₦airaland Forum

9jaRealist:
Not in this case...
Banana Island did NOT exist 40 years ago.

There’s absolutely NO justification here...
Except that it’s a country (and culture) that he can get away with it.
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dominique:
You expect me to read that load of cow dung you posted up there? You must really think you're that important. If my post triggers you in anyway, rat poison is just N100 in case you can't afford sniper.

pocohantas:
If na cheating, the man reaction go violent pass like this na. You sef know.

Kondo stop defending your uncle.

abbey621:
We are arguing A, you're talking about B! Get out of here with the nonsense you just typed, generalization and strawman rhetoric should be left to those who don't know anything about the western world. I have been living and working in the USA for over a decade and my father for over 3 decades, if you're opportuned to reside in Chicago or Bronx NY, you'll see just how much lives are not really valued when it comes to gun violence. The problem with people like you is that you've developed this idea in your head that those in Africa are barbarians while those abroad are the only sane ones, this type of reasoning assumes the Western world is in unision and everyone behaves the same way, this is pure horseshit!

Now back to topic, you assume under any circumstances a man must part with his property and assets when it comes to a divorce even if the reason was attempted murder, you believe a man is not entitled to his house after working all his life to build it but must give it up because he's the stronger sex and his needs are far less than that of a woman. This reasoning can only make sense in societies where men have been relegated to an afterthought, it's like asking a rape victim to allow visitation rights for the rapist to see his son or daughter. I'm not going to argue with you about which world is better because we clearly know there's no competition but becareful about generalization, it is the trait of lazy minded individuals who would rather use semantics than actual logic to push home their point.

djon78:
You are talking about violence in Bronx NY and Chicago but those people over there aren't the ones that wrote the progressive laws of that land.

They are rather the anomaly a system can possess. But still the progressive Western nations are attracting and pulling the best brains out there because they got there laws and acts right in respect of human rights.

Name other nations in the world where immigrants build great life than there

As for there laws, they did it to protect the woman. Still clauses like pre nuptials can also be used but in the long run everyone is taken care of.

Kondomatic:
See Nne, I am not defending him, not when he flouted direct court orders but I really hate the fact that this generation pay more attention to one's reaction instead of what triggered the reaction in the first place.


Why are they divorcing?

pocohantas:
Because your uncle wants to marry another wife.

That is all...

9jaRealist:
When even women begin to spout such NONSENSE then Nigerian ‘culture’ will remain sexist...
A woman who has supported a man for 40 years has EARNED half of everything acquired in those 40 years! PERIODT!
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Samfloxin:
We need to hear from the man. Women are good at playing victim when they are really the problem. What made the man to throw out a wife who had lived with him for those years must be very unbearable to him

Lagoon0:
Its foolishness to become jobless because of Love. This is 21st century don't give excuses for Laziness

dominique:
Childcare and home making are FULL TIME JOBS and more draining than most jobs or business, there's no foolishness in being a full time mum. When I was still doing office work, my rest times were at work. Once I'm home, no time to rest for me especially during weekends and holidays. I had to quit because it was taking a toll on the kids and I didn't have any househelp.

If a wife and mother has to hustle and work at the same level as a man, the home and kids will be compromised. The kids will either have to be taken care of by nannies or put up with neighbours. If something happens to those kids, who gets the chunk of the blame? Yup the mother! The same society shaming her and calling her useless for being jobless will be the ones to shame her for going out to make money. They will say, what money is she looking for that she cannot tend to her kids, why give birth to kids if you're not available to take care of them bla bla bla. Can you see that the average Nigeria woman cannot win regardless the decision she chooses for herself?

AmazingELixir:



If this had happened in the western world...it is the man that will be vacating their apartment for the lady.

But down here the law is dangerously skewed against the female folks...with such mentality it is common place for african men to harm or outrightly kill their spouses when they think of losing their life savings to the women they married with their sweat and hardwork.

LadySarah:
[b]where are the foolish adlt children of this woman?A 39 yr old marriage will have a 38,36,34,32,30,28 consecutively,all things being equal.[b]

They should call for peace or provide a home for their mother.This is shameful.

Women hustleooo.life continues after marriage.

bukatyne:
@bold:

That is even my worry.

They are not poor so it is not the case of 'the children are hustling'.

What are they looking at while their mom is going back and forth in courts?

dominique:
It not nonsense but the reality of what an average Nigerian is faced with, she needs to empower herself. Is it the system does little or nothing to protect vulnerable women that she should rely on?



Go and hear from the man naw, who is stopping you. The toxicity you people keep enabling amongst your fellow men will still come back to haunt you when your female loved one becomes a victim. When that happens, go and hear from the man