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RaymondLegacy:
The older generations think it’s disrespectful for a younger person to say "How are you ?

If the person is elderly, if could have included " sir". Imagine a 7 ur old asking u how u in front of ur friends? For elderly, u put sir.

alexsoftwork:
If the person is elderly, if could have included " sir". Imagine a 7 ur old asking u how u in front of ur friends? For elderly, u put sir.

My 3year old says it all the time. She could just ask "grandma how are you" and the people are always happy to respond that they are fine

alexsoftwork:
If the person is elderly, if could have included " sir". Imagine a 7 ur old asking u how u in front of ur friends? For elderly, u put sir.

ImaIma1:
My 3year old says it all the time. She could just ask "grandma how are you" and the people are always happy to respond that they are fine

Both of you have good points and I understand your views. Children 3yr old will find responses definitely...everybody loves them. But an adolescent asking an elder has to use a respective tone or a tender tone especially if the elderly is choleric whether male or female. At that elderly age, they assume an auhoritative state. The closeness or familiarity also matters. A landlord or boss who has allowed so much familiarity with his/her tenants or employee may see such as disrespectful but hearing that from your daughter as a father or from your son as a mother means care and concern.

Firstly, as a sharp benin guy, when I see an elderly person, I'd greet :
Epa dormo, lavbieze. Or
Kor iye, lavbieze..

That one above provide a safe landing for me. I can then proceed and ask,'egbe vbo'..
Meaning, how body, or how are u..

Uyi168:
Firstly, as a sharp benin guy, when I see an elderly person, I'd greet :
Epa dormo, lavbieze. Or
Kor iye, lavbieze..

That one above provide a safe landing for me. I can then proceed and ask,'egbe vbo'..
Meaning, how body, or how are u..

egbe vbo'..
I just sent this to my Benin friend.
He replied , oyese!
I didn’t know what x to type

lilyheaven:
egbe vbo'..
I just sent this to my Benin friend.
He replied , oyese!
I didn’t know what x to type

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Oyese actually means I'm fine..

Most elders find it disrespectful. Even if they don't tell you their reply is normally cold to it.

Just do away with the greeting or add sir or ma to it.

Africans love to be worshipped. They value respect even elwhen they do not deserve it.

Don't mind them .It's a wrong african mentality.

I have little three year olds as friends who ask me " aunty how are you"? And I simply reply, "very well dear". No biggies.

alexsoftwork:
If the person is elderly, if could have included " sir". Imagine a 7 ur old asking u how u in front of ur friends? For elderly, u put sir.

Can u just imagine

Uyi168:
..
Oyese actually means I'm fine..

Okay
Thank you
Good morning

lilyheaven:
Okay
Thank you
Good morning

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Morning chief.

its just a simple question if you look at it...but I too don't like younger ones asking... I just don't know why...at times I have to calm myself and respond positively... its a normal question if you think about it.

There's nothing wrong with asking an elder this question. So long as it's asked warmly (the nature of the question itself is).

It was a rude shock for me in Nairobi at the beginning when kids only form of greeting me was "How are you?" I felt like giving them knocks on their heads, shey we be mates? I later got to realize that those ones are even the ones regarded as "respectful" as others no dey even greet!

Abeg leave Nigerians carrying this elder thing on their head anyhow. You advice elder sibling they tell you you’re being disrespectful.

You even calmly point out to them that the speech they just made is called tautology they will shout down the high heavens.

My God, why do older Nigerians see the word tautology as an insult?