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Your wife is possessed sir. What is wrong with her? Except you're not giving us the full story...

Please remain zealous for God, stand your ground as the head of the house and ask God for wisdom/insight to this situation. In fact, you're not taking it too far, you have just started. When there is a calling, your heart will be longing to serve God and then get to know Him the more. I really hope you didn't marry the wrong person but there is no situation irredeemable for God. Pray for your wife constantly and deal with her in love.

Guard your salvation with fear and trembling.

sholay2011:
Your wife is possessed sir. What is wrong with her? Except you're not giving us the full story...

Please remain zealous for God, stand your ground as the head of the house and ask God for wisdom/insight to this situation. In fact, you're not taking it too far, you have just started. When there is a calling, your heart will be longing to serve God and then get to know Him the more. I really hope you didn't marry the wrong person but there is no situation irredeemable for God. Pray for your wife constantly and deal with her in love.

Guard your salvation with fear and trembling.

BULLCRAP!

onyxo76

Many people read the thread and refuse to tell you the truth, cos you will not believe the truth, you will want an answer that baby-sits you. There is no point baby-sitting a man who thinks being a man is about having a dicck.

Your Work or as a worker in the church, are you paid for your time ? What I am saying really is 'How does the church system compensate you for the time you spent there?

What I see is a case of a naturally intelligent woman making the mistake of marrying a religious zombie who is deceived into 100% belief that he is serving God. You have gone to the point of no return, nothing your wife will say now will help you.

If you want some advise, I will say dedicate the time you spend in church 100% into passive income actionable research and you might earn a little more than you can spend.

Stop wasting your time in churches, spend your time alone meditating and, talking to God directly. Today's church system is yahoo yahoo. If you are not making a living out of being at church, I will say run from there. It is all about who receives the money. Your wife will prefer it if you were the one earning the tithes and offerings on behalf of God - Allahu Akbar!

onyxo76:
hello my fellow brethren. i attend rccg. i have been in church for 10 years now, 5 years i decided to join the workforce and become committed, my wife decided to leave the parish we were attending because she felt spiritual attacks from church members, i stay back because i had no leading to leave. she was not comfortable with my eagerness to serve.
she stayed home for 2 years until i was able to convince her that staying home is not healthy for a Christian. eventually she found another parish and i decided to join her and the children there for services , but she doesn't like my zeal and eagerness to serve and prefers me just warming the bench as they call a non committed member of a parish. she dislikes my trying to make sure i get to church early, participate in whatever the pastor asks me to as a worker.
today the pastor asked me to take the Tuesday bible study class, since then she has been moody and keeps to herself, i wonder if I'm overdoing things, I've tried to encourage her to become committed but it always ends in hot arguments, thus i just do my own and keep praying for her.
now she is saying she prefers that i attend a separate church instead that i over do things and I'm too zealous and show my eagerness to serve too much.
what do i now?

I am afraid your wife is the least of your problems(assuming she is even one, to begin with), as far as Jesus Christ, the New Covenant between God and man is concerned. You pretend you serve God by the many vain things you do - things Jesus Christ never commanded you to do in the first place - so my question is to what end?

Maybe God is trying to use your wife to pull you away from all the vain worship so you can instead focus all that energy you have towards obeying His actual commandments as stipulated in the New Covenant. All that church (business of man)of man/pastor worship is not going to get you anywhere closer to God, not in this lifetime or even the next (assuming there is one). Your helping these so-called pastors/preachers build and maintain their earthly kingdom is not going to help you get into the kingdom of Heaven... not even close.

TimeTraveler369:
onyxo76

Many people read the thread and refuse to tell you the truth, cos you will not believe the truth, you will want an answer that baby-sits you. There is no point baby-sitting a man who thinks being a man is about having a dicck.

Your Work or as a worker in the church, are you paid for your time ? What I am saying really is 'How does the church system compensate you for the time you spent there?

What I see is a case of a naturally intelligent woman making the mistake of marrying a religious zombie who is deceived into 100% belief that he is serving God. You have gone to the point of no return, nothing your wife will say now will help you.

If you want some advise, I will say dedicate the time you spend in church 100% into passive income actionable research and you might earn a little more than you can spend.

Stop wasting your time in churches, spend your time alone meditating and, talking to God directly. Today's church system is yahoo yahoo.

many thanks sir, i only serve on Sundays in the Sunday school, besides she brought me into rccg when we got married, but now she is not interested in working in any department, and seems hell bent on stopping me, i work as a doctor and even have my own private set up as well but i still spend much time at home as i have doctors working for me in my private hospital.
is 2 hours on a Sunday too much for God, aside maybe an hour or so on Tuesday to study the Bible

onyxo76:
many thanks sir, i only serve on Sundays in the Sunday school, besides she brought me into rccg when we got married, but now she is not interested in working in any department, and seems hell bent on stopping me, i work as a doctor and even have my own private set up as well but i still spend much time at home as i have doctors working for me in my private hospital.
is 2 hours on a Sunday too much for God, aside maybe an hour or so on Tuesday to study the Bible

Nah! Vain worship is not for God at all.
The kind of worship God wants is not what you do in your church buildings on Sundays... Jesus Christ never commanded any of His followers to show up in a building on Sundays to pretend to worship him - doing what sets you against Him.

