RisenPhoenix1:


My wife learnt not to play such tricks on me early in life. In her first pregnancy, when we were about 3 or 4 months married, she was trying to force me to buy her suya late at night (the reason why I always use that late night suya analogy). My mother was even supporting her, can you imagine? I just chuckled at both of them, very helpfully fetched my wife's car keys and tossed them on the table for them to go and buy whatever they wanted. They took one look at the dark empty streets outside and the suya craving miraculously disappeared (praise the Lord). I was never asked again, either during that pregnancy or any other thereafter.

Me that did all the work putting in the baby, I didn't wahala anybody to buy me suya.

Lol you're just not nice.

cococandy:


Just off the top of my head.(feel free to actually read up on this topic if your ego will let you).
Reasons why some women may get cravings during pregnancy.

1) The placenta. The placenta is the chief cause of chemical imbalance in a woman’s body during pregnancy. It secretes several hormones that help to support and keep the pregnancy viable. One of the major side effects is change in taste buds. This change can cause cravings for things different than what normally constitutes her regular diet. A tiny bit of what the placenta does. A tee at tiny bit. Read more on it.

2) Nausea. Can cause cravings for sour/salty & spicy substances. In a bid to get rid of sick taste in the mouth caused by vomiting.

3) Nutritional deficiencies. (Major cause of cravings). The growing fetus will take what it needs to grow and thrive, inevitably leaving the woman with less to nourish herself. Common deficiency is iron, vitamin Bs and D complexes amongst others. Women find themselves craving dirt, loving the smell of earth, eating clay and things that they normally wouldn’t. But are often rich in minerals and vitamins. Many women don’t know why they crave the things they do, but the brain knows what they body is lacking and drives a sense of desirability towards those things in other to feed itself. It’s honestly not about you SIR. The amazing human body in its glory knows how to direct its resources in a bid to sustain itself with or without our minds approval.




If you love science that much, reading a little about things you know nothing about wouldn’t be that difficult.

It really was off the top of your head. But personal belief is not science. This is what WebMD has to say (incidentally not off the top of their heads, but citing proper studies):

https://www.webmd.com/baby/features/coping-with-pregnancy-food-cravings

A statement that stood out is:
"Truth is, nobody is sure why some women have pregnancy food cravings..."

I do love science and subscribe to a number of scientific journals, so I really am not as ignorant as you keep saying I am, but I'll let that slide. Also, neither a mere change in taste buds, nausea nor pica explains the kind of uncontrollable cravings that women claim to have, nor the elephant in the room that no one wants to acknowledge; the fact that unwed mothers either do not have them, or are extremely successful at controlling them.

RisenPhoenix1:
I just can't get past the fact that only pregnant wives of doting monogamists have these 'uncontrollable' cravings. Millions of co wives, as well as teenage and unwed mothers; carry their pregnancies to full term (the unwed mothers even evade detection long enough to dump them in hostel toilets) without anyone hearing about any cravings or early morning sicknesses. Makes me believe that they are either faked to get favours/attention, or actually controllable, but exaggerated; again to get favours/attention.

It is all about psychological manipulation of the poor long-suffering husband.

You are so insensitive and also an ignoramus. I say this to you because i am pregnant and my cravings are real.

afilaka:


You are so insensitive and also an ignoramus. I say this to you because i am pregnant and my cravings are real.

Interesting. Mind answering a few questions, please?

1. Are they uncontrollable?
2. What do you crave exactly?
3. Does it come at specific hours of the day or night or is it continuous?
4. Does your husband pander to the cravings or ignore them?
5. If you don't get to eat what you crave do you get any type of adverse effects? If yes, what are these effects and after how long?
6. Do you feel outraged, disappointed or disinterested when you say you have cravings and are ignored?

I wish you a safe and peaceful delivery of a healthy and happy baby; by the way.

RisenPhoenix1:
I just can't get past the fact that only pregnant wives of doting monogamists have these 'uncontrollable' cravings. Millions of co wives, as well as teenage and unwed mothers; carry their pregnancies to full term (the unwed mothers even evade detection long enough to dump them in hostel toilets) without anyone hearing about any cravings or early morning sicknesses. Makes me believe that they are either faked to get favours/attention, or actually controllable, but exaggerated; again to get favours/attention.

It is all about psychological manipulation of the poor long-suffering husband.

Thank you.

RisenPhoenix1:
I just can't get past the fact that only pregnant wives of doting monogamists have these 'uncontrollable' cravings. Millions of co wives, as well as teenage and unwed mothers; carry their pregnancies to full term (the unwed mothers even evade detection long enough to dump them in hostel toilets) without anyone hearing about any cravings or early morning sicknesses. Makes me believe that they are either faked to get favours/attention, or actually controllable, but exaggerated; again to get favours/attention.

