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Benita27:
I'd rather invest all that in making myself a better woman and nothing will stop me from ending up with a like mind instead of investing all that in one man. Op, there's no guarantee that a woman who does the aforementioned for a broke nigga won't get dumped in the future.

Leave story abeg.

That is the best decision to me too

We are still on the same page.

This is what I started the article with...

First, dating a broke guy is your own perogative but at least, date one with potentials and big dreams.

“If you want to eat frog, eat the one with eggs”.

I am writing to those girls who want to "stand" with a broke guy.

Khallyella:
All right!
But what if the guy gets bored of your motivational stories and doesn't wanna hear them at all?

That is when you know the guy is not ready to proceed in life.

If he gets bored of your motivational stories, there is a chance that he is bored of you too,

RUN!

First, dating a broke guy is your own perogative but at least, date one with potentials and big dreams.
“If you want to eat frog, eat the one with eggs”.

Second, if you cannot stay, do not stay. Some broke guys are very analytical, they know when you are not for real and when chips are down, they drop you like a bag of potatoes.

Now this is coming on the back of Kondomatic comment on this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/3944387/staying-him-when-he-broke
I feel it is imperative we trash this once and for all. I keep hearing ladies talking about how a guy they stood with when he was broke ditched them when he made it.

No logical and smart man will ever leave a lady who stood with him in this life, especially during his trying period.
The problem we have here though is in how you interpret the word “STAND”.

Most girls think standing with a broke guy means not asking him for money, giving him sex as he wants, cooking for me perpetually, not nagging and generally docile.

Most girls are actually STANDING without any verbal and active efort and they watch the guy do all the heavy lifiting, now when it is time to reap they say they were with you, REAAAAALLLLYYY!

The real idea here is the value of your worth in his eyes and how he rates you, there is a way you place yourself and you just become a time machine to him and he rides till he can get a better one.

You don’t pamper such guy or what other challenge is there for him to see (when in the real sense, you should be the challenge), instead you need to change your role.

So what does STANDING” with a broke guy means…

Most of the girls who claim guys leave them are mostly docile and when they act, they make it seem like they are doing you a great favor, broke guys can smell that from afar.

It simply refers to the level of influence you had in his life to achieving or actualizing his future ambition or getting better in life.
Are you the cornerstone or the pavement stone?


How much of your imprint and name will be mentioned when he tells that story?

ASK YOURSELF: If that guy was a company, what percentage will be your own share?

In this context, things like food, sex and even little financial push does not really count, there is a lot that matters more
The following are some of what you should aim to be and he also has to see you in the same light:

You have to become his -
Motivator everyday
Catalyst for success
A reason to be a success etc.

You may not help him financially, but once he can tie you in with his grass to grace story, my sister, you are going nowhere!
Some guys can be ruled out though, but it is only a negligible percentage.

Disclaimer: This is my own opinion

lalasticlala

dayo57:
bro i just wish you can just drop your number lets chats on whatsapp.
i'm realy confused,i need your advice bro

Drop yours, I Will add you

dayo57:
how do you know all this brother ?
well i thought as much that the relationship is over.
but please what do you suggest i do ?? bcause she still claims she loves me..just dont really know what to do about this,considering breaking up with her but i don't want it to look as if i'm breaking up with her bcause of sex.
What do you advice brother ?? help me out plx

There Is something you need to know..

She just took over the controlof that relationship and she will start giving you all sort of conditions soonest.

If you think you will be flexible to bend to her every whims, then stay put, but I know it will not be healthy.

Why did she not try to draw you closer to God too?

Her interest is diminished and you have to go.

Don't tell her it is over, just GHOST!

She may even come back to her senses then.

Redomi:
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Male or female..

Why not talk here

dayo57:
my girlfriend for two years suddenly changed her mind that that she has promised God never to engaged in pre marital sex. And this the girl I disflowered.i realy do love her but i just can't cope with it
help a brother please

Your relationship is over, there is nothing you can do again.

It is not about God, but she will never choose you above him.

It is about her new crush, her female friends or she is just tired of you.

I also know that, she is less than 23 so two years seem too long, she wants to explore.

Thank her for the good times and move on.

Even if you agree, why did she make the decision before telling you.

You should also know that the relationship will not be like before again.

How do I know this?

My ex did the same!

There is nothing like matured or immature men.

It is only a Matter of time before your male Friend will be scheming to sleep with you.

Do not bring what you will not eat close to your nose.

You cannot be friends with a guy, with time, his loins will stir.

thestevens:
Hey guys! Pls I need your advice I'm finding it hard to fall in love. My last relationship was two years ago, I really loved her before things turn sour between us, ever since I can't settle my mind down with just a lady,infact anything about love or relationship don't entice me.Do I need to see a psychologist or the pain from my past relationship still lingers?. It has really cost me alot,due to the fact that most of my female friends that I could have had a good relationship with saw the lack of commitment in me and went their separate ways. Pls I need your advice.

The simple truth is that, you are pretending to be too strong.

You did not mourn or grieve that relationship.

Now time has elapsed, you may not mourn it again but you need to go back to that period and smile about all the best part of your past relationship.

Do not contact the ex, just remember now lovely she was and let the hurt sear through you.

Do not regret walking away, but also remember the ugly things about her and be optimistic a out meeting someone better

iamVirus:
Sincerely OP, if it was me; I would just cut the call and off my phone.


then later call you back the next day.