Kobojunkiee:
I am afraid your wife is the least of your problems(assuming she is even one, to begin with), as far as Jesus Christ, the New Covenant between God and man is concerned. You pretend you serve God by the many vain things you do - things Jesus Christ never commanded you to do in the first place - so my question is to what end?

Maybe God is trying to use your wife to pull you away from all the vain worship so you can instead focus all that energy you have towards obeying His actual commandments as stipulated in the New Covenant. All that church (business of man)of man/pastor worship is not going to get you anywhere closer to God, not in this lifetime or even the next (assuming there is one). Your helping these so-called pastors/preachers build and maintain their earthly kingdom is not going to help you get into the kingdom of Heaven... not even close.

vain worship how? serving in the Sunday school is vain worship? a mere 2 hours on a Sunday too much for God?

Kobojunkiee:
Nah! Vain worship is not for God at all.
The kind of worship God wants is not what you do in your church buildings on Sundays... Jesus Christ never commanded any of His followers to show up in a building on Sundays to pretend to worship him - doing what sets you against Him.

if i may ask, what do you understand by heb 10 vs 25? when we admonished not to forsake the gathering of fellow believers

onyxo76:
vain worship how? serving in the Sunday school is vain worship? a mere 2 hours on a Sunday too much for God?

Open your Bible to the Gospels and read it for yourself. Yes, it is vain worship since rather than doing what He commanded you to do, you are instead doing what man's doctrines and traditions tell you to do instead, thinking you do it on behalf of God.

Mark 7 vs 1-13 (ERV)
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1. Now when the Pharisees gathered to him, with some of the scribes who had come from Jerusalem,
2. they saw that some of his disciples ate with hands that were defiled, that is, unwashed.
3. (For the Pharisees and all the Jews do not eat unless they wash their hands properly,[a] holding to the tradition of the elders,
4. and when they come from the marketplace, they do not eat unless they wash. And there are many other traditions that they observe, such as the washing of cups and pots and copper vessels and dining couches.[c])
[b] 5. And the Pharisees and the scribes asked him, “Why do your disciples not walk according to the tradition of the elders, but eat with defiled hands?”
6. And he said to them, “Well did Isaiah prophesy of you hypocrites, as it is written,
“‘This people honors me with their lips,
but their heart is far from me;
7. in vain do they worship me,
teaching as doctrines the commandments of men.’

8. You leave the commandment of God and hold to the (doctrines and rules)** tradition of men.”
9. And he said to them, “You have a fine way of rejecting the commandment of God in order to establish your tradition!
10. For Moses said, ‘Honor your father and your mother’; and, ‘Whoever reviles father or mother must surely die.’
11. But you say, ‘If a man tells his father or his mother, “Whatever you would have gained from me is Corban”’ (that is, given to God)[d]—
12. then you no longer permit him to do anything for his father or mother,
13. thus making void the word of God by your tradition that you have handed down. And many such things you do.”

** _{substituted from another Bible translation for better understanding of what is impacted}

onyxo76:
if i may ask, what do you understand by heb 10 vs 25? when we admonished not to forsake the gathering of fellow believers

Let's first deal with the Truth of God i.e. Jesus Christ and what He commanded. If you want to learn of the about 46 commandments that make up the New Covenant agreement which is Jesus Christ, I suggest you first read through each and every one of the 4 Gospels to get yourself better acquainted with Him in truth and in Spirit, and not through the doctrines and traditions (lies) of men.

Jesus Christ never commanded any of His followers to show up to serve Him in a special building on any day of the week. So why do you do it pretending you do it in obedience to Him when He never commanded it?

onyxo76:
i work as a doctor and even have my own private set up as well

How come you do not see your work as a doctor as Jesus work such that you need to be doing overtime in pastor's church?

onyxo76:
hello my fellow brethren. i attend rccg. i have been in church for 10 years now, 5 years i decided to join the workforce and become committed, my wife decided to leave the parish we were attending because she felt spiritual attacks from church members, i stay back because i had no leading to leave. she was not comfortable with my eagerness to serve.
she stayed home for 2 years until i was able to convince her that staying home is not healthy for a Christian. eventually she found another parish and i decided to join her and the children there for services , but she doesn't like my zeal and eagerness to serve and prefers me just warming the bench as they call a non committed member of a parish. she dislikes my trying to make sure i get to church early, participate in whatever the pastor asks me to as a worker.
today the pastor asked me to take the Tuesday bible study class, since then she has been moody and keeps to herself, i wonder if I'm overdoing things, I've tried to encourage her to become committed but it always ends in hot arguments, thus i just do my own and keep praying for her.

what do i now?

there you go @ the bolded. It is the right thing to do.

budaatum:
How come you do not see your work as a doctor as Jesus work such that you need to be doing overtime in pastor's church?

