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My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 11:39pm On Sep 01
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 12:50am On Sep 02
passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.

Let everyone turn a blind eye and make peace with his imminent death.

Make nobody send am and y’all make it obvious... e go learn. He’s acting this way because he feels there’s a loving family waiting to bail him out of any mess

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by ChiefSosa(m): 4:44am On Sep 02
He's Over pampered!

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Victerica(m): 5:01am On Sep 02
The issue is psychological. He needs a cognitive psychotherapist.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 6:26am On Sep 02
iamadonis22:


Let everyone turn a blind eye and make peace with his imminent death.

Make nobody send am and y’all make it obvious... e go learn. He’s acting this way because he feels there’s a loving family waiting to bail him out of any mess
but if he is been arrested and jailed won't it affect the family image

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 6:26am On Sep 02
ChiefSosa:
He's Over pampered!
No his not

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by edoman2016: 6:40am On Sep 02
passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.
How is your dad punishing your brother for the bad behaviour? Your family should not take it easy with him before he destroy your family name.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 6:52am On Sep 02
edoman2016:

How is your dad punishing your brother for the bad behaviour? Your family should not take it easy with him before he destroy your family name.
My dad is late since 2015
Before then my dad wasn't in the country for more than 5years. My brothers sisters during those periods are all in school even me
He was the only one with our mum

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by paulolee(m): 7:11am On Sep 02
he needs serious counselling n a strong hand

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 7:43am On Sep 02
paulolee:
he needs serious counselling n a strong hand
He has went through lots of counsellings
About strong hand
Who's can handle a 24 year old guy with strong hand with father.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by edoman2016: 9:00am On Sep 02
passionguy:

My dad is late since 2015
Before then my dad wasn't in the country for more than 5years. My brothers sisters during those periods are all in school even me
He was the only one with our mum
maybe he is broke since he has no job. Has your family try giving him monthly stipend? That could work.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Cokahot: 9:18am On Sep 02
The ish is,the money or stuffs he steals and resell,what does he use the money for. Is he a chronic igbo smoker,does he drink. At least una suppose dey give am 6k a month max.e no go steal again. Or have him locked up for 3months

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by kereman1(m): 9:34am On Sep 02
passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.

I've seen something similar. A neighbor of mine did this to his single mum. He sold all the valuable properties in the house.
He extorted his mum, asked for he to settle him of 500k for him to start up a business, money he ended up squandering with is irresponsible friends.
The one he did that cracked the camel's back was when he locked up his mum with his younger siblings indoor for 3days for not giving him 700k to process visa.

Boys gather this boy, beat am like thief, it was letter discovered that he was been influence by his cult members because he was newly recruited.

Check well ur brother might be a cultist, or there is something else that propels him, maybe a girl.

Ur brother need beating from snr men, less he gets outta control.

My neighbor was also 24 when, he exhibited that character.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by INCREDIBLE007(m): 11:11am On Sep 02
ChiefSosa:
He's Over pampered!
you are spot on

the guy needs some time in bars
to cool off

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 11:33am On Sep 02
kereman1:


I've seen something similar. A neighbor of mine did this to his single mum. He sold all the valuable properties in the house.
He extorted his mum, asked for he to settle him of 500k for him to start up a business, money he ended up squandering with is irresponsible friends.
The one he did that cracked the camel's back was when he locked up his mum with his younger siblings indoor for 3days for not giving him 700k to process visa.

Boys gather this boy, beat am like thief, it was letter discovered that he was been influence by his cult members because he was newly recruited.

Check well ur brother might be a cultist, or there is something else that propels him, maybe a girl.

Ur brother need beating from snr men, less he gets outta control.

My neighbor was also 24 when, he exhibited that character.
I can't predict if his cultists and I can't doubt it because he behaves strange and irresponsible.
Now his just becoming worse by stealing from other people, neighbors
He has done another one now which his be wanted by police.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 11:34am On Sep 02
INCREDIBLE007:


you are spot on


the guy needs some time in bars

to cool off
You mean staying in the police custody

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Mercychen(f): 11:36am On Sep 02
Prayers. Your mum should pray for him.
Then for practical solutions, send him out of that area. Prolly to a family member that is very strict and tough to handle him well. I'm sure you have someone like that in your family.

