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Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by bukatyne(f): 12:34am On Feb 12, 2021 |
thorpido: 100% 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by cococandy(f): 1:44am On Feb 12, 2021 |
The 1st and 3rd women, marriage is not their problem, the persons to whom they are married are the problem. The second lady is onto something. Most of what she said is right but there’s a remedy to that. Which is to leave (as she already did) or to marry someone who won’t feel emasculated by doing some of what is considered the woman’s job so that you can have time to invest in yourself as an individual too. Continues reading... 2 Likes |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by tchidi066(f): 2:51am On Feb 12, 2021 |
Well my mom always advise me to look well before I leap, because if i end up with a wrong person, it will scar me forever. For now, I'm hell bent on making my own money before I do the needful . I believe in women creating a niche for themselves before settling down. The signs are always there but atimes we turn blind eyes. 10 Likes |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by kurupt1: 5:31am On Feb 12, 2021 |
CalliDora1: The older u get ,the more the responsibilities,u can't be doing girly things forever 2 Likes |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by crackhaus: 6:08am On Feb 12, 2021 |
armyofone:You sha didn't understand what I did in that my comment, but I'll take whatever you give me... |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by crackhaus: 6:14am On Feb 12, 2021 |
thorpido:Like children... 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by femi4: 6:24am On Feb 12, 2021 |
CalliDora1:Yes, get the testimony of those enjoying their marriage 1 Like |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by brandsoncharlie: 8:39am On Feb 12, 2021 |
Klass99:Which one is emotionally underdeveloped men? When she was enjoying all the bragging right, it didn't taste bitter right! Learn how to comport yourself when things don't work out as planned. 1 Like |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by addictiv(m): 9:33am On Feb 12, 2021 |
Marriage is not the destination, its part of the journey |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by Nobody: 10:09am On Feb 12, 2021 |
kurupt1: Nobody is talking about doing girly things forever. I'm talking about discovering yourself outside the scope of marriage and it's brouhaha. Like what you want and who you would really want be. The things you want to do at will like going on hols outside the country alone to unwind without the children and hubby showing up with their daily demands and stuff. Mehnn.. it's like prison. That is why I encourage everyone single to maximize their singlhood before getting trapped in the confines of marriage. 7 Likes |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by investorMK(m): 10:34am On Feb 12, 2021 |
CalliDora1:. And I told him Immediately. I said, come, I don't joke with my sleep o. You and your aunty better get used to it or I do a U turn........ This is a sign of a bad wife.... Sleeping till 9pm..... No wonder most of u girls can't keep marriage 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by LordKO(m): 10:38am On Feb 12, 2021 |
Klass99: It doesn't surprise me that someone like you will concur, revel, and relish with another of your type that derides men in this fashion "emotionally under-developed men." because you've always been a typical hypocritically disingenuous element, and your very low IQ couple with mixed depression have made your case worst. You and your type always take delight in debasing and deriding men and anyone, regardless of gender, who don't fit into your low-life circle; but are always quick to cry murder and play a victim when ordinary resistance, not even equal and proportional retaliation, is applied. It's better imagined than to witness a man terming women "emotionally under-developed women" in this fashion and what the reaction of you and your ilk will be. 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by Nobody: 10:39am On Feb 12, 2021 |
investorMK: Where did you see 9pm? I said 9 am and of course you don't expect me to lose my sleep because of one okporkoror marriage. Everything is about planning and provided no body will get injured because I sleep till 9am, no qualms. We will always find a way to balance things up. Dem don start. tkor 3 Likes |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 10:55am On Feb 12, 2021 |
Having a career is a good thing. Likewise marriage too. However, we always want to be at the peak of our careers before settling down (which isn't bad at all). Then again, we shouldn't let one suffer for the other. Women usually want to place their careers at the bane of their existence over marriage, which isn't bad as I reiterated earlier. I don't see how marriage thwarts your drive for success and your career life if you are an ambitious person and you marry a like-mind viz; equally ambitious or maybe more, not insecure about what achievements you may amass for yourself, a motivator and above all, selfless, put you as his best interest and loves you. Men should find joy in empowering their women and not taking them back because, in the end, everyone gets to bear the brunt. You don't pause one for the other and when time is fast running, you settle for who's available. Risky stuff. And if you are married and still wish you were single and envy the girly lifestyle, then it's either you were never mentally mature/ready for marriage or you just married a wrong and miserable person. Marriage is fulfilling if you do it right. 10 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by investorMK(m): 11:14am On Feb 12, 2021 |
CalliDora1:... U said u don't joke with ur sleep �.... Meaning u aren't gonna sacrifice it for marriage..... Too bad 4 Likes |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by 44chux(m): 12:18pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
