A guy gathers courage, drops to one knee in the middle of Bokku supermarket aisle with a ring, ready to propose marriage... only for his girlfriend to look shocked, uncomfortable, and ultimately say NO (or just walk away)!
The crowd of shoppers starts chanting "Say yes! Say yes!" adding insane pressure and making the moment 10x more embarrassing for both of them. Pure second-hand cringe as the guy is left heartbroken in public while people film everything. Classic high-risk public proposal backfire!
How do you guys do this thing? You know within your heart that you will not marry that particular lady or guy but you keep dating the person? For what exactly?
Allthingswork: The " fuulish men " 🤣 Lol, I see your emotions got stirred up. How about the side-h0es , are they 4uulish, as well ? How come you didn't express such strong emotions at them, too ?🙂 It's obvious why.
But, let's leave it at that. 😁
I doubt if you read the comment that brought about my response, if you did, you wouldn’t make this comment you just made
"The INEC Chairman is among the people pushing the Christian genocide propaganda which this government has repeatedly debunk. It is clear he doesn't align with the idea of One Nigeria
Chairman of the Supreme Council for Islamic Judicial Affairs in Nigeria, Dr. Bashir Aliyu Umar pic.twitter.com/S6XOs54it5
It was like a joke when a lady who appear to be the girlfriend of the guy that was hugged by his ex-girlfriend in the present of his girlfriend in a mall
Is the girlfriend afraid that the ex may take the guy back or why did she has to act that way?
colizee: I want to ask o, that bail money who dey chop am?
Nobody collects bail money. It means that if the bailed individual jumps bail, the money will be collected from the Surety and paid into the court account
ErnestNc: It was a bitter sweet experience I'd not advice any young man to engage in. It's a game and the only way to win, is to be the user .
I knew this already but unfortunately I was blind sided and disarmed by the love I had for her 13yr old child. The child was so bright. I tutored her in mathematics til she became the best. I saw a lonely bright child who took me as a father figure in her school.
I was so attached and one day I was opportune to meet with her mother. I met a very beautiful young woman in her early 30's the day she came to drop off her child at school. Prior to this, our chat engagement was official and all about her daughter's growth. She requested that I drop all formality and desist from caling her "ma" . She called me babe instead and We both became informal with time and got very close. There was constant calls and communication.
She told me alot about her past , her 4 exes and how she's been alone. It turns out she was always the victim in all her stories . She's so pretty , why would any man leave such a woman? I kept asking myself. She learnt about our 5yrs age difference which was shocking to her but she was already deep into it and ready to go down.
THE ROMANCE
We became sexually involved and things were going down fast. She had great sexual appetite . She wanted me to marry her and was fond of calling me her child's soon to be father and how we were gonna get married. She's a fashion designer who is financially stable.
CRISIS
She had sudden financial crisis after embarking on a huge project. To assist , I tutored the child for free and I was assisting her occasionally with finances cuz I had lesson gigs fetching me 6figures.
Soon, I started to realise her sudden change of attitude. The calls soon dropped and we started to have alot of unresolvable fights , reason being that she would rather not like to settle the conflict when I want to, but make it linger so I'd have to beg her even when she was wrong. She never likes to talk about the unresolved issues, so we could trash it amicably and make amends where necessary.
POINT OF REALISATION
I suspected she was sleeping around and one day I decided to pay her a visit . On that faithful day, I heard her elder sister over a loud phone conversation " Jane, u really have my time today that you didn't go to man's house" ". I cringed on hearing that . This is someone who said she doesn't sleep around because of the stereotype attached to being a single mom.
They both laughed about it and she told her sister that she was currently with a man. The sister said further " what of bros? He say he no do again or when he go engage u? " .
This time I felt the ground should open up . "Bros" is an elderly man in his 50's who wants to marry her. We had a fight that night and she denied that she had anything to do with bros and her sis was joking about her visits to men. We trashed it and made up with sex.
Next morning she was on call with a male friend who wanted to borrow money from her and she called him babe.
Note that, she's called a different male friend babe accidentally too and she quickly defended that she calls all her male friends "babe" . I told her it wasn't cool. She got defensive and even called another male friend and she told him I was jealous, they both laughed and she ended the call with " I love you and he replied too". We had a fight . I left and still came back to check on her. I was ignored while she was on call with her male friend for 30mins after which she invited him over with 2 other guys.
I asked why and what for. She boldly told me "whatever activities I have with my friends is not your concern , even if we have 10some " .
I was saddened because this was someone for once I was ready to risk it all to settle down with. She was probably entangled in something I never understood. I discovered that she clubbed on Sundays , and would never allow her daughter come live with her. The poor child has been living with her grandparents for 13yrs. My girlfriend also abused weed and alcohol. I saw all these in her fridge
THE PREGNANCY
I was broken by everything and kept my distance but we still spoke. Early this year, we both suspected she was pregnant since she missed her period. We did a test and I found out she was pregnant. 4weeks 8days but I doubted it was mine after all the recent discoveries. To cut the long story short she removed it and bled for days.
The disrespect and devaluation kept on going . I was mentally unstable for a while and took Ill. I couldn't resume to teach and I lost my job. My mother was angry with me for having anything to do with her.
I broke up with her cuz I realised what I had wasn't real. I realised I never did anything that bad to deserve all the treatments I received. I was supporting and loving and was even a father figure to her child .
I'm without a job now but I'll be commencing a technical training for a better job offer. I'm still unstable and hurt but I'll bounce.
I'm one of those guys who don't believe in playing nice because ive been hurt before. I broke my rules and was disarmed by the love I had for a child and I fell in love with a lie. But it's all good. I learnt my lesson.