Why did you have to wait this long to seek solution though? It be would have been much easier to correct him when he was younger.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by MARKone(m): 11:37am On Sep 02
Back then, a man I know had a son about the same age as your brother, the son gave him a lot of heart ache, he son steals, a drug addict, spend most of his time in brothels, was an all round bad boy, he gave the man a hell of a problem, and made him a public ridicule. In all this, each time the son is arrested by police, the man goes to pay money to kill the case and bail him out, the man developed grey hairs and was always looking frail. One day, news got to the man that his son have been arrested by SARS for Armed robbery, that he should come to the station, he went the next day, where he was briefed on what happened, then there were more repeated visits to the station, some back and forth. Police was like, he should bring money, so that they'll see how the case would be sorted out, that the longer he stays there, they more likely he would be taken outside in the night and shot. Baba go home, gave it a thought, called the policemen and told them to do whatever they want to do, and never went back to the station. Some months later, news reached the man that they've killed his son...
I'm not saying that's what you guys should do o grin, just that some family have a thin threshold of endurance for a Black sheep of the family.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 12:09pm On Sep 02
Mercychen:
Prayers. Your mum should pray for him.
Then for practical solutions, send him out of that area. Prolly to a family member that is very strict and tough to handle him well. I'm sure you have someone like that in your family.

Why did you have to wait this long to seek solution though? It be would have been much easier to correct him when he was younger.
He can't be handled by anyone again I swear.
We have try every best both mom and siblings, he has choose to be useless.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 12:13pm On Sep 02
MARKone:
Back then, a man I know had a son about the same age as your brother, the son gave him a lot of heart ache, he son steals, a drug addict, spend most of his time in brothels, was an all round bad boy, he gave the man a hell of a problem, and made him a public ridicule. In all this, each time the son is arrested by police, the man goes to pay money to kill the case and bail him out, the man developed grey hairs and was always looking frail. One day, news got to the man that his son have been arrested by SARS for Armed robbery, that he should come to the station, he went the next day, where he was briefed on what happened, then there were more repeated visits to the station, some back and forth. Police was like, he should bring money, so that they'll see how the case would be sorted out, that the longer he stays there, they more likely he would be taken outside in the night and shot. Baba go home, gave it a thought, called the policemen and told them to do whatever they want to do, and never went back to the station. Some months later, news reached the man that they've killed his son...
I'm not saying that's what you guys should do o grin, just that some family have a thin threshold of endurance for a Black sheep of the family.
Pls what did u think I can do now because his on watch now and on the run.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Mercychen(f): 12:14pm On Sep 02
passionguy:

He can't be handled by anyone again I swear.
We have try every best both mom and siblings, he has choose to be useless.

Don't give up on him completely yet. There's nothing prayers cannot do. Just keep praying for him.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 12:43pm On Sep 02
Mercychen:


Don't give up on him completely yet. There's nothing prayers cannot do. Just keep praying for him.
Yes I believe in prayer
Am a Christian
But now I think he has committed a crime and his on the run now

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by kingthreat(m): 1:20pm On Sep 02
Sad the thing is that even if he goes to prison, he will come out worse.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by odogwu190(m): 1:23pm On Sep 02
passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.him Dey take ojaaaaa?
Pls Advice me on what to do.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 1:37pm On Sep 02
kingthreat:
Sad the thing is that even if he goes to prison, he will come out worse.
That's my fear

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by kingthreat(m): 1:49pm On Sep 02
passionguy:

That's my fear

Can all your family members unite and help his soul. If he doesn't want to go to school, gather money for him to travel to a country like Turkey to hustle. Or gather money for him to get a shop selling something. After that, he's on his own.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by stunnert(m): 3:00pm On Sep 02
Some souls are just headed for destruction no matter how hard you try to deter them

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 4:48pm On Sep 02
kingthreat:


Can all your family members unite and help his soul. If he doesn't want to go to school, gather money for him to travel to a country like Turkey to hustle. Or gather money for him to get a shop selling something. After that, he's on his own.
Who are the family
Is it not I and my other siblings and mum
And to be sincere he can't make good of money. He doesn't have clothes shoes or slippers

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by kingthreat(m): 6:18pm On Sep 02
passionguy:

Who are the family
Is it not I and my other siblings and mum
And to be sincere he can't make good of money. He doesn't have clothes shoes or slippers

If he lacks these simple items, sorry crime may be his solution out of poverty.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Vipro(m): 6:22pm On Sep 02
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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Daniiel: 6:55pm On Sep 02
passionguy:

Who are the family
Is it not I and my other siblings and mum
And to be sincere he can't make good of money. He doesn't have clothes shoes or slippers
Pay money to police to make sure he rottens in prison ... Cos I Know more 2 familes that the children caused the death of the parents .... One sef d two sons wer shot dead by police.

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