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It is not your child.

She should have waited for two weeks and tell you, she would have nailed you by then. Only DNA test can save you.

To manage how much

philo4realz:
So Wat do u suggest I do?! ??

Start to work on content creation

SAD

Hunger dey!

Sorry

If it is not, why are people stil striving for it?

You cannot create a blog now and start to expect traffic.

Unless you have money for advert or ready to be scammed.

Engage in office politics

If it is not them, then it is who?

Sorry

Why are they throwing banters?

Don't follow that advice above.

All men are not like that! Quit generalizing.
Some men are so disciplined that you are think they are aliens.

Your husband claims he does not owe you faithfulness, that there is the problem. So what did you do after that statement?

He owes you all that, but I think this bothers on trust already, have you given him a chance to suspect you before? I think your husband knows something about your past which is very dark, but he should have voiced out except you lied.

He was not like that, something has triggered him and it may be from you or the friends he keep.

This is why you need a little drama in your relationship.
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You have to seek out his friends, your husband is keeping bad companies and I mean it. They are influencing him negatively.

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All those talking about trust, you don't just get people to trust you like that. There is nothing like trust at first sight.

read this post on TRUST: https://www.nairaland.com/3964024/how-trust-new-scam-stop

Trust is like a phone battery, you charge and it can also deplete.

Trust has to be earned, it is not inherited. If the woman is checking his phone, I see no problem, her trust meter was needing a recharge due to his behavior, and he proved her correct.

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Some will say it signifies setback and sluggish movement to your goal.

Since snails are slow, they will tell you that things will start going slow and hard.

My question, do you choose to believe it or just assume it is just a dream?

collarfreak:
I believe it... What do you think could be the possible cause and solution

There are two meanings: SCIENTIFIC AND SPIRITUAL

SCIENTIFIC MEANING
you are itching for a new adventure or phase in your life.

A friend is doing great and your brain is already setting you up to imitate him.

You live to eats snails or dance having a snail pen.

You subconscious is telling you to be patient, don't compare yourself to others, you will soon find your place and direction.

SOLUTION: DECIDE WHAT YOU REALLY WANT.

SPIRITUAL MEANING
the new venture or old business you have will soon start to reverse or come to a standstill.

You are following someone who will not make progress in life and regrettably it will rub off worse on you. They picked one snail you picked three .

Reanalyse your efforts, something will not work.

SOLUTION: PRAYER AND FASTING

cc: collarfreak, lalasticlala

No makeup?

What is it with the flower rings and cat ears?

Are those not makeup (filters) too?

Self esteem issues

Midastorch:
yeah, that person cares less, i tried it it too on my dad,he got infuriated and keeps showing everybody the text message lyk i gave a Bleep. myself and my dad did not communicate to each other till lyk 3 years.....even till now i call him lyk once in every 6 months some of these old guys no just get brain.....

That is why I said, it doesn't matter.

You only gave him excuse to be himself. Most people will even see you as the bad person.

You also gave him a proper way to guilt trip you.

Then we do it here for now

xtint:
huh so sad am nt on whatsapp 4 d time being...hw do we do it bro?

xtint:
i appreciate bro,am intellgnt,a gud orator,nt rily outspoken,nt rily popular jst in my dept,hw do i build my empire nd clique 4 influence purpose

Drop your number, I will add you on whatsapp.

You can delete it after.

I got your mail, but I can't respond.

Don't, it does not even matter.

He cares less already, so do not give him backing.

I am from a broken home so I understand your plight

My CV

PRO DEPARTMENT
PRO FACULTY
SECRETARY GENERAL, SUG

ALL IN UNIBEN.

WHAT DO YOU WANT TO KNOW?

You are a good wife.

I wish I can help but I am also searching for a job too.

Tell him not to give up, he is lucky he has you as his supporter.

Brother, did you help someone to do the NYSC?

because, I am in doubt if you really went to school oh.

About that girl, she is tired and planning to move ahead.

My advice to you is to go get a job or repeat school.

It is not your choice.

Are you the one to tell you brain when to release dopamine and oxytocin?

Cc: edemaya

No, attraction must grow!

One of the party will start to fall soon.

Every guy will happily sleep with a so called female friend, most are just waiting for the right time.

Why is she looking so white like a ghost?

MissRaine69:
I share your point of view.
Most have stood by him and supported him confused
Few can claim to have supported the man emotionally and physically. Some will stand by him begrudgingly help out remind him repeatedly remind him that she is helping him. Support is multi tiered it's not about the things you did for him physically and practically. Where you also available when he had his dark days of despair?Or did you talk about how providing for him was such a chore? Some women will stand by a broke guy but their intentions are obvious it's not genuine.

That reminding part like an alarm on snooze is always a deal breaker. Now the innocent guy will take all the BS, but once he sees an escape route, he is gone with the wind.

It is not a must see o stay qnd if you wanna, the bear the cross posted proudly.


This is a secret: when a guy is at his lowest, that is his most emotional state and he needs someone to soothe that demon.


PS: I had to be sure you were a lady, this coming from is so relieving.

thepussyhunter:
beautiful write up bro

but errmmm why you con call lala now

You want him to like your post or take this shiiii to fp so u'd get likes on your post



PS: dont mind me i'm just looking for ..........

You never can tell.

lalasticlala, may have a woman "standing" with him too, so he needs to learn and yes, FP.

Marry her already

First, dating a broke guy is your own perogative but at least, date one with potentials and big dreams.
“If you want to eat frog, eat the one with eggs”.

Second, if you cannot stay, do not stay. Some broke guys are very analytical, they know when you are not for real and when chips are down, they drop you like a bag of potatoes.

Now this is coming on the back of Kondomatic comment on this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/3944387/staying-him-when-he-broke
I feel it is imperative we trash this once and for all. I keep hearing ladies talking about how a guy they stood with when he was broke ditched them when he made it.

No logical and smart man will ever leave a lady who stood with him in this life, especially during his trying period.
The problem we have here though is in how you interpret the word “STAND”.

Most girls think standing with a broke guy means not asking him for money, giving him sex as he wants, cooking for me perpetually, not nagging and generally docile.

Most girls are actually STANDING without any verbal and active efort and they watch the guy do all the heavy lifiting, now when it is time to reap they say they were with you, REAAAAALLLLYYY!

The real idea here is the value of your worth in his eyes and how he rates you, there is a way you place yourself and you just become a time machine to him and he rides till he can get a better one.

You don’t pamper such guy or what other challenge is there for him to see (when in the real sense, you should be the challenge), instead you need to change your role.

So what does STANDING” with a broke guy means…

Most of the girls who claim guys leave them are mostly docile and when they act, they make it seem like they are doing you a great favor, broke guys can smell that from afar.

It simply refers to the level of influence you had in his life to achieving or actualizing his future ambition or getting better in life.
Are you the cornerstone or the pavement stone?


How much of your imprint and name will be mentioned when he tells that story?

ASK YOURSELF: If that guy was a company, what percentage will be your own share?

In this context, things like food, sex and even little financial push does not really count, there is a lot that matters more
The following are some of what you should aim to be and he also has to see you in the same light:

You have to become his -
Motivator everyday
Catalyst for success
A reason to be a success etc.

You may not help him financially, but once he can tie you in with his grass to grace story, my sister, you are going nowhere!
Some guys can be ruled out though, but it is only a negligible percentage.

Disclaimer: This is my own opinion

lalasticlala