2 hours on a Sunday is overtime?

dan2ene:
there you go @ the bolded. It is the right thing to do.

bro, i appreciate your kind response, i have no regrets being useful to God in His vineyard.

onyxo76:
bro, i appreciate your kind response, i have no regrets being useful to God in His vineyard.

There you go assuming again that doing what God never commanded of you is useful to God. Read what Jesus Christ Himself told you of such things and how rather than uplift you, they instead nullify the power of God in your life..

Mark 7 vs 1-13 (ERV)
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1. Now when the Pharisees gathered to him, with some of the scribes who had come from Jerusalem,
2. they saw that some of his disciples ate with hands that were defiled, that is, unwashed.
3. (For the Pharisees and all the Jews do not eat unless they wash their hands properly,[a] holding to the tradition of the elders,
4. and when they come from the marketplace, they do not eat unless they wash. And there are many other traditions that they observe, such as the washing of cups and pots and copper vessels and dining couches.[c])
[b] 5. And the Pharisees and the scribes asked him, “Why do your disciples not walk according to the tradition of the elders, but eat with defiled hands?”
6. And he said to them, “Well did Isaiah prophesy of you hypocrites, as it is written,
“‘This people honors me with their lips,
but their heart is far from me;
7. in vain do they worship me,
teaching as doctrines the commandments of men.’

8. You leave the commandment of God and hold to the (doctrines and rules)** tradition of men.”
9. And he said to them, “You have a fine way of rejecting the commandment of God in order to establish your tradition!
10. For Moses said, ‘Honor your father and your mother’; and, ‘Whoever reviles father or mother must surely die.’
11. But you say, ‘If a man tells his father or his mother, “Whatever you would have gained from me is Corban”’ (that is, given to God)[d]—
12. then you no longer permit him to do anything for his father or mother,
13. thus making void the word of God by your tradition that you have handed down. And many such things you do.”

** substituted from another Bible translation for better understanding of what is impacted

onyxo76:
2 hours on a Sunday is overtime?

You will in the end justify yourself and do whatever you want to do, but in my own opinion, that 2 hours is better spent with your wife and children if you got any than what you seem to want to spend it on. If you spent it teaching your children if you got any, maths for instance, you and your's will be blessed.

Moderation, is my word for you. If you were spending quality time with your wife and family she would likely not be complaining so much, and considering you are a doctor with your own practise and other doctors working for you, I doubt you got time for wife.

But I assume. Please tell how many hours work you do in a week. And do not lie!

budaatum:
You will in the end justify yourself and do whatever you want to do, but in my own opinion, that 2 hours is better spent with your wife and children if you got any than what you seem to want to spend it on. If you spent it teaching your children if you got any, maths for instance, you and your's will be blessed.

Moderation, is my word for you. If you were spending quality time with your wife and family she would likely not be complaining so much, and considering you are a doctor with your own practise and other doctors working for you, I doubt you got time for wife.

But I assume. Please tell how many hours work you do in a week. And do not lie!

at least 60 hours a week, what you don't know is thar my wife was the fervent one and encouraged me to join rccg, now she has lost passion for things that relate to church

Kobojunkiee:
Nah! Vain worship is not for God at all.
The kind of worship God wants is not what you do in your church buildings on Sundays... Jesus Christ never commanded any of His followers to show up in a building on Sundays to pretend to worship him - doing what sets you against Him.

This is pure balderdash. OP do not listen to this guy if you don't want to be misled. A word is enough for the wise.

budaatum:
You will in the end justify yourself and do whatever you want to do, but in my own opinion, that 2 hours is better spent with your wife and children if you got any than what you seem to want to spend it on. If you spent it teaching your children if you got any, maths for instance, you and your's will be blessed.

Moderation, is my word for you. If you were spending quality time with your wife and family she would likely not be complaining so much, and considering you are a doctor with your own practise and other doctors working for you, I doubt you got time for wife.

But I assume. Please tell how many hours work you do in a week. And do not lie!

Are comments like this for real??!!

@onyxo76...Go offline and get a more reliable advice on this matter.

budaatum:
You will in the end justify yourself and do whatever you want to do, but in my own opinion, that 2 hours is better spent with your wife and children if you got any than what you seem to want to spend it on. If you spent it teaching your children if you got any, maths for instance, you and your's will be blessed.

