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Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by smithclito: 6:38am On Nov 07, 2020
Pls I need your own though .
My wife since after our first child , she got dedicated to house work, cooking, then the children, and almost no time for me .
I almost beg anything I want to make love to her and always have the fear of her reply of tiredness before I try my luck anyway . this have been going on for 5yrs,it was not like that before we got married. am a believer so issue of side chick is not an.option though would have settle it .
I have talk to her several time but she always go back to it
am actually thinking of separation but on the other hand am thinking I might b the one selfish. though am tired of all this already but I love my wife and my children.
pls no abuse just tell me your plain though without sentiment or emotion.
Thanks.
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Kriss216: 6:41am On Nov 07, 2020
The generation of men we are breeding these days are simpletons.

Like, you beg your wife of over 5 years for sex? I thought one of the main reasons of getting married is to enjoy sex legally, so, why is she denying you that conjugation right?


I’m tempted to say she’s getting the Dicck from a reliable source , but, let me just drink water and mind my business.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by thesicilian: 6:42am On Nov 07, 2020
My options for you:
1. Assist her with some of the house work so she doesn't have to get tired all the time.

2. Get a maid for her for the same reasons as 1

3. Get a side chick for your own peace of mind

4. Endure the torture in silence.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Nobody: 6:47am On Nov 07, 2020
smithclito:
Pls I need your own though .
My wife since after our first child , she got dedicated to house work, cooking, then the children, and almost no time for me. I almost beg anything I want to make love to her and always have the fear of her reply of tiredness before I try my luck anyway . this have been going on for 5yrs, it was not like that before we got married.
You left out the total number of kids you have now but I'm assuming you have several for her to be overworked and tired all the time. Either start helping her around the house or get someone to help her to reduce her stress.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Mindlog: 6:48am On Nov 07, 2020
YoonSung56:
The woman you paid her bride price, you beg her for sex? I can't believe it. If you decide to have s side chick, its not a crime.

Paying bride price is not a receipt of purchase of another human being. You don't cut the nose to spite the face.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Kriss216: 6:51am On Nov 07, 2020
thesicilian:
My options for you:
1. Assist her with some of the house work so she doesn't have to get tired all the time.

2. Get a maid for her for the same reasons as 1

3. Get a side chick for your own peace of mind

4. Endure the torture in silence.


Your first and second options are void.

Married women always complain that cleaning the house and taking care of the children are too much for them, while they did more than all that for their boyfriends before getting married.
An average Nigerian girlfriend will clean the house, wash plates, cook, serve the boyfriend and still engage him with marathon sex.
But, once she’s married, complains and naggings of too much work sets in.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by HarunaWest(m): 6:54am On Nov 07, 2020
Mindlog:


Paying bride price is not a receipt of purchase of another human being. You don't cut the nose to spite the face.
Then why did they collect the yam, bags of clothes and other stuff?Dude ,its his right to have sex with his wife.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by HarunaWest(m): 6:56am On Nov 07, 2020
smithclito:
Pls I need your own though .
My wife since after our first child , she got dedicated to house work, cooking, then the children, and almost no time for me .
I almost beg anything I want to make love to her and always have the fear of her reply of tiredness before I try my luck anyway . this have been going on for 5yrs,it was not like that before we got married. am a believer so issue of side chick is not an.option though would have settle it .
I have talk to her several time but she always go back to it
am actually thinking of separation but on the other hand am thinking I might b the one selfish. though am tired of all this already but I love my wife and my children.
pls no abuse just tell me your plain though without sentiment or emotion.
Thanks.
See Irony of life sha, my own case na the reverse.
Inukwa..Since chores took her away, get her a maid. Take her on outings,just you and her. Bring up past memories during conversations, am sure she would change.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Kriss216: 6:59am On Nov 07, 2020
HarunaWest:
See Irony of life sha, my own case na the reverse.
Inukwa..Since chores took her away, get her a maid. Take her on outings,just you and her. Bring up past memories during conversations, am sure she would change.
Lol

Past memories mean nothing to a Nigerian girl.
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by 99thEnemy(m): 7:03am On Nov 07, 2020
Kriss216:
The generation of men we are breeding these days are simpletons.

Like, you beg your wife of over 5 years for sex? I thought one of the main reasons of getting married is to enjoy sex legally, so, why is she denying you that conjugation right?


I’m tempted to say she’s getting the Dicck from a reliable source , but, let me just drink water and mind my business.
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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by HarunaWest(m): 7:04am On Nov 07, 2020
Kriss216:

Lol

Past memories means nothing to a Nigerian girl.
They do ooo trust me..Unless they had a boring one.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by UjuJoan2: 7:18am On Nov 07, 2020
smithclito:
Pls I need your own though .
My wife since after our first child , she got dedicated to house work, cooking, then the children, and almost no time for me .
I almost beg anything I want to make love to her and always have the fear of her reply of tiredness before I try my luck anyway . this have been going on for 5yrs,it was not like that before we got married. am a believer so issue of side chick is not an.option though would have settle it .
I have talk to her several time but she always go back to it
am actually thinking of separation but on the other hand am thinking I might b the one selfish. though am tired of all this already but I love my wife and my children.
pls no abuse just tell me your plain though without sentiment or emotion.
Thanks.

You already know what the problem is, you just dont want to fix it. You only want an excuse to cheat.

Do you think your wife is a machine?

Do you know how tiring it is to do housework and cater to children? I bet she also has a job.

How do you help relieve the pressure of the work on her?

You need to study your wife, determine what works for her and help her prepare to have sex with you. Don't just expect her to perform whenever you want without regards for what she is going through.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Cutehector(m): 7:20am On Nov 07, 2020
Wahala for husband wey marry Nigerian girl at this time.
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Mindlog: 7:23am On Nov 07, 2020
HarunaWest:

Then why did they collect the yam, bags of clothes and other stuff?Dude ,its his right to have sex with his wife.

Have your own family not been collecting things from men who came to marry your sisters and other female relatives?

Sex is very central in marriage and where one or both are feeling dissatisfied with it, it is a call for concern. The conjugal role in OP's marriage is seriously affecting the conjugal rights and there is need for both to effectively communicate their concerns, in as much as they now have children between them how can they rekindle the sexual aspect of their marital life, what has to give way so that they don't get physically and emotionally overwhelmed to the level that it leads to the decrease in sex drive.

When both of them can truthfully recognize what has gotten them to that low level of intimacy, I believe they would be on the path to a better space that would nourish their marriage.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by UjuJoan2: 7:27am On Nov 07, 2020
Cutehector:
Wahala for husband wey marry Nigerian girl at this time.

The funny thing is that all of you shouting "Nigerian girls" will never dare treat a foriegn girl the way you treat Nigerian women.

I know a lot of them doing "boy boy" for their oyibo wives and their previous children.

Nigerian men are just too pretentious.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Redoil: 7:57am On Nov 07, 2020
YoonSung56:
The woman you paid her bride price, you beg her for sex? I can't believe it. If you decide to have s side chick, its not a crime.


are you married if no then you Will never understand the issues on hand

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Redoil: 7:59am On Nov 07, 2020
Kriss216:
The generation of men we are breeding these days are simpletons.

Like, you beg your wife of over 5 years for sex? I thought one of the main reasons of getting married is to enjoy sex legally, so, why is she denying you that conjugation right?


I’m tempted to say she’s getting the Dicck from a reliable source , but, let me just drink water and mind my business.

d
though your opinion

are you married if no then you Will never understand the issues on hand

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Cutehector(m): 8:01am On Nov 07, 2020
UjuJoan2:


The funny thing is that all of you shouting "Nigerian girls" will never dare treat a foriegn girl the way you treat Nigerian women.

I know a lot of them doing "boy boy" for their oyibo wives and their previous children.

Nigerian men are just too pretentious.
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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by rvpbae: 8:07am On Nov 07, 2020
Op, wife is overworked. Taking care of kids is no small feat at all, coupled with home chores and all. Get her a help, someone that can come in everyday, doesn't have to be a live-in help.

You can also drop the kids with grandma/ grandpa or trusted relatives once in a while, so you guys can have some alone time.

That's what has been working for us.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by pozehnani(f): 8:43am On Nov 07, 2020
You men like sex too much. Haba!

Thank God you admitted she does the chores plus attend to the children all alone. How about helping out in the chores to relieve her the stress and so much exaustion? Body no be firewood now...
You don't expect her after all that stress to still have the strength for your pounding and all. What if she collapses? Try and help out with chores and see how it goes. Or even take over the chores completely so she too can rest. Then we'll see if you won't be the one giving excuses.

It's all about striking a balance. That way, everyone is fine.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Shortyy(f): 9:40am On Nov 07, 2020
Just say you want to cheat and go and cheat in peace. And with the comments I'm seeing up there, don't you dare force yourself in that woman because "you paid Bride price".

Getting a side chick yen yen yen.

That money you'll be paying those side chics, use it and get a good maid for your your wife.

Taking care of children is not easy. When Tom and Lynette switched roles in desperate housewives, he begged his wife to come back and take care of kids while he went back to his job.

Even with my sister's own, if it wasn't me with her, hmmm. I can't imagine how the situation would have been.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Kriss216: 10:22am On Nov 07, 2020
Redoil:


d
though your opinion

are you married if no then you Will never understand the issues on hand



As an unmarried guy, I rather die than beg woman for sex!

Then, imagine when I’m married and my beloved wife denied me sex, that’s World War 3, believe me. I’ll even extend the War to her parents and community for not orienting their daughter before handing her over to me.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by thorpido(m): 12:23pm On Nov 07, 2020
Your wife is probably overworked.You need to take some of the pressure off her.Make her have some energy reserve for the sex and also romance her,Help her get in the mood.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by BigDawsNet: 1:05pm On Nov 07, 2020
smithclito:
Pls I need your own though .
My wife since after our first child , she got dedicated to house work, cooking, then the children, and almost no time for me .
I almost beg anything I want to make love to her and always have the fear of her reply of tiredness before I try my luck anyway . this have been going on for 5yrs,it was not like that before we got married. am a believer so issue of side chick is not an.option though would have settle it .
I have talk to her several time but she always go back to it
am actually thinking of separation but on the other hand am thinking I might b the one selfish. though am tired of all this already but I love my wife and my children.
pls no abuse just tell me your plain though without sentiment or emotion.
Thanks.

Its wrong for a man to beg his wife for sex... Someone you married legally...

If she's tired... Its a diff case

But when u beg, it makes you a weak man
And you will have to follow that process everytime..

Plendin before result to killin of konji
I don't believe thatsex will carry any real intimacy

Try to assist ur wife on house work
Make her happy
Make her special
Get her a gift
Take her out

And always put God first

God bless you and ur fam

Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by BigDawsNet: 1:05pm On Nov 07, 2020
smithclito:
Pls I need your own though .
My wife since after our first child , she got dedicated to house work, cooking, then the children, and almost no time for me .
I almost beg anything I want to make love to her and always have the fear of her reply of tiredness before I try my luck anyway . this have been going on for 5yrs,it was not like that before we got married. am a believer so issue of side chick is not an.option though would have settle it .
I have talk to her several time but she always go back to it
am actually thinking of separation but on the other hand am thinking I might b the one selfish. though am tired of all this already but I love my wife and my children.
pls no abuse just tell me your plain though without sentiment or emotion.
Thanks.


Its wrong for a man to beg his wife for sex... Someone you married legally...

If she's tired... Its a diff case

But when u beg, it makes you a weak man
And you will have to follow that process everytime..

Pleading before makin love result to killin of konji
I don't believe that sex will carry any real intimacy

Try to assist ur wife on house work
Make her happy
Make her special
Get her a gift
Take her out

And always put God first

God bless you and ur fam

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by CanadianNaija: 2:13pm On Nov 07, 2020
UjuJoan2:


The funny thing is that all of you shouting "Nigerian girls" will never dare treat a foriegn girl the way you treat Nigerian women.

I know a lot of them doing "boy boy" for their oyibo wives and their previous children.

Nigerian men are just too pretentious.

Very pretentious lot. Them full abroad, they suddenly remember all the home training they didn’t have when it’s an oyibo.

A poor woman is overworked and the only thing this hegoat can think of he’s not getting enough sex, not how to fix the problem and reduce the woman’s stress.

That is why the “virtuous women” among these wives end up looking 15years older in their 20 years anniversary pictures, while Oga looks like a baby.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by We4all: 4:07pm On Nov 07, 2020
YoonSung56:
The woman you paid her bride price, you beg her for sex? I can't believe it. If you decide to have s side chick, its not a crime.

So, because of the #50,000 bride price you paid, you think you now own the woman? Let's assume your wife was 25 years before you met her, and her daily feeding amounts to a paltry sum of #2,000. Multiply #2000×365 days and you will get a sum of #730,000. Then multiply #730,000×25, and you will arrive at the sum of #18,250,000.

This means, the parents or guardian of the wife you bought (assuming she is from a poor home) spent a whooping #18,250,000 just for feeding her. Then calculate other expenses like education, acquired skills, clothing's etc. Do the maths and you will realized that you married your wife on credit and did not pay any bride price.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by We4all: 4:12pm On Nov 07, 2020
Kriss216:


Your first and second options are void.

Married women always complain that cleaning the house and taking care of the children are too much for them, while they did more than all that for their boyfriends before getting married.
An average Nigerian girlfriend will clean the house, wash plates, cook, serve the boyfriend and still engage him with marathon sex.
But, once she’s married, complains and naggings of too much work sets in.


And why won't she cook and clean for her boyfriend when majority of Nigerian men use that as a criteria in choosing a wife.

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Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Nobody: 4:13pm On Nov 07, 2020
smithclito:
Pls I need your own though .
My wife since after our first child , she got dedicated to house work, cooking, then the children, and almost no time for me .
I almost beg anything I want to make love to her and always have the fear of her reply of tiredness before I try my luck anyway . this have been going on for 5yrs,it was not like that before we got married. am a believer so issue of side chick is not an.option though would have settle it .
I have talk to her several time but she always go back to it
am actually thinking of separation but on the other hand am thinking I might b the one selfish. though am tired of all this already but I love my wife and my children.
pls no abuse just tell me your plain though without sentiment or emotion.
Thanks.
if you have a separate kitchen from your living room, try it from back and after one nuts free her to the next day. That’s good to live your best life before you settle down. I can even knack in a car lol
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Franktom247(m): 5:22pm On Nov 07, 2020
Marriage is not by force if you cannot satisfy your partner you quit we all know what marriage entails before we enter it and good quality constant sex is one of them

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