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sexy74:
My brother you see marriage wahala let it fly, you might not know what the man must have suffered and endured from the hands of the woman.
Na the woman part you hear.

djon78:
Whatever that may have caused it
The woman can't be thrown out of the house like that


In Western nation's laws
That woman deserves half of whatever that man is worth, having lived together for over 4 decades


And cases like this in our clime, will embolden young women to look out for themselves while in marriage, of which many have started doing nowadays. Many young women are no longer being patient. In the end, the institution of marriage is being battered

merits:
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Kondomatic:



It's also very possible that the woman is cheating on him the whole time right?

cococandy:
When you require a wife to abandon her career and build a home with you? It’s stupid to expect that she will suddenly have something to fall back on when the relationship fails.

This is why whatever wealth built while the woman’s career is on pause belongs to her as much as it belongs to the man. If she weren’t home tending to the kids, you wouldn’t be able to build that wealth.

abbey621:
Someone tries to kill you and you are here saying the victim is the babaric one? Bullshit! My point remains we can't judge the situation without having more info.

sharone21:
I'm sure d husband is d type dat still want sex with his wife of 64 and d woman say no. I'm sure d man is also about ,70plus years. This could cause such hatred for d wife of his youth. Also, if d man built d house nd has six grown up children, d first wife still owns d house. Also, Incase d man died, d children will throw away d new obiageli from their house. Except if it is a rented house. So, let d first wife relocate to a smaller place for her peace of mind, we are in a wicked world nd also endtime when men's heart is snared nd desperately wicked. It is well let God judge what no man can judge.

*What my mum said

dominique:
Sadly a lot of women relax after marriage and become complacent. They believe they have financial security especially after having kids.

One of the biggest disservice a woman can do to herself is being 100% dependent on a man, especially one that has zero respect for her. In this woman's case now, she has been married for almost 4 decades to a man with six kids. I'm sure in all those 39 years, he must have constantly cheated on her but she kept consoling herself that as long as they're outside and she's the recognized wife, she's ok. Now she has been thrown out of the home she has kept for almost 4 decades, where does she start from?

This should be an eye opener for single ladies not to go into marriage to be a dependant but they no go hear word.

djon78:
It

Any nation that has no respect for human rights can't rise in economic emancipation

Why are the best and brightest in our world still rushing and migrating to Western nations?

Because they have excellent respect for human rights

Most of you will continue living in shithole nations without any iota of development or feeling of what being developed means

And any day you are exposed to advanced Western nations you will still be subject to there laws

I am inferring that the major reason the African man is retrogressive and backward is simply because he has no regards for the right of his fellow man and that exactly is the mentally your leaders possess

yemmight:
The question me I am asking is, where are the six grown up children? It should not be this messy.

Fahdiga:
It baffles me on how two lovers that danced together on their wedding day will suddenly become sworn enemies. this life no balance at all

Lagoon0:
It baffles me that women can't take Care of themselves after break up. Were they created to be fed?

Lagoon0:
It baffles me that women can't take Care of themselves after break up. Were they created to be fed?

dominique:
Sadly a lot of women relax after marriage and become complacent. They believe they have financial security especially after having kids.

One of the biggest disservice a woman can do to herself is being 100% dependent on a man, especially one that has zero respect for her. In this woman's case now, she has been married for almost 4 decades to a man with six kids. I'm sure in all those 39 years, he must have constantly cheated on her but she kept consoling herself that as long as they're outside and she's the recognized wife, she's ok. Now she has been thrown out of the home she has kept for almost 4 decades, where does she start from?

This should be an eye opener for single ladies not to go into marriage to be a dependant but they no go hear word.

Lagoon0:
Its foolishness to become jobless because of Love. This is 21st century don't give excuses for Laziness

Mummymahdi:
Mostly men restricted women in life due to much demand fr respect and obedience, in most cases a woman most drop her views, mission and vision to b a good wife, societal views and demands has degraded women since time immemorial till date

abbey621:
We are arguing A, you're talking about B! Get out of here with the nonsense you just typed, generalization and strawman rhetoric should be left to those who don't know anything about the western world. I have been living and working in the USA for over a decade and my father for over 3 decades, if you're opportuned to reside in Chicago or Bronx NY, you'll see just how much lives are not really valued when it comes to gun violence. The problem with people like you is that you've developed this idea in your head that those in Africa are barbarians while those abroad are the only sane ones, this type of reasoning assumes the Western world is in unision and everyone behaves the same way, this is pure horseshit!

