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Trust me, you'll still see pre wedding photos few days from now.

You just can't change nature honey. Take it or leave it.



Then I wonder what women benefit in the so called marriage. Like seriously??

Sonnobax15:


I think it's high time men should start seeing *marriage* as a SCAM which is 100% beneficial to women......

I'd rather advocate to being a single father,thereby installing the title of a baby mama to my name instead of inviting one wahala into my life in the name of marriage........

Marriage na women affair.....no sensible man should be allowed to sit among his fellow men to discuss marriage matters apart from being together to kill beer,and if at all to discuss how to break free from a disastrous marriage..

Marriage doesn't favour a particular gender.

StacyO:
Trust me, you'll still see pre wedding photos few days from now.


You just can't change nature honey.
Take it or leave it.




Then I wonder what women benefit in the so called marriage.
Like seriously??

Marriage can be nothing but a disaster

JOACHINpedro:
So we should increase our sex appeals to avoid a sexless marriage??

Yes.
Don't take my advice lightly.
God created sex, to be enjoyed by married couples, so please and please, gentleman, eat healthy, exercise, practice good hygiene, work on your confidence and charm to enhance appearance.

SlimCupid:
Okay before you bring out your nails and cross and a crown of thorns, kindly hear my gospel first.
Let's for a moment put aside what the Bible says. Or what culture, tradition and the society define as the right thing to do.
Why do women get married?
1. So society can get off their backs.
2. They can have their children in peace.
3. They obtain a man who would take care of their needs until they die.
4. The revered title of 'Mrs' becomes theirs to flaunt.
5. Insert your own reason here.
Why do men get married?
1. So society certifies them responsible men.
2. Because they're in love with this girl, and they'd do anything to make her happy.

Perhaps there's something I am missing. So, local men, why did you get married/ why do you want to get married?

*carries cross and makes way to golgotha to be crucified

I respect your opinion but sadly it seems logical only to a bitter man who is failing in life and failing in his relationship and never seeks remedy to his unbecoming.

There are certain responsibilities in life a single man is never equipped to handle alone, even if he thinks he can, he can't.

A quick study for you:
On Earth the highest honour is to be a monarch or a politician at the highest level, why do you see that at that level a man is seldom allowed to be single to run an empire or a country? Those who went alone check the way they ruled, some were the worst in history; Joseph Stalin, Adolf Hitler etc

Certain solutions to the problems of humanity comes in form of people; Einstein, John Nash, Galileo, Newton, Bill Gates etc.

So it's never about marriage,it's about the force of good that union can bring to humanity.

StacyO:
Trust me, you'll still see pre wedding photos few days from now.


You just can't change nature honey.
Take it or leave it.




Then I wonder what women benefit in the so called marriage.
Like seriously??

Lols, coincidentally you are here.

This was my answer

Yusufisraelj:
I respect your opinion but sadly it seems logical only to a bitter man who is failing in life and failing in his relationship and never seeks remedy to his unbecoming.

There are certain responsibilities in life a single man is never equipped to handle alone, even if he thinks he can, he can't.

A quick study for you:
On Earth the highest honour is to be a monarch or a politician at the highest level, why do you see that at that level a man is seldom allowed to be single to run an empire or a country? Those who went alone check the way they ruled, some were the worst in history; Joseph Stalin, Adolf Hitler etc

Certain solutions to the problems of humanity comes in form of people; Einstein, John Nash, Galileo, Newton, Bill Gates etc.

So it's never about marriage,it's about the force of good that union can bring to humanity.

SlimCupid:
Good analysis bro, but two things.
1. I disagree that men, with time, feel unhappy with their single status. Mr. Dangote is unmarried. So is Don Jazzy etc. They don't seem like unhappy people to me. In fact, these people are living their best lives, devoid of complications and drama.
2. Feeling lonely is relative. For example, I live alone. I love my space, and I don't appreciate when someone invades it for more than a few days at a time. So long as I have the football and a circle of friends, I'd never feel lonely. I appreciate that everyone isn't like this though.
So here we are again.

Brother, i just wanted to point out the bolded. Infact i once had thoughts about this some several years back. I don't know how old you are now, but I want you to remember this: "Life is never static, it's always evolving". What you know and love now may not be what you would find tomorrow. Those friends you are happily hanging out with now will someday get married, have their own kids and families and forget to hang out with you cos they cant relate with the sort of things single men think, do or say.

You may not know how important it is to have kids growing in a functional family until you start to grow old and realise you won't be on this earth for much longer. Who would take care of you in your old age? I agree not all kids take care of their parents but you stand a better chance with them than not having any kids at all. So for the OP, there is a lot to potentially gain for men.

If potential fathers decided to take this decision, most of us won't be here today.

It All depends on ur frame and the kind of woman u choose to marry. For example I choose to marry a lady who is family oriented than career oriented. A feminine lady not a masculine lady.

Marriage is very important especially for the man who's the patriarch. It's to preserve and continue ur seed and lineage. A traditional wife will satisfy you with regular and quality sex, food and submission. As long as u have the control of the frame in the marriage

Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Not all Nigerian girls are useless, I am a living testimony

Yusufisraelj:
I respect your opinion but sadly it seems logical only to a bitter man who is failing in life and failing in his relationship and never seeks remedy to his unbecoming.

There are certain responsibilities in life a single man is never equipped to handle alone, even if he thinks he can, he can't.

A quick study for you:
On Earth the highest honour is to be a monarch or a politician at the highest level, why do you see that at that level a man is seldom allowed to be single to run an empire or a country? Those who went alone check the way they ruled, some were the worst in history; Joseph Stalin, Adolf Hitler etc

Certain solutions to the problems of humanity comes in form of people; Einstein, John Nash, Galileo, Newton, Bill Gates etc.

So it's never about marriage,it's about the force of good that union can bring to humanity.

Lol okay I'll ignore your comment about the bitter man failing in life because I don't blow my own trumpet.
Responsibilities a single man can not handle if he's not married? Well, do enlighten us cos last I checked, single and married men bear the title 'Mister'.

An obvious study for you. For every single man who committed atrocities as leaders, there are/were a thousand married ones who shafted/keep shafting their poor followers. It's almost as of it's only a matter of personality and mental orientation.

The force of good that union can bring to humanity? If that were the case, then the African society would be the best in the world while leading countries/economies in Europe, who now hire ministers for sex just to encourage their people to procreate, would be in ruins.

majorbravo:
Brother, i just wanted to point out the bolded. Infact i once had thoughts about this some several years back. I don't know how old you are now, but I want you to remember this: "Life is never static, it's always evolving". What you know and love now may not be what you would find tomorrow. Those friends you are happily hanging out with now will someday get married, have their own kids and families and forget to hang out with you cos they cant relate with the sort of things single men think, do or say.

You may not know how important it is to have kids growing in a functional family until you start to grow old and realise you won't be on this earth for much longer. Who would take care of you in your old age? I agree not all kids take care of their parents but you stand a better chance with them than not having any kids at all. So for the OP, there is a lot to potentially gain for men.

If potential fathers decided to take this decision, most of us won't be here today.

Very well said bro, but there's fantasy, and then there's reality. The cold, hard, indisputable reality is this. Most married men, after getting married, don't really stop doing the things they did when they were single. Like going out for a drink with the boys, chasing other women and so on. If they find themselves in a situation where they have to stop those things, they become so disillusioned with life that they yearn to become single and free again. Most of my married friends are in this situation. Not some. Most. And they married their friends/sweethearts.
Has anyone really stopped to consider why most married people are bored, lonely and why couples only, eventually, stay together because of the children?
Why would anyone knowingly put themselves in that kind of situation? FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES?!
A unmarried woman, when I asked her, said that she'd unconditionally love her son who smokes, drinks, and is a womaniser, but she'd throw her husband out of the house if he exhibits the same behaviour. Tells you everything you need to know.

majorbravo:
Brother, i just wanted to point out the bolded. Infact i once had thoughts about this some several years back. I don't know how old you are now, but I want you to remember this: "Life is never static, it's always evolving". What you know and love now may not be what you would find tomorrow. Those friends you are happily hanging out with now will someday get married, have their own kids and families and forget to hang out with you cos they cant relate with the sort of things single men think, do or say.