I would never tell you to remove the baby.

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Even if I don't like you, I would not shout at you that moment.

it's left for you to decide whether to keep the baby or not.


But I suggest you leave that guy.


Don't say I didn't warn you

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But at 23 I'm not redy for such girl

Did you see the hypocrisy in your comment..

You will end up getting call...

You will not tell her to remove it..

It is left for her to decide, because she impregnated herself?

The guy was being sincere and she knows it is the truth.

Even you agree that at 23 you will not accept it, so forgetting all you typed, the LCM is she will abort it or you abandon her.

Why telling her to leave him?

The only reason she should leave him is because she does not trust him again as she stated!

Format that phone

Olive4:
pls I need your help right now.... I am so down

I have a guy who I have being dating for close to 7months now... he is very caring and loving but sometimes I doubt his love for me.
so in order to know how much he loves me, I lied to him that I was pregnant and there is no way I am going for abortion (I intend keeping it) . he quickly suggested that I should flush it or else his hands are off, that I want to tie him down with pregnancy... infact he said alot of things. I was really hurt by his words and that made me very angry and I warned him never to call my line again. the way he changed all of a sudden,surprised me. he is 23 and I am 22

I know I went too far, but I miss him now and his numbers has been off since.

I need your advice pls

Love aside, you are petty for pulling such stunt.

You as a person, are you ready to raise a child at 22?

Do you know the way he has planned his life?

Let me be frank with you, him telling you to abort it is very bad but that in no way is a real test of his love for you.

What if he does not have the finance and ability to cater for himself alone talk less of you and a child.

You are so immature to think you can gauge his love like that.

90percent of 23 years old in Nigeria will tell you to abort, when the country is not even smiling.

If you are doubting his love, then pull out and stop being needy and childish

I guess the blog is about. ..

Entertainment or news .

So no one studied physics here.?

No one heard of refraction and reflection of light?

No one read of kaleidoscopes?

I am waiting for the person who will say, Angel Gabriel is visiting.

Bambog:
I run a wordpress website, this is my third adsense account. Two have been click bombed in the past. Please help me....

Remove it for now, till you detect the source.

Detect the IP and block it too.

It could also be someone who knows you personally.

Guy, you have to go dark. only relate to her if it is really important and in the company's interest.

Stop giving unsolicited opinions, and watch from afar. Inasmuch as, it does not affect your output.

Make friend with the person she hands over to, but do it gradually, she will see her folly soon.

She is seeing you as a competition and that is bad. Remove yourself from her chess board or she will sacrifice you as a pun.

Is the other person male or female

OGA you cannot fight your parent.

You still live with them and you are kicking against them.

Try talking to them, you cannot be begging for help to go to school.

She is gone...

Move on...

Do not engage contact again...

If you feel like begging, beg your God to make you great...

If you wanna cry, it should be on why you are still in this position in your life...

OP

If you are the person on your profile picture...

I think I know why you guy did that...

Don't keep friends who are more ........ Than you.

Sorry for your loss.

Not possible.

In a real football season, is there a team without a draw.

So same with VFL

[quote author=felixalida post=58354716][/quote]Do you know that extreme show of pride and over confidence are also anti social behaviors?

I was also an SUG official in school, SEC. GEN. so you see that I know what I am saying.

felixalida:
I don't understand, can you explain better?
What is the way out?

first, stop thinking that it is you against the world. Sometimes , spirituality is just an escape from reality.

second, man up and improve yourself, work on your best abilities and do things that compliment your strength .

I don't know about the spiritual aspect, so I will leave it to the spirikoko

But...

You have a problem.
And
You don't have a problem.

From the two statements, pick the one you believe the most and it is the truth.

Why will the devil attack you with to leave the job and your boss starts to hate you.

You may have behavioral flaws or anti social behavior that manifest, while you see it as normal, others get pissed off including your boss.

You must be a lonely person, that alone is not a problem but most people can't control the beast it grows in them.

first, stop thinking that it is you against the world. Sometimes , spirituality is just an escape from reality. Face your problems and fears.

second, man up and improve yourself, work on your best abilities and do things that compliment your strength.

If you are a fish, leave the trees for monkeys and rule the sea.

Third, you are progressing but the problem is you are using someone else as your yard stick, stop it today and see how far you have come in the past four years.

Four, you are selfish, did you ask the school why they backed out, they may be cash strapped. It was an opportunity for you to offer a lesser service to them for free and get recommendation. Go back and ask why they backed out.

Does Juventus or Benfica suffer near success syndrome or they play against better team.

Keep trying, put in Better effort, you will land something big.

Disclaimer: my opinion
Lalasticlala and Mynd44 help this guy!

cannot type much

chriskosherbal:
Without missing words you are absolutely correct!!!!

Without MINCING words you are absolutely correct!!!!

Qmerit:
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Lolz... and you arranged them and called it passed question and answer.?

Well, if it is not off Benefit to you, someone else will value.

They are practice questions, but Nigerians prefer to say past questions.

Congratulobia

I think someone did that, I suspect the OP.

But why Na One?

Qmerit:
Where re you getting Npower passed questions and answers from pls, were there test in the first NPOWER empowerment last year?

It's mostly current affairs and English for practice

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