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Cutehector:
if you really didn't, you would have ignored the comment. Common sense is far from you though

Shut up.. What the hell. Too petty, grow up please

Cutehector:
your reasons lack worth, besides you goofed so live with your mistakes.

Oga rest abeg, I don't have your time

Bukola94:
got married to a new person but I can say I really regret it, but we don't have anything in common and misunderstanding as been happening in the marriage between father in law and mother in law.

Oh! Okay Sis. But whatever you do, don't cheat on your Husband if you eventually meet your ex. I as an Unmarried Lady can't even do that, people saying Okafor's law up and down in my post. That law is not for me, I can't cheat on my partner with my ex or whoever. I dnt know where you are from but where i came from, Our Tradition forbids a married woman sleeping outside else smthing disastrous will happen to her children(it is real). Please sister don't do it, apart from Tradition, it is really not a cool thing cos after the "do" your eye go kan clear and live in regret... Yes God hates Divorce but it that will make you happy, I think you should file for it, raising your kids in a peaceful environment is much more better than in an unfriendly one where both parents are at each others' throat every time. My 2cent

Connected1:
No be every girl get sense.

It's too bad you are one of them.

K

Cutehector:
but nobody asked you if you did give him money. You just needed worship and praise from strangers. Keep it to yourself

I already said why I mentioned it. If you can't read and comprehend then the gtfo please

Bukola94:
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Believe u me, I am in the same situation. Though I am married. We dated for more than 6 years, I still have feelings for my ex, my first love. Eventually we broke up. I will advice u to move on with the new guy, please don't compare them, be thanking God for showing u the true colour of your ex and the red flags he exhibit. He will never change. Learn from cases of spouses beating themselves to death. There is a recent case of domestic violence which lead to the death of someone. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. You will regret it, if you go back to him, you may never be happy and it will be too late. My own case is complicated, if not because God 8 divorce, we will have go our separate ways.

I am sorry but you are confusing me. Did you go back to your ex and married him and now regretting?? Is he the one you are currently married to and wish to divorce Or you get married to a new guy entirely and regretting it

TheSociopath:
I don't know if OP will see this comment, but if you do, please never go back to your ex. I use God to beg you, please. Even if later seems fine and he has money and all, please do not go back.

Mo fi Olorun be eh

Seen, thank you for your Contributions

Cutehector:
A woman can never ever remove the part where she gives her man money...she will always boast about it . That is why i can never collect financial help from a woman .the whole world will know that she gives her man money when they break up..mchew..

Lol, I didn't mention it to boast, like I said I give him sometimes not all the time, I didn't mention the amount or anything. Just added that part here so NL people won't think it is because of his money I was with him and then start insulting me.... I don't go out telling everybody that I gave him money, I am not like that

Wow!!! Never knew this got to front page. I just came online now and saw many mentions and comments. I will definitely read and go through it all. I appreciate y'all contributions honestly. Thank you

Aklee4994:
But I beg you with the name of GOD build love around the new guy and forget about your ex by still having thought of him till everything about him become bored to you...your ex knows you love him more than she loves you that is your area of weaknesses and threat but your new guy is just an opportunity and strength you need to excel emotionally and never loose guard that red flag from a critical observation.

Thank you so much

Apply SWOT
S:Strength
W:Weaknesses
O:Opportunity
T:Threats

Try and Love yourself first
I Wish you well.

Thank you so much

Aklee4994:
Don’t just punish the new guy with pain inflicted by your ex because your ex don’t even give a Bleep of dumping him.


#THENEWGUYJOYMATTER#

No, I don't punish him, I try my best to treat him right.

As for my ex, he does give a Bleep of dumping him, he used to beg me to come back that he will change and that he hasn't been himself and other plenty stories that touches the kidney , using his family and mine to help plead on his behalf.

Deepocean:
If he happens to be the one that deflowered you, then you need to take some extra steps to get the soul ties disconnected.

Yes he was the one that deflowered me. How do I do that??

JONSYN7154:
If you're angry at my advice am sincerely sorry.

I just have to be blunt.

I am not angry at all. Thanks

justscorchone:
Redpill/redpillers
If you are truly single and reside in Lagos and have a job like you said then drop a DM.
Let's talk

I never said I was single

justscorchone:
Redpill/redpillers
If you are truly single and reside in Lagos and have a job like you said then drop a DM.
Let's talk

What's that

Slynation:
I like your current guy, nigga doesn't want that drama, he already told you to "Go back to your ex if you still miss him... Perhaps you have been disturbing his ears with constant stories of your ex...

Once you have that notion that no one is indispensable in your life, thoughts like this won't come into play...Distract yourself and watch yourself moving on

Lol,@bolded, not really... Thanks for your contributions

justscorchone:
Nothing is wrong with you it is very normal, it's just your genetic heritage as a woman to want to change a roughneck nigga, this only stamp what we RP talk about, good men finish last. Just do your current BF a favour and let him off.

What is RP?

omotoshodontee1:
A guy possesses all those ill attitude and u are still thinking about him?it's like nature has a future suffering package for u oooo..u don't need advice,u need a factory reset slap

Blue86:
Well, one, really give your life to Christ.
Second, you are of little value inside.

And the guy that is hanging out with you is blind to that fact.

But if you really follow Jesus, your value will change and your reasoning capacity will improve.

Okay, thanks for your input

JONSYN7154:
Because of the beating and slap you can't forget him abi?

Kwontinew,

You'll soon loose that good guy and you'll regret your action.

God gave you a perfect replacement and here you are wanting to go back to your Egypt.

Thank you for your contributions

Uniquetani1:
Never settle for less
With all what you listed, your ex doesn't worth your worries. It takes time to move on.
You will be fine las las

Thank you for your contributions

blazingblender:
you are welcome
And I noticed that maybe you accepted your new boyfriends proposal because you wanted to get over your ex
And that's wrong
Give love some space and heal

Yes that's true. It was like a rebound relationship to me buh he fell deeply in love and I don't want to hurt him at all considering he is a good guy too

zexy2030:
This is the reason you can't make a good decision, foolish things becloud your senses. I pity u, if how you approach life, is being used to a pattern. You don't even have Idea of who u r chatting with. I wish u d best. Maybe others will advice you, as for me, I feel u r self opinionated, advicing you is a waste of effort. Because you won't listen.

Who are you please

blazingblender:
Hmm I have been they before
The only way I got over her was to keep thinking about her
I thought about her to the extent that I became tired of thinking about her it became boring
She became normal
Anytime I want to think about her I will just feel bored
So I will advise you to just think about him
Don't try to force your self to stop cus it will make you keep thinking
Allow it flow till it becomes normal

Thank you. Truly it is hard to stop thinking about him. Maybe it will become boring with time like you said. Thanks

MrBrownJay1:
your current bf aint the "right" one, he is just the current toto warmer....but then again, what you have for the ex is genuine love/care, and as much as he is no good, you gave a few years of your life to him, thus it will take a while to get him off your skin.

TIME is all you need to forget your ex. so take your time and eventually you will find someone right for you.... but whatever you do, NEVER EVER go back to your ex.

Thank you. I appreciate your contributions. So how do I know the "right" one

Olasyke:
You'll get over him eventually. But, can someone say the words out of my mouth?

Which words

MrBrownJay1:
he probably thought you were HIS gf (undercover) and he just want to make sure that you aint, lol!

I swear.. He is asking as if he knows me personally

zexy2030:
Then you don't need an advice.

My birthdate has nothing to do with Advice, Drop one if you have any. Thanks

zexy2030:
What's your birthdate?

Why?

Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee