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I think it's too much. When I was working a 9-5 job, my rent was 120k annually, while my monthly net pay was 92k.
I rented a self-contain apartment which was not so nice but I took it because it was close to my office then and I kept it neat and well furnished. Remember that you have to pay yourself every month. By this I mean you should under every circumstance ensure you save at least 40% of your salary monthly, in order to build capital (as a single person). This is what you'll use for investments. Investments in this context refer to any venture that can take you to the next level. I don't have all the facts about your situation but regardless, I think 350k annual rent is too much, considering your monthly salary. Be wise. Frugality will save you a lot of pain and regret.
Stop trying to keep up with the joneses.

hahn:
So what is her real status?

She is obviously a manipulative biatch.

You are lucky to have jumped and pass

My dear, she's on her own now, I believe. Everyone has moved on. From my investigations her real status was just that she was an actual nurse and her family was not really suffering as she portrayed. Nothing special.

LagosNissan:
I guess it makes no sense hiding one's potentials. It's as if one is seeking enlistment into the police as a msc holder yet presenting on SSCE.

This will make him a rank and file.

But he would have started from ASP if he presented his degrees.

Exactly. It's always better to exhibit your best attributes, I think. If the other person also measures up, then fine.
The idea of camouflaging to attract true love or something like that does not make sense to me. It'll make you lose out on good opportunities/people.

oldienavie:
before she started complaining every day about her family problems to me and all that. That she lost her job and needed money to transport to the new job. I was especially put off by her family challenges.

She was a liability asking the man to spend on her and her family thats not the same as a man who lives very humbly and doesnt show off that he has huge wealth.

Nah, it seems you didn't get the gist of my story. Her family was actually doing fine as well as herself, but she made up those stories to 'test' if I was a husband material or something like that...
So the analogy is appropriate, I think.

Lucrativress:
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Yes now
That's an expensive one
We're not kids here
She might have just missed a good man because of what oldienavie is pushing for.

I wonder oh.

LagosNissan:
Are you serious?

She was testing if you loved her or were a husband material?

So how are you guys now?

Yeah. It seemed both were her aim. Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately, I failed.
I just replied her that I wasn't interested in knowing her true personality anymore since she already lied. It was a big red flag for me. Why test me?
After telling her about myself, I expected her to put her best foot forward and see if things could work. If I was an illiterate mechanic (no offense to the great and hardworking mechanics out there), I'm sure she would not have given me audience in the first instance. Rubbish.

Wonderful topic. This issue actually happened to me. There's this lady introduced to me by my sister. She was supposed to be a nurse. But after interactions with her, she made me believe she was an auxiliary nurse. I was even willing to train her in nursing school (after marrying her though), before she started complaining every day about her family problems to me and all that. That she lost her job and needed money to transport to the new job. I was especially put off by her family challenges. There's no way I could see myself taking up both her family responsibilities and mine at the same time while training her in nursing school. After thinking about everything I decided to let go. After about a month, she wrote me on whatsapp saying she was very happy for not telling about her real status and all that, implying that I'm wicked. I was so disappointed in her. Why hide your true achievements and personality from me when I told you everything about myself?That's deceit. It seemed she had been watching too much nollywood.
Personally I actually don't believe in unconditional love especially when it comes to marriage. People love you most times because of your handsomeness / beauty, education, financial capabilities, intelligence, etc. It's part of life. It is normal. It doesn't necessarily mean they are gold diggers. The question you should ask yourself is, would you accept you if you didn't have any of those achievements? If people have some criteria that you have to meet before accepting you as part of their life, so be it, don't blame them for it, provided they meet yours, then you both should accept each other in the absence of any major red flag.
The problem is that we don't always want to tell ourselves the truth. Even that person that you feel loves you for you has a reason or reasons for loving you, you just don't know it yet. People can be intuitive.