₦airaland Forum

Yeah, we have attempted one ivf that was not eventually successful.

We may consider surrogacy if cost is pocket- friendly. Still searching for viable centre.

SmileDance:
Have you considered other methods of having biological children, IVF, Surrogacy?
Adoption isnt easy over here, which is why people patronize baby factories.

Yes, surely interested

Rubyjade:
Are you interested in surrogacy?

Thank you.
We absolutely understand that the adoptee becomes part of us and entitled to nothing less as expected. Having one via biological birth later will NEVER diminish such love, right and privileges.

Grateful

mcdokwe:
God will answer you soon, with your own biological child(ren) but should you adopt one before then, please don't love them less

Thank you so much for this. We are evaluating all open options but want the adoption asap.

Regards

Acidosis:
Sincerely I don't have a solid or reliable information regarding surrogacy centres in Nigeria. But I do know that some fertility clinics may be able to help you through the process (i.e. getting a surrogate mother, legal procedures, etc.).

N10m is too much though. Many surrogate mothers would accept a N1-2m deal. You don't even need IVF with this option as intrauterine insemination (IUI) of 200-250k can get the job (conception) done. Hospital bills, legal fees, and others can be in the range of N700k (Total: N3m). A fertility clinic asking for more than 4-5 m for the process should be avoided.

By the way, is surrogacy the best/only option for you? You don't have to go into the details for privacy reasons.

We are based in Kwara State. We will prefer from new born to 2 years old. Female, however, we can also go for a male.

udoji2021:
I'm really interested about the issues you raised here, i just pray that someone with more knowledge can answer this.
@preciouslanre, be specific on what you need so that people will help you. i mean things like the age of the child, and location

Deary,

Pls dm me. My email is: preciouslanre@aol.com

Thank you.

Antimarraige:
op if you're ready to spend money then reach out to me and you will get what you seek within a year, and if you want your husband can also be the father to the kid but you will take care of the baby. Location is Lagos

Thank you sincerely for reiterating this option. We were once confronted with this surrogacy option and we are now sincerely thinking about it. Our major concern with that is the huge fund involved in surrogacy as we are just average comfortable Nigerians . We learnt surrogacy cost about 6 to 10 million naira. Kindly let know of reliable surrogacy centres you know.

Cheers

Acidosis:
Lol. Always easy to say when times are hard.

To the OP, I would advise you to seek the legal/motherless babies option. For individuals looking to get someone to adopt their babies, I'll advise you to avoid them.

If you want a proper adoption done without anyone coming to claim his or her child after 10 or 15 years, better to follow and observe all protocol. For me, it is no longer "adoption" when you know the parents of the child and vice versa.

Nigerians no too dey trusted. Spend all you want on that child, they'll come tomorrow to claim "ownership". In fact, some hardened kids will leave you to find their parents if they get to discover the shady process.

If money is not an issue, a combination of surrogacy (or egg donor) and IVF (with sperm donor in the case of oligospermia or azoospermia) remains a preferred option. There's no infertility issue without remedy. None at all. Money is the only issue.

House help? God forbid!
We have (still doing that) accommodated and helped many others without turning them to house help.
We just want our own full adoptee.

All the same, thank you for your time.

DontBullshitMe:
So, you can turn the innocent child into a house help?

Your intentions are not genuine enough. You only chose to adopt after failing to conceive a baby, she's like a second choice who will be maltreated.

Only couples who adopt at the early stage of their marriage voluntarily and got sterilised are worthy parents of those babies. Not you who is doing it not out of the goodness of your earth but for selfish reasons of not wanting to be lonely.

Amen.
Thank you.

Righteousness2:
Sister, I am not qualified to give you options on what you are requesting but Hear this;
If JESUS tarries! Mark this day and this time! From now to the next 9-10 months, you are gonna carry your triplets!
You Believe or you Don't Believe is Irrelevant. It is a Miracle! GOD of Chosen Miracle! Receive them in the Name of JESUS, Amen!

Thank you for being candid.

Klass99:
I wish all these people who come online to complain of unwanted pregnancies will see this and reach out to you. Some very ignorant people claim it is child trafficking or selling a baby.

But, from where I stand I don't see anything wrong with unwilling/unprepared parents giving up a baby to willing and prepared parents, for the sake and good of that child.

It is called one on one adoption, without the bureaucracy and bottlenecks of adopting via the Nigerian system. Of course, you can get lawyers involved to document the whole process and make it legit, while all parties agree to clearly defined terms and agree to maintain confidentiality.

Another set of ignorant people will say a parent shouldn't give up their child for adoption, on the basis of, who will look after you in old age? They don't use their capacity to think of the welfare of that child or the hard life a child will experience, with incapacitated parents. It is always about having or keeping children around, as a retirement plan, for them.

I genuinely wish you well in your quest and hope that your heart's desire is met.

Myself and my husband concluded to adopt a child, preferably a female for about two years now, but no luck or success in my state. Having passed through all the legal protocol via ministry of women affair and cleared, we have been placed on the waiting list for up to two years. We have equally visited some orphanage homes in the state without luck. We have been married for about 10 years without our own biological child. Hence, we just want a little companion to shower our love.

Pls inform of what else (legitimate thing) to do to get an adoptee sooner. We really don't mind visiting another state for that purpose. You may reach me here: preciouslanre@aol.com

Pls, give us candid options
Thank