It is all about psychological manipulation of the poor long-suffering husband.

Thank you. I have never understood the reason for the exaggeration of these cravings.

Regex:


Thank you. I have never understood the reason for the exaggeration of these cravings.

Welcome. Don't fall for these naughty feminine wiles. When a woman is carrying your child, she thinks she deserves to have the world in exchange.

Ironically, she's the one that will enjoy the child in the end.

Oizee:
even the unwed ones also have that crazy cravings for somethings, but they wl control it cuz they are being endured wherever they are instead of being celebrated.... some will even pretend and manage the morning sickness very well and people around dem won't even detect....our environment or circumstances determines the level of behavior most times....

The word RisenPhoenix1 is looking for. Right there. At the bolded.

RisenPhoenix1:


Welcome. Don't fall for these naughty feminine wiles. When a woman is carrying your child, she thinks she deserves to have the world in exchange.

Ironically, she's the one that will enjoy the child in the end.

I'm not married yet. When I do, I'd remind her that a girl is somewhere controlling her cravings or attending to it without making a scene or seeking for her man's attention.

Regex:


The word RisenPhoenix1 is looking for. Right there. At the bolded.

Yessss!

crackhaus:

Lmao...

No wonder she once accused you of being me, or is it I of being you. Lol

I can actually see my fingers typing something like this.

No one with her thought could spot the difference between you two not gonna lie.

Regex:


The word RisenPhoenix1 is looking for. Right there. At the bolded.

He’s the one who termed the cravings uncontrollable. No woman told him her cravings were uncontrollable.
Nor that they all send their partners scurrying into the night to find them things to eat at all times of the day.


OP’s supposed rendition of funny instances didn’t state the women termed their cravings uncontrollable.

He’s using that phrase as a cop out because he knows denying they exist (which is his primary position) will only end up making him look like the smart a** that he is concerning this particular topic.

cococandy:


He’s the one who termed the cravings uncontrollable. No woman told him her cravings were uncontrollable.
Nor that they all send their partners scurrying into the night to find them things to eat at all times of the day.


OP’s supposed rendition of funny instances didn’t state the women termed their cravings uncontrollable.

He’s using that phrase as a cop out because he knows denying they exist (which is his primary position) will only end up making him look like the smart a** that he is concerning this particular topic.

I want to get something out of this. You wanna blame the men for responding to these "Cravings" that are there and are "not uncontrollable"? Believe you me, I'm blaming those men as well. Nothing personal.

cococandy:


He’s the one who termed the cravings uncontrollable. No woman told him her cravings were uncontrollable.
OP supposed rendition of funny instances didn’t state the women termed their cravings uncontrollable.

He’s using that phrase as a cop out because he knows denying they exist (which is his primary position) will only end up making him look like the smart a** that he is concerning this particular topic.

Cravings exist. I'm craving pepper soup right now. I'm not going to wake my wife up at 3am to go into the night and find pepper soup ingredients for me. See the difference?

What makes pregnant women's cravings uncontrollable by implication is precisely the obligation they attach to it; sending their husbands out at weird hours for their cravings. One in the op claimed she felt she could die if she didn't satisfy her cravings. I'm sure she told her husband that, forcing him out to get her the stuff she craves. The implication that the craving must be satisfied is always there, hence my describing it as uncontrollable.

RisenPhoenix1:


Cravings exist. I'm craving pepper soup right now. I'm not going to wake my wife up at 3am to go into the night and find pepper soup ingredients for me. See the difference?

What makes pregnant women's cravings uncontrollable by implication is precisely the obligation they attach to it; sending their husbands out at weird hours for their cravings. One in the op claimed she felt she could die if she didn't satisfy her cravings. I'm sure she told her husband that, forcing him out to get her the stuff she craves. The implication that the craving must be satisfied is always there, hence my describing it as uncontrollable.

I can assure you they didn't read past the bolded as it satisfies their opinion.

Mine was garri and groundnut on a working day I can never forget


I actually told my boss I wanted to drink garri and he was like ohhh that's what the twins want to eat today right. When I marched back to the office with groundnut roasted in the shells, I drank my garri joyfully my colleagues were trying to hold back their smiles, I didnt send them at all. Its not easy getting groundnut on that street, I guess I was just lucky to see someone hawking.

The slapping taste of the garri was so heavenly as of I had never tasted garri before

Pregnancy cravings are very real.

RisenPhoenix1:


Yessss!

RisenPhoenix1:


Cravings exist. I'm craving pepper soup right now. I'm not going to wake my wife up at 3am to go into the night and find pepper soup ingredients for me. See the difference?

