Chimaokigwe:
I just pity that foolish Trayceey girl who opened a thread to cry that her boyfriend did not buy bread for her mother. Them don use insult rinse her mama.

Make una free the girl na

I can't subscribe to this 'tittle-tattle' write-up OP. . I chose not to marry the abroad or akata girl because of divorce issues it mostly ends in and the way they live their lives over there, recklessly. Please guys, don't subscribe to ideas of marrying over there when you can always come home to pick your wife. If you have the opportunity of coming home to pick a wife to marry, do so without looking back. You'd be glad indeed , that you did.

About those always citing an example of those who regretted doing this and eventually divorced or killed their wives, this is just one out of ten cases we've had. Out of 10 guys who invited wifey or came home to marry and moved with their wives , only one wouldn't end successfully, compared to almost 6 out of 10 people who married Akata but ended up in divorce.

Our background most times wouldn't allow many to marry and cope with the so called akata wives 99% of the time. We are cultured, mannered and respectable, even grew and brought up in different environments. We want to cater for our wife and love her dearly, ensure she looks good and takes care of our children, that's how we were brought up, different from the way akatas and our people who have chosen to be like them in their reckless uncultured lifestyle are. Those ladies here, who tend to emulate the western world tend to end up breaking up with their husbands as well and when this happens, they say all manners of things to justify their actions...the man is authoritative, he's domineering, he's this , he's that.

What i don't seem to be cool with, on the part of the guys is all about those who always marry akata with the intention of getting papers or have what is called AOS done and later dump them as soon as they're through with the whole process. The law of karma would surely strike someday. If it didn't strike through unsuccessful marriage with the home breed, it would strike in the career or in some other painful ways. I know of someone downtown aurora in Chicago back in the days, who married an American young girl for the sake of papers. This pretty girl loved him so dearly. Eventually he divorced this girl and she committed suicide. There are several of such cases happening on a regular basis. I paid a brief visit to my cousin in texas in 2019 before returning home after my holidays, he narrated a similar story. If you're not going to be sincere with her, let her know from the onset, she could do a contract stuffs with you if she wishes to... else, your punishment awaits you big time.

Chimaokigwe:


Na God go punish that useless Trayceey. See as she attract curses and eternal disgrace to her family. Her entire family dey cry for 1 loaf of bread.

Link pls

Holywizard:
I'm planning on migrating to Eastern Europe this year.
With the experinces I have here, I'm even scared of getting married to a Nigerian

Ordinarily i would be scared too. I fear Nigerians in general. Doesn't matter if they are male or female. That being said, there is only one Nigerian i thank the gods i met and that is my wife. She is the most amazing person i have ever met and probably the most beautiful woman in the world. And she was born Nigerian. That is a miracle in itself. My advice to you is to know the person you are going to marry as best you can. I made sure i lived with my wife for 24 months before we got married. I don't care who you are, you cannot pretend for that long. Especially with someone like me. I will stress the phuck outta you till your break. And she passed with flying colors. I don't regret anything. And this was 20 years ago. How time flies.

omotolarunsewe:
When you bring a woman abroad make sure you ready to treat her like an African queen.don’t let her help out in paying any bills.make sure you have a good job or business,take good care of her. Go on vacations,Don’t cheat on her.she will always remain your queen.my wife came here 14 years ago and she still remain my adorable wife. Be smart and never get jealous when she start making her own $$$

Chief, any woman i marry must help join pay bills too.

You wanna know why?

The economic realities for today is not encouraging for any young man to single handedly take the financial responsibilty of any family aside in cases where the man is filthy rich and can afford to pick the tab.

Second reason is for the woman to know the value of money and to appreciate dignity of labour so she dosent one day become entitled.

Do you know how hard you have to sweat to make #1,000 profit in this harsh economy?

My mama worked a low paying job and my dad worked in an fmcg company, yet she still helped with bills in the house.

By the way what do women use their own money for?

Facial poster color and Fake human hair?

Many men have returned for wives... many have not returned and married Akatas.... all living happy family lives. So what's the difference? OP is very on point. For the men.... what would they expect when they return home hungry for a wife and grab women they know little about... marry and take them abroad? Is it the woman to blame when she bails out on him?... or the man?
I would say most men that return to find a wife are those who expect their wives to be as submissive as expected back home. This is the main reason such men cannot enter relationships with Akatas.... culture clash. My thing... if a man is abroad... and needs a nice village babe as wife... then he should relocate to the village.

