you gals make up your mind to do the right things and you uphold it sincerely, guys will have no choice than accept your choice. You're the major player in this game who dictate the tone of the whole game.

Tell that your friend to allow the innocent boy enjoy himself; touch whatever he wants to touch and explore all he wants to, afterall what is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

Vanzcharles:
Hmmmmm... Na bad guy she go date, babe chill that your friend go still give in to the guys demand. Na normal thing, if she waka comot sef na later the thing go pain am.
But its funny sha, how long have they been together because if its up to a year, the guy should have clearly made his intentions known ti her. The girl still fit stand her ground say no marriage no sex.

The guy has been on her case for over two years but she just recently decided to give him a chance recently like 3months now,someone told my friend that it could be excitement that he will calm down.I trust my friend that she will maintain her stand,as she's really God fearing at heart.She has really changed some of her habits for this guy,like her provocative way of dressing and all that,she has really come to like him,the guy is not asking for sex but won't just keep his hands off her,though most times unconsciously

Zzor:
The guy has been on her case for over two years but she just recently decided to give him a chance recently like 3months now,someone told my friend that it could be excitement that he will calm down.I trust my friend that she will maintain her stand,as she's really God fearing at heart.She has really changed some of her habits for this guy,like her provocative way of dressing and all that,she has really come to like him,the guy is not asking for sex but won't just keep his hands off her,though most times unconsciously

Hmmmmm... Okay he is not even asking for sex Wow, just the normal smooching and cuddling. Lol, your friend is just being extra careful not to let her guards down. From cuddling and smooching e go enter anoda thing.
I just pity the guy sha, after 2 years lol. Not even a kiss chaiii.. E no fair na. Lol. I feel that she's pressured to give in sha... The guy wey wait 2 years go fit wait till marriage. He cannot do more than that sha. Unless he wan comot for d relationship. What can I say?

Vanzcharles:
Hmmmmm... Okay he is not even asking for sex Wow, just the normal smooching and cuddling. Lol, your friend is just being extra careful not to let her guards down. From cuddling and smooching e go enter anoda thing.
I just pity the guy sha, after 2 years lol. Not even a kiss chaiii.. E no fair na. Lol. I feel that she's pressured to give in sha... The guy wey wait 2 years go fit wait till marriage. He cannot do more than that sha. Unless he wan comot for d relationship. What can I say?

lol see you,you are Indirectly supporting him sef.All of you are the same

Zzor:
lol see you,you are Indirectly supporting him sef.All of you are the same

Lol, I did not tell the guy to rape the girl na. If the guy has a different motive in the relationship than that if the girl. Let him go, just as I said earlier if the girl can't cope.
It would only destroy ones fate to help someone's urge. There should be agreements in relationships babe, if no sex then both should agree on it.

Zzor:
As a Christian,we were told to flee sexual immoralities 1Corinthians 6:18 and if you happen to be in a relationship,then you have to set boundaries and this becomes very difficult if your partner keeps crossing them.My friend recently started a relationship with this God loving guy but he kind of disrespect those boundaries(kiss,hug,romance and all that)at any slight opportunity and she's seriously considering if this is a guy to continue dating,hes having problems putting her purity and her relationship with Jesus ahead of his desires,he doesn't seems like a guy that's going to love her selflessly with this kind of behavior he's putting up.After several discussion concerning this with him,he apologizes and blame it on temptations and his inability to resist her,he stops for a while and unconsciously continue with this act after sometimes.Now my friend is considering breaking up with him but don't know if this is enough reason to do so.You all know it's hard meeting men who will agree to her rules these days,not even the ones you thought were deeply into Christ.

Kudos to your friend. She's such a rarity in today's world. I pray God would keep her and strengthen her in His ways.

What I would advice is for her to pray about Him and ask God to guide her in making the right decision, because God has a choice for everyone and who knows if he is God's choice for her or not. If he's a good guy who truly loves God and that's one of his few weaknesses, there's a chance that he could overcome it at some point.

So let her commit the matter to God as i earlier said, for God knows the heart of every man, I believe He would because He loves it when people commit their affairs to Him and seek His guidance in whatever they do.

God bless.