What makes pregnant women's cravings uncontrollable by implication is precisely the obligation they attach to it; sending their husbands out at weird hours for their cravings. One in the op claimed she felt she could die if she didn't satisfy her cravings. I'm sure she told her husband that, forcing him out to get her the stuff she craves. The implication that the craving must be satisfied is always there, hence my describing it as uncontrollable.

RisenPhoenix1:


Yessss!

No. Nope. Sorry you can’t slither your way away from your primary intention on this thread.
You came in attempting to shyte on monogamy because according to you it’s giving pregnant women expectations of attention. Not you thinking it’s cool to father multiple children with different women at the same time and not have time for the women because you’re too smart to be scammed. How cool of you. It’s a self own if you don’t know.

1) I called you out for assuming it’s about manipulating men then you switched to your “uncontrollable” defense and then you compared pregnancy to a simple bloat from over-eating in an attempt to diminish one of the most important things humans are capable of because your gender is the one who can’t do it. Mtchew

2) who ever told you pregnancy cravings are uncontrollable? Or you chose that word thinking it will give you something to win the argument you created in your mind. “Oh if they are controllable then we don’t need to indulge them”. Why wouldn’t a woman indulge her cravings if she can? And if her partner can help her with it, why not? Which brings me to

3) and who told you all pregnant women make their SO satisfy all their cravings? Even most of the women in the OP’s story took care of their needs themselves.
How many of them sent someone out in the middle of the night? How many do you know in real life that sent people out in the middle of the night?
You took one or two stories you heard and your own personal experience and decided you were going to use it in your campaign against monogamy.
Unfortunately for you, I’m not here for that nonsense today.

You can continue as usual but don’t dare diminish pregnancy or the impacts of it on the woman because you want to make one of your ill-thought out connections between monogamy and the problems of the world.

No one is stopping you from piling on the wives. Just stop disturbing us with your fantasies and get on with it already. Or maybe you can’t and that’s why the topic won’t get a rest from you. Not our problem.

NoToPile:
Mine was garri and groundnut on a working day I can never forget


I actually told my boss I wanted to drink garri and he was like ohhh that's what the twins want to eat today right. When I marched back to the office with groundnut roasted in the shells, I drank my garri joyfully my colleagues were trying to hold back their smiles, I didnt send them at all. Its not easy getting groundnut on that street, I guess I was just lucky to see someone hawking.

The slapping taste of the garri was so heavenly as of I had never tasted garri before

Pregnancy cravings are very real.

Now my question is, was it uncontrollable that would have made you request that either your boss or colleagues went out to get them for you and why did you have to get it yourself?

Oh look. And you weren’t trying to manipulate anyone with your desire for garri and groundnut

NoToPile:
Mine was garri and groundnut on a working day I can never forget


I actually told my boss I wanted to drink garri and he was like ohhh that's what the twins want to eat today right. When I marched back to the office with groundnut roasted in the shells, I drank my garri joyfully my colleagues were trying to hold back their smiles, I didnt send them at all. Its not easy getting groundnut on that street, I guess I was just lucky to see someone hawking.

The slapping taste of the garri was so heavenly as of I had never tasted garri before

Pregnancy cravings are very real.

cococandy:
Oh look. And you weren’t trying to manipulate anyone with your desire for garri and groundnut

She's smart enough to know the minute she tries it, she loses her job. Duh!

Regex:


Now my question is, was it uncontrollable that would have made you request that either your boss or colleagues went out to get them for you and why did you have to get it yourself?

Regex:


I want to get something out of this. You wanna blame the men for responding to these "Cravings" that are there and are "not uncontrollable"? Believe you me, I'm blaming those men as well. Nothing personal.

How many pregnant women have ever told you their cravings were uncontrollable?

You and Phoenix reacting and responding to arguments that no one was making to begin with.

cococandy:




How many pregnant women have ever told you their cravings were uncontrollable?

You and Phoenix reacting and responding to arguments that no one was making to begin with.

My mother did have cravings when she had me. Due to the fact my father wasn't around during her time of pregnancy and when he was, he wasn't helpful, my mother dealt with the cravings. And when my father left to hustle for the family, she still handled her cravings too with my other brothers. Which is to say, those cravings are there and they're over bloated by you women in an attempt to seek attention from the men you are married to. Then I've been with my aunt who had her cravings during her pregnancy, her husband was that "knight in shining amor" you would think she was having baby Jesus with the way she showed her cravings. I have stayed with my uncles whose wife was doing all the hustle, she was pregnant as at that time, and she never showed any sign of cravings at all. However she did tell me once in a while what she wanted to eat at that point in time, but it all shows it can be controlled and that other women who actually show it are just exaggerating it.