There are many many many Nigerian men or boys I
Should say scamming innocent women for visas, professing their live and loyalty all the while having numerous girlfriends in Nigeria or even a wife.
The families are also in on it and know exactly what their sons are doing, yet they willingly participate

erico2k2:

oyah nah abroad person wants ur number if nah U dey the dp

I been wan say i fine pass am, but make i no spoy her runs

1Sharon:


If you're well off Nigeria is very good

You are right .

Iyajelili:
Do whatever works for you.

You're right jare iya jelili oniso

tit:


I been wan say i fine pass am, but make i no spoy her runs

Sis I see what you did there

I see you shining

tit:


I been wan say i fine pass am, but make i no spoy her runs

4 that pic wey dey ur Dp so?

1Sharon:


Sis I see what you did there

I see you shining

E shock you?

erico2k2:

E shock you?

A bit

Burgerlomo:


You're right jare iya jelili oniso

Abi? Enough of this abroad stuff for people like us wey get 10million kobo for account

1Sharon:


A bit

E shock me toooo ohhh

angelfallz:


What has that got to do with anything?

Everything

Holywizard:
I'm planning on migrating to Eastern Europe this year.
With the experinces I have here, I'm even scared of getting married to a Nigerian

While these experiences are real and true, please do not ruin your relationship over these claims. What is the guaranty that if you breakup with this one and date/marry the next, she would be better? Maybe those abroad whose story is the total opposite of this should come out and share their testimonies to balance this equation.

erico2k2:

E shock me toooo ohhh

. She slyly tried to shoot her shot

Dreadlock69:

I reject it

angelfallz:


Are you trying to say there are also no men with good character?
I never said anything about perfect character. Don't try to say what I never said.

Sorry about the perfect part
"What you should be advocating for is that men should shine their eyes and marry women with the right character and attitude"
The main point of my response to you is how do you shine your eye and marry women with the right character and attitude?
As I said earlier, character and attitide might be a reflection of the current circumstances and enviroment. It applies to both men and women. So how do you shine eyes to know?
A man might be rich, have a good character woman with all the right attitide, he runs in to financial or health problems and sees the worst character he never believed the woman could ever have. Vice versa.
Same applies to a man that shines his eyes, disregards the chicks abroad and his mum or him picks up a very well brought up girl with good attitude and character, they relocate as the op says and few years down the line the enviroment brings out the worse. Same way you have some married couples in naija that relocate to Canada etc and you see the man or woman misbehaving or divorce after few years.
It applies both ways.
So in sumarry, the bottomline is mutual respect, understanding, the grace of God or call it luck that makes marriages work.
That was why in my first response I said the mythical good character woman. same applies to men.

Sensible points.

Mcslize:


For how long now? Has it been up to 5yrs? Cuz people change over time.

7 years and counting. Like I said in my previous post, pray you don't meet the wrong woman even in Nigeria, a bad woman will always be a bad woman, be in kafachan or Adelaide believe me.

1Sharon:


Link pls

https://www.nairaland.com/6350224/fiance-visited-mother-empty-handed-now

I wept for her mother for the kind of embarrassment her foolish daughter brought upon her.

banmee:


Ordinarily i would be scared too. I fear Nigerians in general. Doesn't matter if they are male or female. That being said, there is only one Nigerian i thank the gods i met and that is my wife. She is the most amazing person i have ever met and probably the most beautiful woman in the world. And she was born Nigerian. That is a miracle in itself. My advice to you is to know the person you are going to marry as best you can. I made sure i lived with my wife for 24 months before we got married. I don't care who you are, you cannot pretend for that long. Especially with someone like me. I will stress the phuck outta you till your break. And she passed with flying colors. I don't regret anything. And this was 20 years ago. How time flies.

Nothing brings out the truth like pressure

Op, ur categories no complete, but will leave it at that. Have a friend's so sad example that i can't share

Jaqenhghar:

Nothing brings out the truth like pressure

You got that right

Leebeedo:


It's wrong to make a generalization based on just one or few cases you witnessed. I brought my girl over to the USA and everything has been smooth. I was scared though, but marriage no be by being smart, just pray you don't meet the wrong one cos you can meet them when you're based in Nigerian as well.

lol, i said those who scam to bring their ladies over. I am married too, like you said, pray you dont meet the wrong one. Stay safe bro.

optimusprime2:


You'd be surprised, you'd be surprised...

those guys are probably low self esteem dunderheads, with the amount of single ladies crying for bf/husband in this country.

Iyajelili:


Abi? Enough of this abroad stuff for people like us wey get 10million kobo for account

Have faith sis because there's nothing God can't not do