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Failure44:
A woman that hasn't learnt how to cook from her own mother I don't think would suddenly decide to learn from my own.

That's means she no be complete wife material. Fine girls no dey finish you go get another one

Failure44:
Theres this girl am with.
When I say she's beautiful I mean she's damn beautiful.
Fat ass and average breast, she's my spec in every manner and way physically and we even have the same music taste.
You could call her the woman of my dreams and she has been bringing up relationship talk lately.

But there's an issue
She can't cook

This is a serious problem for me because I love food, I'm struggling to ignore the fact she can't cook this is a major problem for me.

Abeg my fellow guys in the house what do you think

If really love her that much she can learn from your mother, youtube or something else what do you think.

Magnoliaa:
Yeah, of course.

Women do whatever pleases men.

Women do things for men.

Women were brought up to seek for male validation and to live for the male gaze, durh.

That/this is a norm, and it is not even something I disagree with.

Or why do you think other women h8 feminists? It is because we attack male-centred choices women make.

I completely agree with you that women (used to) lack a mind of their own and they are crazily dependent on traditions, ************** etc. They want to appear prim and proper and submissive and well-behaved before men...

From getting married to changing names, to having kids in unhealthy conditions and in lack, to faking orgasms...women have been doing things to please men.

And I can beat this point with a thousand words, citing numerous examples.

'Pickmeism' is a thing; internalised misogyny also exists. (Even simpism is a tag for men sef - make I cap for una small, lol).

That's on the negative aspect.

On the positive side, attraction is a thing, and both men and women do things that attract each other. You can't change that- or biology.

Men want to be masculine for a woman; women also want to be feminine to please a man...

And the above fact is NOT to be confused with the message of self-love and independence that espouses that people should try to live as autonomously as possible.

I do not have a problem with men and women doing things to please each other, actually, so long as it is not crossing the line of what is sensible and healthy and that doesn't undermine the humanity of women.

PS: If you h8 my epistles, simply don't engage me; 'cause nothing will stop me from replying with another epistle if you respond to this anyway...you posted on a public platform and I can choose to engage your comments civilly. Which is what I am doing.

Calm down ma, as I dey read this quote e be like say u dey shout for my ear

Legendguy:
Am I the only one noticing that girls are giving out their numbers easily these days with little or no resistance unlike few years ago.
What could have ignite this sudden giving of numbers?

Bro nothing changed, you changed, you became more successful most likely

Other guys they suffer for collecting of number.

Plus your location matters, did you leave in a higher class environment then change to a lower one.

They are so many factors

DECENTBWOY:

Life is just hard, life is very hard.
A 25 year old boy, no job, no investments, no education, no career, nothing at all just being stagnant all this years.

What did I really do wrong that I can't be forgiven, I have prayed, fasted, gone to church, knelt on the alter, cried.
Depression is now my middle name, God why? God why? God why?
Worst of it all is that I have people that could help me but they have all turned their backs on me, my father, my mother, my sisters, my brothers, they don't even know if I still exist.

I don't even need to explain much.

I am going to get a very strong alcohol, get very high and take my life. I won't feel the pains because I will be very high.

Maybe this will make God happy for creating me into this wicked world

Assuming your suicidal is related to money this what I would say.

U are still 25, calm down bro. Don't let Social Media decieve you that you need to be successful before 25. That is an extremely small amount of people, people will never post their failures only what they want you to see. Find a Job that can generate income for you. Find a Side Hustle with potential to earn more than your Job.

Your Side Hustle could be a skill eg Affiliate Marketing, Blogging (Google for more skills)

We also have trade also known as Hand work in Nigeria for those that don't have strong Educational Background you might be familiar with some. But this is time consuming.

The last is what I recommend for you is Business, with the capital from your Job invest in something. start small according to your capital and work your way up.

You problem now will be what business should I start

You where able to post on nairaland with a phone and internet concerning suicide.

Oya take that phone take help yourself use Google to you advantage.

You can learn anything from there.

ojun50:
Every body get him own issues oh, but yr life dey yr hand

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