Another episode of things that never happened. Her child lives far away with her grandparents but the mother brings and picks her from school everyday. How?
eazzzy1: I remembered when their issues started. A lot of us reiterated that the son would eventually ask for his father. I suspect the reason she’s reconciled with him is because the Son has been asking questions.
All her Nollywood drama, changing the boy’s surname, accusations of dead beat father, has it not ended? Did she run out of resources to fend for the boy? I think the whole born again dramatism is to reconcile with Kunle. She’s too ashamed to admit she messed up so she’s hiding under cloak of repentance.
Even him too messed up. I don’t know why you’re absolving him of his own mistakes
edoman2016: You should try to apply to big and popular law firms after you have gathered three years of legal experience at a low paying law firm.
The big and popular law firms like Wole Olanipekun and co, Femi Falana and co etc pay their lawyers with three years experience and above, atleast 500,000 naira monthly salary.
Lol! Stop blowing lies which Falana and Olanipekun? Abeggi
Kingsasian: I remember this story vividly. He worked with an oil company in PortHarcourt. His wife and kids live there as well but he often visit Ibadan where he live alone
And his wife didn’t bother to come over to check why she hadn’t heard from her husband? I don’t think he was married jare
The truth is that it is better to return the money in peace for your own good because the owner of such money will not rest until he recovers everything
OGwales: 🤣🤣🤣 Bibles wey dem no go read... Funny enough if you have read Bible from the first page to the the last page, you will stop believing it.
Pastors are only riding on people's ignorance because most people only own a bible but don't read it..... Oya you reading my comment, have you read Bible from the first page to the last page? 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
I have read the Bible from the 1st to the last page and still reading it again and again. It feels so real and speaks to my soul every time so I don’t know what you are talking about
Marvieduke: An Igbo gay man, Innocent Ndubuisi Okechukwu, marries his male lover, wearing Igbo attire in the church, as officiated by a reverend father.
1. The black man is a Nigerian by name Innocent Ndubuisi Okechukwu. He is a composer and pianist with a significant body of work and academic study in music.
2. He started in a Catholic minor seminary (secondary school) and sang/played music there. He never went to major seminary.
3. The white man is called Greg. He is a chorister and a lector (reader) in Episcopal Church.
4. The “wedding” took place in St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church in Downers Grove, Illinois (USA).
5. The Episcopal Church belongs to the global Anglican Communion, a fellowship of churches worldwide that recognizes the Archbishop of Canterbury for unity. As an Episcopal church, St. Andrew's shares this Anglican heritage and connection to the broader communion.
6. The minister is Rev. Gregg Morris. He is the rector (senior minister) of that parish.
7. The Episcopal Church does permit clergy to officiate same-sex marriages, and the denomination has authorized religious weddings for gay couples.
8. I hope this clarification helps. Thanks for your attention!
There’s nothing wrong with that. If I was running for a post, I would advise my loyalists and family members to join other parties so that they can help me out when the need arises
Dpsychologist: Let’s drop the sugarcoating and speak plain truth. Dating a single mother is not romance movie material. It’s real life. If you’re not built for it, you’ll suffer and she’ll suffer more. This isn’t hatred. It’s honesty.
I’ll keep it simple and relatable.
1. You will never come first. Ever. If her child is sick and you’re having a bad day, guess who waits. You. If school fees are due and you want a weekend getaway, plans are cancelled. If you need to be number one in a woman’s life, this lane is not for you.
2. Her past is not theory. It’s active reality. That baby didn’t fall from the sky. There is an ex somewhere. Co parenting calls. Family ties. Old wounds. If small jealousy already dey choke you, this situation will finish you.
3. Responsibility will find you, even if you run. You say “I’m not the father.” Fine. But wait till school resumes, rent is due, or hospital bills show up. Reality doesn’t respect motivational quotes. Pressure will knock.
4. Her time is scheduled, not spontaneous. You can’t just say “I’m outside” at 11pm. You can’t randomly disappear and reappear. Her life runs on routines. If you hate structure, you’ll feel trapped fast.
5. Emotional stress comes in bulk. You’re not just dealing with her moods. You’re dealing with a child’s emotions, an ex’s influence, and family opinions. One small misunderstanding can turn into a full-blown crisis meeting.
6. Stability is not optional, it’s required. Inconsistency is cute when you’re 22 and carefree. With a single mom, it’s an instant red flag. If you’re still “finding yourself,” please find yourself elsewhere.
7. You don’t gain what you think you gain. She’s not there to build you. She’s not there to fund you. She’s not there to emotionally babysit you. If sex is the main attraction, both of you are just passing time.
8. Manipulation can happen if you’re not sharp. Some will gaslight you with “you knew I had a child” anytime accountability comes up. Others will weaponize guilt. If you’re emotionally weak, you’ll be confused and drained.
9. Society will talk and you’ll hear it. Friends will whisper. Family will advise. “You could have done better” will start ringing in your head. If you’re easily influenced, pressure will push you out anyway.
10. Love alone is not enough here. This setup needs patience, money, maturity, and thick skin. If you don’t have at least three, you’re not ready.
Final truth: If you can’t handle responsibility, structure, delayed gratification, emotional stress, and public judgment, don’t date a single mom. Not because she’s bad. But because you’re not ready.
And this applies beyond single mothers. If you can’t handle real life complications, don’t date anyone seriously.
Dating is not sympathy work. It’s readiness.
Be honest with yourself. It will save you, and it will save her.
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Nice write up though I don’t agree with No. 1. Cos the same trait occurs when a woman is married and has child for her husband, if the child is sick, the child will always come first and not the man
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