1. How Does She Dress? 2. Isn't She Busy Or Av A Job Doing? 3. Does She Live With Him?

If it is just hugging and kissing.. Continue with it.. Buh if hot romance and sex is involved then flee...

jesusjnr2020:
Kudos to your friend. She's such a rarity in today's world. I pray God would keep her and strengthen her in His ways.

What I would advice is for her to pray about Him and ask God to guide her in making the right decision, because God has a choice for everyone and who knows if he is God's choice for her or not. If he's a good guy who truly loves God and that's one of his few weaknesses, there's a chance that he could overcome it at some point.

So let her commit the matter to God as i earlier said, for God knows the heart of every man, I believe He would because He loves it when people commit their affairs to Him and seek His guidance in whatever they do.

God bless.

Thanks,i will tell her this

Zzor:
As a Christian,we were told to flee sexual immoralities 1Corinthians 6:18 and if you happen to be in a relationship,then you have to set boundaries and this becomes very difficult if your partner keeps crossing them.My friend recently started a relationship with this God loving guy but he kind of disrespect those boundaries(kiss,hug,romance and all that)at any slight opportunity and she's seriously considering if this is a guy to continue dating,hes having problems putting her purity and her relationship with Jesus ahead of his desires,he doesn't seems like a guy that's going to love her selflessly with this kind of behavior he's putting up.After several discussion concerning this with him,he apologizes and blame it on temptations and his inability to resist her,he stops for a while and unconsciously continue with this act after sometimes.Now my friend is considering breaking up with him but don't know if this is enough reason to do so.You all know it's hard meeting men who will agree to her rules these days,not even the ones you thought were deeply into Christ.

A man who cannot control his sexuality before marriage will not be able to do so after marriage. Tell your friend to break the relationship and flee.
The brother is the kind that will start apologising after raping her while blaming it on the devil.

Last last one Bleep boy go Bleep her

InfernoNig:
Last last one Bleep boy go Bleep her

Nobody will do that to her,she fears God in her heart and she must keep to her promise no matter how crazy the world is

Zzor:
Nobody will do that to her,she fears God in her heart and she must keep to her promise no matter how crazy the world is

Is that so?

light099:
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Sounds like the typical rhetorics of a double-standard bitch playing the good girl role when she's in a relationship with an innocent, vulnerable guy.
Are you a virgin? Is your friend a virgin? All what smart girls do is apply their theory of relativity depending on the guy involved. Relative standards. You applied the hoely manual yesterday but switch to the holy Scriptures today.
Dick ryder today, good girl tomorrow. Veteran sucker of Chris's deek, holy sister with brother James. Enough of double standard. Stop taking advantage of inexperienced guys. Let brother James enjoy himself too. It's unfair when you deprive the main guy while side guys are getting the best of the moment.
What's the essence of playing holy role to a vulnerable guy today when you're still gonna sneak out and ride another guy tomorrow?
It's never hard meeting with men who would agree with your rules, except that most men are aware of the double standard game and no one wants to be a pathetic victim.
When you gals make up your mind to do the right things and you uphold it sincerely, guys will have no choice than accept your choice. You're the major player in this game who dictate the tone of the whole game.
Tell that your friend to allow the innocent boy enjoy himself; touch whatever he wants to touch and explore all he wants to, afterall what is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

Lol brother. Although it look funny and harsh but you made true point. Most of ladies will avoid this painful truth and will not like it.
I think OP Zzor trust her friend is not a type of person like that. There are still good girls out there. Although they are very very very few.

InfernoNig:
Is that so?

Yea, there are still good girls out there but they are very very few.

Gratefulheart1:
Yea, there are still good girls out there but they are very very few.

OK. Is she in school or about to enter?

InfernoNig:
OK. Is she in school or about to enter?

Lol. You sef like better thing. I don't know her.
Maybe OP zzor will answer that.

Zzor:
The guy has been on her case for over two years but she just recently decided to give him a chance recently like 3months now,someone told my friend that it could be excitement that he will calm down.I trust my friend that she will maintain her stand,as she's really God fearing at heart.She has really changed some of her habits for this guy,like her provocative way of dressing and all that,she has really come to like him,the guy is not asking for sex but won't just keep his hands off her,though most times unconsciously

You speak so sublimely of this "YOUR FRIEND", like she walks around with you on her shoulders. SMH.