CalliDora1: All I see is a problem of perception Like the proverbial half full vs half empty The first faulty premise/foundation is that there is such a thing as the best of both worlds. It doesn't exit. With all things in life, it's about trade-offs and finding optimality. Science/Engineers say its like finding the intercept between 2 divergent plots The other part is more about self discovery and defining one's priorities. If you don't know where marriage falls in your hierarchy of human needs, you'll either enter too early, too late, or get mismatch partners 1 Like |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by Klass99(f): 12:19pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
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Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by 44chux(m): 12:29pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
Klass99:And there is the perception part The more you seem to bring to the table, the more you are valued and considered an equal partner. The less you bring, the more you are considered baggage. Note that what you bring has nothing to do with money except your partners earning power has not passed the critical mass stage 1 Like |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by Mecka: 1:22pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
CalliDora1:you re just making us nervous. As a lady, it is expected of you to always be optimistic, rather than being always pessimistic. You ve just succeeded in discouraging some single folks from getting married |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by 44chux(m): 1:27pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
Mecka: Anyone who gets discouraged by this, was never ready in the first place Lol |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by Nobody: 1:32pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
Mecka: I wanna believe no body is a kid here therefore I can't influence their decision. Everyone will still chose what they feel is right for them. I'm not a pessimist. Just citing the obvious. So, whether I state it or not, there are people who are nursing such thoughts already. While there are some who are still willing to go into it ( including me) despite all I've said. 1 Like |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by Jman06(m): 3:59pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
We guys kuku no wan marry again, because the truth remains that marriage benefits women more in the long run than men. 4 Likes |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by Rubbiish(m): 4:27pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
CalliDora1:@bold So only women make sacrifice for men by getting married to them? Lol The family u come from, only your mother cared for u? 4 Likes |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 5:27pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
Klass99: Hi Klass. You misconstrued my post. Nowhere in my post did I say that a woman should disregard a cause for another. It is advisable and smart to have a life going on for yourself first before considering marriage. It is as well appropriate to make sure you are at least independent (most importantly financially) post marriage. It gives you a sense of worth and voice in the marriage. Regarding the case of Kelly. Her dilemma was her undoing. She was not discerning enough. There are many exclusivities about her case, though. Did she think that getting married to a politician will exonerate her from the vices that come with marriage? Was she expecting a lavida-loca life after marriage? However, I hope she can pick up the pieces that were shattered and make a living out of them. And giving birth to five kids in how many years they got married smacks of unproductivity and a laid-back attitude. Did her marriage in any way stop her from getting a living viz; a job, acquiring a viable skill(s), or even a business? Many times, our success(es) in all ramifications comes from our actions and inactions, this as well includes the choices that we make in life. So, a yes to having a life and in the walk of having that life, it is as well important (based on the individual) not to shun marriage. 3 Likes |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by Nobody: 5:53pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
Rubbiish:epic response Once what they expected didn't happen, they blame the men. It is just as Nigerians blame devil for their inactions or bad decisions. 1 Like |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by luminouz(m): 5:59pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
bukatyne: Seriously, who are you? It's kinda rare to see a female NL not given off to emotional rants and blame game technique. |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by Saintmary(f): 6:19pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
Vyolet: No matter how much leeway a husband allows a woman, she will still make sacrifices. You just have to decide what is worth it. 1 Like |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by armyofone(m): 6:32pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
You and I are like the tower of Babel - let us just keep pretending we don't understand each other instead of the usual thingy you are up to that goes on to 25 pages or more on NL I have given you alot na, it remains small you go stop fighting ladies crackhaus: |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by mariahAngel(f): 6:38pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
luminouz: You're exactly what Poco says you are. See how you use scope wan jam heads... |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by Nobody: 7:09pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
Concocted stories. 2 Likes |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by luminouz(m): 7:27pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
mariahAngel: Who is Poco? I'm real and raw. Why on Earth would I want them to fight for God's sakes!!! It's not today that I noticed the bukatyne moniker and her straightforward/logical mindset. |
Re: 5 Nigerian Women Share Why They Regret Getting Married by Klass99(f): 7:47pm On Feb 12, 2021 |
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