You may not know how important it is to have kids growing in a functional family until you start to grow old and realise you won't be on this earth for much longer. Who would take care of you in your old age? I agree not all kids take care of their parents but you stand a better chance with them than not having any kids at all. So for the OP, there is a lot to potentially gain for men.

If potential fathers decided to take this decision, most of us won't be here today.

As a married man, you're still going to need a social life bro. If you don't obtain one, you will become bored, and it will affect your marriage. Having a wife will not change that.
As for your children taking care of you in your old age, you don't have to be married for that to happen. Or not. It's all relative.
I still posit that there isn't much to gain for men, but much to lose. And what does the wife give you in return? Most replies have skirted around and around this question, which kinda confirms that we're all just yielding to the pressure cooker that is the African society.

Yusufisraelj:
Lols, coincidentally you are here.
This was my answer

Quite understandable.



Two heads like they say,is better than ,,,,,,,,,

SlimCupid:
Lol okay I'll ignore your comment about the bitter man failing in life because I don't blow my own trumpet.
Responsibilities a single man can not handle if he's not married? Well, do enlighten us cos last I checked, single and married men bear the title 'Mister'.

An obvious study for you. For every single man who committed atrocities as leaders, there are/were a thousand married ones who shafted/keep shafting their poor followers. It's almost as of it's only a matter of personality and mental orientation.

The force of good that union can bring to humanity? If that were the case, then the African society would be the best in the world while leading countries/economies in Europe, who now hire ministers for sex just to encourage their people to procreate, would be in ruins.

Okay, I understand your perspective, but it seems to me you want to uphold a certain view.

For the sake of clarity let me use the story of US president Richard Nixon; Nixon had tendencies as that of Hitler, prone to anger, beats his wife, broke her bones, was willing to cut corners and do the wrong thing just to succeed. How did that happen?

The pressures that comes from certain positions requires a committed relationship to shelf some of it, not a side chick or being single, Nixon was faced with impossible situations and had to make the best of bad decisions he needed a confidant, even while he unleashed his frustration on his poor wife, he confided in her, apologised and they got along and she helped him bore some of his responsibilities as the president and as a husband.

Do you know a child requires the discipline of the Dad and the love of the mum to grow correctly in society? When you say marriage can be a forgone alternative, you risk the balance a child needs for proper growth to become an effective citizen. Many people on the street suffer from emotional imbalance bkos of the absence of one of these key figures, hence their tendencies to look down on the opposite sex, or treat their partners like trash or uphold certain views about the opposite sex that is not true.

Secondly you seem to iterate the success of the west over that of Africa, you see marriage alone does not make a country succeed, you need people with sound minds and the necessary expertise, even the west you point out are currently failing seriously bkos they have ignored the foundations of a working society, Africa will rise to the world stage, bkos while we have upheld the foundations we left our mindset and expertise behind, but we are gradually picking that up.

Sincerely I'm making depositions to the topic and not directing them to you personally, as you seem to suggest in your begining statement.

Is all about individual preference

Men are funny creatures. When boobs, butt and facial beauty is the MAIN reason why you men choose to marry a woman since SEX is all you are always thinking about, how do you want to be happy in your marriage after your choice of superficialities deflates lol? Then, you all be running up and down crying like little babies about how marriage is a sad institution . MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR WEAK MEN