Moderation, is my word for you. If you were spending quality time with your wife and family she would likely not be complaining so much, and considering you are a doctor with your own practise and other doctors working for you, I doubt you got time for wife.

But I assume. Please tell how many hours work you do in a week. And do not lie!

so in a nutshell going to church for 2 hours on a Sunday is a waste of my time? do you attend any church service at all? its not as if i attend every church prog, but at least Sunday service and Sunday school is a must for me if I'm not on call that day? i know what i used to be when i was in the world, until i surrendered my life to Christ and started attending service, bible study etc and my wife was happy, now she hates me getting ready for service on Sunday

sholay2011:
This is pure balderdash. OP do not listen to this guy if you don't want to be misled. A word is enough for the wise.

listen ke, i know their type na.

onyxo76:
so in a nutshell going to church for 2 hours on a Sunday is a waste of my time? do you attend any church service at all? its not as if i attend every church prog, but at least Sunday service and Sunday school is a must for me if I'm not on call that day? i know what i used to be when i was in the world, until i surrendered my life to Christ and started attending service, bible study etc and my wife was happy, now she hates me getting ready for service on Sunday

Dude, divorce your wife and get a new one who approves of you "surrendering your life to Christ".
Your current wife might have become demon possessed and you should not yoke unequally.

sholay2011:
Are comments like this for real??!!

@onyxo76...Go offline and get a more reliable advice on this matter.

bro i tire o, if someone advice me to spend Sunday morning teaching maths to my children, I'm not surprised at all.

onyxo76:
at least 60 hours a week, what you don't know is thar my wife was the fervent one and encouraged me to join rccg, now she has lost passion for things that relate to church

60 hours a week is 10 hours a day if you rest on Sunday. Add two hours journeying to work and back a day and that leaves 12 hours. You likely don't sleep much being young and strong, so lets say 6 hours a day making 18 hours and leaving you with 6 free hours.

Do tell, how many of those 6 hours is wife time?

Righteousness89:
Brother, the 2 Shall be one Flesh is not in matters of Eternity..
Eternity is a Solo Race. So Brother Serve God ooo! Wife or whatever should not be an Hinderance..

Your wife will not Stand for you neither will u Stand for her..
Nothing! No one comes btw you and GOD

i fully understand bro, may God continue to uphold us till the end, keep serving the Lord

budaatum:
Dude, divorce your wife and get a new one who approves of you "surrendering your life to Christ".
Your current wife might have become demon possessed and you should not yoke unequally.

ROFLMAO!!

onyxo76:
bro i tire o, if someone advice me to spend Sunday morning teaching maths to my children, I'm not surprised at all.

No one is advising you to "spend Sunday morning teaching maths to my children" though if you do it would not be a bad thing. What you should do is address your wife's concerns instead of painting her as demon possessed.

My brother, don't mind all these devilish advices. Remain zealous for God so that when the master returns he will find you in his business. Heavenly race na per head, talk to ur wife, if she refuses, let her be but don't allow her discourage you. Continue to pray and love her despite everything. Remember that our works shall be tried..

onyxo76:
many thanks sir, i only serve on Sundays in the Sunday school, besides she brought me into rccg when we got married, but now she is not interested in working in any department, and seems hell bent on stopping me, i work as a doctor and even have my own private set up as well but i still spend much time at home as i have doctors working for me in my private hospital.
is 2 hours on a Sunday too much for God, aside maybe an hour or so on Tuesday to study the Bible

Two hours is too much.

Let me mention my sundays schedule and the plan we have every sundays;

9AM Everyone goes to his/her chosen worship place. But be sure to return home by 12:30 at most. If they can not make it to service then streaming is encouraged every sundays.

From 12:30PM to 4:30PM you can receive guests, or play you favourite family games or do what ever you want because 5PM is Family Home Evening to address any infractions or worries within the past week and plan the next week. Then our family weekend party begins from 8PM till when ever you wanna retire to bed.

Your weekends must be fun and party time with family, not sweating out for a church system. You have to spend all available time with family apart from work. Religion is not a pillar in relationship, it is a tool and a tool can not be made a master in life.

Numismatic:
My brother, don't mind all these devilish advices. Remain zealous for God so that when the master returns he will find you in his business. Heavenly race na per head, talk to ur wife, if she refuses, let her be but don't allow her discourage you. Continue to pray and love her despite everything. Remember that our works shall be tried..

Yes, it is indeed "devilish" to advise this man who claims to believe in God and serve God, to do exactly what God commands instead of playing Christian in your church business of this world.

Yes ooo, the one who tells you to do what God commands is EVIL... instead the one who tells you to do that which has nothing to do with what God asked of you is the one who is correct, right?