Regex:


Now my question is, was it uncontrollable that would have made you request that either your boss or colleagues went out to get them for you and why did you have to get it yourself?

My boss - No I wouldnt have but if I did tell him he would ensure I get it.

My colleagues - Yes I could have


But then all these people wouldn't know the exact type I wanted, the garri had to be sour, the groundnut needed to be very crunchy any variation from these specifics would make things worse, It sounds ridiculous I know but it is what it is Honestly you can't understand.



BTW The ' I didn't send them at all' in my statement was not the literal sending them to help me buy, it was more of 'I no send their muffled smiles and side looks' while I was enjoying my delicacy.

cococandy:
Oh look. And you weren’t trying to manipulate anyone with your desire for garri and groundnut

At all.

Regex:


My mother did have cravings when she had me. Due to the fact my father wasn't around during her time of pregnancy and when he was, he wasn't helpful, my mother dealt with the cravings. And when my father left to hustle for the family, she still handled her cravings too with my other brothers. Which is to say, those cravings are there and they're over bloated by you women in an attempt to seek attention from the men you are married to. Then I've been with my aunt who had her cravings during her pregnancy, her husband was that "knight in shining amor" you would think she was having baby Jesus with the way she showed her cravings. I have stayed with my uncles whose wife was doing all the hustle, she was pregnant as at that time, and she never showed any sign of cravings at all. However she did tell me once in a while what she wanted to eat at that point in time, but it all shows it can be controlled and that other women who actually show it are just exaggerating it.

@bold is the argument you’re both making against yourselves. No one told you that all women or even most women do this. You chose to say that in response to the thread because you want to misrepresent pregnancy as no big deal. Create a poll on this thread alone and see how many ladies who had pregnancy cravings actually inconvenienced anyone else in other to satisfy them. I bet you the number would be less than those who didn’t.

Then in the rest of your post you also said your other aunt handled her cravings well.
So argue for and against your own point.

Good job. Keep going

BTW. As a pregnant woman, I wouldn’t hide my cravings. If I can cook it, I will. If I can’t, I’ll go get it myself or order it via any of the multiple food services available or ask my SO to stop by where it’s sold and buy it for me. The options are plenty.
It’s not a complicated life.

Regex:


She's smart enough to know the minute she tries it, she loses her job. Duh!

Looool, you are so wrong, very wrong actually.

cococandy:






No. Nope. Sorry you can’t slither your way away from your primary intention on this thread.
You came in attempting to shyte on monogamy because according to you it’s giving pregnant women expectations of attention. Not you thinking it’s cool to father multiple children with different women at the same time and not have time for the women because you’re too smart to be scammed. How cool of you. It’s a self own if you don’t know.

1) I called you out for assuming it’s about manipulating men then you switched to your “uncontrollable” defense and then you compared pregnancy to a simple bloat from over-eating in an attempt to diminish one of the most important things humans are capable of because your gender is the one who can’t do it. Mtchew

2) who ever told you pregnancy cravings are uncontrollable? Or you chose that word thinking it will give you something to win the argument you created in your mind. “Oh if they are controllable then we don’t need to indulge them”. Why wouldn’t a woman indulge her cravings if she can? And if her partner can help her with it, why not? Which brings me to

3) and who told you all pregnant women make their SO satisfy all their cravings? Even most of the women in the OP’s story took care of their needs themselves.
How many of them sent someone out in the middle of the night? How many do you know in real life that sent people out in the middle of the night?
You took one or two stories you heard and your own personal experience and decided you were going to use it in your campaign against monogamy.
Unfortunately for you, I’m not here for that nonsense today.

You can continue as usual but don’t dare diminish pregnancy or the impacts of it on the woman because you want to make one of your ill-thought out connections between monogamy and the problems of the world.

No one is stopping you from piling on the wives. Just stop disturbing us with your fantasies and get on with it already. Or maybe you can’t and that’s why the topic won’t get a rest from you. Not our problem.

Huh?!?

It's 9pm. Could you please summarize this lengthy psychological assessment into a single paragraph that I can actually read? None of it made sense to me. Talk about hormones.

RisenPhoenix1:


Huh?!?

It's 9pm. Could you please summarize this lengthy psychological assessment into a single paragraph that I can actually read? None of it made sense to me. Talk about hormones.

Mm hmm. You wouldn’t understand all your own dancing around from page one of the thread.

Arsenate:

No shiit, you have to be joking . She literally never types anything that sounds supremely intelligent. Just some dumb shiitt to appeal to the female folks.

What a sad little guy!!!

You've been noticed.