Now back to topic, you assume under any circumstances a man must part with his property and assets when it comes to a divorce even if the reason was attempted murder, you believe a man is not entitled to his house after working all his life to build it but must give it up because he's the stronger sex and his needs are far less than that of a woman. This reasoning can only make sense in societies where men have been relegated to an afterthought, it's like asking a rape victim to allow visitation rights for the rapist to see his son or daughter. I'm not going to argue with you about which world is better because we clearly know there's no competition but becareful about generalization, it is the trait of lazy minded individuals who would rather use semantics than actual logic to push home their point.

9jaRealist:
But they got married in the 20th century...

Anyone who thinks raising kids and running a household is “laziness” is CLUELESS...
In civilized nations, monetary value is ascribed to what housewives do, because if they are not doing it, someone has to be PAID to do it.
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vikstandon:
I became scared and careful at the same time about the marriage thing... 95% so far in women have entitlement mentality.

What do you want in a marriage?

Ladies: I want a man that would take care of me.
Men: I want a woman, that would build a home with me.

Birthday.

Ladies: My birthday is tomorrow o, I am in need of handbag, shoes, straight hair, you can also send me cash... My account number is 0113456286 (GTBank)

Men: dem no send... They can even forget the date if bank no remember.

They left their father house...make you take over dey babysit them.

9jaRealist:
Agree with your first paragraph...
Totally disagree with the second.

For starters, dude did NOT build the house alone...
While he was working at the office, someone was working just as hard at home.

Meanwhile, you complain about Strawman Arguments, but indulge in it...
Their divorce is not the result of attempted murder, so what’s the relevance?

Since the kids have apparently left the house...
It should be sold and the proceeds split, or the crude dude can buy her out.
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Lagoon0:
Train your daughters to be housewife we don't do that in my family. Our ladies take care of their homes.
Our family is well organized since were all lagosians . your house can't be empty even if you've gone to work. Your siblings will be at home.

Anybody that got chased out from husband house has no one to blame for stupidity when hunger comes.

9jaRealist:
Childish and churlish drivel...
Fortunately, our own family are not so crude and uncouth as to “chase” out of the matrimonial home. SMH
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9jaRealist:
Childish and churlish drivel...
Fortunately, our own family are not so crude and uncouth as to “chase” spouses out of the matrimonial home. SMH
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9jaRealist:
Agree with your first paragraph...
Totally disagree with the second.

For starters, dude did NOT build the house alone...
While he was working at the office, someone was working just as hard at home.

Meanwhile, you complain about Strawman Arguments, but indulge in it...
Their divorce is not the result of attempted murder, so what’s the relevance?

Since the kids have apparently left the house...
It should be sold and the proceeds split, or the crude dude can buy her out.
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Lagoon0:
Lol, your own family . them marry your daughters na. Na your family go marry your daughters.

Don't train your daughters to get good education and get good job, train them on how to cook only and do house chores, na your family go marry them last last.

You're from where actually?
Its been long I see people of such primitivity

Lagoon0:
We don't care much about our daughters after marriage they're self sufficient , theyre also bread winner in their husband house and are well respected there.
Even to the extent that they always come back home to attend our family activities yearly. Nobody command our daughters its marriage of understanding.

abbey621:
Point of correction, we don't know what the divorce is about, my comment was in response to someone saying no matter what, a man has no right to throw the woman out. Whether it is attempted murder or the man found out the kids are not his, we can't rule out anything! Furthermore, some men actually built their houses and wealth before marriage, most are so dumb not to sign a prenup and in America they lose their property automatically in most states. My point remains true, we don't have enough information on this particular case to form an informed opinion, for a man to behave like this after 35 years of marriage, something big definitely happened!

9jaRealist:


The ironic rantings of primordial and crude dude who thinks it’s okay to PRIMITIVELY “chase” a spouse out of the matrimonial home...
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emeshot:
With my findings I realized that women who talk down on marriage and men are women who are totally wayward.they hide under the guise that men are cheats and all that but they are the number one cheats and liars.